Living: December 2007

Indiana amendment: Where are we now?

Filed by Bil Browning | December 31, 2007 | 4:27 PM | comments

The Indianapolis Star has a story today about the fate of Indiana's constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage and civil unions. There's not really any new information, but it's nice to see the Star helping to raise awareness. Sen. Brandt...Read More


Think Orange

Filed by Bil Browning | December 31, 2007 | 9:12 AM | comments

We have a lot of photos that are just laying around the house degrading. Since our internet was down most of the day yesterday, Jerame started scanning them so I could have them on my computer. This is his favorite...Read More


The Cost of Finding God

Filed by Nina Smith | December 28, 2007 | 7:05 PM | comments

“God thinks within geniuses, dreams within poets, and sleeps within the rest of us.” – Peter Antenberg Although my partner and I are still childless, we continue to have the “how will we raise our child” conversation when it comes...Read More


Life just keeps getting better

Filed by Bil Browning | December 28, 2007 | 1:58 PM | comments

So we have a new dog, right? Of course, a new pet always takes a bit of adjustment, but she's going to be the death of me. She always wants to be right next to me. In the living room,...Read More


Cohabitating Complications

Filed by Fannie Fierce | December 28, 2007 | 1:31 PM | comments

Dear Fannie, I'm 21 and gay. I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months and we're just about to get a place together. Now, I'm still in school, and he works full-time and is very well paid. We're...Read More


The Season & Its Reasons

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 28, 2007 | 1:19 PM | comments

The holiday wouldn't be complete without the obligatory "Jesus is the reason for the season" commentary, and this year Roland S. Martin provides it. This whole push to remove Christ from the Christmas season has gotten so ridiculous that it's...Read More


Benazir and Hillary

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 27, 2007 | 4:59 PM | comments

Benazir Bhutto's assassination should be making American voters ask themselves a nightmarish but necessary question. How ready is the United States -- really -- for a woman President? We'd better not be pointing fingers at the neoconservative Islamic element in...Read More


There's no more room at this inn

Filed by Bil Browning | December 26, 2007 | 4:25 PM | comments

So let me put out a definitive statement. There is no more room at our house. Thanks for stopping by, now go home. This Christmas has been a little stressful. One of our first time house guests picked a fight...Read More


Christmas Exorcism Part II

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 26, 2007 | 12:58 PM | comments

I'm sick of it. I want it over. I want it gone. I am no longer a little girl. I am a parent. I am the mom. I don't want my kids to be writing this essay in twenty years,...Read More


Christmas time is here again

Filed by Bil Browning | December 25, 2007 | 12:01 AM | comments

I'm sure posts will be light today so I thought I'd throw up this open thread for your commenting pleasure. The topic is yours - wish each other Christmas cheer, tell us what your holiday plans are, whatever floats your...Read More


Food Pantry Shortages: What's the Real Story?

Filed by Yasmin Nair | December 24, 2007 | 9:26 PM | comments

One of the big stories this season is unrelated to shopping or entertainment: food pantries across the country are facing drastic shortages in items donated from the agricultural industry. This means that more people who depend on food pantries will...Read More


Food Pantry Shortages: What's the Real Story?

Filed by Yasmin Nair | December 24, 2007 | 9:26 PM | comments

One of the big stories this season is unrelated to shopping or entertainment: food pantries across the country are facing drastic shortages in items donated from the agricultural industry. This means that more people who depend on food pantries will...Read More


Christmas Exorcism Part I

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 24, 2007 | 9:39 AM | comments

Christmas was always about my mother. I’m furious that it still is- she's been dead over a year. I'm chasing a ghost's love. My mother is dead. And still, when the image of a mother holding a child is shown,...Read More


Queers and Gentrification, Part 1: Wind Chimes

Filed by Yasmin Nair | December 23, 2007 | 3:22 PM | comments

I’m woken up by the sounds of a winter night in Chicago. The wind is rushing around our building, the windows sound like they’re being shaken by a child trying to get back in, and the porch door has creaked...Read More


Queers and Gentrification, Part 1: Wind Chimes

Filed by Yasmin Nair | December 23, 2007 | 3:22 PM | comments

I’m woken up by the sounds of a winter night in Chicago. The wind is rushing around our building, the windows sound like they’re being shaken by a child trying to get back in, and the porch door has creaked...Read More


Queers and Gentrification, Part 1: Wind Chimes

Filed by Yasmin Nair | December 23, 2007 | 3:22 PM | comments

I’m woken up by the sounds of a winter night in Chicago. The wind is rushing around our building, the windows sound like they’re being shaken by a child trying to get back in, and the porch door has creaked...Read More


Gifts that keep on giving; the art of regifting

Filed by Nina Smith | December 21, 2007 | 7:15 PM | comments

Regift: (verb) To give an unwanted gift to someone else; to give as a gift something one previously received as a gift. – Webster’s New Millennium Dictionary of English, Preview Edition My partner and I recently received a lovely hostess...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: 1-3

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 21, 2007 | 1:27 PM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. There are no guarantees in love. There are, however, smart steps to take if you want to nurture your...Read More


Bottoming Blues

Filed by Fannie Fierce | December 21, 2007 | 10:36 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, I'm 24, gay, male, white... so the top of the gay pecking order. I've been with my boyfriend for a good 3 months. Like any normal gay couple, we f*ck like bunnies, which is great... if only...Read More


I'll be forever grateful

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 21, 2007 | 8:28 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] Congresswoman Julia Carson will lay in state today in the Indiana Statehouse rotunda. A memorial service will be held this evening and Governor Daniels will give the eulogy. I wanted to elevate this comment left on Ellen's post...Read More


Sergeant Manzella Comes Home

Filed by Steve Ralls | December 20, 2007 | 7:46 PM | comments

The holidays will be a whole lot brighter for the Manzella family, who are looking forward to welcoming a very special guest home. Many of you have called and emailed about what's next for Sergeant Darren Manzella, the Servicemembers Legal...Read More


Good news from Idaho

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 20, 2007 | 3:34 PM | comments

A lesbian friend of mine just sent me a news item from one of the most generally ultraconservative states in the union. The city of Moscow, Idaho (population 22,239 ) has just voted for a new insurance plan for city...Read More


Ending AIDS Will Require All of Us

Filed by H. Alexander Robinson | December 20, 2007 | 12:44 PM | comments

The news has been filled with rumors that the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention will release new estimates of the number of Americans becoming infected with HIV. According to recent news reports the CDC may raise the annual estimate...Read More


The Willie factor

Filed by Bil Browning | December 20, 2007 | 7:11 AM | comments

So Jerame and I were talking about this hypothetical yesterday and I thought I'd throw the discussion out for the readers too... What happens to Hillary Clinton's campaign if the media breaks the story that Bill has had another affair?...Read More


Huckabee's Procreative Imperative

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 19, 2007 | 6:01 PM | comments

As I was catching up on my blog reading this week, I came across Timothy's response, over at Box Turtle Bulletin, to something Mike Huckabee said about homosexuality. "Let's understand what sin means -- sin means missing the mark," he...Read More


Transgender student denied campus housing at public Utah college

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 19, 2007 | 11:40 AM | comments

[Editor's note:] This guest post comes to us from Matt Hill Comer, editor of the Carolinas queer publication, Q-Notes. Matt blogs at InterstateQ. Demonstrating the need for gender neutral and inclusive housing policies for public and private universities across...Read More


Holiday stress open thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 19, 2007 | 10:53 AM | comments

A new study that found that lesbians were more likely than straight women to say that they were more stressed during the holidays: The survey, by Harris Interactive, found that 80 percent of lesbian adults said they tend to feel...Read More


STFU and deal with it, fundamentalist Christianity is America's religion

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 19, 2007 | 7:06 AM | comments

I didn't mention this last week when it passed, but anyone interested in maintaining a secular state would probably be frightened/annoyed by this resolution. The same House that can't be counted on to do much of anything for actually repressed...Read More


A message from (Jerame's) mom

Filed by Bil Browning | December 18, 2007 | 4:42 PM | comments

I got a surprise phone call this morning. It was Jerame's mom and she was all worked up. She and I are tight; we talk more than she and Jerame do and I drive down to middle-of-nowhere southern Indiana to...Read More


More states opting out of abstinence-only education

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 18, 2007 | 2:47 PM | comments

The Sunday Washington Post had an article detailing the states dropping out of federal abstinence-only education funds: At least 14 states have either notified the federal government that they will no longer be requesting the funds or are not expected...Read More


More states opting out of abstinence-only education

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 18, 2007 | 2:47 PM | comments

The Sunday Washington Post had an article detailing the states dropping out of federal abstinence-only education funds: At least 14 states have either notified the federal government that they will no longer be requesting the funds or are not expected...Read More


Saving Money on Christmas Trees

Filed by Nina Smith | December 17, 2007 | 7:20 PM | comments

“The perfect Christmas tree? All Christmas trees are perfect!” – Charles N. Barnard When my partner and I try to cut corners and save money, it typically is a disaster. Like the time we canceled our cleaning service at the...Read More


For Christ's Sake!

Filed by Eric Leven | December 17, 2007 | 4:22 PM | comments

I think I just projectile vomited all the eggnog I had this weekend after seeing this ad by candidate Mike "what separation between church and state?" Huckabee. I wonder how Jesus would feel if he knew good ol' Huckabee was...Read More


It's not time for you to go

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | December 17, 2007 | 7:50 AM | comments

It's helpful to remember there was a time when I actually could sleep, I would invite people over from clubs just to sleep with them -- I mean really sleep. It was an experiment -- I wanted to show that...Read More


Privilege, Entitlement and the Holiday Season

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 16, 2007 | 10:45 AM | comments

Friday night, before I went to sleep, I promised myself I was not going to yell at Ben. It was going to be "Christmas" and however he felt about the gifts he received, however he expressed himself was going to...Read More


Privilege, Entitlement and the Holiday Season

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 16, 2007 | 10:45 AM | comments

Friday night, before I went to sleep, I promised myself I was not going to yell at Ben. It was going to be "Christmas" and however he felt about the gifts he received, however he expressed himself was going to...Read More


Semen Boosts HIV Transmission

Filed by Michael Crawford | December 16, 2007 | 8:01 AM | comments

Researchers have found that a fibre found in semen can enhance HIV transmission 100,000 fold. If the findings are found to be correct after more extensive testing, this would open up a new avenue for fighting HIV....Read More


What's in a Number?

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 15, 2007 | 12:30 PM | comments

[Editor's note:] David Munar of the Chicago AIDS Foundation and Prevention Justice wrote this guest post after attending the 2007 HIV Prevention Conference in Atlanta. No matter the spin, CDC’s not-well-protected secret is all bad news. As widely reported in...Read More


No More I Love Yous

Filed by Steve Ralls | December 15, 2007 | 8:59 AM | comments

For couples of every orientation, one of the most memorable moments of Christmas morning is waking up beside your loved one and hearing "Merry Christmas. I love you." Even as the holidays become more and more commercial, they still hold...Read More


"Queering Pippi Longstocking"

Filed by Gina de Vries | December 14, 2007 | 6:16 PM | comments

I came to work in pigtails and stripey knee-socks about a week ago. Without missing a beat, one of my co-workers said: "Oh my god, Gina, you're queering Pippi Longstocking! LOVE it!"...Read More


The price of sex in St. Etienne

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 14, 2007 | 3:13 PM | comments

People from back home ask what exactly it is I do out here in France. I'm an elementary school English teaching assistant. A job that I've never heard of in America is actually quite common here - there's one in...Read More


Coming Out Conundrums

Filed by Fannie Fierce | December 14, 2007 | 2:22 PM | comments

Dear Fannie, I'm a 20 year old gay college student. I came out very recently and have just started telling my closest friends. With the holidays coming up, I'm slotted to go home in a few days. I want...Read More


The Crime of Mental Illness

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 14, 2007 | 2:00 PM | comments

Mental illness isn't a crime, but the way we treat — or don't treat — the mentally ill is. Or should be. I wrote earlier that the Hillary's hostage taker was ordered to undergo evaluation, which led me to make...Read More


The Crime of Mental Illness

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 14, 2007 | 2:00 PM | comments

Mental illness isn't a crime, but the way we treat — or don't treat — the mentally ill is. Or should be. I wrote earlier that the Hillary's hostage taker was ordered to undergo evaluation, which led me to make...Read More


A bully is a coward turned inside out

Filed by Bil Browning | December 14, 2007 | 1:15 PM | comments

While I don't usually post personal items here on the blog, I'm really proud of our daughter and I wanted to share it with you. Now that she's a little older, I'm also going to drop my prohibition of printing...Read More


Designing 2008

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 14, 2007 | 1:01 PM | comments

New Year's Resolutions remind me of "swearing to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth" while under oath in court. Do you suppose that people who lie every day of their lives are going to actually...Read More


Send positive thoughts

Filed by Bil Browning | December 14, 2007 | 10:22 AM | comments

What's with the spate of health problems lately? Please take a moment out of your busy day and send some positive energy into the cosmos for some of our friends. A handful of our contributors are currently having health crises....Read More


Jake's fine

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 14, 2007 | 10:00 AM | comments

Jake's just being Jake. Labs back and all is well... Thank you for all the good wishes. Now let's see if he makes it through today because I almost killed him and his brothers this morning....Read More


End of year open thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 14, 2007 | 8:13 AM | comments

I'm moving this up before I start to work on this over the weekend. I'm putting together a year-end list of the top LGBTQ stories. The ENDA split, Larry Craig's escapades, civil unions in New Jersey, Ann Coulter's "faggot" comment,...Read More


Your religion is stupid

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 14, 2007 | 7:57 AM | comments

The latest dig at Romney's religion came from Mike Huckabee (of course), as reported by the NY Times: Romney, a Mormon, had promised that he would be addressing the subject of his religion a few days later. I asked Huckabee,...Read More


Susie Bright on Suze Orman

Filed by Nina Smith | December 13, 2007 | 7:18 PM | comments

Last summer, I met Susie Bright at a blogging conference where she was snarky, vocal, and loved the fact that there was a site dedicated to queer money. After participating in our Ten Money Questions series, we had an email...Read More


Focused

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 13, 2007 | 3:21 PM | comments

It stops you in your tracks. All the whining, all the bullshit, all the drama suddenly seems so ridiculous when you’re in the car driving to a blood test for your kid. I know he’s going to be fine. Jake...Read More


The Mental Health of Gunmen

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 13, 2007 | 2:00 PM | comments

No sooner did I post about the Clinton hostage crisis than the Omaha mall shooting happened, and write away there were questions about the mental health of the gunman. "As the twig is bent, so grows the tree." A sign...Read More


The Mental Health of Gunmen

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 13, 2007 | 2:00 PM | comments

No sooner did I post about the Clinton hostage crisis than the Omaha mall shooting happened, and write away there were questions about the mental health of the gunman. "As the twig is bent, so grows the tree." A sign...Read More


The start of something special?

Filed by Bil Browning | December 13, 2007 | 1:20 PM | comments

Just a quick note for those of you following along at home. The radio appearance went well this morning. For the first time since I've been appearing on these types of shows, all of the callers were against the marriage...Read More


10 Things Gay Men Should Talk About with Their Doctors

Filed by Michael Crawford | December 13, 2007 | 10:42 AM | comments

Here is a list of ten key things that gay men should discuss with their doctors. Thanks to my friend and Bilerico newbie David Mariner for introducing me to this important information via his site Temenos. Vincent M. B. Silenzio,...Read More


On turning 69

Filed by Don Sherfick | December 13, 2007 | 9:00 AM | comments

Now I suspect that were I to put that uniquely notorious (often salacious) number in the "metadata" (key words on blogsites that direct people who are searching for something to better and faster access when they Google...or whatever they doogle)...Read More


The Good, The Bad and The Anxiety In Between

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 12, 2007 | 3:45 PM | comments

There are few things, as a parent, I enjoy more than asking the obvious question and waiting to hear the response. Jake? Is the table set? Now, I know the table isn’t set. I know he’s still drawing tanks and...Read More


Obama: To mandate or not to mandate... there really isn't a question

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 12, 2007 | 3:02 PM | comments

Barack Obama released an opp doc on NY Times columnist Paul Krugman last Friday, hopefully the climax of a battle between progressive columnists and the Obama campaign on one of the stickiest points of health care reform: mandates. I've previously...Read More


I'm up to my old tricks

Filed by Bil Browning | December 12, 2007 | 2:15 PM | comments

"Radio is the theater of the mind; television is the theater of the mindless." -- Steve Allen Tomorrow morning I'll be doing a popular local radio call-in show to talk about Indiana's proposed marriage amendment. I'll be appearing on Abdul...Read More


Powerful Messages from Ellen and Jodie to Depressed LGBTQ Teens

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 12, 2007 | 1:37 PM | comments

It’s that time of year again when the world seems festive, happy and gay. But for LGBT and questioning teens, the holidays can also be hell. The Trevor Project – the nation’s only 24/7 free, confidential suicide prevention helpline for...Read More


Powerful Messages from Ellen and Jodie to Depressed LGBTQ Teens

Filed by Karen Ocamb | December 12, 2007 | 1:37 PM | comments

It’s that time of year again when the world seems festive, happy and gay. But for LGBT and questioning teens, the holidays can also be hell. The Trevor Project – the nation’s only 24/7 free, confidential suicide prevention helpline for...Read More


Pope Says Gay Marriage Is 'Obstacle' to World Peace

Filed by Storm Bear | December 12, 2007 | 1:33 PM | comments

Yes folks, The L Word is going to bring the world to its knees.... OK, that was a bad analogy. From the flaming liberals over at Pew Forum: Nuclear arms proliferation, environmental pollution and economic inequality are threats to world...Read More


I Think You're Crazy. Just Like Me.

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 12, 2007 | 11:36 AM | comments

I actually went all day without hearing about the hostage situation at Hillary Clinton's campaign headquarters. By the time I got the full story, it was all over but the post-hostage-crisis analysis, which basically boiled down to this: the guy...Read More


Siblings open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | December 12, 2007 | 8:50 AM | comments

After a gay friend told me about his bi sister, it made me think of my own family. At least two of my brothers are/were bisexual. Jerame swears that he thinks my mom is a closet-case lesbian. What about your...Read More


The Friendsbian

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 11, 2007 | 11:56 AM | comments

Dear Michele, I am a heterosexual woman and three of my best friends are lesbians. We've been friends since high school where we all became close playing sports. We often socialize with other lesbians and I am frequently assumed...Read More


Legos or make up

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 11, 2007 | 10:15 AM | comments

I'm sitting downstairs, working on a relationship piece for the New York Times, which is making me nuts. Too corny. Too honest. Not honest enough. More bite, less bite, oh, why the hell am I trying to write something for...Read More


Anti-LGBTQ Carolers Spread Xmas Jeers in CA

Filed by Dustin Kight | December 11, 2007 | 8:05 AM | comments

Just when you thought anti-LGBTQ protesting couldn’t get any more upsetting (and ridiculous): Anti-LGBTQ carolers in a Sacramento suburb gathered at their local Target to show (aka sing) their opposition to recent updates to California’s safe schools laws. The spectacle...Read More


Anti-LGBTQ Carolers Spread Xmas Jeers in CA

Filed by Dustin Kight | December 11, 2007 | 8:05 AM | comments

Just when you thought anti-LGBTQ protesting couldn’t get any more upsetting (and ridiculous): Anti-LGBTQ carolers in a Sacramento suburb gathered at their local Target to show (aka sing) their opposition to recent updates to California’s safe schools laws. The spectacle...Read More


Cabbages and Christmas

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 11, 2007 | 7:02 AM | comments

How do I plan to celebrate Christmas? As many Southern Californians know, this is the best time of year to garden, and I am lucky enough to live in the Southland. Pagan that I am, I'll celebrate by planting the...Read More


Cabbages and Christmas

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 11, 2007 | 7:02 AM | comments

How do I plan to celebrate Christmas? As many Southern Californians know, this is the best time of year to garden, and I am lucky enough to live in the Southland. Pagan that I am, I'll celebrate by planting the...Read More


A Plague of Biblical Proportions

Filed by David Mariner | December 10, 2007 | 10:58 PM | comments

Presidential Candidates, Democrat and Republican alike laid out their plans to fight HIV/AIDS at the Global AIDS Summit, sponsored by the evangelical Saddle Back Church. Hillary Clinton was the only candidate to appear in-person. Barack Obama, who gave his most...Read More


A Plague of Biblical Proportions

Filed by David Mariner | December 10, 2007 | 10:58 PM | comments

Presidential Candidates, Democrat and Republican alike laid out their plans to fight HIV/AIDS at the Global AIDS Summit, sponsored by the evangelical Saddle Back Church. Hillary Clinton was the only candidate to appear in-person. Barack Obama, who gave his most...Read More


Happiness is a Balanced Checkbook

Filed by Nina Smith | December 10, 2007 | 7:17 PM | comments

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” – Albert Einstein I balance my checkbook every month. According to Moebs Services, an economic research firm, I’m the minority. They have...Read More


Chronic Indifference: HIV/AIDS Services for Incarcerated Immigrants

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | December 10, 2007 | 3:13 PM | comments

Victoria Arellano -- the trans woman with HIV who died in July after being denied decent medical care in an immigration detention facility for men -- was not an anomaly. On Friday, Human Rights Watch released a 73-page report on...Read More


Chronic Indifference: HIV/AIDS Services for Incarcerated Immigrants

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | December 10, 2007 | 3:13 PM | comments

Victoria Arellano -- the trans woman with HIV who died in July after being denied decent medical care in an immigration detention facility for men -- was not an anomaly. On Friday, Human Rights Watch released a 73-page report on...Read More


Episcopal schism continues...

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 10, 2007 | 2:37 PM | comments

The San Joaquin diocese voted to sever ties with the Episcopal Church Saturday: Clergy and lay members of the Episcopal Diocese of San Joaquin voted 173-22 at their annual convention to remove all references to the national church from the...Read More


Remembering Ali

Filed by Cathy Renna | December 10, 2007 | 11:38 AM | comments

One of the things I wish our community was better at doing is reflection - taking a deep breath and celebrating victories, analyzing defeats and recognizing loss. Instead, we spend far too much time fighting with each other over differences...Read More


Mike Huckabee: Let's round up some homos!

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 10, 2007 | 11:15 AM | comments

Every time I hear someone disparaging the idea of "political correctness", I just roll my eyes because they just don't get it. Which is what I did when I read what Mike Huckabee said yesterday in response to publication of...Read More


My father's logic

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | December 09, 2007 | 12:40 PM | comments

My father fought with logic, that's what he called it: logic. I was the son who was his wife no. The son who was his. No. I couldn't. No. Before logic, maybe even before language I was his. I mean...Read More


Re: Huckabee, Thoughts on HIV and Quarantines

Filed by Dustin Kight | December 08, 2007 | 6:32 PM | comments

As Mike Huckabee gains in the Iowa polls, he no longer gets to play the favored part for an underdog in a presidential race: the underdog, itself. The press love to shoot skeet with rising stars, and Huckabee's getting his...Read More


Re: Huckabee, Thoughts on HIV and Quarantines

Filed by Dustin Kight | December 08, 2007 | 6:32 PM | comments

As Mike Huckabee gains in the Iowa polls, he no longer gets to play the favored part for an underdog in a presidential race: the underdog, itself. The press love to shoot skeet with rising stars, and Huckabee's getting his...Read More


Femme Phobia and Fucking Fabulously

Filed by Fannie Fierce | December 08, 2007 | 12:03 PM | comments

Dear Fannie I'm 18, have a nice body, cute butt, and all that, but nobody on Manhunt hits me up. I think what's causing all the ignores is my femininity. I'm kind of femme, yes, and it probably shows...Read More


Baby fever

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 08, 2007 | 11:30 AM | comments

[Updated at the end of the post] Last night, Jeanine and I watched our friend’s two kids. The older boy is Jake’s age and they are best of pals. They love each other like brothers. No, they are actually nicer...Read More


My Night with Bishop Gene Robinson

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 08, 2007 | 9:00 AM | comments

Anyone who regularly reads my posts and comments knows that I have a bit of an issue with organized religion. You might even say that I am one of those “militant homosexual activists” that automatically dislikes and discounts a person...Read More


Over-reacting to "Under God"

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 07, 2007 | 3:50 PM | comments

Now that Christmas is upon us, the fundamentalists are upping their efforts to keep God in the headlines, along with their fight to keep the word "God" in the Pledge of Allegiance and on U.S. currency. I'm always fascinated by...Read More


Marriage equality, marriage reality

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 07, 2007 | 2:15 PM | comments

Recently, I went to an event to celebrate Marriage Equality in Massachusetts. We are the only state in the nation that allows everyone equal marriage rights. It was a proud, and powerful event. I am married, legally three years, emotionally,...Read More


Top Three Holiday Gifts - for yourself

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 07, 2007 | 1:38 PM | comments

December is the most difficult month I know of, for the majority of gay men and lesbians. Gay men and women everywhere seem to be in emotional high-gear, feeling more sensitive, more defensive, and more reactive to, well, just about...Read More


Romney wants you (not) to look at his religion

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 06, 2007 | 5:12 PM | comments

Mitt Romney delivered a major speech on religion today. Quotations from that speech can be broken down into two categories: "Religion is the effin' most important thing ever" and "Please, please don't judge me based on my religion!" Quotations and...Read More


Serosorting, Barebackers and +'s- %'s Oh My!

Filed by Eric Leven | December 06, 2007 | 3:34 PM | comments

Have you ever read an article about the rise or fall of HIV infection rates and when you reach the end you're either scared out of your mind, angry or have no idea what the hell is going on? Yeah,...Read More


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When Faith Dies: My Reflections on Leaving the Mormon Church

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | December 06, 2007 | 12:53 PM | comments

Yesterday, Mitt Romney delivered a speech on “Faith in America.” Supposedly, he was going to address the Mormon issue once and for all and lay the media’s questions about his religious beliefs to rest. But Romney only used the...Read More


At the beach you could fall in the sand

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | December 06, 2007 | 7:30 AM | comments

When the baby was born I was scared. I was scared for the baby I was scared I was scared I was scared. Probably I'd always been scared, always is a long time, a long time to be scared. The...Read More


Gay Mormon Women: How Oppressed Can You Get?

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | December 05, 2007 | 1:21 PM | comments

This is part two in this week's series about gay Mormons. During the Warren Jeffs trial, I couldn't help but reflect upon the position of women within the Mormon Church. Although the LDS Church has tried to distance itself from...Read More


Happy Hanukkah and everything else

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 05, 2007 | 10:15 AM | comments

Last night was the first night of Hanukkah. We live in a town that is predominantly Jewish. A lot of my friends are Jewish. We have been to many candle lighting nights. Played with dreidels. The kids were just bouncing...Read More


Long Distance Love Open Thread

Filed by Dustin Kight | December 04, 2007 | 6:36 PM | comments

In my 23 years I have been in many long distance relationships. Some were of the puppy love variety. A girl I met a camp became a pen pal girlfriend. A boy I met online, who happened to live across...Read More


This era of black women and HIV/AIDS

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | December 04, 2007 | 1:16 PM | comments

Black women are dying of AIDS, and is anyone doing anything about it? With last week commemorating the 19th Anniversary of World AIDS Day and the United Nation's AIDS - fighting agency overestimating the global impact of the epidemic by...Read More


Gay Mormons: Not an Oxymoron

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | December 04, 2007 | 11:40 AM | comments

A couple of weeks ago, Alex and I started a conversation about Mormonism and the LDS Church’s position on homosexuality. A lot of that discussion revolved around what the Church has to say about gays. But what do gay Mormons...Read More


The Irritant in the Mirror

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 04, 2007 | 11:11 AM | comments

I have a coworker who is driving me insane. She talks loud, and a lot, and always about herself. I have given her every social cue I know - not looking at her, continuing to work while she talks,...Read More


When She Earns More Money Than Me

Filed by Nina Smith | December 03, 2007 | 7:10 PM | comments

“Perfect love cannot be without equality.” - Scottish Proverb Awhile back, a well-known personal finance blogger posed a question (primarily to straight men) as a way to learn if they are / would be bothered by their wives earning more...Read More


Queers F--k Better

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | December 03, 2007 | 10:58 AM | comments

In case you needed more evidence that hets are just worse at putting their o-face on, a new study from Stanford University reveals that college males are having 2.5 times as many orgasms as female college students. “The orgasm gap...Read More


Lost, lost tooth

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 03, 2007 | 8:00 AM | comments

Jake lost his tooth last night. Not only from his mouth, but in the house. I'm sure I'll find it some time soon, and it won't be pretty. Jeanine and I did not remember the lost tooth- the first rendition...Read More


AIDS: Where is Our Rage?

Filed by Michael Crawford | December 02, 2007 | 8:52 AM | comments

The speech below was given yesterday, World AIDS Day, by Charles King, executive director of Housing Works. King is one of the most important AIDS activists today and continues the work that unfortunately so many LGBT activists have abandoned. My...Read More


Getting A Second (Or Maybe A Third) Life (Part 1)

Filed by Rebecca Juro | December 01, 2007 | 6:11 PM | comments

It didn’t happen intentionally. I’d signed up for an account in Second Life some fifteen months ago, last September. Once I’d downloaded the viewer and tried to run it, though, I quickly discovered that the computer I had at the...Read More


World AIDS Day: Greater government and community response to HIV/AIDS epidemic is needed

Filed by Matt Foreman | December 01, 2007 | 10:15 AM | comments

On World AIDS Day, we mourn all the people we have lost to this dreadful disease — our lovers, our friends, our family members, our leaders. Our hearts go out to all those who are now suffering and dying. And...Read More