The Transgender Youth Family Advocate (TYFA) website includes a list of top ten tips for dealing with gender variant kids. Folks should check out all ten and the other neat resources available on the TYFA website. I am including below some of the ten tips that I believe are particularly pertinent for understanding/relating to gender variant folks regardless of their age. I would suggest replacing child with whatever appropriate noun fits your situation.
Your child does not experience their gender as others may see them.
This is significant and your child takes it very seriously
This doesn't mean your child is gay or lesbian. They may or may not be...sexual orientation is different from gender identity.
The most current research indicates that in most children, gender identity variance is neither an illness nor a psychiatric disorder.
It's not important right now where your child is going to "end up" related to gender.
Respect your child's feelings about their gender identity above all else.
What do people think about the suggestions that I have highlighted above and the others that are included on the TYFA website?