From this recent post on Bilerico comes a question from Roxanne in her comment:

Are all gay/bi people atheiest? Or just don't believe in the bible or something? I dont understand how some gay people can say they are Christian, when the bible clearly states that homosexuality is a perversion?

Dear Roxanne,

As others have commented below you, there is a wealth of information easily available to you in which all the biblical references to homosexuality (and also those that don't refer to it but are often used by churches to condemn it) are carefully analyzed to support one position or another. Rather than retread all that, I would refer you to a book I reviewed not long ago here on Bilerico. It is called Sex As God Intended by a gay man who believes in God.

Not all gay people are atheists. In fact, I know some who translate themselves on Sundays from church to sex club with nary a change of clothing. You seem to be a tourist in the gay world and if you really want to understand it, you ought to come back here frequently and sample the wide variety of voices that herein constitute Gay.

Why are many gay people still theists when most churches treat us badly and at best marginalize us? Some keep coming back to church not out of guilt about their lifestyle but because they are convinced that despite the short-sightedness of church leaders, there is a god who loves them in a perfect way that overcomes the nonsense of contemporary organized religion. They are the men and women who choose to work for change within those imperfect churches. They are not about to give up their right to membership in a church that abuses them. They see a bigger picture. The gay community is conflicted over the merits of their effort. Some call it ridiculous, having shaken the dust of those institutions off their shoes.

Why are many gay people atheists? Although I think the reasons are obvious, but I suspect you do not. Here are three:

  1. Gay people have to craft their lives without the nurturing God of their parents and their God-ridden government. They do it on their own. When they do find happiness and love and success, why would they feel inclined to thank God for it, like a teary-eyed Oscar winner doing an acceptance speech? Gay people, while probably no more brilliant than the general population, have had to develop inner resources and strengths to deal with adversity. This can make a person question divine intercession that seems to happen elsewhere, if at all.
  2. Gay people alive today are surviving a plague that has decimated their ranks, taking their lovers and friends. I am thinking specifically of my fellow gay men of a certain age who have lived through the worst of this nightmare. For them, God is not merciful. God is not malicious. He is simply not there. In the old days, when an innocent child died of cancer or the like, the God-fearing parents would tell themselves that God called the lovely child unto Himself and that someday they would be reunited with their little angel. This weak consolation does not work for gay survivors because the loss of their lovers and friends is coupled with the condemnation of a judgmental God delivered by hateful church folks.
  3. Gay people tend to question stuff. They learn to trust their perceptions. I suspect that most of them are agnostics ("Show me evidence of God and I might believe") rather than full-blown atheists ("I believe in no God"). They do not fear the lightning that sometimes strikes the steeple of a church rather than the gay bar a few doors down the road. (This happened not too long ago in my neighborhood. The parishioners zealously contributed to a rebuilding fund. I think they should have sent the bill to God.)

In summary, Roxanne, adversity builds strength and character, and, in some vociferous gay people, diminishes trust in a silent and unseen God. Jesus spoke of the good shepherd who will leave his entire flock to rescue the one lost sheep. I am that lost sheep. No one ever came to find me. No one even noticed when I went missing. I wandered into a world of other lost sheep. In this world, I give and receive love and happiness and honesty. If and when the shepherd ever comes looking for me, he'll have some splainin to do. But I will forgive him, just as he will forgive me. Other gay people will not be so receptive to him, and it's all good.

PS: I hope you will enjoy this classic 2007 video by Pat Condell. It's called Was Jesus Gay?

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