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Comment of the Week: planesdrifter

Filed By Bil Browning | January 23, 2011 7:00 PM | comments

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Tags: monogamy, planesdrifter, polyamory, Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer

The comment of the week goes to planesdrifter for his response to Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer's "Freedom of Monogamy" post. Interestingly enough, such a charged topic only resulted in one psuedo-flamer in the thread who didn't like the idea that one could have sex with a woman and still be a gay man.

Anyhow, it's a great post and there's some thoughtful comments - commentofweek1.pngincluding this one:

I've always felt that one of the rewards of being gay was the ability to define our own relationships outside the norms of society's heterosexual confines. Coming out in the late 60s during the sexual revolution, experiencing the freedoms of counterculture movement helped me to explore not only my own boundaries but opened up a world of expanded possibilities for personal relationships, making this a desirable and acceptable alternative for a young gay man. Out of this period and over subsequent decades my relationships have evolved and grown, changed in partners and in depth. Having now been with my last partner for 30 years I realize that I've experienced a long revelatory journey back into myself only to discover for me the true meanings of love and partnership, said best by the poet, Mawlana Jalal-al-Din Rumi: "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

What're your thoughts on monogamy vs polyamory? Have you found yourself in a similar situation to Steven's? Have you ever decided to settle down with one person or, as a couple, decided to open your relationship up to other sexual and/or emotional partners? Tell us about it.


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Polyamory is wrong. It's either Multiamory, or Polyphilia. You can't mix Greek and Latin. It's just rong.

I agree! It's as wrong as television, hyperspace, monolingual, automobile and heterosexual.

The commented wrote in to say it was his 1st comment on the site. We need more commanders like him, eh guys?

If Sex is not fun then maybe your doing something wrong? Does not really mater if it is gay sex or any other sex!