Living: June 2008

So let me understand this...

Filed by Mike Rogers | June 30, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

...the guy who uses a prostitute and puts his wife at risk for contracting a sexually transmitted disease thinks we should discriminate against people with HIV? Is David Vitter trying to go further to the right or what? First, he...Read More


Let's spend an hour or two together

Filed by Bil Browning | June 30, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

Got some time to kill while you're twiddling away your work day? Need some company while you're filling out all those reports in triplicate? Today's your lucky day! I mentioned in an earlier post that the first half of an...Read More


Everybody wants our money and time!

Filed by Juan and Ken Ahonen-Jover | June 30, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Like most of you, we are often asked to give money and volunteer our time for "the election of our lifetime." Since we have an organization dedicated to give strategically, we spend lots of time thinking about what are the...Read More


Fetish, the Other F Word

Filed by Mercedes Allen | June 30, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

The most important things I ever learned about dating and relationships came from the leather community. So it bothers me when I see people and lifestyles trashed as "disgusting" or "a tarnish on our community." Or when the medical community...Read More


John Hagee's Big Mouth

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | June 30, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

John Hagee is at it again - the super-big preacher guy is shooting off his super-big mouth. Having declared the Catholic Church as the "great whore," "homosexual rallies" as the cause of Katrina, and Hitler as "God's will" for the...Read More


Let's get inside the mind of a conservative and imagine a world without homosexuals

Filed by Guest Blogger | June 30, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Guest blogger Robert Rouse is an anti-war activist, musician and blogger who has spent time in Crawford, TX and Washington, DC on behalf of the peace movement. He resides in Fort Wayne, IN with his wife Sheri and...Read More


Why Gay? ...female strategy for fecundity?

Filed by Guest Blogger | June 29, 2008 | 7:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Dr. Helen Fisher is the founder and Chief Scientific Advisor to Chemistry.com. Dr. Fisher has been posting every Sunday evening for the past month, so I hope someone fixed her a plate. I was fascinated with...Read More


Like any proud (blog) mama...

Filed by Bil Browning | June 29, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Everyone knows we consider ourselves the Bilerico family around here. I guess that makes me the Blog Mama since no one who knows Jerame and I would argue that I'm the butch one. *grins* One of the other ways you...Read More


I Want to Talk to My Friends!

Filed by Eric Marcus | June 29, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Dear Eric: About five years ago I came out to three good friends of mine. Ever since then we haven't really talked about me being gay or homosexuality in general. I think that they are uncomfortable about discussing it...Read More


Don't Make Pride "Benign" on Behalf of My Family

Filed by Paige Schilt | June 28, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

I live in Austin, Texas, where Pride tends to be a little more laid back than other cities. Let's face it, when it's 97 degrees outside with 30% humidity, your eye shadow will melt, your leather pants will feel like...Read More


Gay Murderer of Curious George Co-author Sentenced to Life in Prison

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | June 28, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Robert Ganshorn was a founding member of the Gay Liberation Front at Purdue University before creating one of the first Public Television documentaries on gay lifestyles broadcast during his graduate studies at Indiana University. Failing to become the...Read More


SF Pride Open Thread

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | June 28, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

This weekend is not only San Francisco Pride, it's Pride all over the damn place! I kicked off the season in April with Phoenix Pride (which was lame), and then partied my little ass off at Long Beach Pride in...Read More


Waymon is married!

Filed by Lane Hudson | June 27, 2008 | 10:00 PM | comments

Ran into him at a bar in Castro - groom and marriage license in hand!...Read More


Ten Money Questions for Sabrina Matthews

Filed by Nina Smith | June 27, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Sabrina Matthews wears comfortable shoes and lives "amidst the doughnut shops and dude-speak" of Los Angeles. All this makes great fodder for her comedy routine while providing a healthy perspective on money, the housing market and getting paid to do...Read More


Observations on Trans Sexuality!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | June 27, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Hey Fannie, I'm a 27 year old gay man, and I've been getting more involved with activism, especially trans-activism. I've noticed that a lot of lesbians date trans-men, but it doesn't seem to work the other way around. Why don't...Read More


Update: Bolthouse Farms and the Bolthouse Foundation are connected

Filed by Alex Blaze | June 27, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Bil and I were talking a couple weeks ago about the former owner of Bolthouse Farms giving $100,000 to support the anti-gay ballot initiative in California. Bolthouse Farms makes a popular line of organic fruit drinks. I told Bil that...Read More


Corporate Accountability: An Uptick? Some Reasons?

Filed by Dustin Kight | June 26, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

Yesterday afternoon Family Equality Council released a statement from Executive Director Jennifer Chrisler on the state of our talks with TiVo, Inc. For the past three weeks, we have encouraged our supporters, their families and friends to contact TiVo and...Read More


When secrecy becomes habit

Filed by Guest Blogger | June 26, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

Editors' note: Rob Barton is a happily married father of five who works as a musician and owns a private music school in a small town in Mass. He also teaches martial arts. He is active with numerous LGBT organizations...Read More


This will send the right wing over the edge

Filed by Bil Browning | June 26, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

There's nothing as American as Budweiser. We know from the commercials that it's made in "St. Louis, Missouri;" the red, white and blue labeled brew is the most popular beer in the nation. Our extremely patriotic President, however, has let...Read More


Burning Obama -- and His Family -- at the Stake

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | June 25, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

As the U.S. heads into the last frenzied months of Presidential campaigning, attacks on the belief history of Obama's family grow ever fiercer. Right-wing commentators aren't content to question Obama's positioning on his former pastor and former church. They keep...Read More


Praying for compassion compassion compassion, dammit

Filed by Gina de Vries | June 25, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

I work part-time at a queer non-profit that does activism and outreach around issues of spirituality, religion, ministry, and LGBTQ communities. I'm the receptionist/secretary/office monkey, so the work is not super-glam, but it's a groovy job. I love the people...Read More


Praying for compassion compassion compassion, dammit

Filed by Gina de Vries | June 25, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

I work part-time at a queer non-profit that does activism and outreach around issues of spirituality, religion, ministry, and LGBTQ communities. I'm the receptionist/secretary/office monkey, so the work is not super-glam, but it's a groovy job. I love the people...Read More


In Search of Pride

Filed by Eric Marcus | June 25, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

I had an experience on the NYC subway last week that reminded me that no matter how out I am, no matter how many books I've written, speeches I've given, or how much advice I've offered, that being out and...Read More


I Will Go With You

Filed by Eric Leven | June 24, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

It was 30 seconds. Ok, maybe 45 seconds but 45 seconds at the most! That's how long Rob's cock was in my ass without a condom. I really hadn't thought much about it until 3 weeks later when Rob called...Read More


I Will Go With You

Filed by Eric Leven | June 24, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

It was 30 seconds. Ok, maybe 45 seconds but 45 seconds at the most! That's how long Rob's cock was in my ass without a condom. I really hadn't thought much about it until 3 weeks later when Rob called...Read More


Dolce & Gabbana sells gang rape

Filed by Bil Browning | June 24, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

Dolce & Gabanna have come under fire recently for an advertisement that some have said promoted/glorified gang rape. (That ad is after the jump.) The company's most recent ad has not been scrutinized for violent connections even though one model...Read More


Massage with Benefits, Girlfriend Without

Filed by Michele O'Mara | June 24, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

My girlfriend is the first woman I have dated. We seem to be getting serious but nothing physical has happened yet and I am a little concerned because she is a massage therapist. I know she has done things...Read More


All that sheltering emptiness

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | June 24, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

I always liked hotel lobbies, the chandeliers and so much ceiling I'd yawn like I was oblivious, really I was trying not to go in the wrong direction. If I made a mistake then the key was to act like...Read More


Flying Marriages Under the Radar

Filed by Mercedes Allen | June 23, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

I recently had the pleasure of attending and helping out with the wedding of some close friends in the trans community (or at least until I threw my back out and hit a bout of dehydration and shock that messed...Read More


New Military Data "Tells" Only Part of the Story

Filed by Steve Ralls | June 23, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

The New York Times is reporting that the United States military dismissed 627 service members, in 2007, under the federal "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" law that bars openly lesbian, gay and bisexual Americans from the armed forces. The data reflects...Read More


Get a damn haircut

Filed by Alex Blaze | June 23, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Here's an item that rolls gender anxiety and cultural superiority all into one. Needville Elementary School in Texas is saying that Adrian Arocha, a 5-year-old Native boy, can't attend school this fall because his hair is too long. The school...Read More


Why gay? Fa'afines of Samoa solve the puzzle

Filed by Guest Blogger | June 22, 2008 | 7:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Dr. Helen Fisher is the founder and Chief Scientific Advisor to Chemistry.com. Dr. Fisher will be posting every Sunday evening for the next month, so someone fix her a plate. I am a public speaker by...Read More


Why gay? Fa'afines of Samoa solve the puzzle

Filed by Guest Blogger | June 22, 2008 | 7:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Dr. Helen Fisher is the founder and Chief Scientific Advisor to Chemistry.com. Dr. Fisher will be posting every Sunday evening for the next month, so someone fix her a plate. I am a public speaker by...Read More


Talking About Gay Marriage In High School

Filed by Eric Marcus | June 22, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

On several occasions I've heard from high school students who have wanted advice on how to give a persuasive speech on gay issues and/or how to deal with the potential fallout from a teacher and classmates. The back-and-forth that follows...Read More


Not quite a delegate...

Filed by Jerame Davis | June 22, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

...but I'm going to the Democratic National Committee Convention in Denver as part of the Indiana delegation anyway. I'll be a member of the Rules Committee representing LGBT Hoosiers with pride. I was running for At-Large Delegate, so getting on...Read More


Teenage Girls Make Pregnancy Pact

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | June 22, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

When I heard this story yesterday morning, I just couldn't believe my ears. A group of teenage girls in Gloucester, Mass. has formed a new kind of club. And this time it's not like the Mean Girls. It's a pregnancy...Read More


Teenage Girls Make Pregnancy Pact

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | June 22, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

When I heard this story yesterday morning, I just couldn't believe my ears. A group of teenage girls in Gloucester, Mass. has formed a new kind of club. And this time it's not like the Mean Girls. It's a pregnancy...Read More


Sometimes the Law Works in Mysterious Ways

Filed by Dustin Kight | June 21, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Just when you thought DOMA made it impossible for same-sex couples to enjoy any of the rights, privileges and responsibilities of marriage, the Department of Justice releases a legal opinion stating that nothing in the infamous 1996 federal law bars...Read More


"That's so gay" open thread

Filed by Jerame Davis | June 21, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

EDITOR'S NOTE: Since Jerame's post keeps getting comments regularly even though it was originally published May 23rd, I thought I'd bring it back to the front page for more discussion. Does the phrase "That's so gay" bother you as much...Read More


Stop Trying to "Fix" Trans People

Filed by Guest Blogger | June 21, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editors' note: Matt Kailey is the author of Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide the Transsexual Experience, the editor of Focus on the Fabulous: Colorado GLBT Voices, and the managing editor of Out Front Colorado, Colorado's oldest and largest GLBT...Read More


Stop Trying to "Fix" Trans People

Filed by Guest Blogger | June 21, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editors' note: Matt Kailey is the author of Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide the Transsexual Experience, the editor of Focus on the Fabulous: Colorado GLBT Voices, and the managing editor of Out Front Colorado, Colorado's oldest and largest GLBT...Read More


IssueLab focuses on LGBTQ Youth

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 21, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

IssueLab, a website whose goal is to bring nonprofit research into focus, has a new June round-up-- an online collection of nongovernmental research on LGBTQ youth. The research touches on issues like how to build safe school environments for LGBTQ...Read More


Mrs. Cowen-Whitman

Filed by Sara Whitman | June 20, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

For the first time today, I was called Mrs. Cowen-Whitman. More than once. It was the last day of school and the kids all wanted to go to Tom's Pizza. We went and as I stood in line to order,...Read More


Renewal for Abstinence Only Programs Likely

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 20, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

In spite of the ever-mounting research showing that it is completely ineffectual, it appears as though the Bush administration's abstinence-only, wait-until-marriage programs for schools will be renewed. According to 365gay.com: The House Appropriations Subcommittee on Labor, Health and Human Services,...Read More


10 Tips for GLBT folks in Dealing with Family and Friends

Filed by Michele O'Mara | June 20, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

With all of the wonderful attention resurfacing around same-sex marriages, I thought I'd pull together a list of tips for dealing with friends and family around the issue of sexual orientation. What issue? Nothing like a big ole gay wedding...Read More


Lesbian Couple Lectured at Doctors office

Filed by Sean Kosofsky | June 19, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

West Michigan is a very conservative place, but two local lesbians were still shocked to be lectured by their doctor about their "lifestyle" when they went in for a simple issue. It is a shame that in an era of...Read More


Just saw a great gay play...

Filed by Alex Blaze | June 19, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Last weekend, I went down to the Festival Autrement Gay here in St. Etienne, France, to go see a play written, directed, and starred in by Alberto Lombardo (my boyfriend), Quand mon coeur bat je veux que tu l'entend (When...Read More


Marriage Equality and the Memory of Tammy Faye

Filed by Paige Schilt | June 19, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Yesterday my partner, Katy, and I were legally married by our friend Jay Bakker, the Pastor of Revolution NYC. During the ceremony, Jay spoke of his late mother, Tammy Faye Messner, and how happy she would have been to see...Read More


Marriage Equality and the Memory of Tammy Faye

Filed by Paige Schilt | June 19, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Yesterday my partner, Katy, and I were legally married by our friend Jay Bakker, the Pastor of Revolution NYC. During the ceremony, Jay spoke of his late mother, Tammy Faye Messner, and how happy she would have been to see...Read More


First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then...

Filed by Terrance Heath | June 18, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Trigger Warning: I've never used a "trigger warning" before but there are some descriptions of severe abuse after the jump. I wanted to warn anyone whose memories of past trauma might be triggered by the descriptions. As I write this,...Read More


Good News from the AMA

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 18, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Good news from the American Medical Association regarding the care and treatment of transgender people. Resolution 122, called "Removing Financial Barriers to Care for Transgender Patients," was approved by the Reference Committee and subsequently by the entire House of Delegates....Read More


Good News from the AMA

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 18, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Good news from the American Medical Association regarding the care and treatment of transgender people. Resolution 122, called "Removing Financial Barriers to Care for Transgender Patients," was approved by the Reference Committee and subsequently by the entire House of Delegates....Read More


In Memory Of

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | June 18, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

On Father's Day I received a piece of very sad news. My good friend Daviel Wright had passed away from complications with his diabetes. The news came as quite a shock to me. Daniel was a young man and I...Read More


In Memory Of

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | June 18, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

On Father's Day I received a piece of very sad news. My good friend Daviel Wright had passed away from complications with his diabetes. The news came as quite a shock to me. Daniel was a young man and I...Read More


Middle School Picnic

Filed by Sara Whitman | June 18, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I was allowed- and yes, I do mean allowed- to go to Ben's middle school picnic today for his "team" at school. The 6th grade is divided into three teams- Yellow, Orange and Red. Ben is on Orange and today...Read More


Bad Chicago news for The Peter

Filed by Pam Spaulding | June 17, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

The Peter is probably having a cow right now since this is in his backyard. An openly gay Chicago alderman is proposing changes to the city's domestic partner benefits plan to ensure that the partners of city workers remain insured...Read More


Anything was possible

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | June 17, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

Sometimes you have a dream and that dream infuses everything, your relationships are part of that dream and the dream is part of your relationships and everything is hard but it's the dream that means you'll be okay. And then...Read More


Lawyer in Lawrence King Case Promises not to "Gay Bash"

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 17, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Even in the midst of our joy on this historic day, we cannot forget how far we have to go... The Defense Lawyer for Brandon McInerney, the 14 year old shooter of Lawrence King, has promised to be "sensitive" in...Read More


I Do! California Performs Same-Sex Marriage

Filed by Karen Ocamb | June 17, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

Truthfully, it felt more like an event than a marriage, as a huge swarm of media - me included - descended on Robin Tyler and Diane Olson after they got out of their white stretch limo in front of the...Read More


My Marriage Decision

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 16, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

This is an exciting day for our community. Marriage Equality is a reality in California. It's a day for celebration and reflection. Here on Bilerico, there has been much discussion about the importance of "marriage" and the fight for equality....Read More


Gay Marriage: What's the fuss about?

Filed by Guest Blogger | June 15, 2008 | 7:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger, Dr. Helen Fisher, is the founder and Chief Scientific Advisor to Chemistry.com. Dr. Fisher will be posting every Sunday evening for the next month, so someone fix her a plate. I am so delighted to be...Read More


Pride and Fatherhood

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | June 15, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

It's Gay Pride and Father's Day in many cities. And so some words about gay fathers.... A "fatherhood movement" started in this country in the mid-1990's. Its main stated goal: Convince everyone that father absence had devastating consequences for children...Read More


Excerpt from my Letter of Resignation

Filed by Ellen Andersen | June 15, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

After living for more than a decade in Indiana, my partner and I are pulling up stakes and moving to Vermont this summer. We're both taking positions on the faculty at the University of Vermont. We hadn't been planning to...Read More


Reflections from a PFLAG mom

Filed by Annette Gross | June 15, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

I told myself I would be good this year. I told myself I wouldn't look. Okay, I admit, I did peek a little bit - but I couldn't help it. I was marching with PFLAG in the Parade, and as...Read More


Out In Middle School. I'm Lonely. Help! Part 3

Filed by Eric Marcus | June 15, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

There is one question that I'm asked by young teens more often than any other and that's the question "Miserable in Middle School" asked me in the third and final part of our e-mail conversation. Here's the question: hi! i...Read More


Sex and the City Star Hopes to Save the Ta Tas

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | June 15, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

"Sex and the City" star Cynthia Nixon is on a crusade - and it's all in support of the gals. Nixon recently joined Susan G. Komen for the Cure, the world's largest breast cancer advocacy organization, as an Ambassador. In...Read More


Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

Filed by Juan and Ken Ahonen-Jover | June 15, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

First, heartfelt congratulations! This is amazing and historic because couples from any state can get married in California. Take this one-question poll if you plan to marry in California. But now a reminder of the work ahead and important information...Read More


Indianapolis IN Pride 08 parade and festival

Filed by Bil Browning | June 14, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

I've been hanging out at the Indy Pride festival today. I took pictures of the parade and some of the booths before I came home for a breather. I think this year's Pride is bigger than any other year; the...Read More


Open Thread- What's your Guilty Pleasure?

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 14, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

We all have them. Those things we like to do to unwind when no one is around. Those little pleasures that we would NEVER tell anyone about because it seems so silly. So spill it, Projectors: What is your guilty...Read More


Two Birds with One Column!

Filed by Fannie Fierce | June 13, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Dear Fannie, Now you see, i have two kinda different dilemmas. Numero Uno, Premature Ejaculation. I'm currently sleeping with this guy who shoots before we can really even get things going. Making out, touching and poof! He's done. I...Read More


Hello again....

Filed by Brynn Craffey | June 13, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

I haven't had a chance to post here in what seems like ages! The kind editors, however, (thank you!!) have kept my name "on the masthead" in the hope I'd once again surface and be able to contribute. A number...Read More


How to get ahead in conservative circles without even trying

Filed by Bil Browning | June 12, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

While I'm sure the Manhunt Indianapolis area was booming this week, herpes isn't the only gift the Southern Baptist Convention gave us. What's better than yet another blatant example of their hypocrisy? This would be comedy gold if it weren't...Read More


What can I say? I get around.

Filed by Bil Browning | June 12, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

Quiet in the peanut gallery out there... *grins* Just a quick note to say that I'll be appearing on Abdul in the Morning (1430AM) tomorrow morning during the 7am hour to talk about being a gay dad. Apparently there will...Read More


Search for a "True Christian VP"?

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 12, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Why do all the fundie nut-jobs live in Florida? Sigh... Gary Cass, former head of the Center For Reclaiming America at the late Rev James Kennedy's Coral Ridge Ministries, has launched an online petition drive to get an evangelical Christian...Read More


HIVBigDeal.Org Goes Live

Filed by Eric Leven | June 12, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

After working for New York City's Public Health Department from 1986 to1999 and teaching a course in the epidemiology of HIV/AIDS at Columbia University it became clear to Mary-Ann Chiasson that something more must be done. It was during this...Read More


Obama on Midwest flooding

Filed by Bil Browning | June 12, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

The Obama campaign released a statement today on the Midwest flooding. "My heart goes out to the families in Illinois and across the Midwest, who have been forced to flee their own homes, and leave their businesses and communities behind....Read More


The Dads Focus on the Family Doesn't Want You to Know About

Filed by Dustin Kight | June 12, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

As of 6:57pm Wednesday afternoon, 751 people have signed our petition telling TiVo to apologize to LGBTQ families and their supporters and to sever their ties with hate group Focus on the Family. And to think we only found out...Read More


Are you going to Indy Pride?

Filed by Bil Browning | June 11, 2008 | 6:15 PM | comments

Indy Pride is this weekend. I'll be floating around the different booths and exhibits, so be sure to say hi if you see me. Indiana Fairness Network will have a booth where they'll be raffling off a Roadmaster 27" 18...Read More


Do You Have to Go?

Filed by Kate Clinton | June 11, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

This is the first Tuesday after the Democratic primaries and it is blistering hot in New York. For days it had been rainy and cool and then suddenly, perhaps because it's the last days of school, and god is a...Read More


The Mongol horde

Filed by Bil Browning | June 10, 2008 | 6:15 PM | comments

While Mayor Ballard is clamoring to build a new Chinatown, my neighborhood has apparently been overrun by the Mongol horde. Someone please build a big wall soon! Not only did I get a gun stuck in my face on Thursday...Read More


Bishop Robinson says "I do!"

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | June 10, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

The Right Reverend V. Gene Robinson is the most dangerous bishop in the worldwide Anglican Communion. But witnessing this man of quiet dignity and humble beginnings join in civil union with his partner, Mark Andrew, you must ask yourself: why?...Read More


One Mighty (PFLAG) Party

Filed by Steve Ralls | June 10, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

On Saturday morning, I had the great privilege of joining 30 PFLAG parents, and PFLAG executive director Jody Huckaby in Orlando for an early morning demonstration at the First Presbyterian Church. "Love Won Out" was staging its latest (and 50th)...Read More


Thank you, St. Gregory

Filed by Gina de Vries | June 10, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

St. Gregory of Nyssa is one of the most crazy and beautiful churches I've ever been in. They're a progressive, very queer-friendly Episcopal church, but all of the art inside is very Russian and Greek Orthodox-influenced -- extremely ornate, and...Read More


Saltines

Filed by Sara Whitman | June 09, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

It is funny what evokes a long ago image. An instant of flavor, or smell or the way the sun is setting in the sky. It's never expected, and as I have learned in the last few years, sometimes welcomed,...Read More


Congratulations to Bishop Gene Robinson!

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 09, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Bishop Gene Robinson, the openly gay Episcopal Bishop, entered into a civil union with his long time partner, Mark Andrews, this Saturday! According to PageOneQ: About 120 guests gathered at St. Paul's Church in New Hampshire for Saturday's ceremony for...Read More


Congratulations to Bishop Gene Robinson!

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 09, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Bishop Gene Robinson, the openly gay Episcopal Bishop, entered into a civil union with his long time partner, Mark Andrews, this Saturday! According to PageOneQ: About 120 guests gathered at St. Paul's Church in New Hampshire for Saturday's ceremony for...Read More


Free SRS a todos!

Filed by Alex Blaze | June 09, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

From Cuba: New horizons opened up for transsexuals in Cuba with the approval of a Public Health Ministry resolution that establishes guidelines for their health care, including free gender reassignment operations. "It was just approved. The operations will begin to...Read More


Funny encounters with priests, and why I keep St. Lucy around

Filed by Gina de Vries | June 09, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

I've always adored Russian and Greek Orthodox art. I have a little Russian Orthodox carving of the Blessed Mother, the Christ child, and (grown up) Jesus on my altar; the portrait of Saint Lucy on my altar is Greek Orthodox....Read More


Monday morning question of the day

Filed by Alex Blaze | June 09, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I asked this question some time ago and we had quite a conversation. With so many new people on the site this past year, it seems like we should go for it again: Has being queer affected your religion or...Read More


Water, water, everywhere

Filed by Bil Browning | June 08, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Thanks to several of you have written to ask if those of us from Indiana are doing okay after this weekend's massive flooding. Personally, we got a bit of water in the basement but that's about it. When we bought...Read More


Out In Middle School! Part 2

Filed by Eric Marcus | June 08, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Last week I posted an e-mail from a bisexual middle school student who is out and has been having problems with people teasing and harassing her. She asked for advice on what she could do and I responded to her...Read More


Out In Middle School! Part 2

Filed by Eric Marcus | June 08, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Last week I posted an e-mail from a bisexual middle school student who is out and has been having problems with people teasing and harassing her. She asked for advice on what she could do and I responded to her...Read More


Open Thread- What was the last good book you read?

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 07, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

I'll admit it. I have an addiction. I read constantly. I love nothing more than curling up with a good book and tuning out of the world for awhile. Heck, I'll read just about anything- from historical biographies to trashy...Read More


Late night fright

Filed by Bil Browning | June 06, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

What happened to Mayor Ballard making the streets safer? I'm watching the administration tout the decreasing crime rate, but I have my doubts. Take last night, for example... I went outside on our front porch for a smoke before bed...Read More


50 Ways to Keep Your Lover: # 49-50

Filed by Michele O'Mara | June 06, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

In my book, Love Tips and Trips for Gay and Lesbian Relationships, I have identified 50 Ways to Keep Your Lover. My post last Friday offered strategies 47-48, this week I am sharing strategies 49-50....Read More


Something Ain't Right With My TiVo!

Filed by Dustin Kight | June 06, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Shame on you, TiVo. First you partner with James Dobson and Focus on the Family -- a partnership that has created a "SuperDad Essay Contest" we all know isn't looking for any GBTQ dads -- then you deny that the...Read More


Some Birthday Reflections

Filed by Bruce Parker | June 05, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

I don't like my birthday. I have never enjoyed them much and probably never will. My family birthday's when I was younger were never very fun and celebrations and holidays were always hard times for my mother and I. As...Read More


Gays and lesbians should wed with their wallets.

Filed by Nina Smith | June 05, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

"Marriage is a great institution, but I'm not ready for an institution." - Mae West Recently, many of us in California had reason to celebrate as the State's Supreme Court ruled the ban here on gay marriage is unconstitutional. Since...Read More


Marriage Equality means Big Money for California

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 05, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

In an interesting article in the San Francisco Chronicle (which I did a brief interview and quote for), another reason why the California Marriage Decision is good for the state was brought forward: money. In the article, "State sees economic...Read More


Marriage Equality means Big Money for California

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 05, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

In an interesting article in the San Francisco Chronicle (which I did a brief interview and quote for), another reason why the California Marriage Decision is good for the state was brought forward: money. In the article, "State sees economic...Read More


A Thank You Note to Senator Hillary Clinton

Filed by Bruce Parker | June 05, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

Hillary, When I was twelve, I spent a lot of time telling anyone who would listen that you were ranked as one of the 100 most influential lawyers in America before even marrying Bill. You had a career before becoming...Read More


Surprise: Texas prosecutors don't like homeless poz man

Filed by Alex Blaze | June 04, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Even a court of law in 2008 can get caught up in AIDS panic (via BTB): Prosecutors convinced a Dallas County jury this week that HIV-positive saliva should be considered a deadly weapon. But the Centers for Disease Control and...Read More


Breaking News: No Stay for California Marriages!

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 04, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

The California Supreme Court denied a request today to put a hold on its ruling allowing same-sex marriages after the November election. Opponents of the court's May 15 ruling had asked the justices to stay the decision until Californians vote...Read More


Share your Pride plans question of the day

Filed by Alex Blaze | June 04, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

It's Pride month, so... Are you going to a Pride celebration in your area? Did you already go to one of the early ones?...Read More


Get Busy. Get Equal.

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 03, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

The ACLU LGBT Project recently launched Get Busy, Get Equal , an online toolkit for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender activists. Get Busy, Get Equal is designed to equip activists who don't necessarily have much experience organizing with the tools...Read More


PFLAG Parents Greet the "Ex-Gays"

Filed by Steve Ralls | June 03, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

This weekend, Orlando will be hopping with the annual Gay Days at Disney World. Thousands of LGBT people from across the country will gather in the Sunshine State to party, celebrate and tan. But it may well be early on...Read More


A shift in the texture of the air

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | June 03, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Sometimes I wish I could let go of sex, maybe desire would become something else like lying in the grass and holding the sky. I've been trying to regain a sense of liberation in my own sexuality, but I find...Read More


A shift in the texture of the air

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | June 03, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Sometimes I wish I could let go of sex, maybe desire would become something else like lying in the grass and holding the sky. I've been trying to regain a sense of liberation in my own sexuality, but I find...Read More


Just a thought about health care and John McCain

Filed by Alex Blaze | June 03, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

John McCain is in good enough health to run for president: Republican John McCain was deemed by his doctors on Friday to be in sufficient good health to serve as president even as they reported a long history of skin...Read More


LGBT Families Day: Rights or No Rights, We're Still Parents

Filed by Sara Whitman | June 02, 2008 | 9:00 PM | comments

Fall soccer forms due August 8th, doctor's appointments for summer camp forms and dinner cooked- but not yet eaten- by 4PM today. There is a little league baseball game and Zachary is pitching. By the time we get home, the...Read More


A Father By Any Other Name

Filed by Donna Rose | June 02, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

Every year just before Father's Day I get a call from a news agency wanting to interview me about how transsexual parents celebrate this annual celebration of dads. I certainly can't answer for all transsexuals - I can only answer...Read More


Harry Jackson Home Movies

Filed by Paige Schilt | June 02, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

This weekend Soulforce posted video of Bishop Harry Jackson's closing remarks at a dinner meeting with LGBT families at his Beltsville, Maryland church on May 24, 2008. The meeting was part of the American Family Outing, which is visiting six...Read More


Harry Jackson Home Movies

Filed by Paige Schilt | June 02, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

This weekend Soulforce posted video of Bishop Harry Jackson's closing remarks at a dinner meeting with LGBT families at his Beltsville, Maryland church on May 24, 2008. The meeting was part of the American Family Outing, which is visiting six...Read More


Ode to a toddler

Filed by Cathy Renna | June 02, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

I admit it - I have learned more about patience, kindness, fun and sheer joy from the "almost three" year old my wife and I share our life with, our daughter Rosemary. If you know me or have had the...Read More


Save Rent Control in California (No on Prop 98!)

Filed by Jessica Hoffmann | June 02, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Hey, California! I know it can be hard to get out and vote on local elections--either they seem insignificant, or you're pretty convinced electoral politics will never bring real social change, let alone justice. I hear you. The thing is,...Read More


Family is what you make it

Filed by Waymon Hudson | June 02, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

In honor of the third annual Blogging for LGBT Families Day, I wanted to share a little bit about my own family. Many of you know about my partner and me- we have been together for 6 years, have our...Read More


Beautiful Day in This Neighborhood

Filed by Michele O'Mara | June 02, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

In honor of Blogging for LGBT Families Day I'm going to share one of my favorite true stories about a day in the life in our neighborhood. My partner and I live in a suburb of Indy where our little...Read More


Congratulations to Steph and Stephanie

Filed by Bil Browning | June 02, 2008 | 9:05 AM | comments

Two good friends got married yesterday, Steph Mineart and Stephanie Kouteck. While the marriage, of course, isn't recognized here in Indiana, the duo are off to Canada to make it official. Both women looked absolutely stunning. I'm so happy for...Read More


Out In Middle School. Help!

Filed by Eric Marcus | June 01, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I often hear from middle school and high school students who are out (so brave!), but under siege. They have no interest in hiding, but often have to pay a high price for being themselves. The girl who sent me...Read More