Living: March 2008

From a different perspective

Filed by Bil Browning | March 31, 2008 | 5:45 PM | comments

I had lunch today with a conservative active in the marriage amendment push. As we spoke, I was shocked at some of the assumptions he made. It is always fascinating to see through someone else's eyes. When we don't know...Read More


AP: Larry King to blame for his own death

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 31, 2008 | 4:34 PM | comments

Because apparently getting shot isn't bad enough, the world needs to know that it's Larry King's own fault (from the AP): Larry King was a gay eighth-grader who used to come to school in makeup, high heels and earrings. And...Read More


Alabama lesbian couple fights to attend prom

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 31, 2008 | 12:15 PM | comments

A judge has ruled that a lesbian couple in Scottsboro, Alabama can attend their high school prom. The Scottsboro City Board of Education tried to stop the pair from attending since they were "a homosexual couple." The last-minute court order...Read More


How to Make A Million Bucks by Thirty

Filed by Nina Smith | March 30, 2008 | 8:22 PM | comments

"I don't know much about being a millionaire, but I'll bet I'd be a darling at it." - Dorothy Parker If you're a personal finance blogger, you get a lot of offers from publicists to read and review their client's...Read More


High School Students Discuss Obama's Speech on Race

Filed by Michael Crawford | March 30, 2008 | 5:16 PM | comments

This amazing video has been making the rounds of progressive blogs including AmericaBlog and Pam's House Blend. I am posting it here because I believe that as many people as possible need to see this group of incredibly smart and...Read More


Remembering Alan Rogers

Filed by Steve Ralls | March 30, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Alan Rogers wasn't particularly fond of silence. In fact, the Alan Rogers I knew absolutely deplored it, and knew all too well the pain and isolation that silence could create. Rogers, a stellar Army Major who recently became the first...Read More


Quaker women: "She Hangs There as a Flag"

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | March 30, 2008 | 8:19 AM | comments

We spend so much time complaining about religions that persecute us that we sometimes forget about the religions that support the cause of human rights for LGBT people. The Quakers certainly should be recognized for being probably the first religion...Read More


Jerking off ONLY

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 30, 2008 | 12:00 AM | comments

Okay, there's this guy on craigslist who posts about how he wants to meet someone to jerk off, jerk off ONLY, ONLY JERKING OFF, so I guess we kind of get the point about what he wants to do but...Read More


Hillary Clinton specifies premium cap in her health care plan

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 29, 2008 | 2:51 PM | comments

The NY Times has an interview up (video at the link) with Hillary Clinton about her health care plan: In an extensive interview on health policy, Mrs. Clinton said she would like to cap health insurance premiums at 5 percent...Read More


The Karate Kid Goes Gay

Filed by Michael Crawford | March 29, 2008 | 2:44 PM | comments

We all know and love The Karate Kid. But, what if Mr. Miyagi was a women and the Ralph Macchio character was gay kid who was being tormented just like Lawrence King and all of the other kids who are...Read More


Scare Tactics, How Dare You, You're Wrong and That's Not Going to Work

Filed by Eric Leven | March 29, 2008 | 1:59 AM | comments

One of the wonderful things about working freelance is you get sporadic time off throughout the year. What was going to be a long weekend out on the West Coast snowboarding in Mammoth during gay ski week has turned out...Read More


Scare Tactics, How Dare You, You're Wrong and That's Not Going to Work

Filed by Eric Leven | March 29, 2008 | 1:59 AM | comments

One of the wonderful things about working freelance is you get sporadic time off throughout the year. What was going to be a long weekend out on the West Coast snowboarding in Mammoth during gay ski week has turned out...Read More


If You Can't Beat 'Em, Sue 'Em.

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 28, 2008 | 3:38 PM | comments

When it comes to blogging these days, when I come across something I want to blog about days — even weeks or months — go by before I get around to actually blogging about it. Half the time, I let...Read More


If You Can't Beat 'Em, Sue 'Em.

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 28, 2008 | 3:38 PM | comments

When it comes to blogging these days, when I come across something I want to blog about days — even weeks or months — go by before I get around to actually blogging about it. Half the time, I let...Read More


Coming out to my host family

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 28, 2008 | 3:23 PM | comments

When I came here to France, besides my coworkers, I knew nobody. That was OK since I immediately signed up for unlimited phone to the US and high-speed internet (all for 30 euro a month with basic cable included, thank...Read More


Boygirls, Pill Bugs, and Cool Dudes

Filed by Paige Schilt | March 28, 2008 | 2:07 PM | comments

[Editor's note: Dr. Paige Schilt is a dyke mama, a "low femme" nerd, an activist, and an occasional professor of LGBT studies. She works as the Media Director for Soulforce.] Last week was spring break, so I got to spend...Read More


Married gay man denied passport over his name

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 28, 2008 | 11:24 AM | comments

Jason Hair-Wynn got married to his partner in Massachusetts and then legally added his partner's last name to his own. But when Jason applied for a new passport in order to go to Africa to do HIV/AIDS education work for...Read More


Married gay man denied passport over his name

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 28, 2008 | 11:24 AM | comments

Jason Hair-Wynn got married to his partner in Massachusetts and then legally added his partner's last name to his own. But when Jason applied for a new passport in order to go to Africa to do HIV/AIDS education work for...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 29-30

Filed by Michele O'Mara | March 28, 2008 | 8:04 AM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 27-28, this week I am sharing strategies 29-30. Look for more strategies next...Read More


How things change

Filed by Jerame Davis | March 27, 2008 | 2:32 PM | comments

I've talked a bit about my family's backward social positions on the blog before. Most folks who know me know I come from an extremely racist, homophobic, misogynistic family. For example, when I came out, my father banned me from...Read More


Desmond Tutu honored for LGBT rights work

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 27, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Archbishop Desmond Tutu will be the recipient of 2008 Outspoken Award as part of the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission's "Celebration of Courage" human rights ceremony. The Archbishop has been a vocal advocate for LGBT rights around the...Read More


Breaking Down the Bedrock

Filed by Sara Whitman | March 26, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

Today has been pretty quiet. Not a lot of news, so I was catching up on some blogs, email, even managed to tackle an enormous pile of laundry... You know, casually practicing my "sinful nature," as Sally Kern, and the...Read More


Darth Vader thinks I "promote a spirit of hate"

Filed by Bil Browning | March 26, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

Traffic at the Indiana Family Institute's blog must be dropping like a rock. Yesterday their latest I'm-not-a-Hoosier-but-I-play-one-on-the-blog contributor decided to do a post about one of my Quote of the Day quips. Yes, a Quote of the Day post. I'm...Read More


Pamela Anderson Honors Sanctity of Marriage by Getting Divorced, Again

Filed by Michael Crawford | March 26, 2008 | 3:15 PM | comments

Former Baywatch babe Pamela Anderson's most recent marriage has been annulled after less than three months on Monday. She cited "irreconcilable differences" when she filed for divorce from entrepreneur Rick Salomon. This was Anderson's third marriage. She was previously married...Read More


A young gay man stands his ground

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 26, 2008 | 12:15 PM | comments

Jeff Williamson came out to his parents, which is a hard thing for anyone. They immediately sent him to see a Christian counselor referred by Focus On The Family- Bob Hudson. Jeff researched the ex-gay movement before his appointment and...Read More


A young gay man stands his ground

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 26, 2008 | 12:15 PM | comments

Jeff Williamson came out to his parents, which is a hard thing for anyone. They immediately sent him to see a Christian counselor referred by Focus On The Family- Bob Hudson. Jeff researched the ex-gay movement before his appointment and...Read More


You should see how he achieves Nirvana

Filed by Bil Browning | March 26, 2008 | 9:15 AM | comments

This is too good to pass up. What's your best caption for this picture of Conan the Chihuahua, a Japanese dog that has learned to "pray" with the local Buddhist monks?...Read More


Congress to review ban on travelers with HIV

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 25, 2008 | 4:15 PM | comments

The Senate is expected to debate the ban on HIV+ travelers this month as part of Bush's global AIDS relief package. The United States remains one of only 13 nations -- including Iraq, Qatar and Armenia -- to ban HIV+...Read More


An Open Letter to Ally Organizations

Filed by Bruce Parker | March 25, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

This week's issue of the Advocate leads with a cover story about Lawrence King and asks who is to blame for his death? Please review the excerpt available online and join us in our effort to refocus this conversation on...Read More


Passion Weekend

Filed by Kate Clinton | March 25, 2008 | 1:55 PM | comments

Because of my lapsed Catholic state, just as I was leaving for the airport I realized that I was going to be traveling on Easter weekend. I'm still thrown off by the three weeks earlier than usual spring-ahead clock change,...Read More


The Courage of My Two Sons

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 25, 2008 | 12:32 PM | comments

[Editor's note: This guest post is by Monica Helms, an Atlanta based transgender activist. Monica is past executive director of Tran=Action and co-founder of Transgender American Veterans Association.] When you first hold a brand new life in your hands, whether...Read More


I Support Medical Marijuana Use

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | March 25, 2008 | 12:13 PM | comments

I wrote a commentary on this crucial subject for my column in a recent issue of A & U Magazine. Since the piece isn't available online to link to, I'm reprinting it here. Earlier in 2007, when I ran for...Read More


I Support Medical Marijuana Use

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | March 25, 2008 | 12:13 PM | comments

I wrote a commentary on this crucial subject for my column in a recent issue of A & U Magazine. Since the piece isn't available online to link to, I'm reprinting it here. Earlier in 2007, when I ran for...Read More


Spotlight on family values

Filed by Bil Browning | March 25, 2008 | 12:05 PM | comments

Save these dates, because I've got a couple great event notices that you won't want to miss! April 9 Central Indiana Community Foundation (CICF) is presenting their 7th annual forum about challenges and opportunities offered by unique communities. Previous forum...Read More


Should marijuana be legal?

Filed by Bil Browning | March 25, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

So here's an open thread for today. My post about Barney Frank's upcoming legislation to legalize small amounts of weed for personal use sparked some interesting conversation in the comments sections. I'm curious. Most of the commenters supported legalizing pot....Read More


Made in Secret: the story of the East Van porn collective, and me

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 25, 2008 | 8:45 AM | comments

The first time I did porn I was 19 and I needed the money, it was awful and traumatizing really because they didn't tell me what they were going to do ahead of time, just: will you bottom? Then spray-painted...Read More


EarthThunder: Medicine Woman working for our planet

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | March 25, 2008 | 5:32 AM | comments

Like many Americans, I have some First Nation ancestry braided with the European ancestry in my family roots. When I connected with a few tribal cousins, I started hearing stories about family groups back in the 1800s who had never...Read More


EarthThunder: Medicine Woman working for our planet

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | March 25, 2008 | 5:32 AM | comments

Like many Americans, I have some First Nation ancestry braided with the European ancestry in my family roots. When I connected with a few tribal cousins, I started hearing stories about family groups back in the 1800s who had never...Read More


DC Gay, Lesbian, Bi Students 10 Times More Likely to Have Used Meth

Filed by David Mariner | March 24, 2008 | 5:26 PM | comments

Gay, lesbian, and bisexual students in DC public schools are 10 times more likely to have tried crystal meth than their peers, according to a new fact sheet released by DC Public Schools. 23.5% of self identified GLB identified students...Read More


DC Gay, Lesbian, Bi Students 10 Times More Likely to Have Used Meth

Filed by David Mariner | March 24, 2008 | 5:26 PM | comments

Gay, lesbian, and bisexual students in DC public schools are 10 times more likely to have tried crystal meth than their peers, according to a new fact sheet released by DC Public Schools. 23.5% of self identified GLB identified students...Read More


you make my world go round-round-round

Filed by Gina de Vries | March 24, 2008 | 5:01 PM | comments

Today's gratitude list: +Cindy and Katrina for their sweet & generous contributions to the Keep SFinX's Website Alive Fund. The amazing, incredible Jordan for providing SFinX with free webhosting so we don't hafta deal with huge bills, um, ever again....Read More


you make my world go round-round-round

Filed by Gina de Vries | March 24, 2008 | 5:01 PM | comments

Today's gratitude list: +Cindy and Katrina for their sweet & generous contributions to the Keep SFinX's Website Alive Fund. The amazing, incredible Jordan for providing SFinX with free webhosting so we don't hafta deal with huge bills, um, ever again....Read More


A Labor of Love

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 23, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

This story is truly amazing. Thomas Beatie, a transgender man, has decided to carry his child. He is quoted in a recent column as saying, "Wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a...Read More


A Labor of Love

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 23, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

This story is truly amazing. Thomas Beatie, a transgender man, has decided to carry his child. He is quoted in a recent column as saying, "Wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a...Read More


The Pagan Origins of Easter

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | March 22, 2008 | 4:29 PM | comments

When I was a child, it never made sense to me why we hunted for colored eggs on Easter and ate chocolate or marshmellow bunnies, because the holiday was supposed to be about Jesus rising from the dead. What in...Read More


Fundie Endorsement Watch: Janet "The Sheep" Folger

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 22, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

And the right-wing bigots keep coming to McCain's side... The latest fundie to join the McCain bandwagon is Janet Folger, the former national director of the Center for Reclaiming America, the ultra right-wing religious group started by the late Rev....Read More


Orentlicher, OUTSpoken and Obama - Oh My!

Filed by Bil Browning | March 21, 2008 | 1:39 PM | comments

While David Orentlicher's campaign website still isn't updated, he does have a politician page on Facebook now. You can add yourself as a fan of Orentlicher's congressional race. I hear a MySpace page and other netroots outreach will kick off...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 27-28

Filed by Michele O'Mara | March 21, 2008 | 12:15 PM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 25-26, this week I am sharing strategies 27-28. Look for more strategies next...Read More


A Radical Homosexual Activist donates blood

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 20, 2008 | 1:58 PM | comments

Here's a letter to the editor that appeared in the January edition of TĂȘtu, France's response to The Advocate: Normally, gays aren't allowed to donate blood, but I went anyway, hiding my sexuality because I think blood donation is required...Read More


Re: "If Obama can throw his pastor under the bus, what will he do to us?"

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | March 20, 2008 | 11:07 AM | comments

Did Obama's speech help him or hurt him? In my opinion it helped him at the expense of throwing his pastor under the bus, feeding into the media's portrayal of Rev. Wright as a demagogue, and exonerating himself of any...Read More


Sex with gay people, or not quite

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 20, 2008 | 8:03 AM | comments

Okay, so I've decided that it would be great if I had five or ten people that I had sex with regularly, people who I could call when I was horny and say: what are you up to? Actually, something...Read More


Is the Wall Street crisis a "gay issue"?

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | March 20, 2008 | 1:54 AM | comments

So far, no chilly onrush of the new tidal wave hitting Wall Street can be felt on Bilerico. But the outline of the towering wave can definitely be glimpsed at media like Bloomberg and the Wall Street Journal. Earlier this...Read More


Live Journal John Aravosis Horror

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 19, 2008 | 8:09 PM | comments

Last night I was trolling around the internet looking for the original source of some RuPaul quote and I stumbled on a drag queen's Live Journal with a Technorati authority in the single digits and I'm totally sure this one...Read More


More on "that" being "so gay"

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 19, 2008 | 1:04 PM | comments

A study by the Association of Teachers and Lecturers found that the top insult in UK schools is "gay," with 83% of teachers reporting hearing it. The others were Bitch (59%), Slag (45%), Poof (29%), Batty boy (29%), Slut (26%),...Read More


Sally Kern Will Not Apologize for God... or Herself

Filed by Steve Ralls | March 19, 2008 | 10:45 AM | comments

Oklahoma Representative Sally Kern is what my mother likes to call "a piece of work." And she is what I like to call "a special kind of crazy." After more than 350 people, led by PFLAG's Oklahoma City chapter, gathered...Read More


Sally Kern Will Not Apologize for God... or Herself

Filed by Steve Ralls | March 19, 2008 | 10:45 AM | comments

Oklahoma Representative Sally Kern is what my mother likes to call "a piece of work." And she is what I like to call "a special kind of crazy." After more than 350 people, led by PFLAG's Oklahoma City chapter, gathered...Read More


If Obama can throw his pastor under the bus, what will he do to us?

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | March 19, 2008 | 10:42 AM | comments

When the religious narrative you tell about your life to the American public is revealed to be vastly different than the one you actually lived, you have more than a credibility problem - you have a dilemma as Obama is...Read More


We're claiming the City-County Building, which piece are you after?

Filed by Jerame Davis | March 19, 2008 | 9:09 AM | comments

Everyone knows things are a bit out of whack here in Indy. I mean, we have the village idiot elected mayor because the last one was said to be unable to balance a checkbook without needing to raise taxes. The...Read More


Jesus f***ing Christ, I've posted 1000 times

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 19, 2008 | 7:09 AM | comments

According to the software that runs this site, this post is my 1000th entry on this site. Insane. Serious insanity. I couldn't really figure out what to do with this momentous occasion, this testament to my ability to sit around...Read More


Communication Strategies

Filed by Michele O'Mara | March 18, 2008 | 6:20 PM | comments

Can you give me three ways to improve my communication? I'm not the best when it comes to talking about tough things in particular. ~ Tongue Tied I love to talk about communication! Narrowing the strategies down to three...Read More


WTF? My idiot detector just went off the charts

Filed by Bil Browning | March 18, 2008 | 10:15 AM | comments

Sometimes you read something on the blogs that just makes you gasp for air at the level of stupidity on display. Take a post on Republican blog Hoosier Access about white men being targeted as a voter block in the...Read More


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Transgender History: Toward the Future (1996-2007)

Filed by Mercedes Allen | March 18, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

From the earliest ages, gender variance and same-sex love were seen as connected and congruous, even if one aspect manifested entirely without the other.Read More


Do you have your American flag underwear on right now?

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 17, 2008 | 1:48 PM | comments

Here's Jasmyne Cannick and Hermine Hartman's appearance on Bill O'Reilly's show to discuss Rev. Jeremiah Wright. I think this shows that the ways we talk about and understand identity, politics, patriotism, and history are entrenched in race, whether we like...Read More


Oklahoma Families Ask to Meet with Sally Kern

Filed by Steve Ralls | March 17, 2008 | 11:15 AM | comments

Tomorrow in Oklahoma City, families from across the state will converge on the capitol rotunda and call on Representative Sally Kern to come out from her office and meet the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender loved ones of her constituents....Read More


Possibilities and limitations, possibilities in limitations

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 17, 2008 | 8:15 AM | comments

Katia says when she writes something personal, she worries that she'll remember what she wrote and not the actual memory. With me it's the reverse -- I worry that I won't remember anything if I don't write it down. In...Read More


Apology Accepted?

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 16, 2008 | 3:58 PM | comments

I don't know if this counts as a trend or not, but I didn't expect to see something like this so soon after the previous post. This time is the Lutheran Church, which still opposes marriage equality but expresses regret...Read More


Apology Accepted?

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 16, 2008 | 3:58 PM | comments

I don't know if this counts as a trend or not, but I didn't expect to see something like this so soon after the previous post. This time is the Lutheran Church, which still opposes marriage equality but expresses regret...Read More


1 Every 8 Days...

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 16, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Fight OUT Loud has created a moving video about the surge in Hate Crimes in 2008. The disturbing statistic is that every 8 days in 2008 an LGBT person has been murdered. And these are just the people we know...Read More


1 Every 8 Days...

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 16, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Fight OUT Loud has created a moving video about the surge in Hate Crimes in 2008. The disturbing statistic is that every 8 days in 2008 an LGBT person has been murdered. And these are just the people we know...Read More


Two Gay Guys: Older, Wiser, Gayer

Filed by Brent Hartinger | March 15, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

Michael and I discuss what it means to get older. Wait, it's not boring! I promise! Get embed code...Read More


Little by Little

Filed by Sara Whitman | March 15, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

Jake and I were sitting in the back room together. No TV, no video games, he was stuck talking to me. So... when did you meet Momma Jeani? In 1989. How old were you? I do the math. I can't...Read More


Little by Little

Filed by Sara Whitman | March 15, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

Jake and I were sitting in the back room together. No TV, no video games, he was stuck talking to me. So... when did you meet Momma Jeani? In 1989. How old were you? I do the math. I can't...Read More


Your Pastor, My Pastor, and Barack's Pastor

Filed by Tyrion Lannister | March 15, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

Have you noticed the recent media kerfuffle surrounding the former pastor of Barack Obama's church? Last night, Fox News' Bill O'Reilly featured video of the Reverend Jeremiah Wright venting some extremely unpopular opinions about the causes of 9/11. The Atlantic...Read More


The little "t" in LGBT

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 15, 2008 | 8:02 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This guest post is by Shannon Garcia, who is the President of TransYouth Family Allies, Inc., a business owner, and the mother of six children, including a beautiful 8 year old affirmed female daughter. She speaks at schools,...Read More


A Doggy Tribute

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | March 14, 2008 | 7:26 PM | comments

Queers love their dogs. And honestly, queers love their pets in general. A few months ago, Nina asked if pets are worth the money and the response from Bilerico readers was unequivocally yes. Today I got the phone call I...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 25-26

Filed by Michele O'Mara | March 14, 2008 | 11:44 AM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 23-24, this week I am sharing strategies 25-26. Look for more strategies next...Read More


When university mascots go rogue

Filed by Bil Browning | March 14, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

It's times like these that I'm ooooh so proud to be from Indiana... The Oral Roberts University mascot got into a fight with the IUPUI mascot after a "dance-off" gone bad. *sigh* I feel obligated to point out that Jerame...Read More


Nosy Friends!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | March 14, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, One of my best friends just got with his new boyfriend, who's much older. They've been dating for only a month or two, and now they're moving in together. While I want to be really happy for...Read More


IYG Art Show, Sale & Auction - This Weekend

Filed by Jerame Davis | March 13, 2008 | 9:57 PM | comments

Indiana Youth Group (IYG) will hold its annual Youth Art Auction on Friday, March 14, 2008 from 7:00-10:00 p.m. at the Stutz Business Center #2. There will be Youth Art on display, with some items for sale by Silent Auctions/Sale...Read More


The pain splitting me

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 13, 2008 | 11:15 AM | comments

I'm saying something to my sister about when she used to wake up every night screaming help! Help! And my mother would suit her back to sleep, our mother. Lauren says she doesn't remember that, which kind of surprises me...Read More


The pain splitting me

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 13, 2008 | 11:15 AM | comments

I'm saying something to my sister about when she used to wake up every night screaming help! Help! And my mother would suit her back to sleep, our mother. Lauren says she doesn't remember that, which kind of surprises me...Read More


The pain splitting me

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 13, 2008 | 11:15 AM | comments

I'm saying something to my sister about when she used to wake up every night screaming help! Help! And my mother would suit her back to sleep, our mother. Lauren says she doesn't remember that, which kind of surprises me...Read More


Bullying in Schools

Filed by Bruce Parker | March 12, 2008 | 5:26 PM | comments

With all the school issues that have been coming up for LGBT youth lately, it seems like a good time to pay attention to the ways that bullying in schools is a part of a larger problem. A problem that...Read More


Bullying in Schools

Filed by Bruce Parker | March 12, 2008 | 5:26 PM | comments

With all the school issues that have been coming up for LGBT youth lately, it seems like a good time to pay attention to the ways that bullying in schools is a part of a larger problem. A problem that...Read More


Vatican Upgrade: Sins 8.0

Filed by Kate Clinton | March 12, 2008 | 2:12 PM | comments

Who says that gifts are only given at Christmas time? Just when I was tiring of the dizzying permutations of race and gender, ticket tops and bottoms, and those double warheads McCain and Bush, along comes Eliot Spitzer violating the...Read More


Ventergy

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 12, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Craigslist is so stupid and obsessive, I mean I don't have any energy at all and that's why I'm on craigslist, trying to find something to make me forget for a little while but all I see is MASCULINE ONLY...Read More


I didn't think this was anatomically possible

Filed by Bil Browning | March 12, 2008 | 9:25 AM | comments

It's time for another "Caption This" post. Have at it. Also available in "Open Thread" variety......Read More


Poor Me!

Filed by Eric Marcus | March 12, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

Scott Schwartz had it in for me. I don't know why. Maybe because I wore ugly corrective shoes. Glasses, too (black plastic frames purchased at a discount store on Jamaica Avenue in Queens). And I had a bad haircut. I...Read More


Poor Me!

Filed by Eric Marcus | March 12, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

Scott Schwartz had it in for me. I don't know why. Maybe because I wore ugly corrective shoes. Glasses, too (black plastic frames purchased at a discount store on Jamaica Avenue in Queens). And I had a bad haircut. I...Read More


Family Equality Council Launches Project Harmony

Filed by Dustin Kight | March 11, 2008 | 12:24 PM | comments

My organization, Family Equality Council, recently released the following statement on the launch of our newest initiative, Project Harmony. I'm happy to share it with you, and to participate in this important work! The Family Equality Council is proud to...Read More


Eat Meat, or Not?

Filed by Michele O'Mara | March 11, 2008 | 11:36 AM | comments

My girlfriend and I have recently broken up and gotten back together. One of the issues that I have with her is the fact that she eats meat, while I am a vegetarian. Within our dynamic, I am only...Read More


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Transgender History: Stonewall and Its Fissures (1969-1995)

Filed by Mercedes Allen | March 11, 2008 | 11:35 AM | comments

From the earliest ages, gender variance and same-sex love were seen as connected and congruous, even if one aspect manifested entirely without the other.Read More


Sometimes, Tomorrow Doesn't Come

Filed by Sara Whitman | March 11, 2008 | 8:05 AM | comments

Ben is in the shower, while the other two boys are still sleeping. The coffee is perfect and I am thankful I never followed through with that insanity about giving it up. My dog is, as always at my feet,...Read More


How often should you update your will?

Filed by Nina Smith | March 10, 2008 | 7:59 PM | comments

"A thing long expected takes the form of the unexpected when at last it comes" - Mark Twain Over the weekend, my new Hollywood insider, Bronson Page tipped me off that Heath Ledger's will named his parents and sister without...Read More


Chicken Wings & Moral Choices

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 10, 2008 | 11:44 AM | comments

Kip has posed an interesting question, and since he noted me as one of two vegetarians among his readership, I thought ought to join the discussion. So I was sitting in my undisclosed location a few days ago, cleaning out...Read More


The Queen of Queens: Was Jesus Gay?

Filed by Bil Browning | March 10, 2008 | 8:45 AM | comments

There's nothing like a good smack down delivered with an English accent. This video blogger wonders if fundamentalist Christianity's obsession with homosexuality stems from the secret passages of the Gospel of Mark: But the youth, looking upon him, loved him...Read More


Christian identity politics

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 09, 2008 | 3:05 PM | comments

The Nation has a great article up about the changing Religious Right movement, about how the Old Guard (Robertson, Dobson, et al.) are losing power and the next generation is less focused on gays and abortion and more on the...Read More


Alexis Meade Is More Important Than You Think

Filed by Monica Roberts | March 09, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Back in 1967 an African-American actress contemplated leaving the network television show she was on and going back to Broadway. She was the only African-American in the integrated cast of this show and was upset that she wasn't getting to...Read More


Everyone else brought one

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 09, 2008 | 10:13 AM | comments

It's funny -- I just realized that people carry umbrellas, I mean that's how they keep themselves from getting wet in the rain. Seems pretty self-explanatory, but the other night when I was thinking of going out and it was...Read More


Everyone else brought one

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 09, 2008 | 10:13 AM | comments

It's funny -- I just realized that people carry umbrellas, I mean that's how they keep themselves from getting wet in the rain. Seems pretty self-explanatory, but the other night when I was thinking of going out and it was...Read More


Iranian Teen faces deportation and death

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 09, 2008 | 9:48 AM | comments

Mehdi Kazemi, 19, faces what many believe to be a life or death decision in the Netherlands for the gay Iranian teen. Kazemi traveled to London in 2005 from Iran and applied for asylum in Britain after learning that his...Read More


Escape From Louisville

Filed by Monica Roberts | March 08, 2008 | 11:55 PM | comments

As many of you who've been monitoring the progress of the winter storm that's been shellacking the Ohio River Valley this weekend know, Louisville got whacked with a foot of snow. But yours truly wasn't here to watch all the...Read More


A Moment, Please, To Remember

Filed by Sara Whitman | March 08, 2008 | 9:00 PM | comments

I had a reminder this morning, of why I care so much about who gets elected this fall. Why I care so much about the political landscape of this country. Because I care deeply what kind of world my kids...Read More


A Moment, Please, To Remember

Filed by Sara Whitman | March 08, 2008 | 9:00 PM | comments

I had a reminder this morning, of why I care so much about who gets elected this fall. Why I care so much about the political landscape of this country. Because I care deeply what kind of world my kids...Read More


Am I A Liar?

Filed by Marti Abernathey | March 08, 2008 | 2:42 PM | comments

I had someone IM me off of OkCupid and ask me about my profile. They liked my writing style and asked me a lot of questions about profile writing. It wasn't a relationship, connection kinda IM, but one of me...Read More


Jaded young queen

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 08, 2008 | 10:53 AM | comments

Earlier this week, I posted about an article in FOTF's Breakaway magazine that attempted to turn the Q(uestioning) boys straight, or at least self-hating, in a convenient myth/fact format. I wrote in parentheses: Myth #3: Gays are capable of love...Read More


Come Out, Cousin!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | March 08, 2008 | 1:20 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, I'm gay and have been out to my whole family since I was a teenager. I'm very close with my cousins, and lately I've been getting an inkling that one of them might be a lesbian. I've...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 23-24

Filed by Michele O'Mara | March 07, 2008 | 11:25 AM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 21-22, this week I am sharing strategies 23-24. Look for more strategies next...Read More


Saving the World for Anal Sex

Filed by Michael Crawford | March 07, 2008 | 11:19 AM | comments

My friend Jim Pickett is obsessed with anal sex. So much so that he recently traveled from Chicago to New Delhi to get a little action. You will probably remember Jim from his post The Future of Anal Sex....Read More


Is FOTF using homosexual urges for its own personal gain?

Filed by Alex Blaze | March 06, 2008 | 7:20 PM | comments

Like, duh, yeah, but here's another example. There's an article in Breakaway magazine (FOTF's teen boy mag that uses in-touch-with-the-youth slang like "dudes," "lame," and "indeed") about the myths of the homosexual lifestyle (Myth #3: Gays are capable of love)...Read More


Are you OUTSpoken?

Filed by Bil Browning | March 06, 2008 | 8:23 AM | comments

The Bilerico Project, Indianapolis PFLAG, likeourfamilies.com and Indiana Fairness Network are teaming up with the Family Equality Council to present OUTSpoken - a national advocacy training program for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) parents, guardians and allies. The...Read More


On loose teeth and transitioning

Filed by Ellen Andersen | March 06, 2008 | 2:29 AM | comments

It's been an exciting email day chez moi. I've rather been dreading emails lately, since they seem to presage either bad new, unhappy students, or bureaucratic bs I should have attended to yesterday. But today I got two pieces of...Read More


Right before the weekend, God made narcotics

Filed by Bil Browning | March 05, 2008 | 8:00 PM | comments

There are just too many jokes that can be made here. Drug use explains the burning bush, doesn't it? Or "see"ing music? Or hearing God speaking to you? Or hiring a hooker? We all know that Moses was high on...Read More


Jesus Doesn't Matter

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 05, 2008 | 2:37 PM | comments

Sweet Jesus, but I am sick and tired of hearing about Jesus. Let me be clear. When a presidential candidate is asked the following question — or any similar question — about his/her opponent, it shouldn't be answered. If said...Read More


Until you remember

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 05, 2008 | 12:05 PM | comments

After errands I'm trying to think of something to do that won't hurt my hands, now that I've missed all the movies I wanted to see and it's too early to go to Blow Buddies. Then I can't decide what...Read More


Until you remember

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | March 05, 2008 | 12:05 PM | comments

After errands I'm trying to think of something to do that won't hurt my hands, now that I've missed all the movies I wanted to see and it's too early to go to Blow Buddies. Then I can't decide what...Read More


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The Last Bush AIDS Budget: Some Thoughts After Calming Down

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 05, 2008 | 10:01 AM | comments

[Editor's note:] This is guest post is by William McColl. William D. McColl, Esq., the Political Director of AIDS Action, has worked on HIV/AIDS, alcohol and other drug treatment, and criminal justice reform issues for nearly 15 years. He holds...Read More


LGBTQ Community Too Sharp For Recycled Propaganda

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | March 04, 2008 | 8:45 PM | comments

If Illinois Sen. Barack Obama's recent flood of campaign literature can be believed, then his recent media buys in Ohio and Texas might be a sign of "a change of heart" or, as we say in religious language, a "conversion,"...Read More


A Tale of Two Weddings

Filed by Cathy Renna | March 04, 2008 | 3:23 PM | comments

My wife and I often joke about the fact that we will just keep getting married "until it sticks." Not for us, mind you, we are 110% committed to each other, our family, our daughter and all that comes with...Read More


Lesbian Dating Tips

Filed by Michele O'Mara | March 04, 2008 | 1:48 PM | comments

I am a lesbian and I am ready to start dating again, after recovering from a 6 year relationship that ended a year ago. I'm nervous about how to even begin again. Do you have any tips for how...Read More


Silence is Not Always Golden

Filed by Sara Whitman | March 04, 2008 | 12:50 PM | comments

Two days of laryngitis made me recognize a couple things. One, I need to talk. Not want but need to talk. A lot. Two, I should never sign up for a silent retreat. Don't laugh, the idea appealed to me....Read More


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Transgender History: From Germany to Stonewall (1933 - 1968)

Filed by Mercedes Allen | March 04, 2008 | 10:45 AM | comments

From the earliest ages, gender variance and same-sex love were seen as connected and congruous, even if one aspect manifested entirely without the other.Read More


I get fan mail

Filed by Bil Browning | March 04, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Fresh from the inbox from recently banned commentor and known troublemaker/internet troll Sue Robins in reference to my post yesterday apologizing for offending the disabled and naming my own disability: From: sue-ann173@cox.net Subject: I know it. Date: March 3, 2008...Read More


How do you think I'm doing?

Filed by Kate Clinton | March 03, 2008 | 2:35 PM | comments

In addition to its fabled lilacs, Rochester is becoming justly famous for its LGBT Film Festival, presented by ImageOut. They had a benefit concert to advertise and subsidize their wonderful festival and they invited me! We brought the Hilarity Clinton...Read More


Report Released on LGBTQ Families' Experiences in Schools

Filed by Dustin Kight | March 03, 2008 | 12:44 PM | comments

The Gay, Lesbian Straight Education Network (GLSEN), Family Equality Council and Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) have released a joint report on the experiences of LGBTQ-headed families in our nation's public schools. Called, "Involved, Invisible, Ignored," the report...Read More


Report Released on LGBTQ Families' Experiences in Schools

Filed by Dustin Kight | March 03, 2008 | 12:44 PM | comments

The Gay, Lesbian Straight Education Network (GLSEN), Family Equality Council and Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) have released a joint report on the experiences of LGBTQ-headed families in our nation's public schools. Called, "Involved, Invisible, Ignored," the report...Read More


Jim Naugle Uses Tax Dollars to Incite Violence in South Florida

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 03, 2008 | 11:20 AM | comments

Mayor Jim Naugle of Fort Lauderdale has once again used his office to spread fear and hate about the gay community. In the latest city newsletter, paid for by the city and available on the city's website, Naugle again used...Read More


A heartfelt apology

Filed by Bil Browning | March 03, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

I owe an apology to our readers and I'd like to offer it now. I'm sorry that I was an ass. I didn't mean to and it was callous of me. I stand corrected. I should have known better and...Read More


We Are Not Helpless

Filed by Nadine Smith | March 03, 2008 | 7:36 AM | comments

We can be horrified, but we cannot be surprised. Witness the death of yet another child who said he was gay -- the murder of another teenager who defied gender stereotypes. On Friday, Feb. 22, 17-year-old Simmie Williams Jr. was...Read More


Women's History Month: Lady Mary Villiers

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | March 01, 2008 | 5:56 PM | comments

For the past several years, I've done profiles on LGBT history for Outsports.com, and will continue this thread for Bilerico during Women's History Month. Often I stub my toe on surprising stories that have been overlooked -- especially sportswomen whom...Read More


An Ode to Gaybies's Beards

Filed by Dustin Kight | March 01, 2008 | 1:01 PM | comments

Last night I was catching up with some friends on Facebook -- and by catching up I mean browsing their profiles and taking note of things they have changed since last I looked. One such profile I perused belongs to...Read More


Pope Cheers on Gay Haters

Filed by Waymon Hudson | March 01, 2008 | 12:42 PM | comments

Pope Benedict XVI said Friday that he appreciates efforts of "the many Americans ."opposed to abortion, euthanasia and gay marriage." This was reflected, he said, "in the efforts of so many of your fellow citizens and government leaders to ensure...Read More