Years ago my wife, Molly, and I were driving through Bakersfield and stopped at an IHOP, Denny's, or one of those places you go to when you're on the road. We met a really nice waitress and she came out to us. She wasn't gay or transgender. She was a Democrat.
She quietly whispered it to us. We were incredulous. She said that she was told by some neighbors of hers that they thought she was a good person until they found out about her little secret. She told us that it was hard to hold her head high as a "Democrat" in Bakersfield, a right-wing conservative hot bed.
Years later in May 2008 my wife became a minister of the Universal Life Church which involves an online application and $25. She did this so that she could marry same-sex couples in Bakersfield after the Kern County Clerk refused to do so, even after it was legal. Molly literally married couples on the sidewalk in front of the Kern County Clerk's Office because they chose to be the Alabama of California.
Sorry, all of you progressive folks from Alabama.