There is one question that I'm asked by young teens more often than any other and that's the question "Miserable in Middle School" asked me in the third and final part of our e-mail conversation. Here's the question:
i wanted to know if you had any suggestions on how to meet other gay/bi/lesbian people. do you have any ideas?
Like most young teens who write to me, Miserable in Middle Schools has found adults she can talk to but longs for the company of other teens like herself and doesn't know how to find them. My answer to Miserable in Middle School follows after the jump.
Dear "Miserable in Middle School,"
At your age this is a really big challenge. First of all, there are very few young teens who are out to themselves or anyone they know. I suggest you check out the GLSEN, GSA, and HMI web sites to see if there are any online groups where you can be in touch with other gay/bi/lesbian teens (I also list some gay teen web sites in my book and on my web site).
It's also possible that there may be a gay youth group in your community or in a nearby city. Have you done any research to find out? You may have to hang on until you get to high school. Am I remembering correctly that you said the high school you'll be going to has a GSA? Would they let you attend meetings now? This is something you should ask your school counselor.
Let me know if you have any other questions. All best, Eric
So I'm looking for a little help here. In the "comments" section please post your thoughts on what other resources and strategies you might recommend to young teens who are looking for other kids like themselves in the communities where they live and/or online. Thanks!