That was my first thought too. "Wait. They call him misogynistic and a douche?!" Oy. The irony. It burns.
"Douche" is the very opposite of a misogynistic term. Douching is an oppressive practice that is harmful to vaginas, which makes it a great insult. This argument was settled in like 1999, people.
Tell me more. In the comments section here several contributors (and other commenters) have been taken to task for using the word as a slur.
Well, that's unfortunate, because I simply cannot see how that term is at all a slur.
Douche is really short for the original slur "douche bag," an item used only by women. And, trust me, this slur's original users were exclusively male. Now, they could just as easily have picked an equal opportunity slur like "enema bag" couldn't they? But they didn't. Why do you suppose that is? What does this say about what any user of this term thinks about women?
So - then being a realist about when terms enter general usage and fools errands standards only apply to certain people. Why do you think that is?
Jessica Max Stein
I would agree with Om -- "douche" is misogynistic.
I don't know any women who thinks that being called a douche or douche bag is a good thing, or even a neutral thing. It's a bad thing. Period. It is intended to bring to mind bad smells and lack of cleanliness, at minimum. But you know that.
Shemale, on the other hand, perfectly describes what the purchasers of this type of sexual experience are looking for. Elsewhere, the OP suggested "trans prostitute" as a substitute. But who's kidding whom? If a guy requests such a prostitute, someone with a vagina could possibly show up, right? So to answer the OP's question here, that's what's wrong with just using "trans prostitute."
That can't be right. I just googled it & here's a woman who thinks the word is just fine to use.
Dan Savage Is A Douchebag Posted by: The Angry Black Woman
Are we playing bingo?
- 'Douche' is not misogynist language. A douche is something that *hurts* women.
- Being gay means that you lack hetero privilege. It doesn't undo your class, white, cis, or male privilege. No one claimed that Dan Savage or any other gay man has "all the power in society".
- Reclaiming a slur that is used against you is not the same as using a slur that affects a marginalized group to which you don't belong.
While douching for general hygiene reasons is harmful, it is sometimes medically useful. I'm not comfortable with douche equaling inherently bad because how will this affect the self-esteem women (and other vag-owners) who need to douche for medical reasons?