This is a must-see video clip of San Diego Mayor Jerry Sanders, who explains "I just could not bring myself to tell an entire group of people in our community they were less important, less worthy or less deserving of the rights and responsibilities of marriage than anyone else simply because of their sexual orientation." This important, heartfelt, and very public revelation reminds me of the power of love.
So often I work with men and women who are not out to their mother's and fathers. And so often, the same reasons are given for not sharing their truth, for actively censoring their lives so that their parents do not have to "deal" with the "disappointment" that they are gay or lesbian.
It never ceases to amaze me how we, as a population of adult men and women, rarely stop to consider how very disappointed we may actually be in our parents. When we never give our parents an opportunity to accept us, we rob them of the chance to grow as human beings, and to become our advocates, our cheerleaders.
Last night Jerry Sanders was moved to reconsider his plan to veto his City Council's resolution backing a constitutional challenge to California's 2000 voter initiative making marriage possible only between a man and a woman. He explained that this decision was made not with his head, but with his heart. I can't imagine it was easy for his daughter Lisa to be open with him, given his conservative track record, and his public position; yet she did. She risked disappointing him, and in the end, we all benefited from her courage.
Thank you Lisa for giving your ole pops the opportunity to accept not only you, but all of us.