So many labels and stereotypes get thrown around in the "GLBT" community. I've navigated most of those labels in a certain time period of my life. Working on the ENDA controversy has really made me think about why it is a GLBT community. These labels are thrown around as a way to categorize and separate us, but it hasn't always been the case. During the Compton Cafeteria Riots and Stonewall the gender variant folks were just though of as "queers." We see divisions or distinctions and build separate communities around our differences, but in many ways society doesn't. If someone is going to assault you or discriminate against you, do they ask what group you're in?
I don't really think about it too much until it's thrown in my face. I'm openly transgender at my job. I've had co-workers express surprise when I talk about my female loves. When they know my history, they incorrectly think I only have interest in men. Why do you think that's the case? Have you ever had someone think along stereotypically gendered, heterosexist lines?
I'm starting to believe that gender variant gays and lesbians are solidly behind inclusion in ENDA because they understand our plight. After all, we're all queer... right?