The next day, Wendling called Mike Cimarossa, the dad in charge of the recruitment meeting, and told him he was gay. Cimarossa called Scout officials. Although personally supportive, Cimarossa said, he had to give Wendling the word: He could not lead the troop. He could not even attend an upcoming overnight event at school with his son.
A reasonable man, Wendling said he understands the BSA position. "Part of me says I don't like it, but I get it -- private organizations can exclude."
But how can the Scouts tell him he's not welcome at Scout events at school, he asks? Why should a private group be allowed to use a public facility to exclude him?
The questions are familiar to Gina Farrar, director of public and corporate relations for the local Crossroads of America Council of BSA.
Maybe it's just me, but I just don't get it. First, what gay man in America signs their kid up for Boy Scouts anyhow? This is an organization that took their right to say "Fuck you faggot!" all the way to the Supreme Court. Your kid is not going to be indoctrinated with goodness and light at the Boy Scouts. His family - his father(s)/mother(s), siblings and probably himself - are going to be ridiculed and denigrated by the leadership of the organization. Are you just trying to set little Johnny up for therapy?
And secondly, what self-respecting queer says what Wendling is quoted as saying? Let's break that down "Part of me says I don't like it..." Part? Part of you thinks it's okay to discriminate against yourself and others like you? Part of you buys into the hypocritical nonsense that is modern day scouting? "I get it - private organizations can exclude." Yeah, let's see how far that gets the country club that doesn't allow black or Jewish members. That's what civil rights laws are all about - that private organizations don't always have the right to discriminate. And how "private" are they when they recruit in the public schools as well as hold sleep-overs and meetings in the schools - but you're not wanted there?