I thought this would be a sweet story of a romantic New York wedding, and in a way it is, but I was so dumbfounded by the fifth paragraph I could barely concentrate to read the rest of it.
"I didn't expect any of this," said Mr. Fischer...
Seriously? You are a member of and employed by the Catholic Church, an institution that officially loathes your existence and works tirelessly the world over to prevent gay people from living full and honest lives, and you're surprised that they fired you when you announced your gay wedding?
All my life I've heard people say, "But most Catholics aren't like that," and lately with Rick Santorum doing so well in the GOP primary we keep reading about how the vast majority of Catholic women use birth control, etc. I don't doubt it. I've known lots of sensible Catholics. "My church isn't like that," they say, or "We have a very liberal priest," or, my favorite, "We have lots of gays at our church and we love them."
I'm not saying you have to give up the faith, the tradition, the culture, that you grew up with and that you cannot imagine feeling complete without, but is there not a point at which, if you have the slightest shred of a conscience, you would want to separate yourself from that institution? Couldn't all the liberal Catholics, who are supposedly in the majority, say "enough is enough" to the Pope, walk away from the crazy, and start your own apostate denomination? In the same way that conservative Episcopalians and other Protestants have been defecting recently when their churches have ordained women or stopped persecuting gays?
My sympathy is just about used up for people like you. I don't doubt it's complicated for you. What is not complicated, what is in fact crystal clear, is that you are supporting an institution that has for centuries caused vast pain for GLBT people.
You are the problem.