Bil Browning

South African same-sex marriage: Making a fuss

Filed By Bil Browning | July 21, 2009 3:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Marriage Equality, Politics
Tags: gay marriage, same-sex marriage, South Africa

Mark Gevisser penned a beautifully moving commentary for the New York Times last week that I forgot to mention until racpicpt8b.jpgProjector Enoch sent it in to the tip line. Thanks Enoch; everyone should go read this uplifting short piece about getting married in South Africa.

With a green highlighter she underlined a reminder that at least two witnesses were required. "We have room for 20," she said, "so bring all your friends and family." "No, no," I protested. "It'll be just two. We don't want to make a fuss."

She arched her eyebrows disapprovingly and pulled out a pink highlighter to underline another injunction: "If you have rings, please bring them with you."

We were not planning on rings, I said.

"Why not?" She answered her own question: "Ah, you don't want to make a fuss!" And then, in counselling mode: "Do you think you are a second-class citizen because you are gay? You have full rights in this new South Africa. You have the right to make a fuss."

Sometimes you just need a little something to make you smile. This did it for me today.


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You tell 'em, lady!

Weddings are supposed to be big, rambunctious, and joyous. It's designed to be a once in a lifetime thing, so why not celebrate this special day with others?

The self-consciousness has no place in liberation.

I kind of love her for that line.

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | July 21, 2009 11:12 PM

Give that woman a highlighter and a shiny star!

Haha. When I saw that you had a post in the schedule that you called "South Africa," I thought you were going to post about the big LGBT news out of South Africa today: they stopped funding research for an AIDS vaccine.

Of course, America's picking up the tab for that, but it's still interesting. This is more fun though.

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | July 22, 2009 2:45 AM

I just found time to read the "Times" article. It was a beautiful story within what is still a country with so many troubles. Still, South Africa is the economic engine for much of sub Saharan Africa. I could not help but notice that the "M" word will bring the couple to France intact.

I had no idea that they have been together 20 years until I read the article. They risked a lot for love.