We've known for a while that lesbian women generally come out later than gay men, and now one researcher is saying that the difference isn't due to just the coming out process, but also that some women's sexual orientations change:
Following interviews with more than 200 married lesbians, Moran concluded that there is "great potential for heterosexual women to experience a first same-sex attraction well into adulthood."
She added that late-blooming sexuality was often wrongly dismissed as repressed lesbians finally coming to terms with their true feelings.
Most research ignored "the possibility that a heterosexual woman might make a full transition to a singular lesbian identity ... in other words change their sexual orientation."
Describing the emotional torment suffered by many late-blooming lesbians, Moran added: "To leave a heterosexual marriage in favour of lesbian identity is to abdicate enormous and undeniable privilege."
Lots of women read Bilerico; do you feel like that's an accurate description of your experiences?
No doubt this study will be used by the religious right to prove that somehow it's OK to punish queer peopel for coming out and living their lives honestly because some people's sexual orientation changes randomly. Obviously, if it changes randomly in some people, then a change can be induced in everyone through the use of legal and physical punishments, and such instruments should be used. It all makes so much sense.
For my part, I welcome all information about sexuality because this movement is supposed to be based on truth and freedom, not creating narratives to make us seem more sympathetic to conservatives. That some people experience their sexual orientation differently from me is exactly the point - everyone should be free to express themselves because consensual love and sex are never wrong.
And anyway, we'll never win at the "manipulate sexuality and love lives to fit a construction" game against the Religious Right. They invented it and they'll always win it. Fortuantely, we have reality on our side, so we might as well embrace it.