Ahh, when I was in high school it was mostly video games and collectable card games. The one I was really into was star wars (the game based on the original movies, not the game based on the prequels). Oh, and I guess the chess team counts too.

These days, video games are still something, but I don't want to dedicate the same amount of time or money to them. Same with collectible card games -- to expensive when you add it up. About a year and a half ago I finally got to learn pen and paper role playing games. I've played D&D, DMed a campaign, and now am being introduced to vampire: the masquerade.

No, not really. I know about the risks, but I grew up with all of them, being a product of donor insemination myself. We discussed through our intentions and have a clear idea of what all parties involved want. Contracts are more valid than they were when I was a kid, but it's true it's possible they could sue for child support or I could sue for custody, but we're close friends and trust each other.

I'm not going to be a parent, but I won't be uninvolved. I'll be a godparent, a bit like an aunt, and likely a frequent babysitter. When I have a kid myself, they'll be half-siblings. Essentially, we're planning an intentional family together.

Most of all, though, donor insemination was how my family was created, and nothing seems more natural to me.

That was exactly the problem I had when I told my endo. It took 8 months when she normally had folks wait 3 months all because I was the "first" genderqueer patient she had and she wanted to be extra sure -- although I knew two genderqueers who had gone to her first, they just didn't come out to her.

It all depends on how much your therapist or endo is a gatekeeper. I eventually found a doctor and a therapist who are very clear that they are not there to judge me but there to help me. And both have quite a bit of experience with other genderqueer folks. In fact, it was a question I asked them when I was looking for a dr and a therapist. But yeah, unless you know otherwise or trust them quite well, the general advice I hear is don't talk about genderqueer stuff with your medical gatekeepers.