Has anyone else noticed a preponderance of LGBT people selling out the community? I thought closeted LGBT people like Haggard and Craig were bad for our community, but lately it has been "out" LGBT folks that seem to be doing a disservice to our community.
Richard Socarides wrote the anti-gay, political double-speak talking points in support of DOMA and DADT. He had the audacity to sell his community out by authoring a talking point about the President recognizing same-sex relationships which stated, "These decisions are best left to state and local governments and private institutions. But since the President does not believe that the federal government should recognize gay marriage, he does not believe it is appropriate for scarce federal resources to be devoted to providing spousal benefits to partners in gay and lesbian relationships."
Couldn't he have just stopped with "These decisions are best left up to state governments"? Did he really have to emphasize Clinton's lack of support for marriage equality and go as far saying the president "does not believe it is appropriate for scarce federal resources to be devoted" to spousal benefits for LGBT Americans?
It would have been nice Socarides had invited the President to commission a study to look at the fiscal impact of providing spousal benefits to same-sex couples, as the Bush Administration did. Under Bush, the Congressional Budget Office determined that extending marriage to same-sex couples would save the government one billion dollars.
A more pro-active, gay-friendly talking point would have been: "President Clinton has signed the DOMA to preserve states' rights to decide who should be able to legally marry." No need to insert his negative personal opinion and then follow it up with this bogus talking point "I believe that all Americans -- gay or straight -- who are willing to work hard, pay their taxes, play by the rules, obey the law and be good citizens -- should be treated fairly and have equal opportunities to prosper. No other president has taken more steps to bring gays and lesbians to the table. And despite my personal feelings about same-sex marriage, I don't think we as Americans should discriminate against anyone."
Um, denying us equal marriage rights means that we are not being "treated fairly," nor are we having "equal opportunities to prosper" and this is what discrimination looks like. It is even more offensive that this placating "You should be grateful for what you get queer!" message was written by a gay man.
No one can screw us like our own, which brings me to my next outrage.
The Kids Are All Right, but is this movie? Please tell me why when we are fighting a rabid comeback of the Anita Bryant's "Save Our Children from the Homosexuals" campaign would a lesbian filmmaker write a movie where a sperm donor of a lesbian couple can come in and start screwing the more femme woman in a long-term committed relationship? I'm not encouraging censorship, but how about some solid images of healthy same-sex couples and their families in the media first. Must we cater to the homophobic collective unconscious? You might note that on L-Word and Queer as Folk both femme lesbians who gave birth to the children had affairs with men.
I'm not saying this does not happen on occasion, but because the anti-gay movement fails to see same-sex parents as real and adequate parents and because they affirm that homosexuality is a choice, the next main-stream movie about LGBT people could have not played into anti-gay stereotypes.
How many of us hunger for images of regular LGBT people on the big screen or on TV? Yet, we continue to see endlessly lonely and single gay men and their fool-around fag-hags, lesbian serial killers, married men on the down-low, and one-dimensional clown-like flamers. Some of you might argue with me that these are regular LGBT people, but I know we are more diverse than this and to be clear, you can be a flamboyant, feminine gay man and be multi-dimensional. However, the media seems to forget this. They will show us "truth or dare" style straight girl kisses a la Sandra Bullock or run "Girls Gone Wild" commercials for the straight dudes, but for media images of regular LGBT people we have to watch Ellen.
I'm not sure where this blog is going. I guess working so hard for equal marriage rights for over a decade and to have our relationships respected and seen as equal and then seeing Julianne Moore play a lesbian kissing her sperm donor just bums me way out.