Living: August 2007

Weekend open thread on dating

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 31, 2007 | 5:30 PM | comments

Here's a question for the weekend: What do you think about dating? R. and I were talking about how little we've each actually "dated", instead going to parties with guys or hanging out with other friends or, well, you know.......Read More


Coming Out (of Marriage)

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 31, 2007 | 11:31 AM | comments

Today's Freebie Friday is a resource for married gay men and women. The decision to come out is painful, and not always the chosen or best solution given your situation. However, when it is, the following resource offers you some...Read More


I'm A Bitch, I'm A Lover

Filed by Marti Abernathey | August 31, 2007 | 9:49 AM | comments

Meredith Brooks once sang: I'm a bitch, I'm a lover I'm a child, I'm a mother I'm a sinner, I'm a saint I do not feel ashamed I'm your hell, I'm your dream I'm nothing in between You know, you...Read More


Iowa court rules in favor of marriage equality

Filed by Bil Browning | August 30, 2007 | 6:13 PM | comments

A trial court in Iowa released a 63 page decision today that said same-sex couples must be allowed to marry based on the Iowa Constitution's guarantee of equal treatment under the law. This ruling overturns Iowa's Defense of Marriage law...Read More


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Episcopals nominate lesbian priest for bishop

Filed by Bil Browning | August 30, 2007 | 5:39 PM | comments

As you watch the various denominations in Protestantism wrestle with the issue of LGBT people, it's always fascinating to me to watch the different ways they approach the subject. Baptists or Pentecostals, for example, tend to the "not welcoming" side...Read More


Do We Talk About Ourselves Too Much?

Filed by Rebecca Juro | August 29, 2007 | 12:43 PM | comments

I've been writing a book. Oh don't worry, I'm not going to bore you with the details of trying to create something readable out of a bunch of disjointed thoughts, ideas, and stuff I've already written. No, what I want...Read More


Oh the Places You'll Go

Filed by Bil Browning | August 29, 2007 | 8:12 AM | comments

We'll start this morning off with an open thread... Now that Alberto Gonzales has announced he's resigning, what do you think he'll do next? What job do you get when you leave the administration these days? Brownie went from the...Read More


Is it possible to be in love this quickly?

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 28, 2007 | 2:47 PM | comments

Q: My partner and I have only known each other for 2 weeks and we have already said "I love you." Is it possible to be in love this quickly? ~~ Curious in Indy...Read More


Fear of gay blood

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 27, 2007 | 1:28 PM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This guest post comes to us from anonymous blogger, Scott-O-Rama. Scott describes himself as "a late 30's-something GAY man in Phoenix, Arizona who has too many opinions and too much time on his hands, so I decided to...Read More


Maybe Lucky needs a new name

Filed by Bil Browning | August 27, 2007 | 10:34 AM | comments

A few of you have written in to ask me how our new dog, Lucky, has been getting along after his surgery. (See this post for more of the back story.) You might remember this was where we left the...Read More


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Oh my!

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 27, 2007 | 8:27 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This entry is a guest post by Melissa McEwan. Melissa is the blog mistress behind Shakesville and one of my first blogger friends. She did the graphic design for our recently remodeled site too, and after all the...Read More


Coming Out (Constantly) as Queer to My Mom

Filed by Bruce Parker | August 26, 2007 | 6:08 PM | comments

I haven't posted in over a month because I have been moving south and adjusting to life in Louisiana. This move was in preparation for my PhD studies in curriculum theory at Louisiana State University located in Baton Rouge. Moving...Read More


Free to Preach Hate. For a Price.

Filed by Terrance Heath | August 25, 2007 | 1:14 PM | comments

I have Prometheus to thank for bringing to my attention this LA Times op-ed addressing the silliness of black ministers who claim that the hate crimes bill will stifle their freedom to preach anti-gay hatred from the pulpit. A...Read More


Another invitation accepted

Filed by Bil Browning | August 24, 2007 | 4:14 PM | comments

Just a quick note that I have agreed to appear on WIBC Newsradio 1070 in Indianapolis next Monday at 10am. This would normally be the Greg Garrison show, but Indianapolis republican City-County Councilor Ike Randolph will be guest hosting. Our...Read More


A challenge accepted

Filed by Bil Browning | August 24, 2007 | 11:56 AM | comments

Over at the Indiana Family Institute's blog, Veritas Rex, Director of Operations and Public Policy Ryan McCann has issued a challenge to me that I'm perfectly willing to accept. Another blogger had a post up about Rev Billy Graham that...Read More


Dr. Seuss open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | August 24, 2007 | 9:51 AM | comments

I'm going to be busy most of the morning, so I'm going to have to leave you to your own devises... So to give you something to talk about while I'm busy, here's a conversation starter... What's your favorite Dr....Read More


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Pro gay marriage rally in small town Indiana

Filed by Bil Browning | August 22, 2007 | 10:10 AM | comments

Here in the Hoosier state we're known for being, shall we say, a little conservative. I've lived in a few different cities around the state, but one of my least favorite places that I've lived was Columbus. It's a small,...Read More


New ex-gay study soon: Set your eyes to "roll"

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 21, 2007 | 6:20 PM | comments

The anti-gay group NARTH has been touting a five-year study soon-to-be-released for, well, the last five years. Well, Ex-Gay Watch is already on the case here: There are unconfirmed reports that the study has a sample of as few as...Read More


Indianapolis Star discovers the Aaron Hall murder

Filed by Bil Browning | August 21, 2007 | 12:26 PM | comments

After extensive coverage in the blogosphere, the Indianapolis Star has finally done a story on the horrific murder of Aaron Hall in Crothersville, Indiana. While some have attempted to label the gruesome killing a hate crime, I've resisted the urge...Read More


On the radio

Filed by Bil Browning | August 21, 2007 | 8:09 AM | comments

Just a quick note that I'm getting ready to go on Abdul in the Morning - 1430AM News Talk Radio in Indianapolis. If you're in the area tune in and then you can call and talk to Abdul and I...Read More


Family Night: August 24 6:30-8:30pm

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 21, 2007 | 7:47 AM | comments

I recently returned from my first trip to P-town (Provincetown, MA) with Teresa, our sons, and grandma (my mom) in tow. We spent Family Week there, and if you aren't familiar with that, it's one week each year where Familypride.org...Read More


Trans In The Media: The New Wave

Filed by Rebecca Juro | August 20, 2007 | 7:36 PM | comments

Since this is my very first post for The Bilerico Project, I thought I'd try to not only introduce myself, but to do it in a way that hopefully offers a little bit more than just stuff about me. Since...Read More


Radio appearance tomorrow morning

Filed by Bil Browning | August 20, 2007 | 10:30 AM | comments

If you live in the Indianapolis area, I'll be going on the Abdul in the Morning radio show (News Talk 1430 AM) tomorrow morning from 8:00 to 8:30am. I'll be talking about my recent post "Indianapolis: 12th largest city won't...Read More


I'm here! I'm queer!

Filed by Sara Whitman | August 20, 2007 | 10:00 AM | comments

And… I have to get to bed by 9:30PM or I’ll never be able to get up with my kids. As this is my first post on The Bilerico Project, I thought I’d introduce myself. I am a suburban lesbian...Read More


What does Bilerico mean to you?

Filed by Bil Browning | August 20, 2007 | 9:36 AM | comments

One of the questions I get asked often is "What does Bilerico mean?" I give the answer, but I usually ask folks what they think it means... And I get some amusing answers! So for today's open thread I thought...Read More


Sweet Jesus

Filed by Terrance Heath | August 19, 2007 | 4:45 PM | comments

I told you he was a little sweet. First it was the chocolate Jesus. Now it's a queer Jesus. [Via The Freethinker.] Fingers were being pointed at religious extremists on Sunday after a fight outside an exhibition that portrays...Read More


Disturbing "ex-gay" children's book excerpted previously here... My thoughts:

Filed by Gina de Vries | August 18, 2007 | 4:23 AM | comments

Alex's post about an "ex-gay" children's book is disturbing and involves illustrated child molestation. Wow. Just... wow. The implications here--that childhood sexual abuse *makes* people queer, and that being queer is obviously bad--are pretty horrifying. As a survivor of childhood...Read More


Indianapolis: 12th largest city won't even crack the lavender ceiling

Filed by Bil Browning | August 17, 2007 | 1:07 PM | comments

Indianapolis is the 12th largest city in the United States, but you wouldn't know it from the way the LGBT community is treated. We had to scrape and fight to secure a human rights ordinance in 2005 that includes sexual...Read More


The dog days of summer

Filed by Bil Browning | August 16, 2007 | 3:58 PM | comments

I don't tend to talk a lot about my home life on the blog. It's just not my style (and I know no one is really interested in my pets, personal drama, etc.), but today I'm going to make an...Read More


A reader submitted open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | August 16, 2007 | 8:50 AM | comments

From the conversation on my post "Barney Frank defends Bill Richardson," comes this comment worthy of being it's own thread: As a person who has voted in almost a dozen presidential elections, I know that it is unrealistic to expect...Read More


Too gay to be pregnant or erect

Filed by Jen Jorczak | August 15, 2007 | 8:55 PM | comments

Laura Parker at USA Today (which I don't read often, which is why these articles took so long to find me) posted 2 stories 2 weeks ago about the intersection of LGBT rights and reproductive rights, which of course, we've...Read More


Too gay to be pregnant or erect

Filed by Jen Jorczak | August 15, 2007 | 8:55 PM | comments

Laura Parker at USA Today (which I don't read often, which is why these articles took so long to find me) posted 2 stories 2 weeks ago about the intersection of LGBT rights and reproductive rights, which of course, we've...Read More


Too gay to be pregnant or erect

Filed by Jen Jorczak | August 15, 2007 | 8:55 PM | comments

Laura Parker at USA Today (which I don't read often, which is why these articles took so long to find me) posted 2 stories 2 weeks ago about the intersection of LGBT rights and reproductive rights, which of course, we've...Read More


In Support of ENDA

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 15, 2007 | 8:27 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] The following is a guest post by Barry Welsh. Barry is running against Republican Congressman Mike Pence in the 2008 elections. Rep Pence is an absolute embarrassment to his party and my state and consistently takes anti-gay positions....Read More


YGST: The Jena 6

Filed by Bil Browning | August 15, 2007 | 7:06 AM | comments

Did you see yesterday's post by Alexander Robinson about the Jena 6? He gives more information than this clip - including a way to register your displeasure. This is an absolute outrage!...Read More


YGST: The Jena 6

Filed by Bil Browning | August 15, 2007 | 7:06 AM | comments

Did you see yesterday's post by Alexander Robinson about the Jena 6? He gives more information than this clip - including a way to register your displeasure. This is an absolute outrage!...Read More


Love is a Verb

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 14, 2007 | 11:19 AM | comments

My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half.. our marriage has died, literally. We don't have sex nor the urge, we fight constantly.. but we can't let go of that love we once had. What...Read More


Denied AIDS Medication, Trans Woman Dies in ICE Detention Center

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | August 14, 2007 | 1:58 AM | comments

Apparently,* the Los Angeles Daily Journal is reporting that a trans woman named Victoria Arellano died July 20 in San Pedro, California, after being denied AIDS medication and improperly treated for AIDS-related infections at an immigration detention facility. The report...Read More


Lutheran gay pastors can have a relationship now

Filed by Bil Browning | August 13, 2007 | 12:01 PM | comments

One of my biggest problems with organized religion is that they insist on too many rules and regulations that each church has decided is important. It always reminds me of Jesus's teachings on the Pharisees and Sadducees - two political...Read More


The Gifts of the Body

Filed by Gina de Vries | August 12, 2007 | 6:09 PM | comments

I want to note this, so I've got a record. I had a moment this last week of making some connections between my sexual assault/abuse history and how my eating disorders have operated over the years. I started to, literally,...Read More


An Open Letter to "X"

Filed by Sheila S. Kennedy | August 12, 2007 | 3:44 PM | comments

Those of you who know my writing mainly through blog postings here and elsewhere might be surprised to know that my twice-a-month column for the Indianapolis Star is much more restrained (or so I like to think). I measure my...Read More


What you might learn if you climb through the trees to the top of Buena Vista Park in the middle of the night and try to catch your breath on the viewing bench, a love-hate relationship

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | August 11, 2007 | 3:46 AM | comments

This guy sits down next to me and starts talking about how he's going back to Australia because a friend from his childhood has a rare form of leukemia and he’s a doctor so he wants to go back and...Read More


Boundaries? What's that?

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 10, 2007 | 2:24 PM | comments

Today marks the start of a new post I'm calling Freebie Fridays! You can expect to find interesting nuggets of information about love and life, as well as great resources to assist you in your personal development. Some will be...Read More


That Hope/Dismay Space

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | August 09, 2007 | 10:56 PM | comments

Some quick post-forum thoughts: I have this general feeling of spacey-ness after typing all the way through that. I think it's a bit to do with the multitasking involved in live-blogging (especially because I've never done it before) and the...Read More


What'll Be the First Question?

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | August 09, 2007 | 8:33 PM | comments

Post your guesses in the comments....Read More


At the Candidates' Forum (or, Outsider, Inside/What Is Out Is In, and Other Boundary Confusion)

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | August 09, 2007 | 7:44 PM | comments

I'm in. I'm sitting in the press room at the HRC presidential candidates' forum (along with Fox News, among others). I'll be live-blogging from here for the next couple hours. Keep refreshing Bilerico for my comments and analysis here; watch...Read More


It's Like I Really Live in Hollywood!

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | August 08, 2007 | 10:58 PM | comments

Oh, right, I do. But I'm so used to playing scrappy indie-media journalist from my apartment, it's like I'll be entering a different universe to live-blog with the glossy folks at tomorrow night's presidential-candidates forum. Go, Bilerico, for snagging those...Read More


Social exclusion as bullying

Filed by Bil Browning | August 08, 2007 | 6:25 PM | comments

Social conformity as a concept has always fascinated me. I always wanted to know who set the mark to conform to and the history of the "why" behind it. (I'll be the first to admit that I'm not a scholar...Read More


Wednesday open thread about the HRC/Logo Presidential Forum

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 08, 2007 | 8:21 AM | comments

Yep, it's tomorrow at 9 Eastern, 6 Pacific. You can watch it on Logo, of course, and on Logo's webpage if you don't subscribe. Project contributor Jessica Hoffmann will be live-blogging from the forum. Check in here to get her...Read More


Liberty, and Being a Pagan in America

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | August 07, 2007 | 9:00 PM | comments

These days the religious right is on a roll with imposing conservative Christian belief in American life. Hence the liberty of Americans is now at risk if they want to publicly identify their personal belief or spiritual view as anything...Read More


Virginia school board loses its mind

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 07, 2007 | 4:30 PM | comments

From 365gay: The School board in Arlington County, Virginia has agreed to allow a so-called ex-gay group to post material for high school students claiming homosexuality can be reversed. It will, however be left to individual schools to accept the...Read More


Differing Libidos

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 06, 2007 | 9:44 PM | comments

While presenting a workshop this weekend in Provincetown, MA, on Strategies for Successful Relationships, an exasperated participant, with a Horseshak flair about her (Welcome Back Kotter), raised her hand and blurted out an all too familiar question: "What does a...Read More


When Love is Not Enough

Filed by Karen Celestino-Horseman | August 06, 2007 | 1:43 PM | comments

Patrick Atkins and Brett Conrad met in 1978 and remained together until fate and Patrick's family separated the life partners. Read More


Monday Question

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 06, 2007 | 11:06 AM | comments

How was your weekend? What did y'all get up to?...Read More


Indy Star finally covers the real story

Filed by Jen Jorczak | August 06, 2007 | 8:40 AM | comments

Well, this morning the Indianapolis Star finally fills its readers in on the Conrad-Atkins court case, about the incapacitated gay man whose parents were keeping his partner of 25 years from seeing him. We and others in the blogosphere have...Read More


Indy Star finally covers the real story

Filed by Jen Jorczak | August 06, 2007 | 8:40 AM | comments

Well, this morning the Indianapolis Star finally fills its readers in on the Conrad-Atkins court case, about the incapacitated gay man whose parents were keeping his partner of 25 years from seeing him. We and others in the blogosphere have...Read More


Friday question

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 03, 2007 | 8:52 AM | comments

From one of the mailbag posts on Rosie O'Donnell's blog: emily writes: do you think 15 is too young to come out? any advice? u will know when it is time Can we do better for Emily?...Read More


Disney will save the world -- thank you, Disney!

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | August 03, 2007 | 6:19 AM | comments

Saltyfemme brought my attention to a piece of stunning journalism at Huffington Post -- isn't that supposed to be a "progressive" blog (or the progressive blog, according to some)? Anyway, "Corporate America: the New Gay Activists," this post by Kirk...Read More


Why Do You Have Sex?

Filed by Steve Ralls | August 02, 2007 | 6:42 PM | comments

The New York Times reported this morning that there are 237 reasons . . . and counting . . . why we have sex. But when I say 'we,' I probably mean heterosexuals. The University of Texas at Austin undertook...Read More


Flame Dame: This Year's "Fag Hag"

Filed by Sean Kosofsky | August 02, 2007 | 5:28 PM | comments

Like many gay men who adore straight women and count them among our closest friends, I have been in a quandary for the thirteen years that I have been openly gay. I have always hated the sexist term "Fag Hag"...Read More


Lesbian attacked in Tennessee bar

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 02, 2007 | 4:24 PM | comments

From the Jackson Sun [Miranda] Greer said a man approached her after he saw her dancing with a male friend. The man, a patron at the club, thought she was a gay man and, using a slur, told her to...Read More


Caption this fun with W

Filed by Bil Browning | August 02, 2007 | 9:09 AM | comments

"If I only had a brain, I'd know that's my stomach and not my heart." What's your caption? I'll move the best one from the comments up here into the post later tonight....Read More


Touch so brutal and illuminated

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | August 02, 2007 | 8:51 AM | comments

I don't remember how I first discovered Stuyvesant Park, maybe it was some guy who brought me there from the porn shop on 3rd Avenue. It was one of those frigid nights when you think the rain should be snow...Read More


I have the strangest conversations with boys

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 01, 2007 | 1:30 PM | comments

I was on the phone last night with R. talking about this post and his comment in reply. R. is Catholic; I'm pretty non-religious although I come from a Catholic family. He of course points out that Catholic theology on...Read More


Conversation topic

Filed by Bil Browning | August 01, 2007 | 9:05 AM | comments

I'll be gone most of the morning, so it'll be up to the other contributors to keep you company while I'm out working. To give you something to do while I'm gone, I thought I'd throw up an open thread...Read More