Recently, I read a blog post about an FTM complaining about being judged by other transgender people about living "stealth." For those who don't know what stealth means, it's the equivalent of "living in the closet."
To those of you who feel the need to live secretly, I say this; if you wish to live your life in a closet that is your choice. But don't be surprised when I judge you for this. For as long as folks with passing privilege hide in their closets, there will be a stigma attached to transgender people because they will be defined by those that don't or aren't trying to pass. By being stealth, you're shaming yourself and those who are like you. If you want to do that, be my guest.