Living: October 2007

A Death in the Family

Filed by Bruce Parker | October 31, 2007 | 3:49 AM | comments

One of the four most courageous, strong and beautiful women I have ever met lost her son earlier this week. He was a sixteen-year-old transgender male who was supported by his family. He was intelligent, handsome and had so much...Read More


A Death in the Family

Filed by Bruce Parker | October 31, 2007 | 3:49 AM | comments

One of the four most courageous, strong and beautiful women I have ever met lost her son earlier this week. He was a sixteen-year-old transgender male who was supported by his family. He was intelligent, handsome and had so much...Read More


Gender Therapists

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 30, 2007 | 11:55 AM | comments

I'm 32 years old. I have lived my life, regrettably, as a male for all of my years so far - believing inside that what I really am is a woman. About a year ago, I sought counseling with a...Read More


Gay Cars: Not that there’s anything wrong with that

Filed by Nina Smith | October 29, 2007 | 7:43 PM | comments

“The car has become… an article of dress without which we feel uncertain, unclad, and incomplete.” – Marshall McLuhan Several weekends ago as my partner and I picked up our rental car to drive out to the Berkshires, I laughed...Read More


Condom Use Amongst Young Gay Men

Filed by Eric Leven | October 29, 2007 | 5:23 PM | comments

An article featured in Southern Voice Online, an Atlanta based online publication for local and national news, discusses the dwindling condom usage amongst young gay men. The article states possible factors such as: a change in attitude from HIV/AIDS going...Read More


Condom Use Amongst Young Gay Men

Filed by Eric Leven | October 29, 2007 | 5:23 PM | comments

An article featured in Southern Voice Online, an Atlanta based online publication for local and national news, discusses the dwindling condom usage amongst young gay men. The article states possible factors such as: a change in attitude from HIV/AIDS going...Read More


Jake's War Statement

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 28, 2007 | 9:07 PM | comments

I told Jake there are some things not worth arguing about, like whether or not a ninja needs to have a sword case on his back or not. What is worth arguing about? Politics, Religion, Morality... What's that? Well, like...Read More


Homecoming Goes Gay

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 28, 2007 | 11:00 AM | comments

In a clear sign that our movement is making progressive despite our many fits and sputters comes this absolutely lovely story of two high school kids, a gay couple, who were named gay homecoming princes: For what appears to be...Read More


More on civilly disobedient lesbians

Filed by Jen Jorczak | October 26, 2007 | 5:40 PM | comments

In response to yesterday's post, reader and Soulforce Colorado State Organizer Christopher Hubble sent me a link to his blog post about Colorado couple Kate Burns & Sheila Schroeder. Kate and Sheila, of Englewood, Colorado, have been a couple for...Read More


Gay Ol' Pumpkin Patch

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 26, 2007 | 11:43 AM | comments

Today's Freebie Friday is an invitation to join likeourfamily.com at the St. Luke's Church in Indianapolis for a festive afternoon in the private pumpkin patch where we will fetch our desired pumpkins and take them inside to our reserved space...Read More


UnDyked!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | October 26, 2007 | 10:02 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, I’m a lesbian in my mid-twenties. I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for two years now. We’re what you would call a stereotypical U-Haul Lesbian couple. We fell in love fast and moved in fast....Read More


I've been thinking about ex-gays

Filed by Bil Browning | October 24, 2007 | 8:45 AM | comments

Since I'll be going to the Love Won Out conference soon, I've been thinking about the mindset behind the ex-gay movement. I hope a lot of you will answer this poll honestly - and if you don't mind, leave a...Read More


I've been thinking about ex-gays

Filed by Bil Browning | October 24, 2007 | 8:45 AM | comments

Since I'll be going to the Love Won Out conference soon, I've been thinking about the mindset behind the ex-gay movement. I hope a lot of you will answer this poll honestly - and if you don't mind, leave a...Read More


Relationship Success: The Essential Ingredients

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 23, 2007 | 11:28 AM | comments

What do you think is the most important ingredient for a successful relationship? ~ Seeking Relationship Success...Read More


Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Gay Men's Health

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 23, 2007 | 9:45 AM | comments

Jim Pickett spends most of his time in what he describes as "the greatest job in the world" thinking and talking about men and sex. As advocacy director for AIDS Foundation Chicago, Jim focuses on building grassroots support for gay...Read More


Milton Schools Update: Face-to-Face Meetings Bring Positive Change

Filed by Dustin Kight | October 23, 2007 | 9:40 AM | comments

This post comes directly from the Family Equality Council Blog, where I contribute as a member of the staff. I wanted to cross post on Bilerico so that all the readers who have been following the Milton, MA case can...Read More


WWYD: Sponsoring Friends in Charity Events

Filed by Nina Smith | October 22, 2007 | 7:30 PM | comments

“A society that has more justice is a society that needs less charity.” – Ralph Nader At Queercents, we run a weekly series about financial ethics called What Would You Do? Here's one that asks your views on charitable giving....Read More


Shameless plug for my other blog

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 22, 2007 | 5:56 PM | comments

I restarted my other blogging project today that was in hiatus for two months, Qomics for Queers. It's my humor blog where I make fun of the daily comics and try to find all the queer subtexts and then...Read More


More disrespect from the Religious Right

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 22, 2007 | 7:05 AM | comments

Eugene at Ex-gay Watch points out the new Exodus Youth initiative: Allies, Too. Its mission statement talks about tolerance and respect in 10 different ways, but it takes about two seconds to notice that this organization is about anything but....Read More


What About AIDS?

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 21, 2007 | 1:10 PM | comments

The 2008 presidential candidates, at least the Democrats, have answered questions about their positions on a wide range of issues important to the LGBT community including repealing Don't Ask, Don't Tell, relationship recognition and hate crimes, but, what about AIDS?...Read More


Wake Up Boy Scouts- Hate Costs Money

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 21, 2007 | 11:00 AM | comments

In Philadelphia, the city got serious about what they will and will not support. The Boy Scouts of America, always getting a free ride for their program, will now have to pay going rates for the space. The organization's Cradle...Read More


Wake Up Boy Scouts- Hate Costs Money

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 21, 2007 | 11:00 AM | comments

In Philadelphia, the city got serious about what they will and will not support. The Boy Scouts of America, always getting a free ride for their program, will now have to pay going rates for the space. The organization's Cradle...Read More


You Are the Enemy of the Natural Family

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 21, 2007 | 8:00 AM | comments

Scott Lively, one of the founders of the international anti-gay hate group Watchmen on the Walls, made this statement explaining the group's violent and hateful reason for being: We are the Watchmen on the Walls. We are a global coalition...Read More


Will Suspended Priest Release Names of Vatican Gays?

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 20, 2007 | 3:05 PM | comments

The Vatican priest who was recently suspended after being secretly taped coming on to a young man reportedly has a list of gay clerics who work in the Vatican and is threatening to release the names: Father Tommaso Stenico (60)...Read More


LGBT in the ROI....

Filed by Brynn Craffey | October 20, 2007 | 4:00 AM | comments

First off, let me thank Bil and the Bilerico Project again for welcoming me onboard! It’s both a pleasure and an honor to be a part of such a distinguished blog. And then let me introduce myself. As I’m a...Read More


Homosexuality 101

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 19, 2007 | 11:18 AM | comments

What is sexual orientation? This is the word used to describe a person’s romantic, emotional, or sexual attraction to another person. A person who is attracted to another of the same sex is said to have a homosexual orientation, commonly...Read More


Straight Seduction

Filed by Fannie Fierce | October 19, 2007 | 8:26 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, I’m a 23 year old heterosexual man, I have a lot of gay friends and I’m not bothered by it at all. I’m open minded and all, but a lot of my gay friends hit on me. Now...Read More


Anti-Gays: Protecting Gay Kids Worse Than Nazi Furnaces

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 19, 2007 | 8:14 AM | comments

In yet another sign of how Christianity is being used by anti-gay extremists to justify their homo-hatred, Watchmen on the Walls compares a new California law protecting LGBT kids to the Nazi furnaces used to kill millions of Jews during...Read More


It's (Still) Elementary

Filed by Ellen Andersen | October 18, 2007 | 10:10 PM | comments

When It’s Elementary: Talking about Gay Issues in School was first broadcast on PBS 10 years, it broached the then-radical notion that we should be teaching about gay and lesbian lives in classrooms – in elementary school classrooms yet. Oh...Read More


Sodom Story is Pro-Gay? You heard me!

Filed by Sean Kosofsky | October 18, 2007 | 8:01 PM | comments

I had a very pleasant surprise this past Sunday when I addressed over 300 people at Christ Community Church (CCC), a progressive Christian Church in Spring Lake, Michigan. For those of you that have never heard of Spring Lake, it...Read More


Kids Pay the Price for Lack of Sexual Education and Communication

Filed by Eric Leven | October 18, 2007 | 12:22 PM | comments

Recently a contagious strain of get-pregnant hit a group of middle school girls in Portland, Maine and school officials decided to have birth control on supply as a healthy alternative. The article states: After an outbreak of pregnancies among middle...Read More


New study on anti-gay bullying and latino parents

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 18, 2007 | 12:20 PM | comments

Mental Health America and its "What does gay mean?" initiative just completed a large study of opinions among latino parents on anti-gay bullying in schools. I've been staring at the executive summary trying to think of something to say about...Read More


These are a few of my favorite things

Filed by Dustin Kight | October 16, 2007 | 11:15 PM | comments

Greetings, all. My name is Dustin Kight and I'm excited to start contributing to the Bilerico Project, right here and right now! I live in Somerville, MA (aka Basically Boston) and work for the Family Equality Council (formerly Family Pride)....Read More


Wiping Out Anti-Gay Stigma in Black Communities

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 16, 2007 | 4:25 PM | comments

For more than 20 years Gay Men of African Descent (GMAD) has been on the cutting edge of creating programs that educate and empower gay and bisexual men of African Descent. The organization's current social marketing campaign Wipe Out! focuses...Read More


Is She Over Her Ex?

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 16, 2007 | 9:30 AM | comments

I WANT TO KNOW HOW DO YOU TELL IF MY GIRLFRIEND IS OVER HER EX ~ ex.asparated...Read More


Social Security vs. Personal Retirement Accounts: Which Way for Gays?

Filed by Nina Smith | October 15, 2007 | 7:40 PM | comments

“They want the federal government controlling Social Security like it’s some kind of federal program.” – George W. Bush Recently, I heard from Lea Abdnor, the Executive Director at Women for a Social Security Choice in response to my post...Read More


We’re Here, We’re Queer, Get Used to It!

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 15, 2007 | 1:30 PM | comments

I used to love that chant at Pride marches when I was a young, rebellious lesbian. Sauntering down the street, taking over for the day, you shouted at the top of your lungs, celebrating how queer you were. It filled...Read More


We’re Here, We’re Queer, Get Used to It!

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 15, 2007 | 1:30 PM | comments

I used to love that chant at Pride marches when I was a young, rebellious lesbian. Sauntering down the street, taking over for the day, you shouted at the top of your lungs, celebrating how queer you were. It filled...Read More


Blood Relatives

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 15, 2007 | 7:45 AM | comments

Jeanine and I snuck off this morning for a little snuggle in bed. The beauty of your kids getting older is that they don’t notice when you take off for a while so you can have a some horizontal alone...Read More


Need a good Friday laugh?

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 12, 2007 | 12:04 PM | comments

A Maryland court rejected an appeal to prevent tolerance for sexual diversity from being taught in schools. The curricular opponents' main argument was: Opponents have argued the lessons violate laws protecting free speech and religion. So their solution was to...Read More


Alimony and Same-Sex Marriage

Filed by Nina Smith | October 12, 2007 | 7:50 AM | comments

Congratulations gay people — you are about to discover the joys of alimony.” – Craig Ferguson, on legalizing gay marriage My partner, Jeanine and I only watch television once a week and this summer our show was “Big Love” on...Read More


Paul Fairley, Toronto, Faith, Sex, & David Wojnarowicz

Filed by Gina de Vries | October 12, 2007 | 3:35 AM | comments

I missed posting here in time for National Coming Out Day because I was searching online for plane tickets to Toronto -- to visit a queer person whose life and work have affected me deeply, whom I barely know. Reverend...Read More


Kicking it to the Condom

Filed by Fannie Fierce | October 12, 2007 | 2:00 AM | comments

Dear Fannie I'm a 20 year old hetero-flexible female. I've been in a relationship with my 22 year old bi boyfriend for two months now. Our sex life is great and I feel really good about our relationship. I...Read More


National Coming Out Day

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 11, 2007 | 8:45 PM | comments

Today is National Coming Out day. It’s a day when people who have been living in shame and confusion about who they are encouraged to take a bold step and say, I’m gay. Hi, Mom. I’m gay. Sounds great and...Read More


Happy National Coming Out Day, everyone

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 11, 2007 | 4:10 PM | comments

And I mean everyone. Including those boys here who don't feel comfortable in a skin tight Madonna T-shirt, whether or not you're anything like a virgin. Including those boys here who think they could never wear shorts. It could be...Read More


I'm Coming Out (Again)

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 11, 2007 | 3:37 PM | comments

You'd think I'd be done with coming out by now, and that on National Coming Out Day, I'd have nothing left to tell anyone. At this point, I think the only person I haven't told is Oprah. I will if...Read More


I'm Coming Out (Again)

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 11, 2007 | 3:37 PM | comments

You'd think I'd be done with coming out by now, and that on National Coming Out Day, I'd have nothing left to tell anyone. At this point, I think the only person I haven't told is Oprah. I will if...Read More


You've Done Nothing Wrong

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 11, 2007 | 9:00 AM | comments

On Christmas Eve, 1988, I was home from college for winter break. Like every other Christmas Eve, I was gathering inspiration and ideas to begin my holiday shopping. Yes, begin. My mom turned to me and asked, "How are things...Read More


Being Queer Isn't a Secret Anymore

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 11, 2007 | 8:52 AM | comments

Editor's Note:This guest post comes to us from Julie R. Enszer. Julie is a writer and lesbian activist living in Maryland. She has been widely published in gay and lesbian publications and is a regular contributor to the Lambda Book...Read More


Happy Coming OUT Day: My Story

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 11, 2007 | 8:00 AM | comments

Looking back, it is hard to really pinpoint one single moment as when I came out. I grew up in a small farming community outside of Orlando, FL (the town name literally translates from Indian to “The Big Potato”… Yikes!)....Read More


Step right up and cast your vote

Filed by Bil Browning | October 11, 2007 | 7:45 AM | comments

[UPDATE:] I've moved this back up to the top since for those who missed it yesterday. You've got until midnight tonight to tell us what you'd prefer we call our community members. Poll closes at midnight! The results are running...Read More


Coming Out of Camouflage

Filed by Steve Ralls | October 11, 2007 | 6:00 AM | comments

As the LGBT community celebrates National Coming Out Day, a new generation of American military personnel are also coming out of the barracks room closet. More and more, proud lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender troops are serving openly to their...Read More


An overlooked plight: the problems of gay and lesbian seniors

Filed by Don Sherfick | October 10, 2007 | 5:25 PM | comments

Unless Bil, Alex, and a host of other contributors to this site are just plain fibbining and/or have discovered that elusive Fountain of Youth, I'm apparently the biologically oldest of their number, getting ready to observe my 69th birthday in...Read More


An overlooked plight: the problems of gay and lesbian seniors

Filed by Don Sherfick | October 10, 2007 | 5:25 PM | comments

Unless Bil, Alex, and a host of other contributors to this site are just plain fibbining and/or have discovered that elusive Fountain of Youth, I'm apparently the biologically oldest of their number, getting ready to observe my 69th birthday in...Read More


Ex-Gay = Ex-Wife

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 10, 2007 | 1:30 PM | comments

National Coming Out Day is tomorrow. In preparation for the day, Truth Wins OUT and its amazing executive director Wayne Besen have released a new video that tells the story of four courageous women who married closeted gay men. They...Read More


Ex-Gay = Ex-Wife

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 10, 2007 | 1:30 PM | comments

National Coming Out Day is tomorrow. In preparation for the day, Truth Wins OUT and its amazing executive director Wayne Besen have released a new video that tells the story of four courageous women who married closeted gay men. They...Read More


McCain promotes his “Christian Nation"

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | October 10, 2007 | 7:40 AM | comments

Since President Bush took office, religion has been the litmus test to discern a presidential candidate’s electability. And in the current pool of 2008 presidential hopefuls, this litmus test has produced a star-studded cast of Democratic prophets extolling their religiosity...Read More


Straight Porn?

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 09, 2007 | 12:40 PM | comments

I get very upset when my boy friend looks at straight porn (he likes the white guys). Really should I be so upset when he says he loves me, he just thinks straight guys are sexy. He is a...Read More


What should we call you?

Filed by Bil Browning | October 09, 2007 | 10:56 AM | comments

Okay, so we have a dilemma... Over at Pam's House Blend, the readers and contributors are called "Blenders." At my friend Liss's blog, Shakespeare's Sister, they're Shakers. (Happy belated three year birthday, btw! We started our blogs within a week...Read More


Who Says Young Gay Men Are Shallow?

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 09, 2007 | 10:10 AM | comments

There's nothing like a little shock to the system to jolt us out of our complacency and back into the real world. That's just what the new HIV prevention PSA by 26 year old filmmaker and blogger Eric Leven does....Read More


What Does George Bush Have Against Gay Kids?

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 08, 2007 | 5:25 PM | comments

That's the question that popped into my head on watching the new abstinence until marriage propaganda piece from the Department of Health and Human Services....Read More


What Does George Bush Have Against Gay Kids?

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 08, 2007 | 5:25 PM | comments

That's the question that popped into my head on watching the new abstinence until marriage propaganda piece from the Department of Health and Human Services....Read More


Poisonous Parenting on Parade

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 08, 2007 | 11:41 AM | comments

It's happened again. Another mom drowned her kids in the bathtub. City prosecutors filed two counts of aggravated murder against Amber Hill, 22, after a coroner ruled the deaths of the girls, ages 4 and 2, were homicides. Hill had...Read More


Aravosis-inspired open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | October 08, 2007 | 8:15 AM | comments

John Aravosis penned a Salon.com article called "How did the 'T' get in GLBT?" that while I disagree with entirely, raised an interesting question for an open thread. I have a sense that over the past decade the trans revolution...Read More


Birthday wishes

Filed by Bil Browning | October 08, 2007 | 7:30 AM | comments

Holy cow! It's still early and my inbox is overflowing with birthday wishes. Today I turn 35. I am firmly planted in middle age now. For those of you who have written and asked what happened to the link to...Read More


Salut, tout le monde!

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 07, 2007 | 5:15 PM | comments

As Bil posted earlier, I've gone and moved to Saint Etienne, France. I'm in a McDonald's right now - the only place in this city with free wifi - and I just checked up on the site. There have been...Read More


Tussling with the Right

Filed by Andrea Hildebran | October 05, 2007 | 11:35 PM | comments

There is a lively confrontation going on at Fannie’s Room over a satirical proposal recasting marriage laws in draconian ways for heterosexuals. Fannie sketches out some of the logical destinations of the right wing’s ridiculous arguments, specifically based on this...Read More


Sexist Feminists!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | October 05, 2007 | 8:19 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, I'm a 19 year old college student. I'm a self-avowed feminist and activist. I'm emailing you with an issue I've been wrestling with. One of my best friends has recently decided to transition from male to female. While...Read More


The Everyday “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 05, 2007 | 8:05 AM | comments

My recent road trip across the country with my conservative sister really opened my eyes to how we can make a big difference in the way people view the LGBT community on an individual and everyday basis. You can see...Read More


Gay Affluence: fact, fiction, or somewhere in between?

Filed by Nina Smith | October 05, 2007 | 7:45 AM | comments

“Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.” – Eleanor Roosevelt On Saturday night this past summer, we went with friends to HRC’s Annual Orange County Federal Club Garden Party and this year it was at...Read More


Finally! A Bush family member with a brain!

Filed by Bil Browning | October 04, 2007 | 1:50 PM | comments

What's this I see? Could it be possible that one of the Bush clan actually has a working brain? Former wild child Jenna Bush has written a new book called "Ana's Story: A Journey of Hope" about a 17 year...Read More


Femme Economics: Just Between Us Girls

Filed by Nina Smith | October 04, 2007 | 7:15 AM | comments

“If any human being is to reach full maturity both the masculine and feminine sides of the personality must be brought up into consciousness.” – M. Esther Harding At Queercents, there’s a new series running called Femme Economics. Written by...Read More


Black Gay and Lesbians Have Fewer Mental Disorders than Whites

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 03, 2007 | 3:05 PM | comments

There is some interesting data from a new study showing that Black gay men and lesbians have fewer mental disorders than white gay men and lesbians. How about that? The study was conducted by the Columbia University Mailman School of...Read More


Strictly Confidential

Filed by Bil Browning | October 02, 2007 | 7:54 PM | comments

I'll be appearing on Strictly Confidential radio tonight at 9pm EST. Click here to listen in; there's even a chat room where you can talk to other listeners and ask questions to get answered on air! Stop by and say...Read More


Compulsive planning and parenthood

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 02, 2007 | 10:45 AM | comments

Michele, My partner and I have been together for 3 years. We've always talked about having kids. For the past year, though, we've been going through some rough times. We're in counseling and things are getting better slowly. The...Read More


Throwing the Baby Out With the Bath Water?

Filed by Bruce Parker | October 02, 2007 | 3:58 AM | comments

The first term I was a student at Antioch College, I had the remarkable opportunity to take an independent study in masculinities with a sociologist named Francis Hasso. She could recite bibliographies around many sociological themes, including masculinities, off the...Read More


The gold-en touch

Filed by Bil Browning | October 01, 2007 | 1:50 PM | comments

Do you remember when I blogged about a Matt Gold concert last year? Since Matt started performing again, he's been busier than ever! He was featured on a radio show, Strictly Confidential, a few months ago and specifically mentioned the...Read More