Living: August 2008

Homosexuality contract?

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 31, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

There are reports that several schools in New Zealand are asking students to swear to their sexuality: Pupils are being prevented from taking same-sex partners to school balls unless they sign contracts confirming they are homosexual, a gay support group...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 31, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 31, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


Tip #4 No Apologies

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 31, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Tip #4: No Apologies To read Tip # 3 in this series of How to Deal with Families and Friends, visit here. When I came out to my mom, or rather, when she pulled me out of the closet with...Read More


What Do I Tell My Mother? Part 1

Filed by Eric Marcus | August 31, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Dear Mr. Marcus, I've finished reading your Is It a Choice book, and am currently reading What If Someone I know is Gay? But that's the thing. I know I'm a bisexual. With a preference to girls. I've known...Read More


An Extra-ordinary Night

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 30, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Rea Carey is the Executive Director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. Thursday night was extra-ordinary (I include the hyphen to emphasize what has been lost in the overuse of the word). I've been...Read More


Home again, home again, jiggety jog

Filed by Bil Browning | August 30, 2008 | 3:32 AM | comments

The last week in Denver at the DNCC was amazing, but it's good to be home. Friday was the best day of all. We spent a magical afternoon with Projecter Jesster climbing mountains, staring at kissing same-sex camels, and pissing...Read More


Difficult Days Ahead

Filed by Monica Roberts | August 29, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Like many African-Americans I was literally crying tears of joy last night as I saw a major political party nominate someone of my ethnic heritage for the highest office in the land. The fact that it was my party, one...Read More


McCain's vice president speculation open thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 28, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

We had quite a few posts speculating about Obama's vice presidential choice, but what about the GOP side of that question? Who do you think Team McCain will pick? Who do you think they should pick? Michael Crawford just emailed...Read More


The Beef of the Bedless Beach Boy

Filed by Father Tony | August 28, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Father T, Early in July my friend Chip invited me out to Fire Island for the weekend. He has part of a share in a house in the Pines. As it turns out, I was already acquainted with one...Read More


On being bipolar at the DNCC

Filed by Bil Browning | August 28, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

I don't talk much about being bipolar. Bruce has talked about it a couple of times in his posts, but I try not to bring it up. It's just not something that I like to advertise because, like it or...Read More


Potecting marriage in Idaho...

Filed by Mike Rogers | August 28, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Apparently blow jobs in train station and airport bathrooms is not enough to put Larry Craig's marriage on the rocks... But a same-sex wedding card? Whoaaaaaaaaaah! Hallmark stores refuse to sell company's own wedding cards: NAMPA, Idaho - A manager...Read More


Senator Obama's Statement on Del Martin

Filed by Steve Ralls | August 28, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Senator Obama, and his wife Michelle, issued the following statement earlier today about the passing of Del Martin: "Michelle and I were deeply saddened to hear that Del Martin had passed. Del committed her life to fighting discrimination and promoting...Read More


Mourning

Filed by Kate Kendell | August 27, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

It is always hard for me to write when the topic is personal. This is such a moment. On August 27, 2008 a personal hero, transformative icon, deeply cherished role-model and my friend, Del Martin, died at the age of...Read More


Family of Hate Crime Victim Ryan Skipper Speaks Out

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 27, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

The family of Ryan Skipper, a 25-year-old gay man from Winter Haven, Florida who was killed last year in a brutal hate crime, is speaking out and fighting for change. Skipper was found stabbed to death on March 15, 2007....Read More


Act like a gentleman

Filed by Bil Browning | August 27, 2008 | 12:15 PM | comments

While I consider Abdul Hakim-Shabazz a friend, this is one of the most sexist piece of shit writing I've seen this election cycle. He should be ashamed of himself. How about everyone act like a decent human being instead of...Read More


Postcards from Denver, Part One

Filed by Terrance Heath | August 27, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

So, I flew into Denver yesterday, after not bothering to go to bed Saturday night, because my flight was at 6:06 a.m. and the shuttle to Dulles picked me up at 3:29 a.m. Besides, I wasn't able to pack until...Read More


Family of Hate Crime Victim Ryan Skipper Speaks Out

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 27, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

The family of Ryan Skipper, a 25-year-old gay man from Winter Haven, Florida who was killed last year in a brutal hate crime, is speaking out and fighting for change. Skipper was found stabbed to death on March 15, 2007....Read More


Was Michelle Obama Enough?

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | August 26, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

As I watched the convention coverage it occurred to me that I have been watching Democratic Party conventions with interest since 1964. As it began at 6:00 AM here I drank my coffee and tried to understand what I was...Read More


Was Michelle Obama Enough?

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | August 26, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

As I watched the convention coverage it occurred to me that I have been watching Democratic Party conventions with interest since 1964. As it began at 6:00 AM here I drank my coffee and tried to understand what I was...Read More


Rather amusing

Filed by Bil Browning | August 25, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

I have an "Honored guest" hall pass for the convention tonight. On Tuesday and Wednesday, I have floor passes. The Starz Green Room gave me a VIP All Access pass. The Big Tent held two VIP passes for Jerame and...Read More


GQ on condoms

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 25, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

There's an interesting article in the current GQ about the HIV/AIDS epidemic that asks some pretty interesting questions. It's a good reminder about where we are when it comes to finding a cure or a safe vaccine (not very far),...Read More


Blinded Me with Science: Devolution of the DSM

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 25, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Kelley Winters, Ph.D. is a writer on issues of transgender medical policy, founder of GID Reform Advocates and an Advisory Board Member for the Matthew Shepard Foundation and TransYouth Family Advocates. She has presented papers on the psychiatric...Read More


On a Quiet Walk Home

Filed by Sara Whitman | August 24, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

We're walking back from Perkins Cove tonight, slowly, chatting, talking about school. Ben, Zachary, Jake, Jeanine and I. A guy in a van drives by. Shouts out. Stops. Guy says, Hey hey hey woman.... We have our KIDS with us....Read More


On a Quiet Walk Home

Filed by Sara Whitman | August 24, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

We're walking back from Perkins Cove tonight, slowly, chatting, talking about school. Ben, Zachary, Jake, Jeanine and I. A guy in a van drives by. Shouts out. Stops. Guy says, Hey hey hey woman.... We have our KIDS with us....Read More


I don't mean to complain, but...

Filed by Bil Browning | August 24, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

I have one word of advice for anyone coming to Denver. Don't stay at the Sheraton Tech Center hotel. A big rat does a polka in our room the first night The new room's door is broken There is no...Read More


Oh Dear!

Filed by Tyrion Lannister | August 24, 2008 | 3:02 PM | comments

From the Star: A few days after unexplained reports of an Indiana connection to a Bigfoot hoax that involved Georgia men and a furry costume stuffed into a freezer, a Delaware County man has been identified as a victim in...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 24, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a new, recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 24, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a new, recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock...Read More


How Can I Be Straight?

Filed by Eric Marcus | August 24, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Eric, I am an 18-year-old university student from Edinburgh, Scotland. I recently have finished reading your book 'Is it a choice?'. I must say that it was really an amazing experience for me. I have read a lot...Read More


Getting started in Denver at the DNCC

Filed by Bil Browning | August 24, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Our first day in Denver was a lot of fun. I always enjoy traveling and meeting new people, so this is right up my alley. We started our morning with a quick light rail ride to the convention center. Indianapolis,...Read More


Public sex sting in Alabama and media irresponsibility

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 23, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

There was a massive public gay sex sting in Alabama this past week that's resulted in warrants for the arrest of 24 men. I don't know why they weren't arrested on the spot if they were caught having sex, but...Read More


Saying Goodbye to Chu Chu

Filed by Karen Ocamb | August 23, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

As I was growing up, it was burned into me that homosexuality was an evil perversion. Coming out automatically meant I would give up any fanciful dream of having a family. So my dogs became my "children." While everything I...Read More


Saying Goodbye to Chu Chu

Filed by Karen Ocamb | August 23, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

As I was growing up, it was burned into me that homosexuality was an evil perversion. Coming out automatically meant I would give up any fanciful dream of having a family. So my dogs became my "children." While everything I...Read More


Text This: WE WANT TO WIN

Filed by Sara Whitman | August 22, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

I have read that Obama's VP will be announced by text message. New, unusual, different. I think it's a brilliant grassroots effort and an excellent start to the head to head campaign season. It's a least something interesting to liven...Read More


What Are Black Conservatives Conserving?

Filed by Bishop Mahee | August 22, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I have had a number of debates via telephone with my mother wherein I have tried to get her to understand not only the homophobic, but also the racist, classicist, anti-choice, anti-woman agenda of the Christian right. The Christian right...Read More


NBJC Celebrates the Life of Congresswoman Stephanie Tubbs Jones

Filed by H. Alexander Robinson | August 22, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

WASHINGTON, DC --The fervor, passion and dedication of American Politics lost one of its greatest and colorful leaders. U.S. Congresswoman, Stephanie Tubbs Jones of Ohio (D-11) passed away Wednesday evening leaving her family, a constituency and a legacy of social...Read More


NBJC Celebrates the Life of Congresswoman Stephanie Tubbs Jones

Filed by H. Alexander Robinson | August 22, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

WASHINGTON, DC --The fervor, passion and dedication of American Politics lost one of its greatest and colorful leaders. U.S. Congresswoman, Stephanie Tubbs Jones of Ohio (D-11) passed away Wednesday evening leaving her family, a constituency and a legacy of social...Read More


Remember the Anti-Gay Florida Principal? He's now a Local Hero

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 21, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

I'm sure readers will remember David Davis, the principal at Ponce de Leon High School in Florida whom the courts said led a "relentless crusade" against gay students at the school and "embarked on what can only be characterized as...Read More


Why is "taxes" a dirty word...?

Filed by Brynn Craffey | August 21, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Corporate tax rates in my former home, Ireland, are among the lowest in the European Union (EU). That fact, along with decades of massive EU spending to subsidize infrastructure, and a well-educated, English-speaking, hardworking workforce has been responsible for what...Read More


The British Orgy Daddy and the Island Boy

Filed by Father Tony | August 21, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Dear Father Tony, I am writing to you from Manila. That's in the Philippines. I am taking a break from the work I'm supposed to be doing (I write music programming for karaoke machines, barely a week into this...Read More


Why I'm Not Betting on CDC's HIV Statistics

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 21, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Greg Varnum is the Acting Executive Director of the National Youth Advocacy Coalition. I've got some national disease infection figures for you based on results of an optional test people in 22 states bothered to take. By the...Read More


Tenured (?) wingnut professor on crack

Filed by Pam Spaulding | August 21, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

I normally wouldn't waste my time on the crap that emits from the keyboard of Professor Mike S. Adams over at Clown Hall, but this classless loose cannon of homobigotry is stationed in my state; he teaches criminology at the...Read More


Rep Stephanie Tubbs Jones dies

Filed by Bil Browning | August 21, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Representative Stephanie Tubbs Jones died Wednesday after a brain hemorrhage. The Congresswoman had championed the east side of Cleveland and the surrounding suburbs for the last ten years. She was the first black woman elected to Congress from Ohio. Congresswoman...Read More


Dachau, death, and this man

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 20, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

I visited Dachau earlier this week, and posted about it before I went. I was moved by the stories that some of you told in the comments, so thank you for that. Dachau was the first concentration camp in Germany...Read More


Jesus Christ! Kathleen Parker and I agree on a socio-political issue

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 20, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Yesterday I posted about the presidential forum that was held in Rick Warren's Saddleback Church. My three big problems with it were that it imposed a religion test on the presidential candidates, that Obama did not use very supportive language...Read More


Who knew?

Filed by Bil Browning | August 20, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

While I'm really excited about the upcoming trip to Denver, I have to admit I'm a little out of sorts. There's so much to do when you leave a teenager, four dogs and a cat behind for a week. We've...Read More


Yikes

Filed by Tyrion Lannister | August 19, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

Over in the comments section of another Indiana focused blog, I notice that Indianapolis based anti-tax activist Melyssa Donaghy is defending herself from accusations of anti-semitism. At the root of the controversy, Melyssa posted a link to a cartoon on...Read More


Always be Curious

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 19, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

What is one thing I can do, starting immediately, to significantly improve my relationship in a way that will help us last forever? ~ Seeking Forever Seeker, Now here's a McQuestion begging for a drive-through answer. Let me see...Read More


I Want to Ride My Bicycle

Filed by Tyrion Lannister | August 19, 2008 | 2:24 PM | comments

Pardon my quiet these past few days, but I've been spending my free time zooming around on my brand spanking new road bike. While I used to ride quite a bit, I haven't had a decent bicycle in a few...Read More


This collective sense of doom

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | August 19, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

I love this series called Passing on the Pen at the GLBT Historical Society in San Francisco, curated by mystery writer Michael Nava. The series consists of writers in conversation -- last week it was Trebor Healey and Karl Soehnlein....Read More


Couples Brave the Storm for Miami Domestic Partnerships

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 19, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

According to the Miami Herald, 26 couples (24 same-sex and 2 heterosexual) braved Tropical Storm Fay's pounding rain to register on the first day of Miami-Dade County's Domestic Partnership registry. The storm forced the office to close at noon (and...Read More


Infrequent Flier Smiles

Filed by Kate Clinton | August 19, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I am pleased to announce, I have accrued no frequent flier miles this month of August. I have filled my 1998 Jeep's gas tank once and that was because there is something wrong with the gas gauge and John, my...Read More


Q & A with Kathy Gilleran

Filed by Steve Ralls | August 18, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Our reporting on Kathy Gilleran's search for her son, who disappeared in Austria in 2007, has moved many of our readers. PFLAG has received numerous emails, messages of support for Kathy, and many questions about the story, how you can...Read More


Ellen DeGeneres ties the Knot

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 18, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi have gotten married! According to their spokesperson, they married in a private, intimate ceremony at their $29 million mansion in Beverly Hills on Saturday night. The small ceremony was attended by just 19 guests,...Read More


That Marathon Woman in Beijing

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | August 18, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Constantina Tomescu's dominating win in the marathon got me remembering how far this women's event has come in just 38 years. As recently as 1970, only a few hundred women were running this distance worldwide...and doing it unofficially. They were...Read More


Gay Lifestyles: Is it Hip to be Square?

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | August 18, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

In his New York Times (April 27, 2008) feature story "Young Gay Rites," the delightfully-named Benoit Denizen-Lewis wrote about the "normal" world of young, white, married gay men in Massachusetts, till recently the only American state that allowed same-sex marriage....Read More


Question of the day

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 18, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

I'm on the last leg of my two-week vacation in Germany, and I'm spending my last full day here at Dachau, a concentration camp. I haven't ever visited one of those before, but I have a feeling I won't be...Read More


Equality For All

Filed by Sara Whitman | August 18, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Do you know what does not discriminate between gay and straight? What doesn't care if you are transgender or questioning? That gives not a damn if you are bisexual, pansexual or asexual? Lice. Zachary came home with a head full...Read More


Miami-Dade Domestic Partnerships Begin Today!

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 18, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Miami-Dade - Florida's largest county - begins its domestic partnership registry today, starting at 10am. The registry entitles domestic partners to visitation rights at healthcare, correctional and juvenile facilities, and extends health insurance and employee benefits to the domestic partners...Read More


The Killer, Not The Killed

Filed by Sara Whitman | August 17, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Once again, Lawrence King is in the news. His parents have filed a lawsuit against the school for "not enforcing the dress code." I think I'm going to scream. Lawrence King wore feminine attire to school. He wore what all...Read More


The Killer, Not The Killed

Filed by Sara Whitman | August 17, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Once again, Lawrence King is in the news. His parents have filed a lawsuit against the school for "not enforcing the dress code." I think I'm going to scream. Lawrence King wore feminine attire to school. He wore what all...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 17, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note:: "Stories from the Helpline" is a new, recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 17, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note:: "Stories from the Helpline" is a new, recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock...Read More


My Boyfriend Is Gay

Filed by Eric Marcus | August 17, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Eric, A few weeks ago, my boyfriend of three years came out to me, confessing that he's gay. At first I was very shocked, but as I've accepted this, I've begun to wonder what he's feeling like right...Read More


BlogIndiana conference: Day 1

Filed by Bil Browning | August 16, 2008 | 9:35 PM | comments

Today started the BlogIndiana Conference and wouldn't you know I've come down with a summer cold? I have the sniffles and sneezes. It started Thursday night and I'd hoped to have beaten it by now, but it lingers. Oh, it...Read More


Rick Warren will host a presidential debate tonight

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 16, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

He'll be hosting a presidential debate tonight, and Rick Warren says he'd have trouble voting for an adulterer: ...TAPPER: Would you have compunctions about voting for someone who had cheated on his wife? WARREN: Absolutely I would. Absolutely I would....Read More


Why lesbians should play tennis instead of golf

Filed by Nina Smith | August 15, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

"I play more tennis than golf now." - Greg Norman, who recently married Chris Evert Like typical lesbians, my partner and I enjoy the game of golf. But with each round, I'm always conscious of the cost. After all, my...Read More


Larry King's parents are suing school for shooting

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 15, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Let's see, a Nazi-obsessed and troubled 14-year-old boy gets a gun, takes it to school, and shoots a femmy kid. Do you get stuck at the "femmy"? Do you think that if that was removed from the equation everything would...Read More


Blame Manhunt

Filed by Alex Blaze | August 15, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

I just read that Out magazine article that's going around about Manhunt, and I'm trying to think of something to say about it other than the too-easy observation that a certain sort of urban (and let's just be open about...Read More


A Trans Woman at Michigan Women's Music Festival

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 15, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Tobi Hill-Meyer is a multiracial, queerspawn, genderqueer, transdyke, colonized mestiza, as well as a regular Bilerico reader. She is a trans activist and writer who volunteers for Basic Rights Oregon and sits on the board of COLAGE. She...Read More


How to get publicity for your blog

Filed by Bil Browning | August 15, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Just a reminder that the BlogIndiana Conference is this weekend in Indianapolis. Space is limited, so if you haven't signed up yet you'd better get on it! I can give Bilerico Project readers a 15% discount on admission if you...Read More


The messy lives of men in love.

Filed by Father Tony | August 14, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Dear Father Tony, I recently faced the end of a relationship I was in for most of my adult life. A relationship that I valued and worked hard at, with a man I still love and respect. We were...Read More


Valparaiso? Seriously?

Filed by Bil Browning | August 14, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

When this showed up in feeds, I clicked through to the Valparaiso Times - shocked that I hadn't heard more about this debate turned dangerous - and started to read the story. GAY RIGHTS GROUP OUTRAGED AT 'TRANSPHOBIC' COMMENTS Written...Read More


UN Chief Calls for the End of Bias Against Gays

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 14, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

The United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon, along with other international leaders, is calling for an end to homophobic bias and its effects on the treatment and prevention of HIV/AIDS around the world. In an address to the International AIDS Conference,...Read More


Please Welcome to the Table...Generation Y

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 14, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' note: Greg Varnum is the Acting Executive Director of the National Youth Advocacy Coalition. Brace yourselves, the largest living generation is lurking in our midst and they might not be who you think they are - let alone operate...Read More


Tyrion's Tummy is Barking Mad

Filed by Tyrion Lannister | August 13, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Searching for lunch today, I decided to give a second chance to The Barking Dog Cafe, a relatively recent addition to the dining options in the Meridian-Kessler neighborhood. Located on 49th street just off of Pennsylvania, the Barking Dog aspires...Read More


Get A Little Crazy

Filed by Bishop Mahee | August 13, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

The Gospel according to recording artist Seal states, "We're never ever gonna survive unless we get a little crazy;" and sitting here, I can't help thinking that the editor of this publication can get a little crazy when he allowed...Read More


RIP Sandy Allen

Filed by Tyrion Lannister | August 13, 2008 | 11:14 AM | comments

Sad news from Shelbyville. Sandy Allen, the tallest women in the world and, more importantly, from my few chance encounters and by all accounts, an unusually sweet person, has died....Read More


Notes from South Carolina...

Filed by Cathy Renna | August 12, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

I am sitting in one of the most interesting places possible to hear about the John Edwards affair and alleged love child - the lobby of a La Quinta hotel in Anderson, South Carolina. Anderson is "upstate" (aka Mike Hukcabee...Read More


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The Angie Zapata Vigil

Filed by Donna Rose | August 11, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Angie Zapata had the eyes of an angel. To look at pictures of her are to see beautiful, deep, soulful eyes that speak in ways that transcend words. They speak of a difficult life, but also of a sense of...Read More


PA: town plans to arm school police with Tasers

Filed by Pam Spaulding | August 11, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

What are these people thinking, given the evidence out there that grown adults are getting Tased to death by trigger-happy, poorly trained law enforcement who electrocute first and ask questions later? Uniontown school officials intend to draft a Taser policy...Read More


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Same-Sex Relationships "Reflect the Love of God"

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 10, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I concluded that an active sexual relationship between two people of the same sex might therefore reflect the love of God in a way comparable to marriage, if and only if it had about it the same character of absolute...Read More


Gays Destroying Marriage? That's not what UK Statistics say

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 09, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

We all know the old fundie refrain about how "gays are destroying marriage." Of course, this comes from hypocritical people who cheat on their wives, are raging closet cases, or are working their way through marriage #3. Well, a report...Read More


Awwwwwwww FREAK OUT

Filed by Eric Leven | August 09, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Just in case anybody felt the need to hit the panic button when the CDC announced their annual estimate of 40,000 people infected by HIV per year is actually around 55,0000... Don't! There's no need to. Just to be clear-...Read More


Book Review: Someday this Pain will be useful to you

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 09, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - ovid Someday this Pain will be useful to you by Peter Cameron is the engaging tale of 18 year-old James Sveck- a precocious, confused, loner in New...Read More


Isn't Chinatown a little artistic?

Filed by Bil Browning | August 08, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Are you as pissed off as I am at Mayor Ballard for announcing he plans on cutting all arts funding over the next three years? Then do something about it. What's next? Libraries? Schools? Bah, anything intellectually stimulating has to...Read More


2008 Dem platform: lite on the LGBT, hold the mayo

Filed by Pam Spaulding | August 08, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

If you're looking for a committed, hard-hitting, strong-spined party platform on LGBT rights, you may want to hold off on thumbing through the 2008 Democratic Party platform. I obtained a draft of the DNC platform and searched for: * gay...Read More


Things I will do in San Francisco some day -- A running list

Filed by Gina de Vries | August 08, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Hanging out with Lauren last night, wandering through the foggy South of Market streets in search of a dance club that wasn't 20 goddamn dollars (why so spensivo, Bondage-a-go-go?!), we got on to the topic of things we like to...Read More


Daily Assaults on Personal Dignity

Filed by Donna Rose | August 08, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

As transgender people feel more and more empowered to come out of the shadows to take their rightful place as contributing and accepted members of society, incidents against us based on discrimination, hatred, and ignorance are on the rise. These...Read More


Segregation

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | August 07, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

I'm thinking that when my mother says segregated, she really means black. Because that's what she said when she went to pick me up at the place where I was staying in DC during my last book tour -- she...Read More


Faith in God and the sexy acid test

Filed by Father Tony | August 07, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Padre: Much like you, I have religion etched in my soul, whether I want it there, or not. My father is a minister, and being a preacher's kid, I was immersed in the church until the age of 18....Read More


Meditations on Parenting and Anger, Part IV

Filed by Paige Schilt | August 07, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: This is the final installment of a four part series about parenting, anger, and attachment. You won't want to miss the first three segments. (Part 1 - Part 2 and Part 3) When I was a teenager, my...Read More


Damned If We Do - Damned If We Don't

Filed by Monica Roberts | August 06, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

In the wake of the Angie Zapata killing in Greeley last week, the debate raging in the blogosphere and beyond that has emerged since her tragic and untimely death has depended on who's doing the interpretation of it. For non-transgender...Read More


Damned If We Do - Damned If We Don't

Filed by Monica Roberts | August 06, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

In the wake of the Angie Zapata killing in Greeley last week, the debate raging in the blogosphere and beyond that has emerged since her tragic and untimely death has depended on who's doing the interpretation of it. For non-transgender...Read More


Meditations on Parenting and Anger, Part III

Filed by Paige Schilt | August 06, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: This is part three of a four part series from Bilerico Contributor Paige Schilt about parenting, anger, and attachment. Read part one & part two and be sure to come back tomorrow for the last part of the...Read More


Sudden awareness

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | August 06, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

I'm thinking about the last time I was in DC, my mother and I went to this Chinese restaurant in Georgetown that I guess must have said online that it had lots of vegan or vegetarian specialties or something and...Read More


Sudden awareness

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | August 06, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

I'm thinking about the last time I was in DC, my mother and I went to this Chinese restaurant in Georgetown that I guess must have said online that it had lots of vegan or vegetarian specialties or something and...Read More


Disturbing Video: The Law Is "Supposed To Discriminate" Against Gays

Filed by Nadine Smith | August 05, 2008 | 10:00 PM | comments

Florida State Rep. Darryl Rouson says he didn't remember calling gay people immoral during a television program in 2006 or describing them as unfit to adopt children. He did not remember saying this: "I think it's wrong to allow adoptions...Read More


Disturbing Video: The Law Is "Supposed To Discriminate" Against Gays

Filed by Nadine Smith | August 05, 2008 | 10:00 PM | comments

Florida State Rep. Darryl Rouson says he didn't remember calling gay people immoral during a television program in 2006 or describing them as unfit to adopt children. He did not remember saying this: "I think it's wrong to allow adoptions...Read More


Fundies Get Ready for the "Armageddon of the Culture War"

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 05, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

According to Right Wing Watch, pastors gathered earlier this week at more than 200 sites throughout California, Arizona, and Florida to be pushed by national Religious Right leaders like Tony Perkins, Harry Jackson, Maggie Gallagher, and Chuck Colson and others...Read More


Fundies Get Ready for the "Armageddon of the Culture War"

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 05, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

According to Right Wing Watch, pastors gathered earlier this week at more than 200 sites throughout California, Arizona, and Florida to be pushed by national Religious Right leaders like Tony Perkins, Harry Jackson, Maggie Gallagher, and Chuck Colson and others...Read More


Ex's as Friends

Filed by Michele O'Mara | August 05, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

We are madly in love, love at first sight. We have been together 5 years. Her ex...she says its not romantic, but she constantly sees her ex, goes to dinner, calls every day. When I have not been home...Read More


An attempt at intimacy but it just ends up making me sad again

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | August 05, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Okay, so you might remember that I'm trying to regain a sense of hope in my own sexuality and no, it's not working , but what I've been trying lately is to engage every so often in these silly internet...Read More


Meditations on Parenting and Anger, Part II

Filed by Paige Schilt | August 05, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: This is part one of a four part series from Bilerico Contributor Paige Schilt about parenting, anger, and attachment. Read part one and be sure to come back all week for the rest of the series! In Which...Read More


Why Ending AIDS is the Black Gay Priority

Filed by H. Alexander Robinson | August 04, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

The wires have been buzzing with the news from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), which recently revealed that over 55,500 new HIV cases occurred each year from 2003-2006, with 56,300 cases in 2006 alone. The new estimate...Read More


Safe Dating, the Silent Alarm, and Signs of Predation (draft)

Filed by Mercedes Allen | August 04, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

This is a draft for comments, and I invite discussion of any additions that are needed. It will eventually be posted to DentedBlueMercedes and archived at AlbertaTrans.org (brochures will also likely be printed for local distribution as well as available...Read More


Of Buddhas, Brains, and Babies; or, Meditations on Parenting and Anger, Part I

Filed by Paige Schilt | August 04, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: This is part one of a four part series from Bilerico Contributor Paige Schilt about parenting, anger, and attachment. Be sure to come back all week for the rest of the series! A few weeks ago, I went...Read More


Of Buddhas, Brains, and Babies; or, Meditations on Parenting and Anger, Part I

Filed by Paige Schilt | August 04, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: This is part one of a four part series from Bilerico Contributor Paige Schilt about parenting, anger, and attachment. Be sure to come back all week for the rest of the series! A few weeks ago, I went...Read More


"How Do Gay People Have Sex?"

Filed by Eric Marcus | August 03, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Few things make me as anxious as getting an e-mail from kid or young teen asking specific questions about sex. Usually the questions aren't direct. The first e-mail typically reads: "Can I ask you a personal question?" "Personal" almost always...Read More


My Love-Hate Relationship with the AARP

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | August 02, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

Well, it isn't really hate- just annoyance and let me tell you why. Yes, discounts on insurance, car rentals, hotels and coupon deals are nice. It is a good thing to have an advocate in Washington lobbying Congress in the...Read More


My Love-Hate Relationship with the AARP

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | August 02, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

Well, it isn't really hate- just annoyance and let me tell you why. Yes, discounts on insurance, car rentals, hotels and coupon deals are nice. It is a good thing to have an advocate in Washington lobbying Congress in the...Read More


My Love-Hate Relationship with the AARP

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | August 02, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

Well, it isn't really hate- just annoyance and let me tell you why. Yes, discounts on insurance, car rentals, hotels and coupon deals are nice. It is a good thing to have an advocate in Washington lobbying Congress in the...Read More


Who Marriage is For: A Tale of Two Weddings

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 02, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Greta Christina is editor of the new anthology, "Best Erotic Comics," and "Paying For It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients," a book of advice for sex work customers, written by sex workers and...Read More


My Love-Hate Relationship with the AARP

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | August 02, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Well, it isn't really hate- just annoyance and let me tell you why. Yes, discounts on insurance, car rentals, hotels and coupon deals are nice. It is a good thing to have an advocate in Washington lobbying Congress in the...Read More


Book Review: A Wolf at the Table

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 02, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Bestselling author Augusten Burroughs, writer of Running with Scissors, has released his latest collection of short essays- A Wolf at the Table. With his latest book, Burroughs, the master of the humorous memoir, makes the journey into a sometimes dark...Read More


Ranking Indiana blog traffic and authority

Filed by Bil Browning | August 01, 2008 | 9:40 PM | comments

A friendly e-mail to Josh Gillespie of Hoosier Access turned into a conversation on blog rankings and how to measure influence. Image via WikipediaJosh referred to the BlogNetNews site that regularly ranks Indiana-based blogs, when he said, "...which mean absolutely...Read More


The Reality Comes Crashing In

Filed by Sara Whitman | August 01, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

I officially miss my kids. Maybe it's because Jeanine is back in Boston today, working, and I'm up in Maine with all the animals. Maybe it's because I received two letters from Jake and one from Zachary today. Jake drew...Read More


Murderer of Young Transwoman Says He Killed "It"

Filed by Waymon Hudson | August 01, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

The rage and tragedy continue over the murder of Angie Zapata, a 21 year-old transgender woman in Denver. The alleged killer, Allen Ray Andrade, has admitted to bludgeoning Zapata to death with his fist and a fire extinguisher when he...Read More


Arresting new campaign to reach despondent LGBTQ youth

Filed by Guest Blogger | August 01, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Charles Robbins is the Executive Director of The Trevor Project, the non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. He previously held key leadership positions...Read More