The holiday season can be very difficult for queer people who have strained or non-existent relationships with their families. I grew up in a queer family and have been lucky enough that my being trans was only an issue for my family for a couple of years. However, this is such a strong issue in our community that I still feel impacted each year. Invariably some of my friends struggle with depression and pain. I've often tried to give support and this year in particular I have worried after saying goodbye to a girlfriend as she goes home to family who still call her by the wrong pronouns and condemn much of what is important in her life.
I've seen people try to deal with this in different ways, one of my favorites being queer community dinners to create new family and traditions. Another response comes in the form of "An Open Letter to the Woman Who Gave Birth to Me in Honor of a Holiday I No Longer Celebrate," a poignant and moving letter by Sadie Vashti.