Many of you know my interest in writing about and discussing gender issues. It seems I have been labeled by some as a “gender anarchist”, looking to tear down old paradigms of “man and woman” to make myself more comfortable.
And they are right.
As someone who straddles the traditional line of gender, I have a vested interest in tearing down the old binary notions of gender roles. I think we all do.
Now before everyone starts sharpening their comment swords, hear me out. Many of us, whether we are LGB or T, are not what society would view as normative in our gender roles.
For those of you that do “fit in” and are comfortable in a binary system, that’s great. But the vast majority of LGBT people (and those outside of our community, for that matter) don’t fall squarely into two categories. We all live somewhere in between.
Part of the reason I like to write about gender identity and expression is because it is something I have struggled with my entire life. Before I ever knew what “gay” was as a child, I knew I was different. I was the town sissy, playing with dolls and taking dance classes. Being a traditional “boy” was never an option for me. I was just different and got many a beating for it.
Maybe that’s why I want to broaden society’s idea of how men and women “should” act. It is completely self-serving. I want to make my life better.
I think many of us can relate to never having an option to fit into someone else’s idea of gender. And why should we be forced into those roles? Why should we change who we are to fit someone else’s idea and make them more comfortable?
Many of the “traditional” ideas of gender roles are unattainable and unrealistic to begin with. Forcing those of us who are different (and I think we far outweigh those who do fit squarely into the binary system) to try and “pass” is just as unrealistic.
So, yes, I am a gender anarchist and proud of it. I think we need to make life better for everyone by accepting and celebrating what makes us unique as individuals, not force everyone to assimilate into two completely oppressive gender roles.
Maybe if we keep up the fight to broaden people’s views on gender, the next little boy in small town that wants to play with his dolls will have it easier.
And, in turn, so will all of us.