Living: September 2007

Telephones, Puberty and Penis Facts

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 28, 2007 | 11:15 AM | comments

My son has become completely obsessed with the telephone. He calls people all the time. Mom, can I use your cell phone? Ben, the regular phone is right over there. Yeah, but a cell phone is so… cool. He just...Read More


Telephones, Puberty and Penis Facts

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 28, 2007 | 11:15 AM | comments

My son has become completely obsessed with the telephone. He calls people all the time. Mom, can I use your cell phone? Ben, the regular phone is right over there. Yeah, but a cell phone is so… cool. He just...Read More


Maryland Marriage and its Discontents

Filed by Fannie Fierce | September 28, 2007 | 10:33 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, I’m a 35 year old lesbian, happily partnered living in a DC suburb in Maryland. I just heard about the recent court ruling in Maryland. My partner and I have been thinking about having children, and with...Read More


Sexual Addiction

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 28, 2007 | 9:00 AM | comments

What is Sexual Addiction? Sexual addiction manifests in many different forms. There is no single type of behavior or even amount of behavior that will indicate you are a sexual addict. Three basic things to consider when you define sexual...Read More


Being Prepared for Unexpected Expenses

Filed by Nina Smith | September 28, 2007 | 7:20 AM | comments

According to a study released by the Consumer Federation of America, the typical person has around $2,000 of unexpected expenses in an average year. Here’s more: “The ability of Americans to cover unexpected expenses, such as a car repair or...Read More


Argentine teen's gender transition authorized

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 27, 2007 | 9:58 PM | comments

The Bioethics Committee released a ruling today that Nati C. can undergo a gender transition after a three year legal battle. Nati is 17, the youngest person to undergo a surgical transition in Argentina. She said: I'm very relieved. I...Read More


The Folsom Street Fair poster, sexophobia, and cultural appropriation

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 27, 2007 | 8:25 PM | comments

This Folsom Street Fair ad has been making its rounds, and the Religious Right, of course, is all up in arms about this one. If you haven't seen it, here it is: It's a re-enactment of Leonardo da Vinci's Last...Read More


Gay across the USA… Pt.2

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 27, 2007 | 8:05 AM | comments

A 7-hour cross-country family therapy session. That is what I have experienced today. For those of you who don’t know, I am on a road trip with my older sister across the country to help her and her family move....Read More


Lecherous old lesbians

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 26, 2007 | 1:00 PM | comments

I went to Davis Square the other day to meet a friend for lunch. Davis Square, in Somerville, MA, is ultra cool. So cool it makes Newton look like Iowa. To get there is a ridiculous venture of side roads,...Read More


Gay across the USA… Pt.1

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 26, 2007 | 8:05 AM | comments

What happens when you take a young gay man with a faux-hawk, who has lived most of his life in cities and communities that are “gay-friendly”, and stick him in a u-haul going from Idaho to Kentucky? Let’s find out...Read More


People who scare me

Filed by Jen Jorczak | September 25, 2007 | 7:45 PM | comments

Recently I came across the latest issue of Bitch magazine, which I love, but which scared the bejeezus out of me, at least Kate Dixon's article "Multiply & Conquer: How to have 17 children and still believe in Jesus." Yes,...Read More


Opportunities to Accept

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 25, 2007 | 9:46 AM | comments

This is a must-see video clip of San Diego Mayor Jerry Sanders, who explains "I just could not bring myself to tell an entire group of people in our community they were less important, less worthy or less deserving of...Read More


Is the Newark triple murder an anti-gay hate crime?

Filed by Pam Spaulding | September 24, 2007 | 10:25 AM | comments

When three black students who were to attend Delaware State University were murdered execution-style in a schoolyard back in August, it made national news. Terrance Aeriel, 18, Dashon Harvey, 20, and Iofemi Hightower, 20, were forced to kneel against a...Read More


Call for Submissions: Enough

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | September 23, 2007 | 3:01 PM | comments

Dean and Tyrone met at the Building a Queer Left meeting that preceded the .org">US Social Forum this summer, and began a conversation about the politics of wealth, poverty, being an anti-capitalist while living within capitalism, and more that is...Read More


Frisky Fantasies and Vanilla relationships

Filed by Fannie Fierce | September 22, 2007 | 9:45 AM | comments

The question answered this week is a little on the frisky side aka possibly NSFW. This week, A "bi-curious" guy reveals his frisky fetish and bemoans his current vanilla relationship. The rest of the post is after the jump....Read More


Gays and Lesbians Denied Social Security Benefits

Filed by Nina Smith | September 21, 2007 | 7:48 AM | comments

“Younger people can feel confident that Social Security will still be around when they need it to cushion their retirement.” – Ronald Reagan, 1982 Whenever I receive my Social Security Statement, I typically just scan the estimated benefit and toss...Read More


Police Stings in MI Leave Nasty Itch

Filed by Sean Kosofsky | September 20, 2007 | 9:22 PM | comments

In recent years there have been substantially fewer undercover sting operations targeting gay men. But recently the Michigan State Police (MSP) partnered with the Grand Traverse County Sheriff's Department to do stings in two public parks near Traverse City, a...Read More


What will Congressman Ellsworth do?

Filed by Bil Browning | September 20, 2007 | 6:30 PM | comments

I had an interesting conversation with Stu Rosenburg from the Human Rights Campaign yesterday. He's in town continuing the valuable work he and his team have been doing in Indiana around ENDA and hate crimes legislation. I love sitting and...Read More


National Coming Out Day 2007

Filed by Michael Crawford | September 20, 2007 | 12:46 PM | comments

Any good gay knows that closets are for clothes and that no matter how well organized your closet may be, its not a place fit for you or any other person. That's why the folks at the Human Rights Campaign...Read More


"The prostitute problem": sex work and self-determination

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | September 20, 2007 | 4:11 AM | comments

I started sobbing when I read "The prostitute’s day in court,” one of Bil's posts from the other day, and learned that residents from his neighborhood association attended a court hearing to ensure that a woman arrested multiple times for...Read More


A small rant

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 18, 2007 | 11:50 AM | comments

In the absence of questions this week, I've decided to use my little corner of this web to rant a bit today. This year my partner and I sent our first kiddo off to kindergarten in our designated public school....Read More


A small rant

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 18, 2007 | 11:50 AM | comments

In the absence of questions this week, I've decided to use my little corner of this web to rant a bit today. This year my partner and I sent our first kiddo off to kindergarten in our designated public school....Read More


Hillary releases her health care plan

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 18, 2007 | 9:14 AM | comments

Hillary Clinton released her plan for expanding health care coverage. I can't say I'm quite as excited as Exra Klein is, mainly because this plan doesn't have much to it right now. Sure, it outlines a structure for a different...Read More


The prostitute's day in court

Filed by Bil Browning | September 18, 2007 | 8:35 AM | comments

I was really pleased that so many of you weighed in on my post about the prostitute problem in my area. (The neighborhood association sent out an e-mail asking folks to attend one woman's trial and press the judge to...Read More


Alabama Day of Equality: staying in touch with Red State gay America

Filed by Pam Spaulding | September 17, 2007 | 12:48 PM | comments

This weekend I was in Birmingham, Alabama, at the Day of Equality, where I gave a talk about "Educating Potential Political Allies and "Urban vs. Suburban vs. Rural and Perceptions of Rights and Community." Birmingham, btw, is my wife Kate's...Read More


A little light conversation

Filed by Bil Browning | September 17, 2007 | 10:45 AM | comments

I'm going to be working for a lot of this morning, so I thought I'd put up a conversation starter to keep you occupied until other contributors post. A majority of young Brits would rather give up sex, coffee, alcohol,...Read More


HIV+ Children Treated Like Dirt

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | September 17, 2007 | 10:41 AM | comments

Over the years, while writing about AIDS politics in my monthly column for A & U Magazine, I've often covered public-health uproars in Puerto Rico. Few non-Hispanic Americans give a moment's thought to Puerto Rico, unless they happen to disembark...Read More


More to Life Than Britney

Filed by Michael Crawford | September 15, 2007 | 9:32 AM | comments

A new study is showing an increase in HIV infections among young gay men in NYC, but thank God much of the traditional media has ignored this story in favor of Britney's disastrous performance at the VMAs. I mean seriously,...Read More


If this doesn't warm your heart, you might as well be dead

Filed by Bil Browning | September 14, 2007 | 3:01 PM | comments

Do you need to feel all warm and fuzzy inside? For all the griping and moaning most people do about "the youth of today," occasionally you find a story like this. On the first day of school, a new student...Read More


Macking it with a Married Man

Filed by Fannie Fierce | September 14, 2007 | 11:11 AM | comments

Dear Fannie I’m a 25 year old gay male. I live in a small city in the South, where it’s kind of hard to meet guys. I have to admit to using the internet to meet new guys, because...Read More


Out and Aging: Gay and Lesbian Boomers

Filed by Nina Smith | September 14, 2007 | 7:30 AM | comments

Learning to Love Growing Old is a dated but useful article that appeared in Psychology Today back in 1994. Jere Daniel writes, “We fear and deny aging, because we fear and deny death. In our denial of death and the...Read More


"America needs to take a stand" - At least we can all agree on that much.

Filed by Bruce Parker | September 14, 2007 | 1:35 AM | comments

So I am slowly falling in love with the moisture in the air, the brightness of the sun, the warm and welcoming Southern smiles and the rigor of my program at Louisiana State University. I am finding something very queer...Read More


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"Pray away the gay"

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 13, 2007 | 9:39 PM | comments

Now I know where my mother failed. She didn’t want me to be a lesbian and asked me if I could simply be asexual. Not involved with anyone. Worked for her, so why not? What she really needed to do...Read More


What do you think?

Filed by Bil Browning | September 13, 2007 | 2:23 PM | comments

I go this e-mail from my neighborhood association this morning and I'm simply amazed at it. Granted, prostitution is a problem in my neighborhood; I've had to run off hookers from picking up johns in front of my house. But...Read More


Taking The Good With The Bad

Filed by Marti Abernathey | September 13, 2007 | 10:51 AM | comments

According to KTVB.com, Idaho Inmate Jennifer Spencer has won a small battle in the fight to get hormone replacement therapy in prison. While this is definitely a win for humane treatment of prisoners and for transsexuals that are incarcerated in...Read More


The Shame Peter LaBarbera Promises to End

Filed by Karen Ocamb | September 12, 2007 | 7:47 PM | comments

For just $50 bucks and a flight to Illinois for an Oct. 5 banquet in Lombard, Illinois – somewhere west of Chicago - Peter LaBarbera promises to end the shame and loneliness of my life as a lesbian. Or at...Read More


GSA's improve the school environment for LGBT youth

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 12, 2007 | 5:15 PM | comments

A new report on the measurable effects of Gay-Straight Alliances at public high schools has just been released by GLSEN. The numbers were compiled from several other studies conducted over the last few years. some of the interesting facts are:...Read More


9/11 open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | September 11, 2007 | 8:49 AM | comments

Today's open thread question for the 6th anniversary of the attacks on the Twin Towers... Where were you when you heard about the terrorist attacks? What did that day look like to you? What were your experiences? I was working...Read More


ICE Must Investigate Victoria Arellano's Death in Custody

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | September 10, 2007 | 2:27 PM | comments

(I've been swamped lately, so I'm late on posting about this -- been sitting in my inbox for a week -- bad blogger.) We, the undersigned organizations, write to you today to express our outrage over the July 20, 2007...Read More


Closets Are For Clothes, Stealth Is For Planes

Filed by Marti Abernathey | September 09, 2007 | 6:06 PM | comments

Recently, I read a blog post about an FTM complaining about being judged by other transgender people about living "stealth." For those who don't know what stealth means, it's the equivalent of "living in the closet." To those of you...Read More


Weekend open thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 07, 2007 | 7:16 PM | comments

When I was around 12 my mother and father made me go to Tae Kwon Do to "toughen up". I suppose I may have been a bit of a pansy, but going to martial arts didn't butch me up. So...Read More


Rice queens and stereotypes

Filed by Fannie Fierce | September 07, 2007 | 4:09 PM | comments

Dear Fannie, I'm a 21 year old gay Asian male living in a big ol' gay city. I normally have (or like to think that I have) a decent moral compass and do not play with or lead guys...Read More


History Matters...

Filed by Rebecca Juro | September 07, 2007 | 12:15 PM | comments

And not just our own. I'd promised Bil that I'd post something a few days ago, but I never quite got around to it. I did have a good excuse, though. Not only that, but the reason I wasn't able...Read More


Being for Civil Unions: how big of a deal is that? The POTUS and a Primer Part V

Filed by Don Sherfick | September 07, 2007 | 10:00 AM | comments

In early August six Democratic hopefuls for their party's presidential ("POTUS") nomination on an HRC/Logo forum prompted me to think about how much candidates really DON'T say when they talk about gay marriage and civil unions. Mike Gravel and Dennis...Read More


Freebie Friday: Consciously Seeking Happiness

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 07, 2007 | 9:04 AM | comments

This week's Freebie is all about happiness. If I could just give you happiness, I would. Though as you'll discover, I can't. It's something that you are entirely responsible for creating yourself. My hope is that by giving you these...Read More


"Celebrity" blogger judge?

Filed by Bil Browning | September 06, 2007 | 10:08 AM | comments

Sorry for the lack of real posts this week folks, I've been down and out with the flu since last Friday. Finally, I'm starting to feel like a functioning human being again! Wooohooo! I thought I'd let everyone know that...Read More


Larry Craig, Weapons of Mass Distraction, and Lesbian Public Sex

Filed by Yasmin Nair | September 05, 2007 | 5:10 PM | comments

So Larry Craig is now reconsidering his earlier decision to resign, in the midst of a "sex scandal" that contains no sex at all. We queers seem to agree that the Craig exposure is about the hypocrisy and self-loathing that...Read More


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Gaydar reduced to body language?

Filed by Bil Browning | September 04, 2007 | 11:01 AM | comments

A recently released study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology claims to have partially unlocked the secrets of "gaydar." While the study isn't very in depth and leaves quite a bit of unanswered questions, it does pose...Read More


Bait and switch

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 04, 2007 | 10:00 AM | comments

Dear Michele, I have been seeing my lover for over a year now. She's smart, she's loving, she's everything I could hope for in a girlfriend, but she's really passive. She never verbally disagrees with me and always asks...Read More