Living: January 2008

Fairness For All Families Volunteers Primary Day of Action

Filed by Nadine Smith | January 31, 2008 | 7:49 PM | comments

The far right claims to have the signatures to place this on the ballot. Time and the division of elections will tell. In the meantime we continue to prepare to DEFEAT them in November. Here's a quick clip of a...Read More


I've never felt more heterosexual

Filed by Bil Browning | January 31, 2008 | 3:55 PM | comments

Isn't it funny sometimes how much the human animal relies on first impressions? What we see is what we believe. This story starts with Reesie, the crazy mutt that arrived at the back door recently. Her appointment to get fixed...Read More


Ugliness in DC black Baptist church - outing email campaign by homophobic choir member

Filed by Pam Spaulding | January 31, 2008 | 9:02 AM | comments

"I will be leaving the choir at the top of the year because 80 percent of the tenors are homosexuals and act more like a female in choir rehearsal than I do." -- female choir member of the DC-based...Read More


Cooking for Kids

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 31, 2008 | 8:15 AM | comments

Enough about George Bush. I'm going to look forward, not back. I know I've mentioned before how much I love to cook. I love food, textures, tastes, working with them, tasting something and thinking about all the different ingredients. Last...Read More


John Edwards drops out

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 30, 2008 | 3:15 PM | comments

iPhone users: Click to watch video in YouTube App...Read More


I am a poster child with no poster

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 30, 2008 | 2:29 PM | comments

[Ed. note: This guest post come to us from Jennifer Storm, author of Blackout Girl: Growing Up and Drying Out in America.] According to RAINN, The Rape Abuse and Incest Network, nearly 90% of alcoholic women were sexually abused as...Read More


I am a poster child with no poster

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 30, 2008 | 2:29 PM | comments

[Ed. note: This guest post come to us from Jennifer Storm, author of Blackout Girl: Growing Up and Drying Out in America.] According to RAINN, The Rape Abuse and Incest Network, nearly 90% of alcoholic women were sexually abused as...Read More


I am a poster child with no poster

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 30, 2008 | 2:29 PM | comments

[Ed. note: This guest post come to us from Jennifer Storm, author of Blackout Girl: Growing Up and Drying Out in America.] According to RAINN, The Rape Abuse and Incest Network, nearly 90% of alcoholic women were sexually abused as...Read More


She's Just Not That Into You

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | January 30, 2008 | 9:20 AM | comments

A couple of years ago, the gals of Sex and the City learned a valuable lesson: sometimes, "he's just not that into you." iPhone users: Click to watch video in YouTube App...Read More


Thoughts on sexual safety and risk-taking in the era of the internet

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | January 30, 2008 | 8:17 AM | comments

One of the things I like about Randy is that right away we’re having this conversation about sex and risk, I guess that's something that can happen when you meet at a sex club, I mean something that can happen...Read More


Thoughts on sexual safety and risk-taking in the era of the internet

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | January 30, 2008 | 8:17 AM | comments

One of the things I like about Randy is that right away we’re having this conversation about sex and risk, I guess that's something that can happen when you meet at a sex club, I mean something that can happen...Read More


Living A Second Life: Dating, Sex, Work, And Looking Good While Doing It

Filed by Rebecca Juro | January 30, 2008 | 1:24 AM | comments

[Some of the terms used here which are specific to Second Life are defined in Getting A Second (Or Maybe A Third) Life.] As I entered Second Life for the first time in earnest, I still thought of it in...Read More


Obama’s playing us stupid

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | January 29, 2008 | 4:07 PM | comments

Is it mere happenstance that once again, and seemingly unbeknownst to the Obama campaign, another anti-gay African American minister has endorsed the presidential hopeful? But with an Obama endorsement coming from the Rev. Kirbyjon Caldwell, longtime spiritual adviser to President...Read More


State of the Union HIV Hypocrisy

Filed by Waymon Hudson | January 29, 2008 | 12:27 PM | comments

While there were many horrible things about Bush’s SOTU last night, I think what offended and disgusted me the most was his hypocrisy on HIV/AIDS. The administration has drastically slashed funding for HIV programs in our country, but Bush holds...Read More


TCR on Mormon Church leader's death: It was murder

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 29, 2008 | 9:39 AM | comments

Does Mitt Romney look like Guy Smiley to you all too? I think the resemblance is uncanny - Smiley is Romney Muppified:...Read More


How to Survive a Long Marriage

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 29, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

While I was standing in line at the grocery store, I was looking over all the magazines. What engages people today- I mean, do we really care how Larry King is trying to combat heart disease? I saw one headline...Read More


Subprime Mortgage Crisis Meets LGBTQ Families?

Filed by Dustin Kight | January 29, 2008 | 7:33 AM | comments

I've been doing some poking around online about the subprime mortgage crisis, specificially looking to see if there are reports of it affecting LGBTQ couples/families in any particular ways. I'm no housing expert, so I'm not sure how the defaults...Read More


Subprime Mortgage Crisis Meets LGBTQ Families?

Filed by Dustin Kight | January 29, 2008 | 7:33 AM | comments

I've been doing some poking around online about the subprime mortgage crisis, specificially looking to see if there are reports of it affecting LGBTQ couples/families in any particular ways. I'm no housing expert, so I'm not sure how the defaults...Read More


Don't expect health care reform in 2009

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 28, 2008 | 3:07 PM | comments

For all the talk of health care this time around, the New England Journal of Medicine is warning us that American health care isn't in crisis in any way that would translate into substantive reform. The argument responds to the...Read More


Sak vide pas kanpe

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 28, 2008 | 11:39 AM | comments

iPhone users: Click to watch video in YouTube App Several weeks ago Waymon and I got into a comments discussion about the origins of homophobia. It's a big question and one I hope our community activist and media folks, as...Read More


"this prayer," or, Why I Love Lynda Barry

Filed by Gina de Vries | January 27, 2008 | 11:25 PM | comments

I've been cleaning and re-organizing my room all weekend. While going through my pile of Things to Put Up On My Walls, I found a somewhat tattered photocopy of this amazing and heartbreaking Lynda Barry comic. Dispel any rumors you've...Read More


"this prayer," or, Why I Love Lynda Barry

Filed by Gina de Vries | January 27, 2008 | 11:25 PM | comments

I've been cleaning and re-organizing my room all weekend. While going through my pile of Things to Put Up On My Walls, I found a somewhat tattered photocopy of this amazing and heartbreaking Lynda Barry comic. Dispel any rumors you've...Read More


"this prayer," or, Why I Love Lynda Barry

Filed by Gina de Vries | January 27, 2008 | 11:25 PM | comments

I've been cleaning and re-organizing my room all weekend. While going through my pile of Things to Put Up On My Walls, I found a somewhat tattered photocopy of this amazing and heartbreaking Lynda Barry comic. Dispel any rumors you've...Read More


A Fistful of Dollars...er, Euros

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 27, 2008 | 4:21 PM | comments

Among the themes here at Bilerico, I notice that posts about the economic crisis get the least attention. In our media, most of us LGBT folk love to argue fiercely about our in-house political issues, and of course we pay...Read More


A Fistful of Dollars...er, Euros

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 27, 2008 | 4:21 PM | comments

Among the themes here at Bilerico, I notice that posts about the economic crisis get the least attention. In our media, most of us LGBT folk love to argue fiercely about our in-house political issues, and of course we pay...Read More


It's A White Transwoman Thang

Filed by Monica Roberts | January 26, 2008 | 7:35 PM | comments

One of the things that's been a contentious issue ever since I transitioned in 1994 and have been around the transgender community is this ongoing battle between the pre-ops/non-ops and post-ops. Frankly, that's more of a white transwoman thang that...Read More


Bad dogs

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 26, 2008 | 7:30 PM | comments

My dog has been hanging around with a bad influence. Her name is Hannah. She's a bad dog. Bad bad bad. Beanie loves Hannah. Reminds me of my first girlfriend. Beautiful, smart and deeply troubled. Whenever Hannah's owner pulls up,...Read More


My unplanned sabbatical...

Filed by Mike Rogers | January 26, 2008 | 5:05 PM | comments

Sometimes you wake up and just don't want to go to work. You're not quite sure what's wrong so you call in sick. Sick of Work. Amid the trips, developing the new site over at PageOneQ and an extraordinary amount...Read More


The Other Side: A Queer History

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 26, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

We don't know enough about our history as LGBT people. In a lot of ways that's because we have been straight-washed out history books, schools and libraries. But, we have also not done enough to seek out, collect and share...Read More


First Musings

Filed by Monica Roberts | January 25, 2008 | 6:48 PM | comments

Before I get this post started, I wanted to say thank you to my fellow Bilerico Project contributors and everybody who sent me e-mail, either publicly or privately congratulating me on becoming a Project contributor. It's deeply appreciated. Now that...Read More


Popular party

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 25, 2008 | 2:45 PM | comments

The babysitter filled us in about Ben's desire to have a "popular party." Ben's term. He only wants the popular kids here. He was on his cell phone all night trying to arrange it- while Jeanine and I were out....Read More


Popular party

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 25, 2008 | 2:45 PM | comments

The babysitter filled us in about Ben's desire to have a "popular party." Ben's term. He only wants the popular kids here. He was on his cell phone all night trying to arrange it- while Jeanine and I were out....Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 10-12

Filed by Michele O'Mara | January 25, 2008 | 1:04 PM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 7-9, this week I am sharing strategies 10-12. Look for more strategies next...Read More


Hillary Clinton Talks About Preventing LGBT Youth Suicide

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 25, 2008 | 10:34 AM | comments

Hillary Clinton took out some time to answer some questions from young voters sent in via email, Twitter, Facebook etc. including a question about preventing suicide among LGBT youth. The question and Clinton's answer comes about 3:22 into the clip....Read More


The loneliness of a healthy "I"

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 25, 2008 | 9:26 AM | comments

I'm sick! I don't know with what exactly. Flu? Cold? Strep throat? I have a bad taste in my mouth, a sore throat, a bad cough, the chills, and constant fatigue. I don't know what that recipe makes. Ironically enough,...Read More


The loneliness of a healthy "I"

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 25, 2008 | 9:26 AM | comments

I'm sick! I don't know with what exactly. Flu? Cold? Strep throat? I have a bad taste in my mouth, a sore throat, a bad cough, the chills, and constant fatigue. I don't know what that recipe makes. Ironically enough,...Read More


Call and Email Nancy Pelosi to Demand Action on Medicaid

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 25, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Editor's note: This call to action comes to us from our friends at Campaign to End AIDS. Tell Speaker Pelosi the Stimulus Package Must Include a Boost for Medicaid Medicaid — the single largest payer for HIV/AIDS care in the...Read More


Terrifying Threesomes!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | January 25, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, I'm a straight man, mid-twenties, and I have an amazing, fantastic, sexy, girlfriend. We've been together for about a year now and she's fulfilled pretty much every fantasy I've ever had. We've even had a few FMF...Read More


Newsflash: Presidential Politics, Not Where It's At

Filed by Dustin Kight | January 24, 2008 | 11:03 PM | comments

After a brief hiatus, I'm back with a vengeance! I'm sick of all this primary stuff! Boo to the primaries! We need a reality check. The Democratic contenders are all "on our side," more so than any other viable candidates...Read More


Confessions of a Middle-Aged Transinista

Filed by Mercedes Allen | January 24, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This guest post is by Mercedes Allen. Mercedes' guest post from last week, Transbigotry, was one of the most popular posts of the week. For today's entry, Mercedes asked to blog about some of the controversy surrounding her...Read More


Clinton, Obama spar on health care

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 24, 2008 | 8:28 AM | comments

The latest from the Hillary camp on Obama on health care (via JMG): I don't know if it's a great strategy to push the fact that your opponent once held a better position than you currently do on one of...Read More


Legalized Extortion

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 24, 2008 | 8:13 AM | comments

I'm on the warpath about blood-sucking financial practices in the U.S., that drain the life out of many of us, a drop of blood at a time. Last time I wrote about legalized loan-sharking. This time I'm going to bark...Read More


Legalized Extortion

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 24, 2008 | 8:13 AM | comments

I'm on the warpath about blood-sucking financial practices in the U.S., that drain the life out of many of us, a drop of blood at a time. Last time I wrote about legalized loan-sharking. This time I'm going to bark...Read More


When did sweet and dirty become opposites?

Filed by Gina de Vries | January 23, 2008 | 7:39 PM | comments

I went to see uber-adorable indie queer recording artist Mirah in concert last night. I have an even softer soft spot for her music after seeing her live. She's indie rock without being tragically, oh-so-cool-hipster. She talked about feeling awkward...Read More


Parade Magazine on health care: Let's rock and roll

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 23, 2008 | 3:03 PM | comments

Parade Magazine, that Sunday insert famous for celeb gossip, exclusive photo-shoots with the hottest reality TV stars, and Marilyn vos Savant's logic games column, had an article this past Sunday about how to fight your health insurance company. Denial of...Read More


Your first kiss open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | January 23, 2008 | 11:55 AM | comments

As I was going through a bunch of old photographs, I found this one. His name was Scott and he was my first kiss. (Even before I kissed a girl!) We were both 10 and he had the bunk underneath...Read More


Snake Oil for Meth Addiction - Only $15,000

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 23, 2008 | 11:10 AM | comments

Editor's note: This guest post is by Jim Pickett who runs the LifeLube blog and is co-chair of Chicago's LGBT Task Force on Substance Use and Abuse (formerly the Chicago Crystal Meth Task Force.) Prometa is a controversial and unproven...Read More


The good ol' boys at the Concerned Women for America are too stupid to be described in one post

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 23, 2008 | 7:08 AM | comments

So I won't even try. They've put out a press release calling on HRC, the Task Force, GLAAD, and Lambda Legal to condemn (several types of) gay male sex. Seriously. I was thinking about writing a 70-some-odd-point ordered list of...Read More


Stop Fighting!

Filed by Michele O'Mara | January 22, 2008 | 10:53 PM | comments

How can my partner and I stop fighting? ~ Fussin' Fools You're not alone! In fact, I just wrote a response about cranky couples last week, and while I'm on a fussy role, I will share with you an...Read More


New Canadian law makes gay organ donors illegal

Filed by Bil Browning | January 22, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

This special report/rant comes to us from north of the border, where a new law has gone into affect outlawing gay men (and prisoners!) from donating organs after they die. Shades of US blood donations, anyone?...Read More


35 years after Roe, the right tries a new tactic: exploiting men

Filed by Jen Jorczak | January 22, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Today is the 35th anniversary of the landmark Supreme Court decision Roe v. Wade. You probably already know that Roe struck down state laws outlawing abortion, but unless it's part of your job description (as it is mine) to keep...Read More


MLK Day open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | January 21, 2008 | 8:15 AM | comments

Today is Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. We honor King's dream of equality and freedom, but let's talk about our own dreams. While it is, of course, honorable to look back and remember, let's look ahead today and dream a...Read More


South Dakota's AIDS offenders

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 20, 2008 | 3:45 PM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] The following guest post comes to us from Thomas Heald. When not slaving away for "The Man," he has researched and written for Ogilvy Public Relations, David Letterman’s World Wide Pants Inc., RawStoryQ/PageOneQ.com, a long running "mutated TV...Read More


CDC Statement on Gay Men and Drug Resistant Staph

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 19, 2008 | 9:07 AM | comments

The Center for Disease Control released a statement to shed some light on the recent story about drug resistant staph infections among gay men that has anti-gay activists in full fledged gay sex panic mode. This sane perspective on MRSA...Read More


I'm... too sexy for my boyfriend!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | January 19, 2008 | 9:05 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, I'm a bit of a pickle. I'm a second year in college and in my first monogomous relationship since coming out a year ago. But, I'm an attractive guy and when I go out I tendto get...Read More


Marriage as Perks

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 18, 2008 | 5:27 PM | comments

Ten years ago, I published a long essay about how marriage can equal perks. With the discussion raging on, the issues haven't really changed. I'd like to make some of these points again: When the American Revolution separated church and...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 7-9

Filed by Michele O'Mara | January 18, 2008 | 11:22 AM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 4-6, this week I am sharing strategies 7-9. Look for three more strategies...Read More


Transbigotry?

Filed by Mercedes Allen | January 17, 2008 | 8:30 PM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This post comes to us from Mercedes Allen. She lives in western Canada and blogs at Dented Blue Mercedes. When I was about three or four years old - enough to be talking but not enough to be...Read More


Gay Sex Equals Death! Again! Always!

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 17, 2008 | 8:52 AM | comments

Oh, those gay men are at it again. Or is it antibiotic use? In San Francisco on Monday, it was reported “A new variety of staph bacteria, highly resistant to antibiotics and possibly transmitted by sexual contact, is spreading among...Read More


Sodomy, the Final Frontier

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 16, 2008 | 7:51 PM | comments

A New York construction worker is suing a hospital for performing a rectal exam to check for spinal injury after a wooden beam hit his forehead. I'm not going to get into the specifics of the case because the...Read More


PlanetOut and the Pink Peril

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 16, 2008 | 2:20 PM | comments

It's a sad end for a big corporate dream. According to BMO Capital Markets, "Struggling gay and lesbian media and entertainment company PlanetOut Inc. [LGBT] late Monday said it has retained Allen & Company LLC to assist it in evaluating...Read More


Gay Sex Panic and Drug Resistant Staph

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 16, 2008 | 12:55 PM | comments

Now that drug resistant staph infection has been found among gay men all of a sudden its big news with much wringing of hands and warnings about gay sex. Never mind that there is nothing inherently "gay" about the ways...Read More


Shower Scare from Anti-Trans Group

Filed by Waymon Hudson | January 16, 2008 | 10:49 AM | comments

In response to a recently passed act banning "discrimination in housing, employment, public accommodations, cable television service, and taxicab service on the basis of gender identity" in Montgomery County, Maryland, the group Citizens for a Responsible Government has started a...Read More


Ben and the mink

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 16, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

I know the world is going to hell in a hand basket. Citigroup lost billions. Stock market is tanking, oil prices rising, and average Americans who thought they might retire someday are realizing it's a ridiculous, outdated notion. I know...Read More


Are you a 1st or 2nd choice girlfriend?

Filed by Michele O'Mara | January 15, 2008 | 8:54 PM | comments

I met my girlfriend 5 months ago. At the time (and still) she was in a relationship for 10 years. We started off casual then after 3 months our feelings turned into love. She is scheduled to leave the...Read More


The Gay Divorcee

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 15, 2008 | 5:45 PM | comments

Being a gay divorcee is not much fun. Nothing like what you see in the movies. The reality is it’s hard on you; it’s hard on everyone around you. If you’ve had the fortune of being married a long...Read More


Health care, schmealth care: What the candidates are getting for themselves

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 15, 2008 | 10:57 AM | comments

NPR has a great report up about the presidential candidates' and their personal health insurance. Interesting, as we can tell about people's values from the space between what they tell others to put up with and what they get for...Read More


Hoosiers in the news

Filed by Bil Browning | January 15, 2008 | 9:50 AM | comments

It's times like this that I cringe when I say I'm from Indiana. We don't always produce the best and brightest... Hey - let's just hope he's not part of our community, eh? KOKOMO, Ind. -- Police said a man...Read More


WWJKD?

Filed by Bruce Parker | January 14, 2008 | 6:14 PM | comments

While being adamantly not religious, because of my Southern upbringing during time of stress apparently I still pray. Sybil, my Ph.D. pursuing partner and colleague, never hesitates to remind me of the fact that when I am stressed, relieved, or...Read More


WWJKD?

Filed by Bruce Parker | January 14, 2008 | 6:14 PM | comments

While being adamantly not religious, because of my Southern upbringing during time of stress apparently I still pray. Sybil, my Ph.D. pursuing partner and colleague, never hesitates to remind me of the fact that when I am stressed, relieved, or...Read More


What Does it take to be Gay? Open Thread

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 13, 2008 | 11:14 AM | comments

I came across comment while reading Andrew Sullivan's blog. It got me to thinking about what it means to be gay. It's clear from the nearly overwhelming diversity of LGBT people that there is more than one way to be...Read More


2008 Tragic, Fabulous and Hopefully Not Failures: Hillary and Britney

Filed by Bruce Parker | January 12, 2008 | 7:02 PM | comments

I LOVE THIS VIDEO! 2008 may very well be shaping up as the year of the tragic diva for me. I find myself falling into what I will call the Kelly k-hole, but this time it's even more insidious....Read More


Legalized Loan-sharking

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 12, 2008 | 1:15 PM | comments

The human face of all the devastation created by the credit industry is finally looming on the news. Yesterday, news media put the spotlight on Cleveland mayor Frank Jackson. His Honor is mad as hell at what home foreclosures and...Read More


HIV positions of Presidential contenders?

Filed by Sean Kosofsky | January 11, 2008 | 7:35 PM | comments

Recently the Gay Men’s Health Crisis unveiled a new report analyzing the positions on HIV/AIDS of all the presidential candidates. Here is a brief summary written by my awesome intern Alex Boskovich. I think you will find it interesting....Read More


Open Comment to Barack Obama on Religious Tolerance

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 11, 2008 | 4:39 PM | comments

Dear Mr. Obama, In 2006 you made a speech at the Call to Renewal's "Building a Covenant for a New America" conference. The speech is often cited today as your position on religion in public life. I think it's great...Read More


Fending off Friend-o-philia

Filed by Fannie Fierce | January 11, 2008 | 11:54 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, GWM student here. My problem is that I’m beginning to suspect that one of my close friends has a crush on me. I can’t be sure of it because he’s never made any kind of overt gesture,...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: #4-6

Filed by Michele O'Mara | January 11, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 1-3, this week I am sharing strategies 4-6. Look for three more strategies...Read More


Best of the worst open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | January 11, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

While we've gone orange today to protest Guantanamo Bay's 6th anniversary, I'd like to know what you think is the absolute worst atrocity the Bush administration has committed. I know, plenty of room for comment. LOL...Read More


Irreplaceable: Three Days with Darren & His Mom

Filed by Steve Ralls | January 10, 2008 | 7:30 PM | comments

For the past three days, I've had the privilege of spending time with Army Sergeant Darren Manzella, the openly gay medic who recently came out on 60 Minutes, and his amazing mother, Nancy. Darren and his mom (pictured, below) came...Read More


Midwest Teen Sex Show

Filed by Eric Leven | January 10, 2008 | 12:14 PM | comments

The black space of American teenage sexual education may have met its biggest foe. Who needs to worry about what's being left out of text books when you have the Internet? Welcome, ladies and gentlemen, to the Midwest Teen Sex...Read More


"That's Hot" Open Thread

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 10, 2008 | 11:34 AM | comments

A friend reminded me the other day that Mid-Atlantic Leather is coming up here in D.C. and I instantly had visions of leather daddies and muscle boys in fatigues just low enough that you can see the waistband of their...Read More


Open doorway

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 10, 2008 | 10:15 AM | comments

I said there were a few moments of real clarity for me while I was away in Costa Rica. Some were inspired by the beauty around me. Some, from my friends, some my family. I would catch a glimpse of...Read More


Children Ask, Children Tell: Iraq war vet struggles to raise sons while closeted

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 10, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This guest post is from friend of the blog, Dana Rudolph. Dana is the founder and publisher of Mombian, a blog and resource directory for LGBT parents. This post is also being published today in Bay Windows, New...Read More


Size Matters

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | January 09, 2008 | 11:15 AM | comments

2007 was the year of the big girl. Jennifer Hudson received a Golden Globe and an Oscar for her portrayal of Effie in "Dream Girls." She was also on the March cover of Vogue. (I don't really think Jennifer counts...Read More


Age Disparity in Love

Filed by Michele O'Mara | January 08, 2008 | 2:46 PM | comments

I'm 23, my partner is 60. Age disparity isn't really seen much and doing multiple searches on the internet I really didn't find much advice for someone who is in a relationship like mine. Are there others out there...Read More


I didn't wake up dead!

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | January 08, 2008 | 1:35 PM | comments

I have breast cancer. I tell you this to better accept the blow that has struck me. I look at the horror and shock in your face of this news to assess whether I am experiencing this moment in real...Read More


I didn't wake up dead!

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | January 08, 2008 | 1:35 PM | comments

I have breast cancer. I tell you this to better accept the blow that has struck me. I look at the horror and shock in your face of this news to assess whether I am experiencing this moment in real...Read More


NYC Examines Bathhouse Policy, Suggests Closure

Filed by Eric Leven | January 08, 2008 | 12:51 PM | comments

An article in Gay City News titled "Examining Bathhouse Policy, NYC Says HIV Infections Up" details NYC's re-examination of bathhouse policy in light of increasing HIV infection rates and suggests either stricter rules and/or complete closure of businesses and parties....Read More


LOLcats translates the Bible

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 08, 2008 | 11:56 AM | comments

This may be the cutest blasphemy online. Cute Overload found these ambitious kids trying to translate the entire Bible into "kitty pidgin". Genesis 1 starts out with: 1 Oh hai. In teh beginnin Ceiling Cat maded teh skiez An da...Read More


Drag party time!

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 08, 2008 | 9:10 AM | comments

Okay, Walter just walked in and told me I better get my ass in gear and have a song, a dress, and a persona for the drag party that is happening in two weeks. Every year, there is a party....Read More


Smoke and Fire on LGBT Hiring

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 07, 2008 | 9:04 PM | comments

The day that Iowa’s primary results hit the news, another event almost got lost in the election uproar. The national unemployment rate has soared to a two-year high of 5 percent. Beyond what ENDA ought to be doing for us,...Read More


Pony Up or Put Out

Filed by Nina Smith | January 07, 2008 | 7:11 PM | comments

“The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender.”...Read More


A good vacation always queers my head

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 07, 2008 | 3:58 PM | comments

I just got back towards the end of last week from visiting my brother in Germany. It was good - he's the straight, frat bro sort who joined the Air Force right out of college about a year into the...Read More


May God Be Your Co-Parent...Or Else!

Filed by Terrance Heath | January 07, 2008 | 3:18 PM | comments

That's what I thought when I read about John and Cynthia Burke, after someone linked to the article in a comment on my post at Pam's. After six years of childless marriage, John and Cynthia Burke of Newark decided to...Read More


May God Be Your Co-Parent...Or Else!

Filed by Terrance Heath | January 07, 2008 | 3:18 PM | comments

That's what I thought when I read about John and Cynthia Burke, after someone linked to the article in a comment on my post at Pam's. After six years of childless marriage, John and Cynthia Burke of Newark decided to...Read More


What do I need?

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 07, 2008 | 12:25 PM | comments

One of the striking images of Costa Rica was the poverty. And Costa Rica is wealthy by many standards, although they suffer a high inflation rate, and have had a struggling economy until recently. But they have a 96% literacy...Read More


My goofy tax form package and the "Marriage Protection Amendment" (SJR-7)

Filed by Don Sherfick | January 07, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Indiana General Assembly Member: I know you’re plenty busy with the property tax mess this short session, but I just got my State Income Tax booklet and am very confused. I hope you can help me. The tax instructions...Read More


The Breast Holy War

Filed by Marti Abernathey | January 06, 2008 | 6:06 PM | comments

Apparently the next fight in the American holy war is against women's breasts. The war front in this battle is a Catholic hospital in Dale City, California. The first shot across the bow (or breasts) hit Charlene Hastings in the...Read More


The best part was that I could walk out into the vanity area

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | January 06, 2008 | 10:32 AM | comments

Remember that movie Kids? There are a lot of things wrong with it, and everything by Larry Clark, starting with the way there's no possibility for kids to actually learn anything, ever, they just play out their mistakes for all...Read More


Resolve to be suspicious and read the fine print

Filed by Jen Jorczak | January 05, 2008 | 11:50 AM | comments

So, it's a new year, and like many people, I've been thinking about things I could be doing better in my life--I won't go as far as to say I've made resolutions because mine always seem doomed to fail, but...Read More


HIV Prevention Funding Cuts Make No Sense

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 05, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

I think its fair to say that President Bush and members of Congress don't really give a damn about preventing HIV infections. How else would you explain six consecutive years of cuts to federal funding for HIV prevention programs? What's...Read More


Lifelong Companion

Filed by Eric Leven | January 04, 2008 | 3:23 PM | comments

Dear Virus, I was born on June 24th 1981- the same year you would be discovered. 18 years later, sitting on the living room floor of my suburban New Jersey home, a stream of tears running down my face I...Read More


Not Buying It: Alternatives to Hyperconsumption in 2008

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | January 04, 2008 | 2:47 PM | comments

I kept being "too busy" to watch The Story of Stuff (full video after the jump) when it came out in December, but I finally pushed the deadlines aside for 20 minutes this morning to check it out. This engaging...Read More


Not Buying It: Alternatives to Hyperconsumption in 2008

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | January 04, 2008 | 2:47 PM | comments

I kept being "too busy" to watch The Story of Stuff (full video after the jump) when it came out in December, but I finally pushed the deadlines aside for 20 minutes this morning to check it out. This engaging...Read More


The Future of Anal Sex

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 04, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

[Editor's Note:] This guest post is by Jim Pickett, director of advocacy for AIDS Foundation Chicago. Jim is also chair of the Chicago Crystal Meth Task Force and chair of the International Rectal Microbicide Advocates. Most of us use lube...Read More


The Hub

Filed by Sara Whitman | January 04, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

A lot of things became much clearer to me while I was away. A friend had said to me, as I was leaving, You’re the hub, you know. You are what draws everyone in. I laughed. I do not feel...Read More


My whole face scrunches up like I'm looking at something in a horror movie

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | January 04, 2008 | 8:45 AM | comments

Maybe I should add some red cabbage to the collard greens, that's what I'm thinking -- there's an old red cabbage at the bottom of this drawer, let me see if it's still okay. I pick it up in the...Read More


Sexy French PSA controversy

Filed by Alex Blaze | January 04, 2008 | 8:17 AM | comments

The National Health Education and Prevention Institute (Inpes), the advertising arm of the French Ministry of Health, Youth, and Sports, has put out the ad on the left. I got it on the back of the most recent Tetu, France's...Read More


Toy Story!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | January 04, 2008 | 1:01 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, My girl and I have been together for two years and are madly in love. She is very shy about sexuality, I am her first lover, and in her culture talking about sex is taboo. I hoped...Read More


Happy new year...!

Filed by Brynn Craffey | January 03, 2008 | 4:58 PM | comments

Happy 2008 to the Bilerico community!!! May it be a healthy, joyful, peaceful and prosperous year for all of us and our loved ones and allies. And may it bring to the White House a president courageous and determined enough...Read More


From Three to Four

Filed by Terrance Heath | January 03, 2008 | 1:40 PM | comments

I've hinted at it a few times, but hesitated to say anything about it until. Given what happened last time, I'm somewhat reluctant to say much about it even now. But there's a limit to how long one can keep...Read More


Soylent Red, White and Blue

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | January 03, 2008 | 12:33 PM | comments

Over New Year's, I had a sobering conversation with a retired friend who lives in Oklahoma. Sobering because, these days, it's a conversation that I find myself having more often with people my age. My friend is 67, and needs...Read More


Equality cuts deeper than Huckabee's personal religious views?

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 03, 2008 | 9:10 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This guest post is by Brent Childers. Brent serves as executive director of Faith In America, a North Carolina-based organization that works to educate Americans about the harm caused by religion-based bigotry. GOP presidential candidate Mike Huckabee in...Read More


Pope: Gays will eat your children

Filed by Bil Browning | January 02, 2008 | 1:48 PM | comments

Ah, that darn Pope! He's such an over-achiever! Not content to simply call us an abomination and knock off early for a bottle of baby seal blood, Pope Benedict the Fearsome always has to take things one step too far....Read More


HIV Infections Rise Among NYC Young Gay Men

Filed by Michael Crawford | January 02, 2008 | 1:01 PM | comments

While HIV infection rates in NYC appear on the decline, HIV infection rates among young gay/bi men are on the rise. The number of new H.I.V. infections in men under 30 who have sex with men has increased sharply in...Read More


The Cranky Couple

Filed by Michele O'Mara | January 01, 2008 | 10:13 AM | comments

Why do my girlfriend and I argue so much? We love each other, but we just argue at least once a week. ~The Cranky Couple...Read More


New Years open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | January 01, 2008 | 6:31 AM | comments

Since traffic and content are both pretty light on holidays, I thought I'd put up an open thread so those of us still around can entertain each other! *grins* You get to make one resolution that - through the magic...Read More