Michele O'Mara

50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 25-26

Filed By Michele O'Mara | March 14, 2008 11:44 AM | comments

Filed in: Living
Tags: advice column, lesbian, relationship, tips

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 23-24, this week I am sharing strategies 25-26. Look for more strategies next Friday!

25. A Compliment a Day. Do you ever tire of hearing "You look great, baby," or "Good job, I'm so proud of you!" and "What a great dinner - thanks for cooking," and, "I couldn't have picked a better partner in the entire world." I don't. Compliments are free and easy. Share at least one a day with your partner. A compliment a day keeps the therapist away.

26. Always Say Thank You.
Though you may have agreed that it's your job to clean the house and your partner's job is to mow the lawn, that doesn't mean you can't be grateful when he does his job. Always say thank you. Every time your partner exercises an act of love, be it big or small, it is important to acknowledge and express gratitude for that love. Every behavior, action, or contribution either partner makes to the relationship deserves recognition and appreciation. Have you said "thank you" to your partner lately?

Michele O'Mara, LCSW


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Good reminders. Being in a serious relationship doesn't give people license to stop being polite.

OMG - These two are your best tips yet, Michele! The other day I was complimented for my outfit by Jerame and it really struck me since I couldn't remember the last time he'd done it. It made my day.

It doesn't seem like we should be halfway done with the tips already...