Living: May 2008

Seeing Beyond Pink and Blue

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 31, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Zythyra is an acoustic musician, writer and activist who lives in rural NH. Zie has had considerable practice over the past few years trying to construct sentences without using any gender pronouns. Gendering. We all do it. We...Read More


Rugby Players Go Balls Out Against Cancer

Filed by Michael Crawford | May 31, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Leave it to British rugby players to put their balls on display to educate other men about testicular cancer. Testicular cancer is one of the leading cancers among men 14-40. In this NSFW clip a rugby team disrobes with the...Read More


Open Thread- Which Sex and the City Character are you?

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 31, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

In case you haven't noticed, Serena and I are VERY excited about the "Sex and the City" movie coming out this weekend. While many of you may roll your eyes at us (that's fine- we don't need your approval), I...Read More


Birthday Queen

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 31, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

In our house, when it's your birthday, you get to be King or Queen for the day. I am Queen today. Even with my mother in law here. Which is surprising. She didn't even complain last night when the steak...Read More


One reason why there's sexism...

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 30, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Because girls rock: Jaime Nared, a 12-year-old girl who stands 6-foot-1, has been told she can no longer play on the boys team of which she has been a member since the second grade, according to a report on the...Read More


The Yearning for Zion Ranch -- What's a Lesbian Mother to Think?

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 30, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

The children of the Yearning for Zion Ranch are going home. Am I happy? Yes and no. The Texas Supreme Court says they should all go home, but a minority of the court wanted to keep the girls who had...Read More


The Yearning for Zion Ranch -- What's a Lesbian Mother to Think?

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 30, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

The children of the Yearning for Zion Ranch are going home. Am I happy? Yes and no. The Texas Supreme Court says they should all go home, but a minority of the court wanted to keep the girls who had...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 47-48

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 30, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 45-46, this week I am sharing strategies 47-48. Look for more strategies next...Read More


My computer problems

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 29, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

This just might be my nerdiest post ever, complete with nerdy self-hatred for not living up to real nerdy standards in nerdy endeavors, so it's all after the jump. If you want the short version, here it is: I'm never...Read More


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Our Family Pride

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 29, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

One of our own, Contributing Editor Marti Abernathey, is featured in the latest edition of Bay Windows, New England's largest GLBT newspaper. In an amazing article written by Dana Rudolph of Mombian fame, Marti talks about being both transgender and...Read More


Relationship legitimacy questions of the day

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 29, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

I've been gone for about a week now because the ol' Acer died somewhere between Paris and St. Etienne last Wednesday (more about my computer problems for the nerds in the audience later today), and there was a great comment...Read More


More on the DSM Controversy and The Next Step

Filed by Mercedes Allen | May 29, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force have stepped up to become one of the first ally organizations to make a statement about the DSM-V Work Group selection (PFLAG has also reportedly been working on a statement). They write: The...Read More


American Family Outing Visits "America's Best Preacher"

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 29, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Last week I posted about my experience as a lesbian mom on The American Family Outing (AFO) visit to Lakewood Church. This week I wanted to share my friend Gil Caldwell's experience of the AFO visit to The Potter's House...Read More


Michigan to Mongolia

Filed by Steve Ralls | May 28, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Elaine Donnelly, meet Calpernia Addams. Her hair is more fabulous than yours, her pearls are real . . . and, oh yes, she can kick your ass from Michigan to Mongolia. Calpernia is also - in addition to being a...Read More


Sexless in Seattle

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 28, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

I'm young professional - recent grad, same as my boyfriend. Neither one of us has communicated what the other needs and I'm not sure we know how. He is a not a very sexual person and I am, and...Read More


Happy Birthday Alex!

Filed by Bil Browning | May 28, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Today is Alex's birthday. I promised I wouldn't reveal his age or put up an embarrassing picture from his childhood. Alex has been out of commission for about a week due to a dead computer. When he ran off to...Read More


May I Just Say?

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 28, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

It's been quite the month. From a wonderful Gender-PAC benefit cook-off with celebrity chefs in New York, to a great show for Equality Ohio's Third Annual Lobby Days in Columbus, to a sold-out benefit dinner for choreographer Elizabeth Streb's Action...Read More


SC Principal Quits in Protest Over GSA

Filed by Dustin Kight | May 27, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

I could have sworn someone had already posted about this -- I guess that's what happens when you contribute to such a great, active blog! You think all the work gets done without you! Anyway, the principal of Irmo High...Read More


Reflections on Memorial Day Sports Events, and the Church Hoop-la That Goes With Them

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | May 27, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

It's an old controversy - whether a sports event is an appropriate time for religious displays -- considering that the U.S. supposedly favors separation of church and state. The Memorial Day weekend is one of the year's biggest sports weekends...Read More


Can a Morehouse College Man be openly gay?

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | May 27, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Since its inception in 1867 Morehouse College is noted as the bastion of black male leadership. Embodying W. E.B. Dubois's theory of The Talented Tenth, where "exceptional black men" would be the ones to lead the race, Morehouse College has...Read More


Gay Sex on the Internet

Filed by Michael Crawford | May 27, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

Oh, don't even try to put on a Mother Teresa look on your face! You know that you have posted an ad on Craig's List or spent some time cruising Manhunt or at the very least thought about it. Thank...Read More


Answering Bil's question

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 27, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] Guest blogger Polar is a regular reader and commenter here at the Bilerico Project. He is also good friends and neighbors with contributor Monica Roberts. Bil Browning asked an interesting question in his comments to Serena Freewomyn's posting,...Read More


The quest for knowledge

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 26, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] Guest blogger Valerie Weck is a doctoral student in the Counseling Psychology program at Indiana State University. I am conducting a study of the identity intersection experiences of men and women living in Indiana who self-identify as gay...Read More


What Would You Do If This Was Your Child?

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | May 26, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

A couple of weeks ago, NPR ran a series or stories about trans youth. I've been wanting to comment on the pieces ever since then, but it's taken me a while to marinate on what I wanted to say. Essentially,...Read More


Marriage vs. healthcare, and guess who loses?

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | May 26, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Back when I first started doing radical queer direct action (in the early '90s), universal health care was almost a mainstream gay issue. So many people had seen a dramatic percentage of their friends die quickly and painfully of AIDS...Read More


Marriage vs. healthcare, and guess who loses?

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | May 26, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Back when I first started doing radical queer direct action (in the early '90s), universal health care was almost a mainstream gay issue. So many people had seen a dramatic percentage of their friends die quickly and painfully of AIDS...Read More


What a Waste!

Filed by Eric Marcus | May 25, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

People ask me lots of questions, which is no surprise to me given that two of my books are Q&A books on gay issues--Is It A Choice? and What if Someone I Know Is Gay? Every Sunday I'll be drawing...Read More


Revenge For Cheaters Open Thread

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | May 24, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Yesterday I mentioned how hawt Carrie Underwood's new single "Last Name" is. So I thought I'd post the video for Carrie's song "Before He Cheats." It's one of my favs! iPhone users: Click to watch I've mentioned in the past...Read More


"Out" - divided by a common language

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 24, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Lena Dahlstrom is a crossdresser from the San Francisco Bay Area who also performs under the stage name "Joie de Vivre." During one of my first forays out in public while crossdressed, I was walking down the street...Read More


Transgender parents and their families

Filed by Donna Rose | May 23, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

A gender transition is necessarily a very public thing. The person who announces the transition rarely does it alone; they bring friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, and gawkers along. All are affected to varying degrees in one way or another. And,...Read More


Friendly Fire!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | May 23, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Dear Fannie, So there is this gaybor of mine I met at a party. He seemed nice enough, so I added him to Facebook. He mentioned having free tickets to the movies, so I said, "sure." The next day...Read More


Glad To See Her There

Filed by Steve Ralls | May 22, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

In an important ruling that could facilitate the beginning of the end of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals has ruled that Air Force Major Margaret Witt can have her day in court to challenge the...Read More


Bird Diplomacy

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 22, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

For the last few weeks, I have been watching a particular bird- a Robin- fight with himself. Over and over, I watch this bird fling himself into the window reflection- although not very hard- bounce off, flutter a way briefly,...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 45-46

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 22, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 43-44, this week I am sharing strategies 45-46. Look for more strategies next...Read More


Gay Iranian Is Finally Granted Asylum in UK

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 22, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

The UK Gay news is reporting some good news: Mehdi Kazemi, the 20-year-old gay Iranian who has been trying to get asylum in the UK for two years, has been granted permission to stay in the United Kingdom. Kazemi arrived...Read More


Confessions Of A GLBT Airline Employee

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 22, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

The recent Bilerico post concerning my GLBT airline brothers and sisters who've lost their jobs was a deja vu moment for me. One of my nicknames in the transgender community is the Air Marshal because I worked for 14 years...Read More


Protecting All of Our Families

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 22, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Anthony Niedwiecki is a law professor that specializes in discrimination and LGBT issues at Nova Southeastern University. Anthony is also running for City Commission in Oakland Park, where he lives with his partner of 6 years, Bilerico contributor...Read More


Miami-Dade County Approves Domestic Partnerships

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 21, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Miami-Dade - Florida's largest county - has created a domestic partnership registry and extended health care benefits to domestic partners. This will give basic legal protections and benefits to some 2.2 million Floridians. A special thanks goes out to SAVE...Read More


A Lesbian Mom's Lakewood Moment

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 21, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Last Sunday, on Mother's Day, my family and I were part of a group of LGBT families who visited Lakewood Church--the largest and fastest-growing mega-church in the nation. Located in Houston, Texas, and housed in a former basketball stadium, Lakewood...Read More


A Lesbian Mom's Lakewood Moment

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 21, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Last Sunday, on Mother's Day, my family and I were part of a group of LGBT families who visited Lakewood Church--the largest and fastest-growing mega-church in the nation. Located in Houston, Texas, and housed in a former basketball stadium, Lakewood...Read More


Preserving my domestic tranquility: What the next day means

Filed by Don Sherfick | May 20, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

The only plausible connection to the subject matter of this post to the GLBT community discourse has to do with peace in my own particular same-sex household. My beloved and I have long been at odds over what "Next Monday,...Read More


St. Alf's Science Fair

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 20, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Faster than you can say, "CA Supreme Court overturns ban on gay marriage," his Extreme Slippery Slopeheadedness, Pope Benedict had an announcement to make. Barely taking the time to translate it from the Latin, in that oddly high voice, the...Read More


This Is Our Love Story

Filed by Steve Ralls | May 20, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

It's impossible not to have at least a little bit of a crush on Calpernia Addams. The star of LOGO's recent reality series Transamerican Love Story and the subject of Showtime's haunting film Soldier's Girl, Calpernia is the epitome of...Read More


Engage a few more gears, Josh.

Filed by Bil Browning | May 19, 2008 | 6:45 PM | comments

Usually when I grind the gears in a car it's because I don't have the gear engaged. Now I'm not trying to say anything about Josh Gillespie, but maybe if he really thought about this, his gears wouldn't be grinding......Read More


Health care poll

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 19, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

I was going to post on this lesbian and gay health care item that's been making its way around: Nearly one in four gay and lesbian adults lack health insurance and are nearly twice as likely as their heterosexual counterparts...Read More


How Wrong Can a Court be When It Looks at Two Moms and a Child?

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 19, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Very wrong, if it's the highest court in Maryland and they are considering same-sex couples raising children. Today the Maryland Court of Appeals ruled that, after the end of an 18 year relationship that included raising a five year old...Read More


Just wanted to show off for a minute...

Filed by Cathy Renna | May 19, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Hey, any excuse to post a picture of me with Laura Flanders and Phil Donahue at the kick off for Laura's new show GRIT-TV....Read More


Idaho, the gift that keeps on giving

Filed by Mike Rogers | May 19, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

Just as we've come to accept that Larry Craig is not running for reelection, the good folks in Idaho come up with more news. Nick Langewis at PageOneQ wrote about a right winger in Idaho runing for office advocating separate...Read More


Give me a ring(er)

Filed by Bil Browning | May 19, 2008 | 12:15 PM | comments

An open thread topic for the day... What's your main ringtone? If you're like me and have different ringtones for different people, what's your standard old ringtone? (You can tell us what the others are too, if you'd like!) Ringtones...Read More


Feeling Left Out

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 19, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Don't get me wrong, I was just as happy as many of you when the California Supreme Court came down on the side of justice Thursday. You have every right to be happy, excited, proud, party hearty or whatever emotion...Read More


Scaremongering

Filed by Mercedes Allen | May 19, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Dr. Marshall Forstein, Chair of the Work Group on Practices Guidelines on HIV Psychiatry for the American Psychiatric Association (not to be confused with the American Psychological Association), has written a reply to the drive to have Drs. Kenneth Zucker...Read More


Scaremongering

Filed by Mercedes Allen | May 19, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Dr. Marshall Forstein, Chair of the Work Group on Practices Guidelines on HIV Psychiatry for the American Psychiatric Association (not to be confused with the American Psychological Association), has written a reply to the drive to have Drs. Kenneth Zucker...Read More


In Search of Gay Money: How-to Manage Money With Your Domestic Partner

Filed by Nina Smith | May 18, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

As a gay woman writing about money, I've grown weary of reading all the personal finance content that's written from the perspective of straight marriages. So at Queercents, we've turned the tables on money and relationship advice by asking: What...Read More


Power of Personal Storytelling in CA and Beyond

Filed by Dustin Kight | May 18, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Marriage equality in California -- it seems somehow more appropriate than marriage equality in Massachusetts, an arguably less free-spirited place than the Golden State. Liberal, but not free-spirited. (And I can say that, 'cause I live in MA, and scorn...Read More


A Few Clarifications

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 17, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

What a day Thursday was, with the ruling, the excitement before and after. There was a lot to digest with everyone claiming information- like CNN saying marriage equality was defeated- so I would like to clarify a couple points that...Read More


America Will Be ...

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 17, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

I knew as soon as the California Supreme Court marriage ruling was posted that I would read the whole thing. I started reading it at my desk after it was posted but stopped once I got to the "bottom line"...Read More


Get me to the church on time

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 17, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Well, I guess my partner is finally making an honest man out of me. We are hopping on the love train and getting married in California. We are to be wed on June 27, 2008. And I couldn't be happier....Read More


Let's Face It, We Are All Getting Older

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | May 17, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Robert Ganshorn was a founding member of the Gay Liberation Front at Purdue University before creating one of the first Public Television documentaries on gay lifestyles broadcast during his graduate studies at Indiana University. Failing to become the...Read More


Let's Face It, We Are All Getting Older

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | May 17, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Robert Ganshorn was a founding member of the Gay Liberation Front at Purdue University before creating one of the first Public Television documentaries on gay lifestyles broadcast during his graduate studies at Indiana University. Failing to become the...Read More


International Day Against Homophobia

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 17, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Today is the International Day Against Homophobia, held on May 17 every year. It is a rallying event offering an opportunity for people to get together and reach out to one another. Each year has a theme and 2008's is...Read More


Communing with Queers

Filed by Fannie Fierce | May 16, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Dear Fannie, I go to a notoriously queer friendly university yet I came into the queer scene late in the game. I am out as bisexual and am involved in the queerest classes as you take. I find the...Read More


Congratulations California! Go Buckeyes!

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 16, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Four years after San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom's gay marriage block party got shut down by a very testy legislature, the California Supreme Court lifted the ban on gay marriage statewide. Woo Hoo! Make some noise! Tie strings of tin...Read More


A somewhat victory in Ontario

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 16, 2008 | 12:05 PM | comments

Ontario health minister George Smitherman said yesterday that the province's government would soon start covering SRS. So, first, hurray! While we don't even have a single-payer system in the US, if we did, I'm pretty sure that the procedures involved...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 43-44

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 16, 2008 | 11:05 AM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 41-42, this week I am sharing strategies 43-44. Look for more strategies next...Read More


The Golden Rule Pledge: This Is What I'm Doing

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 16, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

We have ideological differences on many issues. However, despite our differences, we need to live and work together. We all can agree that violence toward LGBT people is wrong.Read More


A conversation about marriage, same-sex & otherwise, between me & my parents

Filed by Gina de Vries | May 15, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

From my mom: Gina, I know you don't believe in marriage, but for those who do and want their unions recognized, this is a huge victory. From my dad: Besides, Shannon Minter [an old friend] argued the case. From me:...Read More


A conversation about marriage, same-sex & otherwise, between me & my parents

Filed by Gina de Vries | May 15, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

From my mom: Gina, I know you don't believe in marriage, but for those who do and want their unions recognized, this is a huge victory. From my dad: Besides, Shannon Minter [an old friend] argued the case. From me:...Read More


Radio is the theater of the mind

Filed by Bil Browning | May 15, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Our own Don Sherfick was recently interviewed for WFIU radio about the implications Michigan's recent domestic benefits ruling will have in Indiana. He has become one of the foremost activists fighting against Indiana's marriage amendment. iPhone users: Click to watch...Read More


What do you want to read?

Filed by Mike Rogers | May 15, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

I know it seems like I've been disappearing for a week here and there. Sometimes, I'm just so swamped that I get lost in deadline things and posting here becomes secondary. Let me give you some updates and tell you...Read More


Florida Bully Principal loses his case, but may win the battle

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 14, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

Florida is in the news again for its anti-LGBT attitudes towards youth. Alex posted about this briefly below, but I wanted to take it a little more in-depth and more importantly talk about how this relates to the recently passed...Read More


More on Dr. Kenneth Zucker

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 14, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Dana at Mombian points out this NPR report on the mother of a transgirl who was sent to Kenneth Zucker (who's the chair of the panel charged with revising Gender Identity Disorder's entry for the DSM-V). Let's just say he...Read More


More on Dr. Kenneth Zucker

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 14, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Dana at Mombian points out this NPR report on the mother of a transgirl who was sent to Kenneth Zucker (who's the chair of the panel charged with revising Gender Identity Disorder's entry for the DSM-V). Let's just say he...Read More


3 Models of Transsexuality

Filed by Mercedes Allen | May 14, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

Before going into a basic overview discussion of three models of transsexuality -- HBS, Zucker/Blanchard's and transgender -- I want to start with a couple of clarifications about some of the discussion that has been happening here and elsewhere on...Read More


Everyone is listening

Filed by Bil Browning | May 14, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

I thought this would make a great Caption This post. I can't wait to see what Projectors come up with for this one....Read More


Win for students' free expression

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 14, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

A federal judge ruled in favor of students in a case at Ponce de Leon High School in Floriday, where junior Heather Gillman sued for the right to wear pride gear. The principal argued this week that students couldn't do...Read More


Local gay elected official to attend Harvard Kennedy School of Government

Filed by Bil Browning | May 13, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

Lawrence Township school board member Henry Fernandez, Indiana's first openly gay elected official, will be attending the Kennedy School of Government at Harvard University. GayPolitics.org is reporting: The David Bohnett Foundation has teamed with the Gay & Lesbian Leadership Institute...Read More


Witness To History-Obama In Da Ville

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 13, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Sen. Barack Obama was in Da Ville today for a campaign rally at the Kentucky International Convention Center. You know that I made sure yours truly was going to be inside the room and part of the 8,000 people that...Read More


Candlelight vigil for Sean Kennedy this Friday

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 13, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

It's been nearly one year since Sean Kennedy, only 20 years old, was killed in the streets of Greenville, South Carolina simply for being gay. This Friday, May 16th, Sean's Last Wish is holding a candlelight vigil to honor the...Read More


Candlelight vigil for Sean Kennedy this Friday

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 13, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

It's been nearly one year since Sean Kennedy, only 20 years old, was killed in the streets of Greenville, South Carolina simply for being gay. This Friday, May 16th, Sean's Last Wish is holding a candlelight vigil to honor the...Read More


Candlelight vigil for Sean Kennedy this Friday

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 13, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

It's been nearly one year since Sean Kennedy, only 20 years old, was killed in the streets of Greenville, South Carolina simply for being gay. This Friday, May 16th, Sean's Last Wish is holding a candlelight vigil to honor the...Read More


Pioneering Gay Rights Activist Ruth Simpson Dies at 82

Filed by Bil Browning | May 12, 2008 | 5:45 PM | comments

Ruth Simpson, author and gay rights activist since the 1960's, died May 8 in Woodstock, New York. After several years of, as she said, "sampling an assortment of illnesses on the palette of old age," she finally succumbed to her...Read More


A Reader Writes

Filed by Eric Leven | May 12, 2008 | 4:45 PM | comments

After my Sirius OutQ radio interview with Signoreli, a reader writes: I've had AIDS for 17 years - the world has changed radically within that span. When it first appeared that an epidemic was looming, the gay community regarded it...Read More


A Reader Writes

Filed by Eric Leven | May 12, 2008 | 4:45 PM | comments

After my Sirius OutQ radio interview with Signoreli, a reader writes: I've had AIDS for 17 years - the world has changed radically within that span. When it first appeared that an epidemic was looming, the gay community regarded it...Read More


Q of the day: NC Dems party like its 2004

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 12, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

It's been an interesting and enlightening last few days over at BlueNC since the state primary on the 6th. As you know, Dem U.S. Senate candidate Jim Neal was defeated by Kay Hagan, and the latter will face off against...Read More


Hate crime in Muncie?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 12, 2008 | 2:10 PM | comments

One of the Indiana Equality bloggers brings us first-hand testimonial from an unknown hate crime victim. The alleged attack happened the other evening in Muncie. Anyone with any knowledge of the crime is urged to call the Muncie police department....Read More


Pas ici!

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 12, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

So this past Friday, after a long day in downtown Paris, A. and I walked back uptown to a small pizzeria (the Place de Clichy area, for those readers who are familiar with gay Pah-ree). I've been there once before...Read More


I'm so very proud of him

Filed by Bil Browning | May 11, 2008 | 11:00 PM | comments

UPDATED: I bumped this back up to the top since I added some pictures of the ceremony after the jump. Six years ago Jerame and I made a vow to improve our lives. First he'd go to college and then...Read More


Taking Mom to India

Filed by Eric Marcus | May 11, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Two-and-a-half years after my mother died I took her to India. Not all of her--just enough to fill one quarter of a sandwich-size zip-lock bag. Any more than that and I feared getting stopped at airport security, accused of carrying...Read More


Poisonous Parenting: Confused, Pt. 2

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 11, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

I was halfway through writing the previous post when I came across something that made me realize this would be a two-part deal. That's when I cut the post short and wrote: The last time we visited Parker's pre-school, one...Read More


What is an androgyne anyway?

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 11, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Zythyra is an acoustic musician, writer and activist who lives in rural NH. Zie has had considerable practice over the past few years trying to construct sentences without using any gender pronouns. What is an androgyne anyway? If...Read More


Mother's Day Open Thread

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 11, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

A friend sent this video to me of a mother speaking about her kids coming out. It's an honest discussion of what many mothers go through and seemed extremely appropriate for Mother's Day. iPhone users: Click to watch More video...Read More


Mother's Day Open Thread

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 11, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

A friend sent this video to me of a mother speaking about her kids coming out. It's an honest discussion of what many mothers go through and seemed extremely appropriate for Mother's Day. iPhone users: Click to watch More video...Read More


Poisonous Parenting: Confused, Pt. 1

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 10, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

I fell down a bit of a rabbit hole yesterday. During a (rare) quiet moment, I took some time to catch up on my news/blog reading. And I finally started reading a collection of news stories that I'd quietly tucked...Read More


Gay Cult Classics Open Thread

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | May 10, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

Hey Ya'll! This week's open thread is about gay cult classics. When I was in high school, I used to watch "To Wong Fu" religiously (still do). There was just something about those drag queens that I connected with on...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 41-42

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 09, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 39-40, this week I am sharing strategies 41-42. Look for more strategies next...Read More


More on the Michigan Marriage Ruling

Filed by Ellen Andersen | May 09, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

The Michigan Supreme Court ruled yesterday that the state's same-sex marriage amendment prevented public schools and universities from extending domestic partner benefits to same-sex couples. Waymon posted on this story yesterday, but I thought it deserved a second look because...Read More


"Dad, why did you take me to a gay construction site?"

Filed by Gina de Vries | May 09, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

They are doing major construction on the apartment below mine. I can hear what I am assuming is the construction guys' music right now, because it's coming up to my window from the window below mine. It's pretty much all...Read More


"Dad, why did you take me to a gay construction site?"

Filed by Gina de Vries | May 09, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

They are doing major construction on the apartment below mine. I can hear what I am assuming is the construction guys' music right now, because it's coming up to my window from the window below mine. It's pretty much all...Read More


Polling on the Larry Craig Vice-Presidental Issue

Filed by Don Sherfick | May 09, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Well, maybe my musings here, here, here, and here last month (which coincidentally began with April Fool's Day) concerning disgraced Idaho Senator Larry Craig being John McCain's running mate this Fall aren't as supportable as the polling now suggests. What...Read More


Lawrence King Deserved To Die

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 09, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

While the defense lawyer in the Lawrence King shooting decided to take the most disgusting route possible- it was in fact, Larry's fault for being open about himself and the school's efforts to support him that got him killed. I'm...Read More


Top 5 Things Heard in Indiana After the Primary

Filed by Bil Browning | May 08, 2008 | 8:35 PM | comments

Now that the presidential primaries have whizzed through Indiana, Hoosiers are starting to talk amongst themselves. Here's what they're saying: What the hell just happened? I voted for a woman/black. You can't call me sexist/racist anymore. I'm a good Republican,...Read More


I'm Not Out. But, Ya know, They Know

Filed by Eric Leven | May 08, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

Yes, we've all heard it many, many times before. "I'm not out to my parents but they know." Or- "Yeah, they know but we don't talk about it." Listen, ok. I get it. I really do. Not everyone is blessed...Read More


A Page Turns...

Filed by Jim Neal | May 08, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Firstly, I want to again congratulate Senator Hagan on her nomination as the candidate to beat US Senator Dole in the 2008 senatorial race. I have told Kay that she has my full support and encourage you to work hard...Read More


The Michigan DP Decision: Sad News: Bait and Switch Works

Filed by Don Sherfick | May 08, 2008 | 2:10 PM | comments

There may be a silver lining in the recent decision of the Michigan Supreme Court to erase domestic partnership benefits for same-sex couples under its new "Marriage Protection" constitutional amendment. Before it passed the folks of the Rightous Right told...Read More


Here's something to brighten your day

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 08, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

A group of 60 high school students in New York this week cross-dressed to school to show their support for a transgender classmate. It's enough to make me think that Waymon might be right about the kidz today. The interesting...Read More


Baskin-Robbins open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | May 08, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

A good friend sent a link to an obituary yesterday. Baskin-Robbins co-founder Irvine Robbins died at age 90 a few days ago. The ice cream mastermind brought us flavors like Rocky Road, Pink Bubblegum and Pralines 'n Cream. "Everybody has...Read More


Michigan Supreme Court- "No benefits for gay partners"

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 07, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

The decision is in from the Michigan Supreme Court- the 2004 Michigan ban against gay marriage also blocks domestic-partner benefits. The court ruled 5-2 that governments and state universities can't offer health insurance to the partners of gay workers. According...Read More


The Primary Is Over, My Passion Is Not

Filed by Marti Abernathey | May 07, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

For those that are working on a political campaign, the day after the election feels like a balloon that suddenly loses all it's air. Win or lose, the day after is always a time to rest and take stock of...Read More


Would somebody please think of the children?

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 07, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

One of the silliest arguments that the Religious Right uses to keep us down is the "Children just can't deal with homosexuality/transsexuality/gay culture/drag queens/queer PDA at their age - their minds just aren't ready for it." It's silly because it's...Read More


Going to vote in Indiana

Filed by Bil Browning | May 06, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Politics is a family affair for us. Jerame and I went to vote this morning. Paige took today as a vacation day from school and came along as our camerawoman. Indiana's primary hasn't mattered in the presidential primaries in 60-odd...Read More


Zach Speaks

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 06, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Wow! I remember the Friday night in June 2005 when I first read about Zach's story. It shook me up so much that I had to post about it. (When I got up on Saturday morning it was still with...Read More


Zach Speaks

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 06, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Wow! I remember the Friday night in June 2005 when I first read about Zach's story. It shook me up so much that I had to post about it. (When I got up on Saturday morning it was still with...Read More


John McCain: Pander-tics as usual

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 06, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

Who needs Judges interested in justice? Not John McCain. In a speech a Wake Forest University today, McCain once again proved that he is no maverick or free thinker. He has just continued his pander-tics tour for the religious right....Read More


Health care on paper only

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 05, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

The NY Times has an article up about the state of health care in the US, specifically for the insured, or, more precisely, the insured-on-paper-only: Mr. Corbin said that under their employer's health plan, he and his co-workers are now...Read More


Yesterday Was A Good B-Day

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 05, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Yesterday was another Cuatro De Mayo celebration, AKA my birthday. As usual it was an interesting weekend. I was born during the Kennedy Administration at 10:45 PM CDT on this day in H-town's Third Ward. At this point in my...Read More


Yesterday Was A Good B-Day

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 05, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Yesterday was another Cuatro De Mayo celebration, AKA my birthday. As usual it was an interesting weekend. I was born during the Kennedy Administration at 10:45 PM CDT on this day in H-town's Third Ward. At this point in my...Read More


Pikachu Peekaboo caption this

Filed by Bil Browning | May 05, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

I can't wait to see what captions Projectors come up with for this one. You just have to wonder what company executive gave this idea a thumbs up, eh? The floor is yours... Shortly after the Japanese government recognized Pokemon...Read More


The Daily Show on Sex Education

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 04, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

I think I just might be that toothbrush....Read More


Tough Love!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | May 03, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

Dear Fannie, My best friend and I have been really tight for a really long time. Like, eight years. But recently he's started to get into some things that aren't good for him. The other day, I was having...Read More


Safe travels home, Deborah.

Filed by Gina de Vries | May 03, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Toni wrote this beautiful eulogy for Deborah Jean Palfrey. It brings up a lot for me; says a lot of what I want to say, perhaps with more eloquence than I can muster at the moment. The first time I...Read More


Safe travels home, Deborah.

Filed by Gina de Vries | May 03, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Toni wrote this beautiful eulogy for Deborah Jean Palfrey. It brings up a lot for me; says a lot of what I want to say, perhaps with more eloquence than I can muster at the moment. The first time I...Read More


Safe travels home, Deborah.

Filed by Gina de Vries | May 03, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Toni wrote this beautiful eulogy for Deborah Jean Palfrey. It brings up a lot for me; says a lot of what I want to say, perhaps with more eloquence than I can muster at the moment. The first time I...Read More


Open thread - What is your ideal porn scenario?

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | May 03, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Let's all admit it- we like to get a little freaky from time to time. So this weekend's open thread is fun- and HAWT! What is your ideal porn scenario? So cue the "wacka-chicka-waa-waa" cheesy music and let you imagination...Read More


Politics as usual? The Youth Factor

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 03, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

I have hope that there are some looking beyond the bickering within the Democratic Party and having substantive discussions on policies and their effects. Want to know where this elevated level of discourse is happening? It's among young voters on...Read More


A weekend chock-full of Presidential candidates

Filed by Bil Browning | May 03, 2008 | 8:15 AM | comments

The Indiana primary is drawing close. Every time you flip over a rock, you find a Presidential candidate. This morning I'm going with a PFLAG mom to see Barack Obama speak. Later this evening there's a free concert at a...Read More


A weekend chock-full of Presidential candidates

Filed by Bil Browning | May 03, 2008 | 8:15 AM | comments

The Indiana primary is drawing close. Every time you flip over a rock, you find a Presidential candidate. This morning I'm going with a PFLAG mom to see Barack Obama speak. Later this evening there's a free concert at a...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 39-40

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 02, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 37-38, this week I am sharing strategies 39-40. Look for more strategies next...Read More


California Set to Kill Medi-Cal Recipients

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | May 02, 2008 | 3:10 PM | comments

This is a shocking headline, right? I made it up just to get attention, right? Wrong. The California legislature recently passed Assembly Bill X35 and Assembly Bill X36, containing provisions that will kill people if put into effect in July....Read More


A day in the life of a stay-at-home blogger

Filed by Bil Browning | May 02, 2008 | 11:15 AM | comments

6:45am - Wake up & start day with the breakfast of champions - a cigarette and a cup of coffee 8:00am - Take Paige to school and start working on the blog 9:00am - Some back-end changes take a bit...Read More


Another young gay person murdered in South Florida

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 02, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Another black gay youth has been gunned down in Fort Lauderdale. Shanesa Conaway, 22, was shot to death on April 26 during a domestic dispute between her partner, Shameca Davis and Kevin Cartwright, the father of Davis' two children. Conaway...Read More


Quick note

Filed by Bil Browning | May 02, 2008 | 7:45 AM | comments

I forgot to mention this yesterday - I'm getting ready to go on Abdul in the Morning with Thomas Cook from BlueIndiana.net and Josh Gillespie from Hoosier Access. Blogger wars! You can listen to the interview here....Read More


Barack Obama and Hillary Clinton on HIV/AIDS

Filed by Michael Crawford | May 01, 2008 | 11:05 AM | comments

The AIDS epidemic has received scant attention so far in the election cycle even in the gay media. Rather than pressing the candidates forcefully and directly about how they will advance GLBT issues if elected to the presidency, we have...Read More