Andrew Sullivan being away, James Kirchick has taken over for the Daily Dish and is filling in for the big guy himself quite nicely. He claims that "old" gay culture - anonymous sex and hook ups - is dying away, and "new" gay culture - marriage and domesticity - is taking over. From him:
In other words, say goodbye to anonymous cruising and say hello to more weddings. I think there's a limit to this analysis --as men will always be men-- but the the normalization and stabilization of gay life (epitomized by gay marriage) over the past 30 years has only helped gay male culture mature.
Indeed, this scandal could not have arrived at a more opportune moment. The same day that Andrew--who has spent much of his intellectual life advocating for gay marriage, when many in the gay rights movement were trumpeting separatism, the necessity of being "queer," and other such indulgences--gets married, a United States Senator --who has been a loyal foot soldier in the movement to deny gays (perhaps, like himself) civil rights-- is revealed to have allegedly sought out sex with an anonymous man in an airport restroom. Perhaps there is no greater comparison between the stability of being comfortable with who you are and the self-denial and self-hatred of the closet. It's not just the "old" gay culture of anonymous sexual encounters vs. the "new" gay culture of monogamy; it's self-loathing vs. self-affirmation.
This is downright stupid, and honestly it bugs the hell out of me when gay moralists like Kirchick, Sullivan, and Rotello voluntarily buy into the same angel/whore dichotomy imposed on women, the same one American feminists have been trying to throw off for the last half century. Just look at the way he sets it up: you're in one camp or the other, monogamous or self-loathing, and the first is winning out. Jiminy Christmas, I thought this movement was about sexual autonomy.