I'm 38 and love my job. I met a guy who lives in San Francisco. I live in Worchester, MA. Six months go by. Now he asks me to move to SF and live with him. I think this is love but I've never had it before so I don't know for sure. I want to go but every night I go to bed thinking what are my chances? I wish I knew the percentages. How many guys give everything up and then regret it? This is the first time in my life when I don't know what to do. Wish I had a crystal ball.
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I'm happy for you. Love is the pearl of great worth. Many sell all they have to possess it. But you are wondering if this is a real pearl or just a plastic bauble. This may help you become an informed consumer.
Let's look at "Caution" because that is really what you are talking about. Caution is often billed as prudence and wisdom. Bah. Meh. Feh. Caution is its own reward. A cautious man stays out of traffic because it might injure him. He may live longer than the man who jumps into traffic but he never goes anywhere. Is that what you want? A long, safe and empty life on the sidewalk?
Listen to billionaires talk about their lives. Most of them describe many bankruptcies and failures before their success.
I have many friends and more acquaintances whose answer is "Some guy." when asked why they moved to SF or NYC or Miami, etc. Without scientific study, I'm guessing that most of those kinds of relationships did not work out but that the mover found happiness in his new surroundings and built a life there - with no regrets. The road to happy is a twisted one.
Two nights ago, at midnight, I watched a giant sea turtle come up out of the waves to dig a pit in the sand, lay her eggs, cover them up and return to the sea. So many instincts at play. Doing without thinking.
Until we know the reason for our being here, all of us creatures with two eyes and a nose and appendages that scoop sand are like actors on a stage without a script. We can either stay perfectly still or we can improvise. When last I checked, the arrival of a script was not predicted for this century.
My advice would be to go for it, but like the turtle, take a protective shell of prudence and sensibility with you. It's probably part of what he loves about you.