Living: May 2007

The beginning of the end

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | May 31, 2007 | 11:06 PM | comments

We knew it was the beginning of the end, but still it was the beginning. Most of us had recently escaped monstrous families of origin, we were scarred and broken and brutalized but determined to create something else, something we...Read More


I now pronounce you... okay, I don't know what to pronounce you.

Filed by Jen Jorczak | May 31, 2007 | 7:16 PM | comments

A month ago, I did something I thought I'd never do: get married. Here is a picture from the ceremony: That's Barb, on the left, then me, then Mother Nancy Ferriani of Trinity Episcopal. (Trinity is Barb's spiritual home, and...Read More


I now pronounce you... okay, I don't know what to pronounce you.

Filed by Jen Jorczak | May 31, 2007 | 7:16 PM | comments

A month ago, I did something I thought I'd never do: get married. Here is a picture from the ceremony: That's Barb, on the left, then me, then Mother Nancy Ferriani of Trinity Episcopal. (Trinity is Barb's spiritual home, and...Read More


Question of the Thursday

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 31, 2007 | 9:23 AM | comments

What did you want to be when you were growing up?...Read More


One sexy open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | May 30, 2007 | 8:39 AM | comments

What do you consider sexy? Without getting too graphic, what turns you on? Personally, I like an intelligent guy who's a little rough around the edges. I'm a fan of dark hair, but that's not set in stone. And, of...Read More


Falwell's legacy lives on

Filed by Bil Browning | May 29, 2007 | 10:54 AM | comments

Just when you thought it was safe for a Teletubbie to carry a purse, along comes the Polish children's watchdog Ewa Sowinska to force poor Tinky Winky even further into his closet. The government appointed ombudsman announced she would be...Read More


Passion Cocktail, Please

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 29, 2007 | 9:05 AM | comments

Passion is a loaded topic for many couples. Some people spend their entire relationship grieving the passion they feel they are missing. Others spend their entire relationship trying to find balance amid the extreme highs and devastating lows that are...Read More


Tuesday Open Thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 29, 2007 | 8:35 AM | comments

From reader Paula, who keeps the awesome Hoosier blog Whtz on my Mind: If you had the power to flip one person from the anti-gay camp to our side, who would it be and why?...Read More


Memorial Day Open Thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 28, 2007 | 8:41 AM | comments

I'm not going to be posting today (or at least I'll try to stay away from my computer) because not only is it Memorial Day, it's also my birthday! I hope to get way drunk or have a fun night...Read More


Cambridge mayor comes out as trans

Filed by Bil Browning | May 26, 2007 | 10:52 PM | comments

Now here's a twist... The newly elected mayor of Cambridge was forced to "come out" as transgender after a newspaper reporter approached her asking questions. But as an added bonus, not only the mayor was forced to reveal her original...Read More


The times, they are a-changin'?

Filed by Jen Jorczak | May 25, 2007 | 4:55 PM | comments

So, on Monday I posted about a recent public opinion poll on abortion, and I wanted to "compare and contrast" (if I'm allowed to return to the 7th grade for a bit) with another article I read about the shift...Read More


The times, they are a-changin'?

Filed by Jen Jorczak | May 25, 2007 | 4:55 PM | comments

So, on Monday I posted about a recent public opinion poll on abortion, and I wanted to "compare and contrast" (if I'm allowed to return to the 7th grade for a bit) with another article I read about the shift...Read More


The times, they are a-changin'?

Filed by Jen Jorczak | May 25, 2007 | 4:55 PM | comments

So, on Monday I posted about a recent public opinion poll on abortion, and I wanted to "compare and contrast" (if I'm allowed to return to the 7th grade for a bit) with another article I read about the shift...Read More


Weekend open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | May 25, 2007 | 8:32 AM | comments

In the style of the "workaurant"... What should Tuesday's question/open thread be about? (Monday is a holiday!) Got a specific question? A topic? Any idea? The floor is yours......Read More


Question of the Thursday

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 24, 2007 | 8:46 AM | comments

How much time do you think you'd save if you had no sex-drive at all? What would you accomplish in that time? Would anyone at all be willing to give it up?...Read More


SJR-7 wins award for Indiana teens

Filed by Bil Browning | May 23, 2007 | 11:22 AM | comments

Two middle school students from Bloomington, Indiana have won 3rd place in CSPAN's StudentCam contest for a video about SJR-7, the proposed constitutional amendment to outlaw same-sex marriage and civil unions. The amendments was defeated in the legislature this April....Read More


SJR-7 wins award for Indiana teens

Filed by Bil Browning | May 23, 2007 | 11:22 AM | comments

Two middle school students from Bloomington, Indiana have won 3rd place in CSPAN's StudentCam contest for a video about SJR-7, the proposed constitutional amendment to outlaw same-sex marriage and civil unions. The amendments was defeated in the legislature this April....Read More


Evangelical reading material

Filed by Bil Browning | May 22, 2007 | 6:00 PM | comments

Two interesting articles that caught my eye today: The Washington Post has an article detailing how Jerry Falwell's death will resonate in the evangelical movement's power structure. It's a very in-depth article tracing the leadership of the movement through it's...Read More


Evangelical reading material

Filed by Bil Browning | May 22, 2007 | 6:00 PM | comments

Two interesting articles that caught my eye today: The Washington Post has an article detailing how Jerry Falwell's death will resonate in the evangelical movement's power structure. It's a very in-depth article tracing the leadership of the movement through it's...Read More


The King family's mixed legacy

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | May 22, 2007 | 4:06 PM | comments

The LGBTQ community as well as the African-American community lost another one of this nation's fierce allies for queer civil rights in the King family - Yolanda King. Fondly known as Yoki, she was the oldest daughter of the Rev....Read More


Tuesday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 22, 2007 | 9:10 AM | comments

What blog features do you like in general? From this or other blogs......Read More


Avoid Therapists Who...

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 22, 2007 | 9:02 AM | comments

If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered, therapy shopping can be particularly difficult. If you encounter therapists who engage in any of the following behaviors, you may not be in good hands. Be sure to avoid therapists who......Read More


What would you call it?

Filed by Jen Jorczak | May 21, 2007 | 6:19 PM | comments

This morning, Bil sent me a link to a new Gallup Poll on abortion-debate terminology. Their earth-shattering conclusion? 'Public Divided on "Pro-Choice" vs. "Pro-Life" Abortion Labels.' Tell me something I don't know. Personally, even I'm divided on those labels. Sure,...Read More


Question of the Monday: Does the news make you cry?

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | May 21, 2007 | 9:02 AM | comments

Do you often find yourself sobbing while listening to or watching the news? If so, does this sadness feel overwhelming and exhausting, or does it also connect you to some kind of emotional space that feels hopeful, like it could...Read More


Go outside and play!

Filed by Bil Browning | May 19, 2007 | 9:23 AM | comments

I won't be posting much today - at least during the daylight hours! We're putting up a privacy fence with our neighbors today, so I'll be out doing studly, manly, dirty work. (Yeah, I'll stand there and say "Dig harder....Read More


Wow. Okay then. Tell us how you really feel.

Filed by Bil Browning | May 18, 2007 | 3:18 PM | comments

Just in case you missed the Roanoke Times' editorial about Jerry Falwell's death, I'd like to point you in the right direction. I have an ex-boyfriend that grew up in Lynchburg and Roanoke. He told stories about meeting Jerry Falwell...Read More


Transgender Youth Family Advocates Public Service Announcement

Filed by Bruce Parker | May 18, 2007 | 1:00 PM | comments

Wednesday I posted some of the guidelines for dealing with gender variant youth from the Transgender Youth Family Advocates Website. In the comments section, Kelly mentioned that they had a good public service announcement titled "Out of the Shadows." I...Read More


TGIF question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 18, 2007 | 9:07 AM | comments

Any plans for this weekend?...Read More


I heart Christopher Hitchens

Filed by Jerame Davis | May 17, 2007 | 11:00 AM | comments

The atheist in me is just giddy over this interview between well-known British atheist and author Christopher Hitchens and everyone's favorite gay news anchor Anderson Cooper. Hitchens takes no prisoners in his critique of the late Rev. Jerry Falwell and...Read More


Ohio Guv protects state workers

Filed by Bil Browning | May 17, 2007 | 10:38 AM | comments

Just as predicted yesterday, Ohio's Democratic Governor Ted Strickland signed an executive order this morning protecting the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender state employees from discrimination. No one could be fired from or denied a state job on the basis...Read More


So enough about us, what about you?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 17, 2007 | 9:29 AM | comments

If you haven't done so already, please take this brief survey and tell us a little bit about yourself. All answers are anonymous, so don't worry about getting SPAM. In fact, no one will see any identifying information about you....Read More


A few questions about hate crimes legislation

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | May 17, 2007 | 9:05 AM | comments

Obviously, the US criminal "justice" system is racist, classist, homophobic and transphobic to the core (if you're not sure of this, just take a brief look at who is in prison, who gets the longest sentences, who ends up on...Read More


Question of the Thursday

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 17, 2007 | 9:01 AM | comments

Where are you right now religiously?...Read More


Ohio to move closer to equality

Filed by Bil Browning | May 16, 2007 | 8:03 PM | comments

Fresh in off the tip line... Democratic Ohio Governor Ted Strickland will issue an executive order tomorrow protecting gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender state employees from discrimination. Ohio, like Indiana, does not have any laws protecting the LGBT community from...Read More


Know or Love a Gender Variant Kid?

Filed by Bruce Parker | May 16, 2007 | 9:30 AM | comments

The Transgender Youth Family Advocate (TYFA) website includes a list of top ten tips for dealing with gender variant kids. Folks should check out all ten and the other neat resources available on the TYFA website. I am including below...Read More


Hump day question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 16, 2007 | 9:00 AM | comments

Have you read any good books lately? What's your all-time favorite?...Read More


Does this mean the Teletubbies are straight again?

Filed by Jerame Davis | May 15, 2007 | 1:46 PM | comments

OK, maybe not. That Tinky Winky always was rather fey. Sadly, we may never know the other children's television characters who are surreptitiously making American's children into Nancy boys and Tom girls. The Rev. Jerry Falwell, who in his...Read More


Jerry Falwell Dead at 73

Filed by Ellen Andersen | May 15, 2007 | 1:42 PM | comments

The Indianapolis Star is reporting that Jerry Falwell died earlier today. Falwell stands in interesting juxtaposition to the movement for LGBT rights. On the one hand, this is the guy who so famously opined "I really believe that the pagans,...Read More


Latina trans teen an awesome prom queen!

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 15, 2007 | 12:44 PM | comments

Roosevelt High School, a Fresno area school, had it's first transgender prom queen this weekend. Johnny Vera (yes, she goes by Johnny) won in a landslide. From the Fresno Bee:"For me, it's about more than a crown. It's about...Read More


Disappointing Mom and Dad

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 15, 2007 | 10:16 AM | comments

I never felt married, until I got married. I got married twice, in fact, to the same person. The legal ceremony, if you will, took place in Canada (no bitterness there, right?) I don't have a long history of partners,...Read More


Talk back to us

Filed by Bil Browning | May 15, 2007 | 9:28 AM | comments

If you haven't done so already, please take this brief survey and tell us a little bit about yourself. All answers are anonymous, so don't worry about getting SPAM. In fact, no one will see any identifying information about you....Read More


Tuesday open thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 15, 2007 | 9:02 AM | comments

Gender made the front page of Newsweek. How would you describe how you perform your gender? Masculine, feminine, androgynous, something else? Is this something that people should care about?...Read More


Particularly Pertinent at 3:30 AM

Filed by Bruce Parker | May 15, 2007 | 3:15 AM | comments

A while back one of our past contributors Brylo posted a link to a blog that dealt with issues of productivity and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. From time to time when I can't sleep or have decided to spend a...Read More


You just can't show Brokeback Mountain to kids anymore

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 14, 2007 | 2:02 PM | comments

ABC reports: A girl and her grandparents have sued the Chicago Board of Education, alleging that a substitute teacher showed the R-rated film "Brokeback Mountain" in class. [...] Turner and her grandparents, Kenneth and LaVerne Richardson, are seeking around $500,000...Read More


Cuz you gotta have faith, faith, faith

Filed by Bil Browning | May 14, 2007 | 1:53 PM | comments

Remember the billboards that have sprung up all over Indianapolis we were talking about recently? They're gay positive and quote the Bible. The signs are the result of a lot of hard work by Indy's Jesus Metropolitan Community Church and...Read More


Monday Question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 14, 2007 | 9:08 AM | comments

Here's one from GLSEN: What do you like to be called? Do people call you anything that you don't like?...Read More


Happy Mother's Day

Filed by Bil Browning | May 13, 2007 | 9:22 AM | comments

Today is Mother's Day. We'll be taking Jerame's mom out for lunch today and my mom will get a call later this afternoon after she's back from church. My mom and I have had a tumultuous relationship and I've found...Read More


We love you. We really, really love you.

Filed by Bil Browning | May 11, 2007 | 3:26 PM | comments

As a favor to us - please take this brief survey and tell us a little bit about yourself. All answers are anonymous, so don't worry about getting SPAM. In fact, no one will see any identifying information about you....Read More


TGIF question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 11, 2007 | 9:06 AM | comments

What's your favorite TV show?...Read More


Guest post by HRC President Joe Solmonese

Filed by Joe Solmonese | May 10, 2007 | 7:26 PM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE] The following is a guest post by Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese. HRC has been working for years on the federal hate crimes bill. Mr. Solmonese asked for the chance to respond to Congressmen Donnelly and Ellsworth's...Read More


Giuliani spins, but Romney sprints

Filed by Jen Jorczak | May 10, 2007 | 9:50 AM | comments

To follow up on yesterday's post about Giuliani's past contributions to Planned Parenthood, it's now confirmed by the Romney campaign that Mitt's wife--not Mitt himself, mind you, but his wife Ann--made a $150 contribution to Planned Parenthood in 1994. Romney's...Read More


Question of the Thursday

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 10, 2007 | 9:06 AM | comments

What's wrong with the government? Seriously, what's wrong?...Read More


Hate crimes in the Senate

Filed by Bil Browning | May 09, 2007 | 3:09 PM | comments

While Representative Joe Donnelly is guest blogging here on bilerico.com today and Rep Brad Ellsworth will blog tomorrow, the vote is already over in the House of Representatives. They voted against our community and are explaining their actions. You do...Read More


Giuliani spins away from his moderate NY roots

Filed by Jen Jorczak | May 09, 2007 | 2:20 PM | comments

Thanks to Alex for alerting me to this Politico story about GOP presidential candidate Rudy Giuliani. Apparently, according to a bunch of old tax returns dug up by rival campaigns, he and then-wife Donna Hanover gave a total of $900...Read More


Wednesday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 09, 2007 | 9:04 AM | comments

Are you out where you work?...Read More


Guest post by Congressman Joe Donnelly

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 09, 2007 | 8:30 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] The following is a guest post by Congressman Joe Donnelly. Representative Donnelly recently voted against the federal hate crimes bill that passed the House of Representatives. Only fourteen democratic legislators voted against the bill; two were from Indiana....Read More


Children of GLBT parents

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 08, 2007 | 10:57 PM | comments

"My child is having some issues, but I'm not comfortable taking her to just anyone since she has gay parents. Can you recommend someone in Indiana that specializes in child therapy and is okay with gay parents?"...Read More


Children of GLBT parents

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 08, 2007 | 10:57 PM | comments

"My child is having some issues, but I'm not comfortable taking her to just anyone since she has gay parents. Can you recommend someone in Indiana that specializes in child therapy and is okay with gay parents?"...Read More


Children of GLBT parents

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 08, 2007 | 10:57 PM | comments

"My child is having some issues, but I'm not comfortable taking her to just anyone since she has gay parents. Can you recommend someone in Indiana that specializes in child therapy and is okay with gay parents?"...Read More


Go vote!

Filed by Bil Browning | May 08, 2007 | 10:54 AM | comments

It's Primary Day in Indiana and while you might think that this year is a snoozer, your vote is still just as important as always. This year's races are city-level, and Indy, for example, has been pretty darn good to...Read More


Tuesday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 08, 2007 | 9:03 AM | comments

Has anyone tried any new recipes lately?...Read More


Blogosphere tidbits

Filed by Bil Browning | May 07, 2007 | 5:43 PM | comments

A few things picked up about some of your favorite blogs... Here at bilerico.com, we have a new editor! Alex Blaze will be stepping into the Editor's duties to help alleviate some of the load of running the site off...Read More


Monday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 07, 2007 | 9:02 AM | comments

What does it mean to be patriotic?...Read More


Indiana Jefferson-Jackson Day Dinner

Filed by Bil Browning | May 05, 2007 | 5:55 PM | comments

9:45pm: Dan Parker closes the dinner. Time to go home! Pictures will follow! --- 9:40pm: "Some of my colleagues aren't happy about working on Fridays. We may not work each Friday, but as long as I'm the majority leader we'll...Read More


I saw the light and the light saved me

Filed by Bil Browning | May 05, 2007 | 2:02 PM | comments

Pardon the pun, but what the hell?!? The Washington Post is reporting former gay escort turned conservative "reporter" Jeff Gannon has a new job. You'll laugh. You'll weep. You'll never believe it. He's the new spokesman for the International Bible...Read More


TGIF question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 04, 2007 | 9:18 AM | comments

Does your city have cool gay nightclubs? If it doesn't, what's the queer nightlife like?...Read More


Step right up

Filed by Bil Browning | May 03, 2007 | 10:45 PM | comments

As a favor to us - please take this brief survey and tell us a little bit about yourself. All answers are anonymous, so don't worry about getting SPAM. In fact, no one will see any identifying information about you....Read More


IU Study: Bill O'Reilly is a big ol' propagandist

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 03, 2007 | 9:14 AM | comments

And IU study found that Mr. No Spin Zone uses a derogatory name once every seven seconds. And that he's really fond of the propaganda techniques, and that he's really, really biased. Conservatively, although he claims to be an independent....Read More


Question of the Thursday

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 03, 2007 | 8:56 AM | comments

What blogs do you like reading? Besides Bilerico, of course....Read More


Tell us about yourself

Filed by Bil Browning | May 02, 2007 | 4:37 PM | comments

Regular readers will have noticed that we've started accepting advertising on bilerico.com other than the Google ads we've always had. Those little ad just don't generate a whole heck of a lot. Last year we made about $35 all year....Read More


What's left for Ron?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 02, 2007 | 3:28 PM | comments

First, it was Harry Potter getting naked on stage for a play in London. Now the franchise is sexing up Hermione too! Now call me old-fashioned, but the series seems to be selling plenty of tickets without giving Hermione bigger...Read More


Shift happens

Filed by Bil Browning | May 02, 2007 | 1:25 PM | comments

As civilization presses ever onward, it becomes ever more important to keep pointing out the need for progressive values. As this video points out, tolerance, racial harmony, protecting the environment, education and healthcare will be even more important as the...Read More


Shift happens

Filed by Bil Browning | May 02, 2007 | 1:25 PM | comments

As civilization presses ever onward, it becomes ever more important to keep pointing out the need for progressive values. As this video points out, tolerance, racial harmony, protecting the environment, education and healthcare will be even more important as the...Read More


Hump day question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 02, 2007 | 8:54 AM | comments

If you could kick someone off the air (radio or network TV), who would it be?...Read More


Indiana man dies

Filed by Bil Browning | May 01, 2007 | 7:17 PM | comments

For a friend who requested that the community be notified... Bryan Edward Haag Bryan Edward Haag, 27, died Tuesday, April 22 at his residence. Born May 3, 1979, in Washington, he was the son of Greg and Debbie (Littell) Haag....Read More


Great news!

Filed by Bil Browning | May 01, 2007 | 3:45 PM | comments

I just got back from my follow-up visit to the surgeon and the biopsy results are in. I'm happy to say that they were negative and while I had a large tumor, it wasn't cancerous. *does happy dance* Instead, it...Read More


Tuesday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 01, 2007 | 8:53 AM | comments

If you were a Spice Girl, what would your spice flavor be? Remember, Sporty, Posh, Ginger, Scary, and Baby are already taken....Read More


Taking the gay away

Filed by Bil Browning | May 01, 2007 | 7:42 AM | comments

*grins* Doesn't it seem like this is what a graduate of the those ex-gay places would act like? It always amazes me that they find people gullible enough to enter those programs. I like to think of our people...Read More