Check out this new movie from filmmaker Cayle Ryan Pietras about a "throuple" - three gay men in a relationship. I find myself agreeing with Queerty's description of them.
...either the most functional grouping of three very different personalities, or the most dysfunctional grouping of three men just looking for love.
It's clear Justin is the leader of the pack. He sets the rules (who can have sex with who, who's allowed to talk to other guys), in a way that leads some to question the health of this relationships. No, this throuple doesn't practice monogamy. Or at least one-third of it doesn't. And Mickey and Max seem to just accept it, though whether it's with a laugh of despair is your call.
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(To know Justin, simply read this one line: "I have stopped having sex with other people [outside the relationships], for the most part. ... It was probably about five a week.")
The men's story is compelling and while I'm fine with the fact that they're in a polyamorous relationship, the power dynamic seems to be a tad bit skewed. I'd be interested in seeing Projector's reactions. Video after the jump.
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That's the annoying thing about being a minority. No one would look at an abusive monogamous relationship and proclaim that monogamy doesn't work or is inherently abusive. But I'm sure that people are already hyper-analyzing this one particular triad to prove whether or not polyamory is okay.
(P.S. to Queerty, a triad cannot be monogamous by definition. I think the term you are looking for is fidelous or practicing fidelity)
Tobi Hill-Meyer | September 17, 2009 3:42 PM
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Now wait a minute...
I said I was fine with triads, but that "the power dynamic seems to be a tad bit skewed" in this relationship. I didn't say that polyamory doesn't work or that it is inherently abusive; you're putting words in my mouth.
Bil Browning | September 18, 2009 12:43 AM
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I didn't mean that you were claiming it's inherently abusive, just commenting on the likelihood of that happening and the annoying dynamic how minorities always have to represent their entire group.
Tobi Hill-Meyer | September 18, 2009 2:23 AM
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I didn't mean that you were claiming it's inherently abusive, just commenting on the likelihood of that happening and the annoying dynamic how minorities always have to represent their entire group.
Tobi Hill-Meyer | September 18, 2009 2:39 AM
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Wow. They're pretty boring. I guess that's fighting stereotypes.
Alex Blaze | September 18, 2009 10:03 AM
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