NOW:

1. I am FTM. And suddenly, at age 40, I was straight. Did I have a community?
2. I am partnered. August 9th is our 11th anniversary. Amazingly, after only three months of being out as trans, I was in this relationship. As a friend told me when I came out to her, "you never were really successful at being a dyke".
3. I have no involvement with the Democratic Party whatsoever, other than faithfully giving them my vote. Been there; done that, since 1968. I've done my bit, several times over. The people who I used to know have undoubtedly long since forgotten me, as they continued even farther up the political food chain and became nationally known.
4. I live on the west coast, which would have been inconceivable to me in my earlier life. And I live in a house for the first time ever, in a rural county. I used to be one of those people who made jokes about needing a passport to go across the Hudson River.
5. I have embraced my trans status, and run a gender support and educational organization which holds eight support meetings a month. Saying that we are each the center of our own personal universe is one of the bromides that anyone who attends these meetings will likely hear from me; more than once.
6. I have a family. Through my partner, I have step-kids, grandkids, and in-laws. My brother has a wife and three children and in-laws who all accept my partner (who is MTF) and me. It's been more than 21 years since my mother died, and while that's a tragedy, I am really glad that I never had to come out to her as trans. As Yogi said, I came to the fork, and I took it.
7. I have the rep. of fearing change, which is true. But it is also true that I moved 3,000 miles to a new city without knowing anyone there, transitioned from female to male, and live in a place where they don't even deliver pizza. And I've never doubled back to the fork.