I've made my frustration with the fundie organizations using the words "family values" pretty clear here on Bilerico. I always say that if anyone knows about what "family" means, it's the LGBT community. We know these values extend far beyond the narrow definition of biology and legal recognition used by many. Our lives and struggles are a constant reminder of our commitment as a community to true family values.
These family values became even more obvious to me during my recent absence from writing on Bilerico. Some of you may or may not know that I recently had to leave Florida unexpectedly to go to Michigan because of a family medical emergency. My husband's mother found out she had lung cancer, so we jumped in our car and drove up to be there for her surgery and to support the family.
I barely had time to write the rest of the Bilerico Editorial Team to let them know what was happening. Their response showed me what true family is- "We love you, don't even worry about anything- just go take care of your family."
If that's not real family values, I don't know what is...
I got constant support from the entire Bilerico family as other contributors and readers began to pop up out of the woodwork. Many noticed I wasn't posting or that I wasn't emailing them reminders about posting on the weekends. I got emails through my Bilerico account and my social networking pages (myspace, facebook, and twitter) asking if I was okay (and many teasingly asking if I was off on another extended marriage tour).
When I told the Projectors what was going on, the love came flooding in- letters of support, videos about fighting cancer, links to research, flowers to my mother-in-law.
It all showed me that Bilerico is much more than just a blog forum- we are a family. Much like the greater LGBT community, we may disagree at times but when tragedy strikes one of us, we all come running. We may not be related by blood or have relationships that are recognized by our government, but we know what it means to be a family.
And all of you showed me that during these past few weeks.
So thank you to my crazy, dysfunctional family- The Bilerico Project. You have all helped me and my husband make it through a rough time.
And that is what family values are all about.
Cross-posted on Bilerico-Florida