The Advocate has its online sex survey ready for you to take and for them to publish in next month's issue. Now, anyone who's been reading this blog for a while knows that gaystream publications and me don't get along, usually because they're just toeing the urban/white/corporate queer line, which isn't that bad of a group of people, but they're definitely not the only people that make up the larger LGBTQueer community.
Anyway, under their question that asks "What constitutes cheating?", one of their options is "Cheating is a heterosexist concept." That's a glimpse into the inner workings of The Advocate: among all the Britney-Madonna pop consumer kids and lesbian mom advocates and pretty-boys photographers they hired, they have someone on staff with enough tangential knowledge of basic queer radicalism to think up an option like that. So of course I chose it.
So what do you think? What constitutes cheating? I didn't pick that answer because I think that queer people are by definition incapable of cheating - I just think that presumed monogamy/exclusivity is a product of that pee-in-a-circle-around-my-lover's-body mentality that drives a lot of McRelationships, and the McRelationship is a heterosexist relationship standard. Cheating for me has more to do with dishonesty than any specific action, as relationships have more to do with intimacy than property for queers in general.
What do you think?