Newsweek's Religion and Society Editor/Contributor Lisa Miller has a piece in this week's issue explaining the PR problem that eHarmony is having.
Most of the piece is just an overview for most of us, but then in one sentence Miller seems to defend eHarmony.com's bias against gays. She said, "eHarmony does not reject gays - it simply doesn't accept them: the only choices on the site are 'man seeking woman' or 'woman seeking man.'"
Depending on how you read the entire paragraph, Miller could just be playing devil's advocate for Neil Clark Warren, the fundamentalist founder of eHarmony, but either way it deserves a closer look. How can you possibly say that discrimination is not occurring when you admit you don't accept certain people? By using language the excludes people from the outset, you are overtly discriminating.
This is like advocates for marriage bans saying that are not discriminating against gays because all they are doing is defining marriage a particular way. Ok. Just like when this nation defined blacks as being three-fifths of a person wasn't discrimination, or defining certain Native American tribes as extinct, when they aren't. Give me a break.
Not knowing much about Lisa Miller I found her bio on the site too, which mentions coverage of LGBT and AIDS issues in the past. So you be the judge.
The part that bothered me most, other than the above comment, was that eHarmony still claims it uses "unique scientific research into what makes heterosexual unions work." I can't think of one thing that heterosexual couples want in a relationship that gay couples don't as a general rule. So this claim is of course bogus. Miller seems to agree that this research is sound.
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