Jeff Lutes

Jeff Lutes

At a Glance:

Jeff Lutes has been a Project Contributor since February 2011, has written 29 entries and currently lives in Austin, Texas .


Jeff Lutes is a psychotherapist, author, public speaker and the principal consultant for He lives in Austin, Texas, where he has maintained a private practice since 1988. Jeff has co-authored a chapter for the Handbook of LGBT-Affirmative Couple and Family Therapy (Routledge Press); written a children’s book about diverse families called Okin the Panda Bear Finds his Family (Creative House International Press), and regularly writes about the issues pertinent to same-sex couples and families at He has presented workshops at the annual conventions of both the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) and the American Counseling Association (ACA). In addition to the ACA, Jeff is also a member of the International Association for Relationship Research (IARR), the Association for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender Issues in Counseling (ALGBTIC), and the Council on Contemporary Families (CCF). He has served on numerous committees, including the Forum on the Military Chaplaincy, the board of directors for Out Youth, and the LGBTQQIA Affirmative Counseling and Social Justice Committee.

From 2006 through 2009, Jeff served as the Executive Director of Soulforce - the national social justice organization committed to ending the religion-based oppression of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people. During his tenure he organized large national actions, managed the launch of the young adult program and the first three Equality Rides, and created several booklets and videos including the popular What the Science Says - and Doesn't Say - About Homosexuality: Research-based answers to ten of the most commonly asked questions about lesbian women, gay men, and their families.

Jeff and his partner, Gary Stein, met in 1997 and are the proud fathers of three children they adopted as a couple. Gary and two of the children are deaf. American Sign Language is the primary mode of communication in their home.

Jeff Lutes: Recently Filed

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Fundies Getting Desperate as Public Embraces Equality

Filed by Jeff Lutes | September 25, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

Instead of obsessing over homosexuality, Baptist leader Albert Mohler should write about ways to work together to end poverty and hunger.Read More


Equality, Freedom, & Public Displays of Affection

Filed by Jeff Lutes | July 10, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

Do those of you who live in one of the 13 states with marriage equality find it any easier to publicly display affection for the one you love?Read More

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Are You Really Ready for Marriage?

Filed by Jeff Lutes | June 27, 2013 | 5:00 PM | comments

Hold your head up high with confidence and celebrate the SCOTUS victory, knowing that as a gay man or lesbian woman you are fully capable of having the meaningful and satisfying love relationship you desire.Read More

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Exodus Apologizes & Announces Closure

Filed by Jeff Lutes | June 20, 2013 | 11:00 AM | comments

Exodus International has announced it is closing down.Read More


Dear Dad: An Open Letter from a Gay Son on Father's Day

Filed by Jeff Lutes | June 13, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The irony is that your inability to love me for who I am is part of the reason that I am able to love my family for exactly who they are.Read More