Instead of an "I get mail" post, I thought I'd share this comment that appeared on one of Karen Ocamb's posts on Proposition 8 from September:

i am voting yes on prop 8 simply because i think the United States Constitution says a little something about Separation of church and state and if this passes Churches all over CA would be required to marry but not just that why should i pay taxes so my kids can go on a field trip to see there gay teacher get married Double standard when they couldn't come to any Conventional Marriage it al sounds like a bunch of double standards we give give give and have never gotten anything back

What he's referring to is a field trip a first grade class in San Francisco took to city hall to see their teacher get married. It was organized by parents and two students opted out (well, their parents opted them out). Lots more on that after the jump.

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There is some controversy, with Bilerico contributor and NCLR executive director Kate Kendell commenting:

"I know, I know, I know, I know," Kate Kendell executive director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights, who first learned of the field trip in Saturday's Chronicle. "It was, obviously, a public-relations disaster for us."[...]

Kendell makes two important points about this episode. One, parents were given an option to opt-out - and two of them did. The scare tactic about children being "forced" to learn that same-sex marriage is socially acceptable remains just that: A scare tactic.

Also, Kendell added that what made this teacher's wedding noteworthy is that Californians are about to decide whether to deprive gays and lesbians of their right to marriage. If Prop. 8 is rejected, she noted, same-sex marriages will be routine - and no one would even think of making a field trip out of one.

"We don't want our weddings to be any more special, or any more worth attending, than anyone else's," she said.

I don't know whether this will be a PR disaster or not. I don't see any harm here, with kids being able to see a civil contract taking process in city hall. And while some questioned the educational value, I see more value in this than in about 75% of what I saw the second-graders I worked with last year doing.

What I do know that both sides of the Prop 8 campaign have been avoiding showing gay couples in their ads like the plague, with the No side probably trying to avoid stirring up homophobia and the Yes side trying not to seem like the horrible people they are.

But one side's calculation has to be wrong here.

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