I see that last Wednesday's New Jersey Supreme Court decision has produced everything from Ellen's "We Won!" claim, prompting Marla's description of civil unions as "an insulting bag of benefits", to Chris' reminding us that the decision is largely the work of Republican judges. Throw in the comment that Plessy vs. Ferguson may have had some redeeming social value after all, and it's a healthy indicator that this site is truly a "big tent". May it continue to be just that.
Speaking of "separate but equal", Jerry and I went out for supper after news of the decision broke and experienced a perhaps less weighty yet illustrative example of disparate treatment. For the zillionth time before ordering our waiter asked the question: "Will this be on one check or two this evening, gentlemen?" Maybe you've had a similar experience.
As in countless instances before, we looked at each other knowingly, and then Jerry recited what's become our standard reply: "Just one, please, we're still speaking to each other". More often than not, the reaction is truly worth the effort, especially since we're both over 55, one of us black and the other white, both generally in old jeans, sweatshirts, and wearing some kind of sports or beer-related caps. Sometimes the question irritates us because of the presumption, but then maybe the asker once got his nose bloodied for appearing to think two "good old boys" seated in close quarters at the same table might just be well......you know: one of "them".
Someday perhaps food service people won't be so quick to presume that two separate (whether equal or not is another story) checks are in order unless an opposite sex pair is doing the ordering. But until that day comes, for us it will just have to be: "We're still speaking". The fact that we are, after twelve years and a few months, is something itself to celebrate. So Honey, please pass the catsup...and isn't this YOUR week to pay?