I asked out my best friend last night. She said yes and we kissed for the first time. We only have a week and a half left of school and we live in different states. How do the two of us make the most out of our limited time? How do I convince her to take it a little bit faster?
Best Friend Turned Potential LoverFollow @freedom2marry
I can certainly appreciate your eagerness to make the most of your remaining week and a half together with your best-friend-turned-potential-lover. However, your need for her to be ready for that which she is not may just backfire on you. There is a reason she needs to take things slowly. Your best bet is to be patient, appreciate your time together for what it is, express your desires, and listen to her response with respect and compassion.
If you have been friends for a while it is common for one of the parties (if not both) to have concerns that crossing intimate boundaries could change the friendship. Perhaps she needs to be sure that crossing the friendship line is worth the risk.
Find out what's going on with her - and show interest in what she wants, how she is feeling, and what she would like to see happen during the week and a half you have left. Let her know that how she feels matters. Explain what you would like to see happen in a way that informs, not pressures, her.
If your friendship is going to morph into a full-blown intimate relationship then you'll want to take special care to build a very safe and solid foundation on which to build your relationship.