- I was getting involved in my second relationship ever after my partner and I decided to be poly.
- I identified as bisexual even though all my partners had been women - I knew identity and behavior don't always have to match up.
- I was flirting with the photographer but didn't think they'd actually get involved with me
- I had just resigned from my job in student government after 7 months of persistent anti-trans/genderqueer harassment.
- I had recently moved into a house owned by one of my favorite authors
- I identified as genderqueer, specifically not as a woman or man, and had been fighting my doctor to get access to hormones for 8 months
- I was so focused on gender and queerness it had been years since I hung out with my straight gaming friends from high school.
- I had recently completed banking sperm in preparation for starting hormones.
- I had never drank alcohol
- This photo was from the first set of nude pictures I posted online.
Tobi: Then and Now
- I've had a bit over a dozen partners, and that first relationship is still going and stronger than ever.
- I identify as a dyke even though I date men - I still know that identity and behavior don't have to match up.
- Having spent a couple years healing from my abusive relationship with the first photographer, I plan to get handfasted with the wonderful genderqueer who took this picture.
- I don't have any problems with my current job, probably in part because I'm stealth there.
- I'm still in the same house and will be here for another year or two.
- I've been on hormones for over 4 years and identify as a woman and as genderqueer.
- I've got new gaming friends in my life and I'm sure to devote regular time to gaming.
- I'm now a donor for friends who are inseminating right now. If everything works out alright, my partner and I will be god parents.
- I've had alcohol now, but still less than a dozen drinks in total.
- I've had many nude photos online, both for fun and for pay. Overall, it has really improved my body image.