Dear Mr. Marcus,
I've read The God Box by Alex Sanchez, right? And I was confused. The Bible does say men shall not lie with another man because of the sin, but at the same time how can you accept the lord in your life if you won't even accept yourself? Does that make sense to you, because now I am confused? I just want the world to accept me.
--Lots of Hope
Dear Lots of Hope,
You ask a very good question. And, you're right that it doesn't make sense. Reading through the Bible there's a lot that makes no sense at all. But figure that it was written 2,000 years ago by people who knew far less than we do today, who believed in things we no longer believe, in a language no one speaks (or writes) and it does make some sense that it would make no sense.
I would worry more about your personal relationship with God (if you want to have one) than what's written in the Bible. And it wouldn't hurt to keep in mind what Dear Abby said to me on this subject twenty years ago when I interviewed her for my book, Making History:
You can find all kinds of contradictions in the Bible. You can find anything you want in the Bible, but you can't take it literally. If the Bible makes people behave better, fine. But if it makes people less understanding of their fellow man, then something is wrong. Your beliefs should make you better and should make you kinder, not more hateful.
I'm encouraged by how much has changed in the world since I first interviewed Dear Abby. In today's New York Times, religion columnist Sam Freedman has a piece about one family and one church that exemplifies how far things have come in recent years toward a level of acceptance that I would have thought impossible when I was a teenager.
I hope I've been of some help to you. All best, Eric
P.S. Here's information about a pamphlet that discusses what the Bible says and doesn't say about homosexuality.