Over the past month or so, I've been getting tons of friend requests on Facebook from Middle Eastern, Asian and African gay guys. I've had requests from Pakistan, Indonesia, India, Thailand, South Africa, and Egypt. Most of them are also friends with other people I'm connected to on the site.
Each one wants to chat right away. And they usually start with "I just sent you an e-mail..." Here's the e-mail the last guy - under the name Harman Hoob without a picture of himself as an icon - sent me. It's the same e-mail I've been sent by several of these "friends."
I am sumon 35yrs old man.
I studded in the social science.
You are looking so beautiful and gorgeous.
You are most beautiful man in the world.
Would you like to be a friend with me?
Please give me your messenger no.
CHAT ME AT [redacted]
I WANT TO SLEEP WITH YOU.
I WANT TO SUCK YOUR WHOLE BODY.
I DIDN'T ANY KIND OF SEX IN MY 35YRS OLD.
COZ MY COUNTRY IS MUSLIM AND IT IS SHAMLESS THING HERE.
I DISLIKE WOMAN SEX.
IF YOU WANT ME IT WILL BE MY 1ST SEX WITH YOU.
IF YOU WANT ME PLZ TELL ME.
I HAVE NOT ANY KIND OF SEX DISEASES.
While I'd like to think I'm the "most beautiful man in the world," I'm sure quite a few others would quibble. I've fended off a boatload of these guys who've all begged me to visit them in their country and either screw them silly or bring them home with me as a sponsor for citizenship.
So when I stumbled across Queerty's article, "That Hot Guy in Ghana You Think Wants to Sleep With You ... Wants to Rob You," it instantly caught my attention. At various points in time, good old Harman has friended me under about a half dozen names. He's been located in Iraq, South Africa and... Ghana.
The Queerty post links and quotes from Easy Track Ghana's website full of tips and warnings for LGBT foreigners considering a vacation in the African nation.
At many Internet cafes there will be 3 or 4 African boys working together, each having multiple chats with foreigners. This is the reason the chat and profiles all sound so similar. Some people are illiterate and hire typists who move from computer to computer answering chat messages. They work together to help each other formulate responses to questions in chats and email. They cut-and-paste sweet love.
Any person who comes at you with instant love is a faker or a scammer. The instant love they feel for you is love for the opportunity that you present and the money you have. The scams sound sincere, but all involve you sending money. Even if you are a poor person in your country, you are a very rich person by comparison to most of your African chat buddies. This disparity in wealth profoundly affects any relationship you develop.
Many of the photos in posted profiles are not true. Guys pass around flash drives full of sexy photos to use for online. Look at the background carefully. Look at the clothing, furnishings or electric outlets. There are many clues, so if your online friend is too beautiful, look carefully. Is he a model copied from some online magazine? How long has the profile existed? Profiles with a long history are generally people who have nothing to hide.
Even more shocking though, there are some Internet cafes that are *completely* devoted to this type of activity. It is truly a business, with finders fees paid for arranging a meeting with a foreigner, and 11 and 12 year old year-old boys watching pornography en masse and learning how to chat 'gay'. On the Internet, anybody can be anything, so you really do not know who you are chatting with.
Older Western gay men are regarded as being rich and generous and desperate for needing love, so this has become a booming business.
So let this be a warning to all the other "beautiful and gorgeous" Projectors. That hot little guy who thinks you're the bee's knees and wants you to rescue him with your big white man power stick, has his own reasons for falling in love with you before you've even exchanged a word.
It's not because you're sexy, although I'm sure you are. It's not because he desperately needs you to screw him to make his life complete, although I'm confident you'd rock any guy's world.
He wants your money.
Now excuse me while I answer an urgent e-mail from former Nigerian royalty who needs me to give him my bank account information so I can hide a bazillion dollars for him. After all, this guy seems totally legit; he's royalty, right?