Living: February 2008
Are We Doing Enough to Stop Bullying at School?
Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | February 29, 2008 | 8:58 PM |When I entered Powell County High School in 1949, the boys called me "Nellie the Horse." Back in the day, "Nellie" was understood as a generic reference to horses, like the word "Fido" for dogs. But it was also a...Read More
Remembering a life and demanding change
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 29, 2008 | 11:45 AM |Community leaders, family, friends, and LGBT activists gathered yeserday at an emotional vigil to honor the life of 17-year-old gay teenager, Simmie Williams Jr, at the spot where he was murdered last week in what many consider a hate-crime. Among...Read More
Tonight On The Rebecca Juro Show: Dr. Aviva Nubel
Filed by Rebecca Juro | February 28, 2008 | 5:04 PM |Dr. Aviva Nubel returns to "The Rebecca Juro Show" to update us on new developments in her case. Dr. Nubel was forced to give up her license when a couple of selfish transwomen reported her to the New Jersey State...Read More
Tribeca's crossdressing lawyer/hooker
Filed by Bil Browning | February 28, 2008 | 3:00 PM |Discuss. It's a busy day, but I didn't want to leave you hanging. iPhone users: Click to watch...Read More
50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 21-22
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 28, 2008 | 11:27 AM |In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 19-20, this week I am sharing strategies 21-22. Look for more strategies next...Read More
Valaida Snow: Black and queer in Nazi Germany?!
Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | February 28, 2008 | 9:35 AM |Missing from the annals of African American history and the history of Nazi Germany are the documented stories and struggles of African Americans, straight and "queer." Valaida Snow, captured in Nazi- occupied Copenhagen and interned in a concentration camp for...Read More
No Sex, Please. We're Parents.
Filed by Terrance Heath | February 27, 2008 | 4:01 PM |First of all, this post is not what you think it's about. (Though I could write style-crampin' aspects of having an infant who doesn't sleep through the night yet. Suffice it to say that the spirit is willing but the...Read More
No Sex, Please. We're Parents.
Filed by Terrance Heath | February 27, 2008 | 4:01 PM |First of all, this post is not what you think it's about. (Though I could write style-crampin' aspects of having an infant who doesn't sleep through the night yet. Suffice it to say that the spirit is willing but the...Read More
No Sex, Please. We're Parents.
Filed by Terrance Heath | February 27, 2008 | 4:01 PM |First of all, this post is not what you think it's about. (Though I could write style-crampin' aspects of having an infant who doesn't sleep through the night yet. Suffice it to say that the spirit is willing but the...Read More
Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, Don’t Forget
Filed by Eric Marcus | February 27, 2008 | 2:15 PM |Back in the early 1990’s, the thought of a Clinton in the White House gave me the warm fuzzies. Bill Clinton was the first candidate for president to so openly embrace gay people and invite us to be a part...Read More
An Unsettling Trend of Anti-Gay Violence in South Florida
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 27, 2008 | 11:23 AM |I am very disturbed with the recent string of anti-gay crimes in Broward County, Florida, home of Fort Lauderdale. First, there was the senseless murder of 17 year-old Simmie Williams Jr, which Police are investigating as a possible hate crime...Read More
No more eye candy for me, I'm full!
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 27, 2008 | 10:35 AM |I don't think I've talked much about my bizarre relationship with food here, but I think that I'm not alone on this one. Language is itself a system of symbols used to signify concrete objects and actions, but in the...Read More
Indianapolis Gears Up to Dine Out on Thursday, April 24th
Filed by Bil Browning | February 27, 2008 | 8:45 AM |For the 13th year, the Damien Center and Indianapolis-area restaurants are partnering to serve up an important event to fight HIV/AIDS. Dining Out for Life will take place on Thursday, April 24th and everyone is invited to dine out at...Read More
Indianapolis Gears Up to Dine Out on Thursday, April 24th
Filed by Bil Browning | February 27, 2008 | 8:45 AM |For the 13th year, the Damien Center and Indianapolis-area restaurants are partnering to serve up an important event to fight HIV/AIDS. Dining Out for Life will take place on Thursday, April 24th and everyone is invited to dine out at...Read More
Email Inbox: My Story
Filed by Eric Leven | February 26, 2008 | 12:48 PM |I wouldn't be posting this if I didn't feel it was important to share or if I didn't feel it might help others in the same situation. About a week or so ago I received an email in my inbox...Read More
Queering time
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 26, 2008 | 12:44 PM |I lived alone So I took him home He doesn't love me But he keeps me company Everything's alright -Kimya Dawson You know those criticisms of gay male culture that chide gay men to see the big picture, think about...Read More
I'm Pissed Off
Filed by Monica Roberts | February 26, 2008 | 10:50 AM |I'm not a happy camper this morning. A little after midnight EST I received a long distance phone call from a dear friend, who proceeded to shock me by revealing how despondent she was over some accumulated negativity in her...Read More
Darren Manzella on Coming Out, Speaking Up... and Staying In
Filed by Steve Ralls | February 26, 2008 | 9:10 AM |Many Bilerico readers have been closely following the story of Army Sergeant Darren Manzella, the openly gay Army medic who 'came out' in December during an interview with 60 Minutes. As we reported here on the site in late December,...Read More
Parental Pride
Filed by Sara Whitman | February 25, 2008 | 8:15 PM |I have told many stories about my kids. Some funny, some sad, and always, I am proud of them. But this letter Jake wrote, still has me beaming. Last weekend, Jake and Allan were watching "Storm Chasers" on the weather...Read More
$2 for the bus and he never came back
Filed by Bil Browning | February 25, 2008 | 10:10 AM |Another sad case of a gay youth gunned down in public. What's the headline? "Gay teen shot dead while dressed as woman in Fort Lauderdale". "I gave him $2 for the bus and he never came back," said Denise King,...Read More
Black LGBT History Day 25: James Richmond Barthe
Filed by H. Alexander Robinson | February 25, 2008 | 9:49 AM |Source: http://www.glbtq.com/arts/barthe_jr.html James Richmond Barthé (1901 - 1989) was a popular African-American sculptor associated with the Harlem Renaissance. He used his art as a means of working out internal conflicts related to race and sexuality. Born on January 28, 1901,...Read More
Freeheld
Filed by Terrance Heath | February 25, 2008 | 12:54 AM |I can count on one hand the times that an Oscar win caused me to jump up and down in the middle of my living room, out of excitement. And there are even fewer that have brought a tear to...Read More
Yes, I Am
Filed by Cathy Renna | February 24, 2008 | 11:59 AM |No, this is not a post about Melissa Etheridge. It is about something I had the honor of working on the past few weeks - the largest bequest ever to LGBT and AIDS/HIV groups. Ric Weiland, one of the first...Read More
Same Crap, Different Boobs? No Thanks.
Filed by Sara Whitman | February 24, 2008 | 11:15 AM |Jeanine is coming home today. I have really missed her. I've missed being near her, touching her, sleeping with her, but mostly? I've missed talking with her. Not to but with. We actually talk now. Not just about stuff and...Read More
Black LGBT History Day 24: Audre Lourde
Filed by H. Alexander Robinson | February 24, 2008 | 10:41 AM |The work of African-American activist and writer Audre Lorde was greatly influenced by her lesbianism. Born on February 18, 1934, in New York City of West Indian parents, Lorde was educated at Hunter College and Columbia University. On completing a...Read More
Statement from Barack Obama on the death of Lawrence King
Filed by Bil Browning | February 23, 2008 | 7:15 PM |Just in from the Obama campaign: “It was heartbreaking to learn about Lawrence King’s death, and my thoughts and prayers go out to his family. King’s senseless death is a tragic example of the corrosive effect that bigotry and fear...Read More
What if learning to drive were like abstinence-only education?
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 23, 2008 | 5:54 PM |Suzanne Kleid wrote up a driver's ed class that works in the abstinence-only tradition. Here's a bit: And for those of you wondering if it's OK for you to learn to drive because you're gay and can't get legally married,...Read More
What if learning to drive were like abstinence-only education?
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 23, 2008 | 5:54 PM |Suzanne Kleid wrote up a driver's ed class that works in the abstinence-only tradition. Here's a bit: And for those of you wondering if it's OK for you to learn to drive because you're gay and can't get legally married,...Read More
Irreplaceable Allies
Filed by Steve Ralls | February 22, 2008 | 7:45 PM |As first reported by PageOneQ earlier this week, I will be stepping down from my post as communications director for Servicemembers Legal Defense Network at the end of next week, and joining one of our community's most important organizations -...Read More
Irreplaceable Allies
Filed by Steve Ralls | February 22, 2008 | 7:45 PM |As first reported by PageOneQ earlier this week, I will be stepping down from my post as communications director for Servicemembers Legal Defense Network at the end of next week, and joining one of our community's most important organizations -...Read More
Statement from Hillary Clinton on the memorials for Lawrence King
Filed by Bil Browning | February 22, 2008 | 6:20 PM |Just in from the Hillary Clinton campaign: “I was deeply saddened by the recent death of 15-year-old Lawrence King who was killed at his school in Oxnard, CA. No one should face intimidation or violence, particularly at school, because of...Read More
50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 19-20
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 22, 2008 | 9:24 AM |In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 17-18, this week I am sharing strategies 19-20. Look for more strategies next...Read More
Transwomen of Color Testify to the UN on Racism in the U.S.
Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | February 21, 2008 | 5:00 PM |Right now, the UN Committee on the Elimination of Racial Discrimination (CERD) is meeting in Switzerland -- and two Bay Area activists are there to advocate for the rights of transwomen of color in the U.S. Miss Major and Melenie...Read More
Transgender Law Center Opposes Trying McInerney as an Adult
Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | February 21, 2008 | 4:43 PM |The Transgender Law Center, in conjunction with the National Center for Lesbian Rights, has come out against charging Brandon McInerney--the 14-year-old charged with killing Lawrence King--as an adult. In a document circulated via e-mail yesterday, they wrote, While we in...Read More
Despair, stereotyping, barebacking, and pizza in the belle ville of St. Etienne
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 21, 2008 | 11:51 AM |One of the most persistent questions I get asked here in France is "What are the big differences between the US and France?" I also get asked that in America, but I'm here right now so I'm thinking about it...Read More
Despair, stereotyping, barebacking, and pizza in the belle ville of St. Etienne
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 21, 2008 | 11:51 AM |One of the most persistent questions I get asked here in France is "What are the big differences between the US and France?" I also get asked that in America, but I'm here right now so I'm thinking about it...Read More
Black History Month – William Cathay
Filed by Guest Blogger | February 21, 2008 | 10:10 AM |[Editor's note: This guest post is from Monica Helms, president of the Transgender American Veterans Association.] I have found this month to be one of the most educational months in the year. All around are wonderful articles, History Channel shows...Read More
Angry Brown Butch: "Hate Crimes Legislation Won't Help"
Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | February 20, 2008 | 1:25 PM |Over at Angry Brown Butch (a blog well worth checking out, if you haven't already), Jack offers a queer, prison-abolitionist take on responses to the murders of Sanesha Stewart and Lawrence King. Jack writes, I cannot see how hate crimes...Read More
My first time
Filed by Bil Browning | February 20, 2008 | 1:00 PM |Everyone remembers the first time they had sex. It sticks in your memory and can help shape future sexual desires and preferences. As I was scanning my photos into the computer, I found this one - the only one -...Read More
NYC Condoms Encourages You to "Get Some"
Filed by Michael Crawford | February 20, 2008 | 12:01 PM |We want to give away as many condoms as people will use because we're trying to make New York City an even safer place to have sex, and this is a powerful way to do it. That's how Monica...Read More
Child with Gay Dads Featured on Today Show
Filed by Dustin Kight | February 20, 2008 | 11:52 AM |Henry, a young child with gay dads, talked about his life and his family on the Today Show recently. It's a great, honest piece. Check it out after the jump!...Read More
Thanks for your concern about my children
Filed by Guest Blogger | February 20, 2008 | 8:14 AM |[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This guest post comes to us from Reverend Andy Burnette. Andy, a native Hoosier, served as a minister in the Church of the Nazarene for six years and now serves the Unitarian Universalist Community Church in Danville, Indiana....Read More
When the Best Just Isn't Enough: Hillary Clinton
Filed by Bruce Parker | February 20, 2008 | 8:03 AM |I have said it before and I will say it again, Barack Obama is pretty fucking impressive. I am not one of the folks who will critique him as being all style and no substance. On some level, when he...Read More
CA: Vigils for Lawrence King
Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | February 19, 2008 | 6:22 PM |Several vigils are being held throughout California for Lawrence King, the gender-nonconforming teenager who was shot and killed in Oxnard last week. Details after the jump....Read More
Gender and the Holy Protestant Empire
Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | February 19, 2008 | 5:13 PM |While the ENDA uproar goes on, evangelicals are desperately figuring out how to wrap the Bible around their vehement "no" on civil rights for people with gender issues. A recent article in Christianity Today lays out their developing position. Author...Read More
"I hate his kids"
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 19, 2008 | 9:57 AM |I'm a 38-year-old gay male, and my partner is 54. He has two sons, 29 and 31. The 29-year-old lives in the same city as we do. My problem is that I hate his kids. They are disrespectful not...Read More
Let's Talk About Transsex
Filed by Monica Roberts | February 18, 2008 | 11:40 PM |Monica Helms wrote an interesting February 6 post called Sex, Love and Transsexuals in which she discussed her thoughts on why most transpeople are squeamish about the issue. I have a different take on it for you dear Bilerico readers...Read More
Stop asking for it…
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 18, 2008 | 2:00 PM |Look at the recent coverage of hate crimes against the LGBT community (when there is any coverage) and one theme is clear: We are asking for it. With the senseless death of 15 year-old Lawrence King, the phrase “a personality...Read More
Stop asking for it…
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 18, 2008 | 2:00 PM |Look at the recent coverage of hate crimes against the LGBT community (when there is any coverage) and one theme is clear: We are asking for it. With the senseless death of 15 year-old Lawrence King, the phrase “a personality...Read More
Hope....
Filed by Brynn Craffey | February 18, 2008 | 11:55 AM |My dad plopped a folded section of the Sunday paper in front of me. "This should make you feel better," he said. And he was right. While no demonstration after the fact can bring Lawrence King back to life, this...Read More
Sticks, Stones and Dead Boys Bones
Filed by Sara Whitman | February 18, 2008 | 8:02 AM |I love Ben's videos. This one is a little long, but if you hang on, Jake comes in the background and annoys him- welcome to my world. iPhone users: Click to watch And it is the reason why I am...Read More
Remembering Our Dead, Echos From Our Fallen Sisters
Filed by Marti Abernathey | February 17, 2008 | 2:23 PM |I was looking at videos for my YouTube post and found this video titled "Twin Boys Living As Girls". It was taped in the early nineties, and is from the Jenny Jones show. I sat there thinking this was just...Read More
After Lawrence King, Who's Next?
Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | February 17, 2008 | 1:48 PM |When the speeches are done, and the memorial candles flicker out, and the trial of Brandon McInerney is over, American society will face the horrible reality of how little we've dealt with the mounting violence at schools - especially the...Read More
Donna Rose: A Self-Introduction
Filed by Donna Rose | February 16, 2008 | 8:33 PM |A new relationship starts with an introduction, so I suppose I should start my Bilerico contributions by introducing myself. My name is Donna Rose, and I am perhaps most widely known as a transgender activist. I hesitate to pigeon-hole myself...Read More
A sex writer’s open letter to her audience
Filed by Gina de Vries | February 16, 2008 | 6:45 PM |Lest you have any doubts about why I’m up on this stage tonight, I’ll make my intentions abundantly clear: I am here to cruise every single last one of you. Perhaps stumblingly, perhaps juggling my heart around in my nervous...Read More
Southern California Mourns 15-Year Old Shooting Victim Larry King
Filed by Karen Ocamb | February 16, 2008 | 1:20 PM |Lorri L. Jean, CEO of the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center, teared up during a Feb. 15 news conference at the Jeff Griffith Youth Center as she talked about the "terrible tragedy" of the shooting death of 15-year-old Lawrence King...Read More
“My give a damn’s busted….”
Filed by Brynn Craffey | February 15, 2008 | 9:20 PM |The statement above was in the form of a window-sticker on a shiny, late-model jacked-up F-150 Ford pickup truck, ahead of me at a stop-light on an off-ramp in Escondido, CA. Now why in the name of god would somebody...Read More
10 Year Old Gender Variant Child Commits Suicide
Filed by Bruce Parker | February 15, 2008 | 7:21 PM |Being a board member and on staff for TransYouth Family Advocates plugs me into an entirely different network within the transgender community that more traditional adult-oriented activism did not. Just a few minutes ago, Shannon Garcia, President of TYFA, passed...Read More
The Way We Raise Our Gays
Filed by Eric Leven | February 15, 2008 | 3:36 PM |Here in America we accept that homosexuality exists but nobody wants to talk about it. If you're gay, it's a "figure it out for yourself" type of thing because there still, even in 2008, seems to be a fear that...Read More
A Very Bipolar (one day late) Valentine for Marina
Filed by Bruce Parker | February 15, 2008 | 1:30 PM |Sara was twenty-seven, and what people used to call a wag: smart, quick-witted, encyclopedic. She could recount every failed Everest expedition in mesmerizing detail — the sort of a talent I would expect of a rock climber, not someone...Read More
A Very Bipolar (one day late) Valentine for Marina
Filed by Bruce Parker | February 15, 2008 | 1:30 PM |Sara was twenty-seven, and what people used to call a wag: smart, quick-witted, encyclopedic. She could recount every failed Everest expedition in mesmerizing detail — the sort of a talent I would expect of a rock climber, not someone...Read More
Where's the Outrage??
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 15, 2008 | 12:56 PM |With the announcement of the shooting death of Lawrence King, just 15, one has to wonder-- where is the outrage and outcry from the public and media? King was, by all accounts, a young man who was teased at school...Read More
Update on Oxnard shooting....
Filed by Brynn Craffey | February 15, 2008 | 12:55 PM |Even though law enforcement officials are refusing to comment or give details, it's looking like they will charge 14-year-old Brandon McInerney, who shot and killed eighth-grader, Larry King, 15, (pictured above) this past week at an Oxnard middle school,...Read More
50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 17-18
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 15, 2008 | 11:20 AM |In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 15-16, this week I am sharing strategies 19-20. Look for more strategies next...Read More
Beyond Violence: On School Shootings, Domestic Abuse, Hate Crimes
Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | February 15, 2008 | 11:18 AM |As Gina posted yesterday, a reportedly gender-nonconforming teenager was shot and killed by a classmate in Oxnard, CA, this week. Today, the LA Times is reporting that prosecutors want to charge the 14-year-old who shot him as an adult, for...Read More
Beyond Violence: On School Shootings, Domestic Abuse, Hate Crimes
Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | February 15, 2008 | 11:18 AM |As Gina posted yesterday, a reportedly gender-nonconforming teenager was shot and killed by a classmate in Oxnard, CA, this week. Today, the LA Times is reporting that prosecutors want to charge the 14-year-old who shot him as an adult, for...Read More
Colorado couple goes to court
Filed by Jen Jorczak | February 15, 2008 | 8:59 AM |Remember Kate Burns and Sheila Schroeder, the couple who staged a sit-in at their county clerk's office when they were refused a marriage license? This week, they were in court on the trespassing charge stemming from their sit-in and to...Read More
Christian, But Not Christ
Filed by Marti Abernathey | February 15, 2008 | 6:27 AM |Recently Christianity Today posted a story titled Walking a Fine Line:Pastors wrestle with transgender issues. According to the story, the pastor of the church where the former Spring Arbor University professor Julie Nenecek attended, said: 'They were welcome to worship...Read More
Friendship in the Time of Love
Filed by Yasmin Nair | February 14, 2008 | 6:48 PM |We know by now that Valentine's day, like the concept of romantic love as the highest form of affection, is a modern invention. The language of romantic love is all around us, even after the 14th of February, and it...Read More
I'm lighting metaphorical candles & praying really hard for this kid...
Filed by Gina de Vries | February 14, 2008 | 3:20 PM |A fifteen year-old queer (and possibly trans? definitely gender-variant...) kid was shot at his school yesterday, and has been declared brain-dead. I don't even know what to say. This really upsets me. I'm praying for him and his friends and...Read More
I'm lighting metaphorical candles & praying really hard for this kid...
Filed by Gina de Vries | February 14, 2008 | 3:20 PM |A fifteen year-old queer (and possibly trans? definitely gender-variant...) kid was shot at his school yesterday, and has been declared brain-dead. I don't even know what to say. This really upsets me. I'm praying for him and his friends and...Read More
I'm lighting metaphorical candles & praying really hard for this kid...
Filed by Gina de Vries | February 14, 2008 | 3:20 PM |A fifteen year-old queer (and possibly trans? definitely gender-variant...) kid was shot at his school yesterday, and has been declared brain-dead. I don't even know what to say. This really upsets me. I'm praying for him and his friends and...Read More
Dancing Queens… On the Slippery Slope
Filed by Eric Marcus | February 14, 2008 | 3:15 PM |The two boys, probably no more than ten or eleven, stood at the edge of the dance floor giggling to each other and pointing at the two guys in ties who were smiling like idiots, grooving to a medley of...Read More
Happy Valentine's Day--the safe sex way!
Filed by Jen Jorczak | February 14, 2008 | 9:55 AM |Happy Valentine's Day, everyone! Whether you're boycotting V Day or impatiently whiling away your work day so you can get home to your red hot sweetheart, enjoy this safe sex primer courtesy Ricky Gervais: iPhone users: Click to watch Consider...Read More
Happy Valentine's Day--the safe sex way!
Filed by Jen Jorczak | February 14, 2008 | 9:55 AM |Happy Valentine's Day, everyone! Whether you're boycotting V Day or impatiently whiling away your work day so you can get home to your red hot sweetheart, enjoy this safe sex primer courtesy Ricky Gervais: iPhone users: Click to watch Consider...Read More
Dating in the Cyber Age
Filed by Serena Freewomyn | February 14, 2008 | 8:55 AM |I hate Valentine's Day. I think it's a load of crap. Not because I'm bitter about relationships, but because I hate any kind of sappy shit like heart-shaped boxes of chocolate and bouquets of fucking flowers. So in honor of...Read More
A Call to "Universal Marriage"
Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | February 13, 2008 | 5:27 PM |As I said in my recent post "Gender, Gay Marriage and Galileo" -- we have to get past the mental obstacle that marriage is for specifed categories of people. We have to stop tying it to notions of gender or...Read More
Gay Student Shot at CA Junior High School
Filed by Michael Crawford | February 13, 2008 | 3:12 PM |[UPDATED] A fifteen year old gay boy was shot by a fellow student at an Oxnard, CA junior high school. The victim was reportedly openly gay and was regularly harassed by other students. A student at an Oxnard junior high...Read More
"This Buttars gone bad" caption this
Filed by Bil Browning | February 13, 2008 | 12:05 PM |Utah State Senator Chris Buttars scowls while lesbian Christy Gleave testifies how she was denied hospital visitation when her partner was injured. Buttars has sponsored a bill to repeal Salt Lake City's domestic partner registry. Your mission, should you...Read More
Lonely Valentine
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 13, 2008 | 7:03 AM |I'm single and depressed about the thought of Valentine's Day fast approaching. Any suggestions? ~ Lonely Heart If single is your current status, embrace it whole-heartedly. You are where you are because that's where you need to be. The...Read More
Who wants to file taxes anyway?
Filed by Jerame Davis | February 12, 2008 | 6:01 PM |Taxes. Who doesn't hate them? Even as an unabashed Liberal (note the capital L) I hate taxes. Unlike Republicans, I understand they are a necessary evil that keeps our democracy running and capable of dealing with everything life throws at...Read More
Lonely Valentine
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 12, 2008 | 12:17 PM |Q. I'm single and depressed about the thought of Valentine's Day fast approaching. Any suggestions? ~ Lonely Heart If single is your current status, embrace it whole-heartedly. You are where you are because that's where you need to be. The...Read More
Time for a new photo
Filed by Sara Whitman | February 12, 2008 | 10:45 AM |Oooookay. Time to update the photo. On Huffington, on Bilerico, and my own blog. I think I need some vaseline on the lens. Seriously, this haircut reflects more of who I am than the long hair ever did. Sounds silly...Read More
It's my fault: Thoughts on health culpability from France
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 11, 2008 | 9:28 PM |My head is pounding I can't stop the pounding I think it is going to explode And kill everybody who's in close proximity to the place I call my home --Kimya Dawson No, I'm not trying to be deep...Read More
Pop, Lock and Drop It
Filed by Sara Whitman | February 11, 2008 | 7:30 PM |I love my job. I do. I cannot imagine doing anything else. I’ve always explained to my kids that I write, I serve on several foundation boards and I’m trying hard to have a positive impact on the world. Today,...Read More
Trouple looking for financial advice
Filed by Nina Smith | February 11, 2008 | 5:19 PM |In case you don't know, a trouple is a three way couple in a long-term relationship and they have financial challenges just like people who co-mingle finances in a traditional marriage or domestic partnership. Watch an episode of Big Love...Read More
I know, I know...
Filed by Bil Browning | February 11, 2008 | 3:37 PM |The Indianapolis Start ran a story about The Bilerico Project today - front page of the Metro section. Our traffic is through the roof, of course. I've had dozens of e-mails congratulating me for the coverage and several other blogs...Read More
Bring Sexy Back
Filed by Guest Blogger | February 11, 2008 | 12:01 PM |[Editor's note:] This guest post is by Johnathon Briggs. Johnathon is communications director at the AIDS Foundation of Chicago. An award-winning journalist, Briggs has worked as a staff reporter for the Los Angeles Times, The Baltimore Sun and the Chicago...Read More
Bring Sexy Back
Filed by Guest Blogger | February 11, 2008 | 12:01 PM |[Editor's note:] This guest post is by Johnathon Briggs. Johnathon is communications director at the AIDS Foundation of Chicago. An award-winning journalist, Briggs has worked as a staff reporter for the Los Angeles Times, The Baltimore Sun and the Chicago...Read More
“God wouldn’t create somethin’ less than perfect, now, would He?
Filed by Brynn Craffey | February 10, 2008 | 9:32 PM |The words above, uttered in a Southern Californian drawl by the large woman cutting my hair as we chit-chatted about baldness—of all things!—caught my attention and hit me harder than anything has so far. I’m no longer in the...Read More
Bad Habits
Filed by Sara Whitman | February 10, 2008 | 2:00 PM |I walked into the kitchen yesterday afternoon and I saw one of my own worst bad habits. I had left the cabinet door where the plates are open, the drawer for the utensils open and the door to the glasses...Read More
Oral Roberts University in More Hot Water
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 10, 2008 | 1:00 PM |A former senior accountant at Oral Roberts University in Tulsa, Oklahoma alleges that more than $1 billion annually was inappropriately funneled through the school. You may remember the self-proclaimed “Christian University” as the anti-gay school that will not enroll openly...Read More
Oral Roberts University in More Hot Water
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 10, 2008 | 1:00 PM |A former senior accountant at Oral Roberts University in Tulsa, Oklahoma alleges that more than $1 billion annually was inappropriately funneled through the school. You may remember the self-proclaimed “Christian University” as the anti-gay school that will not enroll openly...Read More
Sneaking off to go get married
Filed by Bil Browning | February 09, 2008 | 10:30 AM |Jerame and I thought we'd sneak off to Canada and get hitched since we're so close. It's hard to look at Windsor across the river and not want to join in equality. We chose Bruce and Brylo as our best...Read More
Ledger's death: the real message
Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | February 08, 2008 | 11:21 PM |Heath Ledger's death is already fading from the headlines, but its real message is going to haunt us all. Many Americans need to take it as a somber reminder about the safety issues around prescription drugs and over-the-counter drugs. Many...Read More
Katrina on the Potomac
Filed by Terrance Heath | February 08, 2008 | 3:23 PM |There are natural disasters and man-made disasters. There are those who look upon the aftermath of disaster and see things as they should be. We call them conservatives. As I write this, the seeds of disaster and an aftermath of...Read More
Left Wanting
Filed by Fannie Fierce | February 08, 2008 | 2:16 PM |Dear Fannie, I've been dating this guy for the past 2 months or so, but we're not "in a relationship" yet. We've been "dating around," but it's mostly been him seeing other people. I feel like we're really good...Read More
50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 15-16
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 08, 2008 | 11:18 AM |In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 13-14, this week I am sharing strategies 15-16. Look for more strategies next...Read More
I'm excited and feeling generous
Filed by Bil Browning | February 07, 2008 | 6:54 AM |Hey everyone! We're off to Detroit for the Creating Change conference! The other fine folks around here will have to keep you entertained while I'm driving through the snow. This is my first professional queer conference; going on a media...Read More
Sex, Love & Transsexuals
Filed by Guest Blogger | February 06, 2008 | 5:09 PM |[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This guest post is from Monica Helms. Monica is the President of the Transgender American Veterans Association. "Arrrrggg! Monica said the other s-word! She will burn in Hell for this!" Okay, so that is a bit melodramatic, but...Read More
And... we're back!
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 06, 2008 | 2:52 PM |So here's a video explaining Genesis 19, the story of Sodom and Gomorrah. Totally NSFW so it's after the jump. (h/t Graydon):...Read More
Gender, gay marriage...and Galileo
Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | February 06, 2008 | 2:34 PM |The righters are stamping their foot again, to keep marriage "a man and a woman." Next week, on Feb. 11th, the Arizona State Senate Committee on Government will vote on a bill that would write marriage discrimination into the state...Read More
Saying No to Just Saying No
Filed by Serena Freewomyn | February 06, 2008 | 12:25 PM |There has been a national trend of states turning down federal funding for abstinence-only education. And as of last week, Governor Janet Napolitano of Arizona has joined the list of governors who are saying no to just saying no. Napolitano,...Read More
One of three things will happen tonight - what's your guess?
Filed by Bil Browning | February 05, 2008 | 1:45 PM |My friend Steven Goldstein from Garden State Equality e-mailed me this great question a short while ago. I asked him if I could share it with all of you and get your thoughts. This has to be one of the...Read More
Super Snooze-Day in L.A.
Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | February 05, 2008 | 12:39 PM |Super Tuesday in California didn't get off to a great start -- at least at one polling place in Los Angeles, where election officials were evidently snoozing at the switch. A friend of mine whose voting mailer told him to...Read More
Health Officials Apologize to Gay Community over MRSA Scare
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 05, 2008 | 9:01 AM |In recent weeks Methicillin Resistant Staphylococcus Aureus (MRSA) has been a huge story in the national media. The most recent focus seemed to be completely on the impact of MRSA on gay men, regardless of the fact that it is...Read More
I was like this when you met me!
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 05, 2008 | 9:01 AM |In a recent post I wrote called "Stop Fighting!" I had a question about a statement I made and I'm reprinting the question and answer here because it's one I get a lot! In my post I wrote: "Perhaps you've...Read More
Two One last items on the LGBT issues just before Super Tuesday
Filed by Alex Blaze | February 04, 2008 | 6:56 PM | [ED NOTE:] I've updated Alex's post to link back to Senator Clinton's guest post here on the Bilerico Project. I hadn't had a chance to put up the guest post before Alex posted about it. [ED NOTE from Alex: Meh,...Read More
Abstaining from the Reality of Gay Familes
Filed by Terrance Heath | February 04, 2008 | 2:20 PM |This Friday, I had something anyone who's ever lived through the first few months of parenting a newborn will understand is something to be treasured: a day off. The rest of the family left the house in the morning, and...Read More
The Gender Anarchist
Filed by Waymon Hudson | February 04, 2008 | 1:01 PM |Many of you know my interest in writing about and discussing gender issues. It seems I have been labeled by some as a “gender anarchist”, looking to tear down old paradigms of “man and woman” to make myself more comfortable....Read More
Safe Food and Safe Sex: More Thoughts on Risk
Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | February 02, 2008 | 11:43 PM |There's a yardstick of health safety that is never mentioned in the LGBT sex world...which is surprising, because this yardstick is one that measures our lives every day. It's about food. No fewer than 120 animal diseases can be transmitted...Read More
Saying No... gracefully!
Filed by Fannie Fierce | February 02, 2008 | 9:03 AM |Dear Fannie, I'm 21 and just beginning to explore the gay world. I'm lucky enough to have two really good gay friends who are helping get out and about in terms of exploring my gayness. The other night we went...Read More
To sticker or not to sticker....
Filed by Brynn Craffey | February 01, 2008 | 11:05 PM |Three weeks ago Sunday, I moved back to California from Dublin, Ireland. The virus I had when I arrived has run its course, jet-lag is almost resolved (though I still wake up too damned early!) and my initial cultural shock...Read More
50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 13-14
Filed by Michele O'Mara | February 01, 2008 | 1:12 PM |In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 10-12, this week I am sharing strategies 13-14. Look for more strategies next...Read More
Black History LGBT Profiles: Elder Kevin E. Taylor
Filed by H. Alexander Robinson | February 01, 2008 | 12:40 PM |Elder Kevin E. Taylor pastors Unity Fellowship Church-New Brunswick where he just celebrated his 7th year Anniversary and 15th year in the ministry. Taylor was ordained as a Deacon with Unity Fellowship Church in Washington, DC in 1996. He...Read More
The lesson of the snow logo
Filed by Bil Browning | February 01, 2008 | 12:05 AM |We're expected to get about 8" of snow tonight. Before I start bitching about all of the cold air, bad driving and school closings tomorrow, I thought I'd change out our logo to remind me of how pretty it is...Read More
