Guys, I loved what you said about the fashion industry. What was the point of the phallic cannon shot, though? Am I missing some symbolic message?

Well, I suppose the imagery fit the reference to The Count of Montecristo they made.

I really like you guys! (Not seen you before). Yes, bitchy queens don't know how booooring they are. I don't really care about working out the whys and wherefores of their behaviour, though. If someone who is supposedly an adult can't behave like a gentleman then that's plain sad. There is a difference betweeen wit and spite and I know it when I'm on the receiving end, tyvm. Mind you, i often find these characters can dish it out but they can't take it!! Thank you for an interesting vid, Felix (in the UK). xx

I don't know how much of this is a self-fulfilling prophecy, that the media see gay men as bitchy so they promote people like William Sledd, etc., and show how bitchy we all are supposed to be.

And then it goes on to erase some of the meanness of straight people. I mean, I'm sure there were mean comments on Towleroad, but I'm sure it's nothing compared to the way comments turn mean, rancid, and homophobic on a non-gay site like YouTube or WorldNetDaily or BoingBoing. I'm doing a post on that tomorrow.

Someone like Josh Fruhlinger makes an internet career out of criticizing and nit-picking and making fun of others, but no one seems to call him bitchy (I wouldn't either, he seems like a sweet-heart, but does the fact that he's straight have anything to do with that?).

As always, a lot of what we refer to as "bitchiness" can also be signs of depression, which we know affects the community.

That said, I'm sure that it's also a passive-aggressive defense mechanism, as you suggest, Brent. But I've been fortunate enough to surround myself with pretty neat-o gay men.

Could it be a perversion of that competitive male-to-male conditioning that boys are inculcated into? I was going to attribute the bitchiness to a reaction against the way older gay men often treat younger gay men when they’re coming out—as fresh meat or rivals—but then I realized that all men, gay or straight, are taught to treat one another with mistrust, suspicion, and as competitors.

The dynamic is clearest between fathers and sons. How many fathers and sons do you know who have conflicted, unhappy relationships defined by discomfort, competitiveness, bad communication and misunderstandings? In my experience, the dynamic is so widespread as to actually define American fathers and sons.

Given this, why would we expect gay men, who often spend their entire lives predominantly among other men and whose primary objects of attraction and affection are other men, to treat one another with respect, friendliness and consideration? In what other sector of American society do we see that?

None.

Great video!!!