Living: July 2007

Obsessed with The Unavailable

Filed by Michele O'Mara | July 31, 2007 | 9:18 AM | comments

I have this friend that has been straight, and then, just this past year, she really started to like this girl. She knows that there's no chance with her, but she can't keep her mind off her and can't...Read More


Absence of conservative passion for free speech

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 30, 2007 | 8:25 PM | comments

When I read Serena's news item several weeks ago about how Ward Churchill had been fired from his tenured position at University of Colorado, I thought, well, this would be a perfect way for those "academic freedom" organizations to show...Read More


Monday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 30, 2007 | 9:21 AM | comments

Sony's starting a new TV judge show on September 10 - Judge David Young, TV's second gay judge. Check out the link for a trailer (sound starts right when you load up the page). The advertising material presents him as...Read More


We Are The Beast

Filed by Marti Abernathey | July 28, 2007 | 2:23 PM | comments

This kind of display dispels the notion by some in the civil rights community that GLBT people aren't being dehumanized. This is a screen shot from a video by Max Blumenthal that was taken at the Christians United for Israel's...Read More


50 greatest gays open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | July 27, 2007 | 9:02 AM | comments

I'm working on a side project for the blog - a piece on the 50 LGBT people who have contributed the most to society. We know that our community has done a lot to help shape the world - usually...Read More


Wednesday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 25, 2007 | 12:52 PM | comments

Gawker's reporting that a freelance photographer at the NY Times is saying that the editor of photography called him a faggot. The editor denies it, of course, and an investigation by the Times (you'd think they'd be good at that...Read More


R We Family?

Filed by Marti Abernathey | July 24, 2007 | 7:43 PM | comments

I've been home a little over a week from my vacation on the R Family Vacation summer cruise to the Bahamas. I've had a week to sit back and reflect on the trip. For those that don't know, R Family...Read More


Enough is Enough

Filed by Michele O'Mara | July 24, 2007 | 9:22 AM | comments

How do I know when the relationship is more work than it's worth?...Read More


Something for all of our families

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | July 24, 2007 | 6:30 AM | comments

Gay consumerism reaches a whole new level with the opening of a Whole Foods Market in the glittering new $20 million Chicago LGBT Center. A recent article in the Chicago Tribune (echoed by articles in the Advocate/Gay.com/Planet Out and Queerty)...Read More


Where 3 or more are gathered in the name of bilerico...

Filed by Bil Browning | July 23, 2007 | 9:52 AM | comments

The connections life can throw your way are amazing. Between blogging and gay rights activism, I meet some incredible people. Yesterday I met contributor Mara Keisling for the first time face-to-face and, truly, have you ever really met someone just...Read More


Tammy Faye goes to heaven

Filed by Bil Browning | July 21, 2007 | 9:59 PM | comments

Little did we know, but by the time I posted Tammy Faye's interview with Larry King on Friday afternoon, she had already passed on. She did the interview on Thursday night and died early Friday. Tammy Faye was known for...Read More


President Cheney open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | July 20, 2007 | 1:47 PM | comments

President Bush temporarily will transfer power to Vice President Dick Cheney while Bush has a colonoscopy Saturday. Actual breaking news headline from CNN... So what do you think he'll do as soon as he's grabbed ahold of power? Feel...Read More


Windy City Times investigates Aaron Hall murder

Filed by Bil Browning | July 19, 2007 | 5:16 PM | comments

The Chicago Windy City Times is investigating the Aaron Hall murder case from Crothersville, Indiana. Hall was brutally beaten by two young men who've now attempted to use "gay panic" as their defense. Fellow Bilerico Project contributor Ellen Andersen and...Read More


A proud announcement

Filed by Bil Browning | July 19, 2007 | 2:21 PM | comments

As many of you know, I'm a proud founder of the Indiana Action Network, Indiana's only direct action LGBT organization. Whether we were disrupting Eric Miller's KKK-style rallies, distributing "WANTED" posters of anti-gay politicians, protesting Brian Bosma's fundraiser or working...Read More


Don't Call Me A Lesbian

Filed by Marti Abernathey | July 19, 2007 | 1:01 PM | comments

A question recent posted on Lesbian Life at About.com asked "Question: I am at the very early stages of being a transsexual, and I want to be a woman. I also love women. Could I consider myself a lesbian?" I've...Read More


On belonging here: move over, Sheila!

Filed by Don Sherfick | July 19, 2007 | 8:54 AM | comments

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The Threat of GLBT Debt

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | July 19, 2007 | 8:37 AM | comments

For the last few months, gay media have been buzzing that the big PlanetOut merger venture is in trouble. Just a year-and-a-half ago, PNO became the first gay-owned stock traded on the NASDAQ. As its price soared to $10 a...Read More


Late night Wednesday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 18, 2007 | 11:59 PM | comments

Or a Thursday morning question, depending on when you visit the site. We tried this one a while ago and I got some good ideas, so we'll try again with a somewhat new crowd: What's your favorite mixed drink? Recipes...Read More


Phelps and the new monument

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 18, 2007 | 1:12 PM | comments

Fred Phelps is trying to get a monument built to Matthew Shepard's death in Casper, WY: In response to Casper's new historical monument plaza, an anti-gay pastor in Kansas has renewed his request to have his own monument in town....Read More


Black Community’s Throw-away Kids

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | July 17, 2007 | 12:37 PM | comments

We have a crisis in the African American community: an epidemic of homelessness among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer youth. And they need our help. And like the AIDS epidemic ravaging the African American community, my folks are not...Read More


How can I save my relationship?

Filed by Michele O'Mara | July 17, 2007 | 10:18 AM | comments

"How can I save my relationship with my girlfriend? This is my first gay relationship, and I love her so much!"...Read More


Liberating Gender and Sexuality: Audio from the USSF

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | July 16, 2007 | 9:16 AM | comments

Audio from the "Liberating Gender and Sexuality" plenary at last month's U.S. Social Forum is available here. Moderator: Suzanne Pharr Speakers: Andrea Smith, Mia Mingus, Loretta Ross, Imani Henry, and Betita Martinez (The plenary begins after a pre-show by participants...Read More


Violence Against African Lesbians, Now

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | July 16, 2007 | 8:31 AM | comments

Go now: Read the discussions on violence against African lesbians and international queer solidarity in the wake of the murders of two South African lesbians last weekend at Black Looks and Women of Color Blog. Why are the international LGBT...Read More


Violence Against African Lesbians, Now

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | July 16, 2007 | 8:31 AM | comments

Go now: Read the discussions on violence against African lesbians and international queer solidarity in the wake of the murders of two South African lesbians last weekend at Black Looks and Women of Color Blog. Why are the international LGBT...Read More


Do I Belong?

Filed by Sheila S. Kennedy | July 15, 2007 | 1:19 PM | comments

I am one of the "stable" of bloggers that Bil brought along when he turned Bilerico.com into the Bilerico Project. This will be my first post on this new, broader platform, and it seems only appropriate to make some disclosures,...Read More


A Father’s Appeal: Choose to Act

Filed by Guest Blogger | July 14, 2007 | 8:35 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] The following is a guest post by Dennis Shepard. Dennis is the co-founder of the Matthew Shepard Foundation, named after his son who killed in a homophobic hate crime that stunned the nation nearly nine years ago. Next...Read More


Soon to come

Filed by Yasmin Nair | July 12, 2007 | 9:31 AM | comments

Hi everyone, Thanks to everyone at The Bilerico Project for inviting me to take part. I'll post more later, but I wanted to stop in and say hello to the readers. I'm very much looking forward to being a regular...Read More


Wednesday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 11, 2007 | 2:52 PM | comments

In order to provide you all with some much needed and very literal Podenfreude, here's a question that only one of the most vocally spoiled people in country could ask regarding the HRC sponsored presidential debate: L is Lesbian. G...Read More


Hormone Blockers for Transgender Kids?

Filed by Bruce Parker | July 11, 2007 | 8:07 AM | comments

When I was growing up from the ages of four until seven Skipper, Barbie's younger sister, was my favorite toy. When the kids who lived in the same hollow as I did in Eastern Kentucky played house, I was more...Read More


Terrance ties the knot

Filed by Bil Browning | July 10, 2007 | 6:28 PM | comments

A big congratulations to Bilerico Project member Terrance Heath and his husband. The two tied the knot on Sunday afternoon aboard the R Families cruise. They had a private ceremony with the couple's child "mostly rearranging the chairs in the...Read More


Round these parts

Filed by Bil Browning | July 10, 2007 | 4:32 PM | comments

Living in middle America gives a few of our contributors a unique experience and voice. Those of us out here in flyover country see things a little differently sometimes than those who are on the coasts. We have challenges that...Read More


Dude, You're a Fag

Filed by Guest Blogger | July 10, 2007 | 10:00 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] The following is a guest post by Michael Crawford. Michael is an African-American LGBT activist and blogger based in D.C. He has worked to advance LGBT civil rights at the national and state levels as a former staff...Read More


Sex and Love: Related ,Yet Not the Same

Filed by Michele O'Mara | July 10, 2007 | 8:38 AM | comments

My sex partner has started putting limits where there were no limits before. Specifically, oral sex. When we first started, he was ok with it. Now he does not want to give but has no problem receiving. I feel...Read More


Rosie Cruise

Filed by Marti Abernathey | July 09, 2007 | 2:12 PM | comments

You might be wondering why I've not been blogging at all this week. I'm on a cruise ship with Rosie O'Donnell! Well, me and approximately 2500 other GLBT people. The R family cruise is the brain child of Rosie's partner,...Read More


Question of the Monday

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 09, 2007 | 10:01 AM | comments

With introductions going on all around, tell me, what do you like to be called? What don't you like to be called? I'm Alex, but my mother calls me "Alejo" (short for Alejandro, she's Argentine), and my grandmother calls me...Read More


UK Minister takes on "That's so gay"

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 09, 2007 | 9:10 AM | comments

From the Telegraph: Children who call classmates "gay" or "queer" should be treated the same as racists, the new children's minister said yesterday. Kevin Brennan, a former teacher, said new guidelines would be issued to schools telling them that anti-gay...Read More


Rape and pleasure

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | July 09, 2007 | 8:01 AM | comments

In Sean's post from last Thursday, "Why 'sodomize' and not 'rape'?," he writes: Every time the media or law enforcement uses the term "sodomize" they are really talking about rape. The more we allow that term to be used and...Read More


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Kitchen Table Talk

Filed by Bruce Parker | July 09, 2007 | 7:45 AM | comments

As a Southerner, I often start out a lot of my writing by telling a story. My master's degree advisor never really got on board with this habit. Thankfully the only person grading me on my blogging is our gifted...Read More


Real estate speculation in so many forms

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | July 07, 2007 | 3:10 AM | comments

I was going to sit on my favorite newspaper box to get some sun, but some bar has decided to have a smoky barbecue right on the sidewalk so I keep walking, past Van Ness even and then the strange...Read More


Reparative Therapy for Racism?

Filed by Terrance Heath | July 06, 2007 | 4:07 PM | comments

I don't know if there is such a thing as "reparative therapy" for racism, but if there is then "ex-gay" spokesman Stephen Bennett may want to sign up after his latest slip. Good As You has the skinny, including an...Read More


We are "The Other Side"

Filed by Bil Browning | July 05, 2007 | 6:42 PM | comments

Those darn fundies! They like to spread the love around, don't they? Today's bit o' humor comes courtesy of the Indiana Family Institute's new blog Veritas Rex. The far right hate group's new site has the obligatory blogroll, but then...Read More


Happy 4th of July!

Filed by Bil Browning | July 04, 2007 | 5:04 AM | comments

Since today is a holiday, there probably won't be much activity on the blog today. You'll have to amuse yourselves. But in the spirit of Independence Day, I thought I'd leave you with an open thread question: "What does...Read More


On our 231st birthday

Filed by Jen Jorczak | July 03, 2007 | 6:35 PM | comments

Inspired by Bil's recent post, Michael Moore's movie Sicko, and the fact that tomorrow is Independence Day, I thought I'd say a few words about the state of our 231-year-old democracy....Read More


Prayer good; compassion bad

Filed by Jen Jorczak | July 03, 2007 | 2:00 PM | comments

Today, the Indianapolis Star writes about Jeanne Atkins, devout Catholic, cheesecake producer, and mother of gay stroke victim Patrick Atkins. Except that the Star left out that last bit. The entire article is about a (blessedly, optional) prayer group she's...Read More


Prayer good; compassion bad

Filed by Jen Jorczak | July 03, 2007 | 2:00 PM | comments

Today, the Indianapolis Star writes about Jeanne Atkins, devout Catholic, cheesecake producer, and mother of gay stroke victim Patrick Atkins. Except that the Star left out that last bit. The entire article is about a (blessedly, optional) prayer group she's...Read More


Michael Glatze, ex-gay

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 03, 2007 | 11:49 AM | comments

What's with editors of queer magazines nowadays? Just after we found out that Venus magazine editor-in-chief Charlene Cothran ex-gayed herself (not resulting in attraction to men, mind you, but a self-described celibacy), WorldNetDaily says it has the inside scoop on...Read More


Loving and Losing

Filed by Michele O'Mara | July 03, 2007 | 10:10 AM | comments

How do you know when enough is enough? I'm in love with a man who honestly disappoints me consistently with his lack of follow through and honesty. When reciprocity is gone, is there any real hope? -- loving and...Read More


The other side of the vertical blinds: thoughts on incest, insomnia, chronic pain and the writing process

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | July 02, 2007 | 7:48 PM | comments

I can see the light streaming in through the edges of my eye mask it's some impossible time in the morning I'm trying every trick I know to get back into that dark softness -- humming on exhale to enlarge...Read More


Question of the Monday

Filed by Alex Blaze | July 02, 2007 | 10:49 AM | comments

Do you have any plans for this year's Wednesday July Fourth?...Read More