Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer
At a Glance:
Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer has been a Project Contributor since March 2010, has written 47 entries and currently lives in New York City.
Bio
I've lived as an artist of one sort or another all my life. I spent the '80s and '90s (my 20s and 30s) in New York studying painting, playing in bands, writing songs, singing, making theater. I grew up in Indiana, and, besides New York, I've lived in Nashville, San Francisco, the Utah wilderness, and for two years in a camper on the road.
I'm 48. I came out in 1979. I caught the tail end of the wild years before HIV rewrote the script. I was a member of ACT UP and Queer Nation in the late 80s. My political consciousness was forged in opposition to the threats of that dark time: Reagan, Jesse Helms, the Moral Majority, and the rest. Lately, I find myself pretty far outside the mainstream of the LGBT movement, politically speaking. I can get adamant. I try not to be strident, and I love it when smart people disagree with me. I love the conversation. There's nothing sexier than being persuaded.
I am a writer and artist; I make theater and sometimes film, I write songs and sometimes I perform them. I moved back to New York in 2010 after being away for 12 years.
I'm interested in many things: art, movies, books, sex, love, 70s variety shows, old musicals, porn, comedy, weird stuff, bad stuff. And I have a wicked Judy Garland fetish.
I have a personal blog at golikewater.blogspot.com, and a tumblr at golikewater.tumblr.com.
Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer: Recently Filed
Did My Marriage Cause Obama's Evolution?
Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | May 23, 2012 5:30 PM |We so wanted our marriage not to be a political event, so it was almost comical on our honeymoon cruise to read that Chan's home state of North Carolina voted to extra-double-duty outlaw gay marriage and a day later President Obama came out in favor. Read More
Freedom Versus Community?
Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | April 26, 2012 1:00 PM |All day yesterday and still this afternoon - I couldn't help it - I have the Joni Mitchell song "My Old Man" in my head: "We don't need no piece of paper from the City Hall keeping us tight and true, no, my old man, keepin' away my blues."Read More
A Successful Wedding Depends on Compromise
Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | March 26, 2012 10:00 AM |I doubt that any skill is more necessary to cultivate in order to have and sustain a marriage than the ability to not take your partner's difference in taste personally, to shake off the hurt feelings, and to move on.Read More
More Thoughts on Catholics & Getting Married
Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | March 19, 2012 11:00 AM |I got in some serious hot water with my last post - which was not an installment of the Marriage Chronicles but a screed against the Catholic Church. I offended two people who are very important to me.Read More
When Do Catholics Walk Away From the Crazy?
Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | March 12, 2012 1:30 PM |My sympathy is just about used up for people like you. I don't doubt it's complicated for you. What is not complicated is that you are supporting an institution that has for centuries caused vast pain for GLBT people.Read More






