Living: September 2008

Tennessee: public gay sex sting results in lawsuit over bias

Filed by Pam Spaulding | September 30, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

A recent police public sex sting in Johnson City, TN netted 40 men -- all of whom had their photos released to the public, something not the norm for Johnson City's PD in other similar situations. The reason these men...Read More


More on Palin's Scary Religious Affiliations

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | September 30, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Oh, I get it. The reason that major news media are not asking Sarah Palin about Joel's Army is...they're shaking in their shoes. They're afraid Palin will start yelling that her faith is being persecuted. As one friend of mine...Read More


Dateless, Not Desperate, Lesbians

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 30, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

I'm a 38 year old lesbian and I have been trying to get a date for almost two years now and haven't met a single person. Between all the head games, lies and weirdos I'm at the point where...Read More


A failed economy hurts us more

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | September 30, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

In the face of a financial Armageddon, the economy has become the center of the campaign, where it should have been all along. But the moment all Americans have been waiting for - the McCain-Obama debate - was a yawn....Read More


Just the average binational gay couple

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 30, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

I'm taking this week off from TBP so don't expect to see me around here at all. I'm taking a trip to Ireland today and will be back in the US Friday, and back somewhere on Monday. I thought I'd...Read More


Where Are The Good Men?

Filed by Bishop Mahee | September 30, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

As I departed from a Democratic Party meeting, I was approached by a community activist named Ari Mendel, who thanked me for the presentation I had done at his democratic club. He went on to explain to me that the...Read More


Curt Smith: Theocracy needed STAT!

Filed by Bil Browning | September 30, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

Oh, Indiana wingnuts. Will you ever stop providing so many examples of exactly why your mix of religious extremism and political power are so dangerous? This morning's e-mail brought a fundraising pitch by the Indiana Family Institute's Curt Smith. He's...Read More


Bailout vote fails

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 29, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

Now what?...Read More


Don't tell Jerame I asked you!

Filed by Bil Browning | September 29, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

I need some help. Big help. Next Monday, October 6th, Jerame and I will celebrate our ten year anniversary. We know we're going to one of our favorite Greek restaurants for dinner that night, but that's about it. The "proper"...Read More


Don't tell Jerame I asked you!

Filed by Bil Browning | September 29, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

I need some help. Big help. Next Monday, October 6th, Jerame and I will celebrate our ten year anniversary. We know we're going to one of our favorite Greek restaurants for dinner that night, but that's about it. The "proper"...Read More


The McCain Health Care Plan: Turning the Clock Back on Breast Cancer

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 29, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger David Orentlicher is an Indiana state representative and Co-Director of the Center for Law and Health at Indiana University School of Law - Indianapolis.. David graduated from Harvard Medical School and returned to Harvard Law School...Read More


Two Years Later, Hard Choices About Solomon Live On

Filed by Steve Ralls | September 29, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

In 2006, the United States Supreme Court issued a unanimous ruling upholding the Solomon Amendment, a Congressional law that requires colleges and universities to permit military recruiting on campuses, or face losing federal funding for their entire university systems. The...Read More


Color me underwhelmed

Filed by Bil Browning | September 29, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Matthew Shepard was honored at a University of Wyoming ceremony over the weekend. As the 10th anniversary of Matthew's killing approaches, the generous university wanted to show America how seriously it takes the LGBT community by... ...erecting a park bench...Read More


Palin's Religious Affiliations -- Time to Ask the Hard Questions

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | September 29, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

With just five weeks before the election, the major media still aren't asking Sarah Palin the hard questions about her religious affiliations. Sure, they've wallowed in the tabloidy stuff, like her alleged political corruption and alleged infidelity to her husband....Read More


Laughing

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 29, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Last night, I finally laughed. A lot. It was Walter's birthday and a bunch of us sat around the dinner table and told the kind of stories that are long in nature, but come out in sound bites. Everyone knows...Read More


Rising Rates of HIV Among Gay Men - What Does That Mean For Me?

Filed by Dr. David Fawcett | September 29, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

HIV infection rates occur in the United States at a far greater rate than previously thought, according to a special HIV issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association released to coincide with the XVII International AIDS Conference in...Read More


Racism: The conservative solution to the financial crisis

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 28, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

This shouldn't be entirely unexpected, since every time there's a major problem conservatives find some way to blame it on a certain ethnic, racial, or religious group. Now they're looking for any minority to blame for what's really the absolute...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 28, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


Paul Newman Taught Me How to Clean Fish

Filed by Karen Ocamb | September 28, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

It's strange how someone's death can trigger the oddest of memories. When I heard that Paul Newman died - I suddenly flashed to the moment he walked into the house where I was babysitting and said, "Come on, kid -...Read More


Indianapolis goes Straight for Equality

Filed by Annette Gross | September 28, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Friday, September 26th, the Indianapolis Chapter of PFLAG hosted its first Straight for Equality Party. We wanted to introduce our straight allies to the new initiative that PFLAG has undertaken, which is to teach straight people who don't have a...Read More


Are You Ready For The Apocalpyse?

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | September 28, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Is it just me, or is capitalism coming to an end? Depending on which side of the political spectrum you find yourself on, that could either be a good thing or a bad thing. Either way, we're in for some...Read More


Rocking Gay Moments

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 27, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

With the recent coming out of Clay Aiken (what a shocker, I know!), Spinner put together its list of the "Top 25 Rockin' Gay Moments." How they made the connection between Aiken and rock music is beyond me, but I...Read More


The Great Debate Open Thread

Filed by Bil Browning | September 26, 2008 | 7:45 PM | comments

Jerame and I are going to hang out at a local pub with a friend of ours while we watch the debates. Consider this your Great Debate Open Thread. I'll join the conversation when we get back. Anyone wanna give...Read More


Two Men Who Would Be King

Filed by Terrance Heath | September 26, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

This is a post about two headlines and one scary story. Headline one: Bailout is financial equivalent of the Patriot Act The passage is stunning: "Decisions by the Secretary pursuant to the authority of this Act are non-reviewable and committed...Read More


From the Republican Party Platform, 2008

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 26, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Rebuilding Homeownership Homeownership remains key to creating an opportunity society. We support timely and carefully targeted aid to those hurt by the housing crisis so that affected individuals can have a chance to trade a burdensome mortgage for a...Read More


High Anxiety

Filed by Dr. David Fawcett | September 26, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

For three hours the finger never stopped. It grabbed a lock of dark hair, expertly spun it around four or five times, rolled it between thumb and finger for a few seconds, released it, and then began the process all...Read More


I heard the news today, oh boy...

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 26, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

[EDITOR'S NOTE:] This guest post comes to us from Steph Mineart. Steph is a website designer, lesbian, long-time blogger, and occasional writer on political issues. Commonplacebook.com is her online home, and she resides in Indianapolis, Indiana with her lovely girlfriend...Read More


The $700 Billion: Hand Over Your Chickens

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | September 25, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

As the $700 billion bailout moves towards approval by Congress, there are enough rumblings of citizen anger that I started wondering why a 7-million-person march on Washington D.C. wasn't developing. Last night, as I watched President Bush tell us in...Read More


A belated open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | September 25, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

I'm such a poor blog mother. I forgot my baby's birthday yesterday! It's been four years since I turned bilerico.com into a blog. I put up a quote from Margaret Mead as my first post; it seemed like an apropos...Read More


Can you love a gay priest?

Filed by Father Tony | September 25, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

From: XXXXXX Email: XXXXXXXXXXXXX@XXXXXXX Message: Dear Father Tony, I recently read something about a closeted gay pastor. After decades of service, he is being told to leave after coming out to his superiors. He is having to give up...Read More


Why do we leave our youth out of our youth work?

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 25, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Greg Varnum is the acting Executive Director of the National Youth Advocacy Coalition. I find that there is one key ingredient often missing from the planning that goes into youth projects and youth advocacy work...youth. Most folks I...Read More


DON'T PANIC... but we must make change

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 25, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

I'm sorry I have not posted much the last few days. I've been up to my ears in financial documents, papers, calls, taking notes, and trying to learn as much as I can about the current situation. Anyone with questions...Read More


Out Word Bound bookstore up for sale

Filed by Bil Browning | September 25, 2008 | 8:30 AM | comments

While I was kind of expecting this announcement sooner or later, it still comes as a shock to imagine neither Tammara Tracey or Mary Byrne at Out Word Bound books. The dynamic partners have opted to sell Indianapolis' only LGBT...Read More


What is the $700 billion for?

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | September 25, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

There has been a lot of discussion lately about whether the $700 billion bailout is a good idea or not. On one side, the Bush administration is saying that the economy will come apart like a cheap house of cards...Read More


Trickle Up Bailout

Filed by Bo Shuff | September 24, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

I'm not an economist. I have no clue how any of that stuff works, and I don't really understand, to be honest, how companies that have to be bailed out to the tune of $700 billion can even still be...Read More


Gay Couple Speaks Out about Florida Adoption Ban Victory

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 24, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Many of our readers wanted to make sure they were kept updated on the gay couple from Key West, Florida that sued the state so they could adopt their foster son. The couple won the case when the judge declared...Read More


Gay Couple Speaks Out about Florida Adoption Ban Victory

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 24, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Many of our readers wanted to make sure they were kept updated on the gay couple from Key West, Florida that sued the state so they could adopt their foster son. The couple won the case when the judge declared...Read More


The Fable of City Moe and Country Les

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | September 24, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Note: According to a study published in "Population Today", gay men tend to live in big cities while lesbians prefer university towns and other small communities. Based on 2000 Census figures, the study reports that the top ten cities for...Read More


My Family Gender Odyssey

Filed by Paige Schilt | September 23, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Lesbian and gay family events are not always comfortable spaces for me and my fam. That's partly because some folks don't know what to make of my genderqueer sweetie, with her man-chest and her female pronouns. It's partly because the...Read More


My Family Gender Odyssey

Filed by Paige Schilt | September 23, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Lesbian and gay family events are not always comfortable spaces for me and my fam. That's partly because some folks don't know what to make of my genderqueer sweetie, with her man-chest and her female pronouns. It's partly because the...Read More


Don't panic, the financial crisis doesn't call for a $700 billion bailout

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 23, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Treasury Secretary Henry Paulson has put forward a proposition to bail out the finance industry with a price tag at $700 billion. The plan comes with near-dictatorial power granted to the executive branch, with a huge raid on the treasury...Read More


Congress to HHS: End the HIV Ban, Once and For All

Filed by Steve Ralls | September 23, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Earlier this year, Senators John Kerry (D-MA) and Gordon Smith (R-OR), along with Congresswoman Barbara Lee of California, led a successful and historic effort in Congress to finally do away with the antiquated and unnecessary HIV-travel ban. The ban, which...Read More


Find Your Center at the DC Center

Filed by Michael Crawford | September 23, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

I have lived in Washington, DC for nearly nine years and for much of that time I have been involved with the LGBT community initially as a pro-mo (professional homosexual) and lately on a volunteer level. In that time I...Read More


How to Deal with Family and Friends Top Ten Tips #5: Have Patience

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 23, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Loss is defined as anything that is different than you hoped it would be. Typically, being gay or lesbian is not something our friends and family "want" or hope for us. Therefore, they may be experiencing a sense of loss...Read More


Community Forum on Hate Crimes

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 22, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Broward County Sheriff Al Lamberti, the Office of the State Attorney, and African American and GLBT leaders are among the participants in a community forum on hate crimes to be held this Wednesday night in Fort Lauderdale . The forum...Read More


YouTube Censors Exposé on Palin Churches

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | September 22, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Censorship is routine now, with stuff that voters need to see being sucked out of sight right and left. Citing "inappropriate content," YouTube has removed Bruce Wilson's revealing video about the uber-pentecostal movement that Sarah Palin's churches are part of....Read More


Media Controversy Clouds King Pre-Trial Hearing

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 22, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Peter DelVecchio is a practicing attorney and free lance writer living with his partner in West Hollywood. He reports regularly for IN Los Angeles magazine and Frontiers, and occasionally for The Advocate. DelVecchio is also active in the...Read More


Media Controversy Clouds King Pre-Trial Hearing

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 22, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Peter DelVecchio is a practicing attorney and free lance writer living with his partner in West Hollywood. He reports regularly for IN Los Angeles magazine and Frontiers, and occasionally for The Advocate. DelVecchio is also active in the...Read More


Mamma Mia: Seen it? Liked it?

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 22, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

How many people out there have seen the film version of the musical Mamma Mia? I went to see it about a week ago, and I have mixed feelings on it. The script that they were working with was light...Read More


Fun with Facebook fundies

Filed by Bil Browning | September 22, 2008 | 10:15 AM | comments

Two recent Facebook experiences left me laughing and I thought I'd share them with Bilerico-Indiana readers. Two Hoosier fundies have given me reason for a quick giggle lately. First we had long-time Bilerico hater Kenn Gividen. Kenn hasn't had a...Read More


Not a bad week for LGBT elders....

Filed by Cathy Renna | September 22, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

It has been a rough week - the economy, on-going political nail biting over the election etc - but it was a great week for LGBT senior visibility. Services and Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual & Transgender Elders (SAGE)...Read More


Not a bad week for LGBT elders....

Filed by Cathy Renna | September 22, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

It has been a rough week - the economy, on-going political nail biting over the election etc - but it was a great week for LGBT senior visibility. Services and Advocacy for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual & Transgender Elders (SAGE)...Read More


METH 911: A New Option for Help

Filed by Dr. David Fawcett | September 22, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

We've all seen the scary images of methamphetamine's toll on the body: the remnants of a handsome face reduced to a visible skull with sunken eyes, withered skin and one really bad case of meth mouth. Such visuals, at one...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 21, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


Confused About God & Homosexuality

Filed by Eric Marcus | September 21, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Dear Mr. Marcus, I've read The God Box by Alex Sanchez, right? And I was confused. The Bible does say men shall not lie with another man because of the sin, but at the same time how can you...Read More


Safe Sex for The HIV+ Guy

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 20, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editor's Note: David Douglas is a writer for beonecity.com living in NYC. When I was asked to revisit and revise a piece I'd written on safe sex four years ago I was thrilled. I love revisiting sex as often as...Read More


The 21st Century "Rules of Engagement"

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 19, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Frequent guest blogger Monica Helms is the president of the Transgender American Veterans Association. I received a phone call from a good friend, Zan Thorton, telling me that Congressman Barney Frank had fifteen disabled people arrested in his...Read More


Fundie Peter LaBarbera reads The Bilerico Project!

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 19, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

It seems right-wing Fundie Peter LaBarera, the President of Americans for Truth about Homosexuality, loves to read the Bilerico Project! The Peter put up a rather twisted article called "Sarah Palin, 'Daddy's Roommate' and the Left's Hypocrisy on 'Book Burning'"...Read More


A Deep, Man Voice

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 19, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Every time I hear it, I look to see if Walter is here. If someone has come in the door I didn't know about. A deep, man voice. It's Ben's. His voice has almost completely changed into a deep baritone....Read More


Shopping, drinking and walking

Filed by Bil Browning | September 19, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Tomorrow you can head over to the Macy's in either Glendale or Castleton and buy a "Shop for a Cause" coupon for $5. The coupon will get you 20% off and the $5 cost goes directly to the Indiana AIDS...Read More


Shopping, drinking and walking

Filed by Bil Browning | September 19, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Tomorrow you can head over to the Macy's in either Glendale or Castleton and buy a "Shop for a Cause" coupon for $5. The coupon will get you 20% off and the $5 cost goes directly to the Indiana AIDS...Read More


Heroic Goals, Gay Marriage, and the Mormon Church - Why You Should Worry

Filed by Bobby Parker | September 19, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Yesterday http://www.bilerico.com/2008/09/funding_and_religion_in_the_arizona_same.php" target="_blank">Alex and Serena both wrote about the tremendous amount of money that the Mormon Church is directing towards the gay marriage bans in California and Arizona. But this story is about more that just money. It's about a...Read More


Bloomington just keeps getting better

Filed by Bil Browning | September 18, 2008 | 8:30 PM | comments

I loved living in Bloomington. Jerame and I often comment that if the housing were cheaper and jobs were easier to find in the college town, we'd be back in an instant. It had the perfect small town feel without...Read More


Bloomington just keeps getting better

Filed by Bil Browning | September 18, 2008 | 8:30 PM | comments

I loved living in Bloomington. Jerame and I often comment that if the housing were cheaper and jobs were easier to find in the college town, we'd be back in an instant. It had the perfect small town feel without...Read More


There's that H word again

Filed by Eric Leven | September 18, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: At Eric's request, the original post has been removed and replaced with the following: I took it down because after reviewing the statistics and checking in with a close, number and statistical-analysis monster friend of mine I realized...Read More


Mormon Church Pumping Money into California Marriage Initiative

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | September 18, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

The LA Times has been following the money trail in California to find out who supports the ballot initiative to ban same sex marriage and who supports marriage equality. And it's no surprise that the money trail is pretty much...Read More


The feet, of Rene Magritte, in the sand, with friends at hand.

Filed by Father Tony | September 18, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

dear father tony. how much longer must we wonder? why such seperation of time and miles?have we become so involved with our immediate existance that the past seems so distant, so unaprochable.?i fear but will not will not except...Read More


Beyond Denial: GID Diagnostic Criteria and Gender-Conversion Therapies

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 18, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Editors' note: Kelley Winters, Ph.D. is a writer on issues of transgender medical policy, founder of GID Reform Advocates and an Advisory Board Member for the Matthew Shepard Foundation and TransYouth Family Advocates. She has presented papers on the psychiatric...Read More


Two beautiful, wonderful women of Provincetown

Filed by Father Tony | September 17, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

When I first started writing stories, I would print out a section of something and trot across the dirt road from our house in Provincetown to Kelly's house where I would toss a few folded pages onto the driver's seat...Read More


Whose responsibility is it?

Filed by Bil Browning | September 17, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Bumped back up to the top for more discussion It seems like a good time to do another installment of Stuff Bil Doesn't Know Enough About™. This week's question is in direct reference to two other blog posts inspired by...Read More


Want some fries with that, faggot?

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 17, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

The ACLU has filed a complaint against a Louisville, Kentucky McDonalds after an employee at the restaurant called two gay men and their friends "faggots" and a series of other anti-gay slurs. The group was visiting Louisville for the weekend...Read More


Indychoruses still building bridges - and definitely NOT to nowhere

Filed by Don Sherfick | September 17, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Although it's been nearly a decade since my partner and I combined our singing voices with those of others in Indychoruses, the umbrella organization for the Indianapolis Men's and Women's Choruses, I continue to have a special place in my...Read More


Jerry Falwell with Lipstick

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | September 16, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

Alaskan Baptist preacher Howard Bess, who has locked horns with Sarah Palin right in the Wasilla community, calls her "Jerry Falwell with a pretty face." I'll add in the now-famous lipstick. Palin is so far to the right of some...Read More


Fasten Your Seatbelts

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 16, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Lehman Brothers fails and Merrill Lynch becomes part of Bank of America, which soon will be called, The Only Bank in America, and the Federal Reserve "loosens" guidelines on loans to banks clearly not having learned any lessons through the...Read More


The Full Monty: My Life as a Nudist

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | September 16, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

"The Full Monty" is a British slang phrase that means "the whole lot." It also refers to a movie and Broadway musical about unemployed English factory workers who become strippers in order to make ends meet. To a lot of...Read More


Don't go changing...me

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 16, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

My boyfriend hounds me about my smoking. I smoked before we met - he knew that when we got together. Every year (and it's been five so far) we are together he gets worse about his comments about my...Read More


Breaking Out: A Gay Mormon Comes Out After All This Time

Filed by Bobby Parker | September 16, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

On 02/06/06 I found The Ultimate Brokeback Forum. The remarkable journey I have been on since is probably the reason I have been invited to write for TBP. We call ourselves "Brokies," and coined the name "Brokeaholic" to describe our...Read More


Breaking Out: A Gay Mormon Comes Out After All This Time

Filed by Bobby Parker | September 16, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

On 02/06/06 I found The Ultimate Brokeback Forum. The remarkable journey I have been on since is probably the reason I have been invited to write for TBP. We call ourselves "Brokies," and coined the name "Brokeaholic" to describe our...Read More


Don't Fall Short of the Dream

Filed by Bishop Mahee | September 15, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

In November, ballot amendments in Florida and California will place human rights and human dignity on the auction block of the voting ballot. The citizens of those States will be posed a question- is the value of your neighbor inherently...Read More


HIV disclosure laws fail

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 15, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' note: Todd Heywood is a freelance journalist from Michigan. Over the last week or so, there has been an overwhelming amount of discussion about HIV disclosure laws and the criminalization of HIV-positive statuses in the United States. The discussions...Read More


The Palin Book Banning Controversy

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 14, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

More information is coming out about Palin and her quest to ban books from the Wasilla Library during her time as Mayor. A New York Times article details disturbing information about Palin's push for censorship of books she considered "immoral"....Read More


Men's Fashion Alert

Filed by Father Tony | September 13, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

The cardigan sweater will be Fall's darling, with the elongated and belted models able to bridge the season by performing as one all-weather layer out of many that will move a man from indoors to sidewalk to vehicle and back...Read More


Why were the Log Cabin Republicans so hasty in their endorsement?

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 13, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Jordan Peters is a 20 year old sophomore at The Ohio State University majoring in International Studies and Russian language. She grew up in Dayton, Ohio with her parents. The 2008 election marks her first opportunity to cast...Read More


Real Family Values

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 13, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I've made my frustration with the fundie organizations using the words "family values" pretty clear here on Bilerico. I always say that if anyone knows about what "family" means, it's the LGBT community. We know these values extend far beyond...Read More


A gathering with soul

Filed by Bil Browning | September 12, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Bilerico Project contributor Paige Schlit asked me to pass this information on to our Bilerico-Indiana readers and ask you to forward the information on to your friends. Consider yourselves asked. On Tuesday, September 16th, from 7 -10pm, straight men and...Read More


Does Getting Older Mean Becoming Invisible?

Filed by Dr. David Fawcett | September 12, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

"At 50, I don't exist socially in the gay community anymore. Having a drug connection has made me "cool' although it's temporary. But it's better than being invisible when I want to get laid." Steve was more surprised than anyone...Read More


Learning to live and love all over again

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 12, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Longtime Projector and today's guest blogger, Kim Johnson, was the youngest of two boys who grew up in a small town in south Alabama. He graduated from Auburn University, attended Law School at the University of Alabama, and...Read More


Got tested for HIV

Filed by Bo Shuff | September 11, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Two weeks ago I did something for the first time that I should have done much earlier and many times since. Sean and I went to King's Island for their Annual Pride Night. The Cincinnati Gay and Lesbian Community Center...Read More


Got tested for HIV

Filed by Bo Shuff | September 11, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Two weeks ago I did something for the first time that I should have done much earlier and many times since. Sean and I went to King's Island for their Annual Pride Night. The Cincinnati Gay and Lesbian Community Center...Read More


From Fat City to Tent City

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | September 11, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Remember when many of us kept lists of names of lovers and friends who died of AIDS? Not long ago, I sat down and made a list of people I know -- some students, mostly educated professional people -- who...Read More


From Fat City to Tent City

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | September 11, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Remember when many of us kept lists of names of lovers and friends who died of AIDS? Not long ago, I sat down and made a list of people I know -- some students, mostly educated professional people -- who...Read More


$10 sex you will never forget

Filed by Father Tony | September 11, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Hello, I read about you first on Joe.my.god and now more regularly on Bilerico. I visited your farmboyz blog today and read "The Pepsi Challenge". I am surely dense on this but can you tell me what is that...Read More


Please consider writing your own letter about "biological sex"

Filed by Gina de Vries | September 11, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Dear Cassandra, My name is Gina de Vries. I am writing because I am disturbed by the exclusion of male-to-female (MTF) transgender women from your survey on romantic and sexual relationships between women. I would like to respectfully ask you...Read More


9/11 Remembered: A Flight Attendant's Story

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 11, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Many of you may know that I am a former flight attendant. What you may not know is that I was in the air on September 11th, working a flight leaving New York City going to Florida. I worked for...Read More


Palm Beach Community College to offer domestic partner benefits

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 11, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

After more than a year of delays, the Board of Trustees of Palm Beach Community College finally voted to offer domestic partner health insurance to college employees by a vote of 3 to 2. Trustees William Berger, Wendy Link and...Read More


Key West Judge Rules Florida's Gay Adoption Ban Unconstitutional

Filed by Waymon Hudson | September 10, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

A Monroe County Circuit Court judge has ruled Florida's ban on adoption by gay people is unconstitutional. The order allows an openly gay Key West foster parent to adopt a 13-year-old boy with learning disabilities and special needs he has...Read More


Palin rumor that could cost Dems the election!

Filed by Ricci Levy | September 10, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

I was at a dinner last night with someone who has, in the past, had access to private information about candidates that later proved correct. This person shared with us that the devastating rumor is around Palin's statement of her...Read More


National Suicide Prevention Week and The Trevor Project Day

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 10, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Charles Robbins is the Executive Director of The Trevor Project, the non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. He previously held key leadership positions...Read More


Gracie the Graceless

Filed by Michele O'Mara | September 09, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

I spent years in two long-term relationships (about five years apiece), and the last one ended because I started my transition (MtF, and at least a few years from GRS). Shortly after that, I got deeply involved with another...Read More


What IS the LGBT community? Who are we?

Filed by Bil Browning | September 09, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Bumped back up to the top so the conversation can continue. I said in my post yesterday that I have questions about feminist and transgender issues. I invited other Projectors to throw in their own questions into the...Read More


I'm a big fan of recycling but...

Filed by Bil Browning | September 09, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

If you're going to lift another org's short Facebook message to their group members... XX XX sent a message to the members of Michigan Equality. -------------------- Subject: Let's Grow this Group! Hi! I have a favor to ask. Would you...Read More


Love, Family, Friendship, and the Voting Booth

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 09, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Vic Basile was the first executive director of the Human Rights Campaign, a co-founder of the Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund and currently advocating through lgbtforobama.com. It is hard to imagine an election more important to...Read More


Berklee College of Music Establishes GLBT Leadership Fund

Filed by Sara Whitman | September 09, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

This Saturday night, the one and only Melissa Ferrick will rock the Berklee performance center in Boston, with all the proceeds benefiting a brand new GLBT leadership fund at the college. Berklee has a history of being... well, male dominated,...Read More


Santa makes Sarah Palin mad

Filed by Bil Browning | September 09, 2008 | 9:30 AM | comments

"Yeah, Santa. How red is Rudolph's nose now? I didn't want to hurt him, but, you know, I warned you not to piss me off. You wanna play some more reindeer games or you wanna teach those elves creationism?" What's...Read More


RNC terror: "a practice run in implementing martial law"

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | September 08, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Unfortunately, at this point I've become accustomed to hearing about the escalating level of police brutality against protesters. But I'm still shocked about the scope of police and "law enforcement" violence at the RNC. It's stunning to watch potential Blackwater...Read More


Man prosecuted for HIV non-disclosure

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 08, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Another poz man was prosecuted for non-disclosure (name redacted because there's nothing productive in parading the names and mugshots of people prosecuted for sex crimes around for everyone to see): A gay, 23-year-old man received a suspended 45-day jail sentence,...Read More


What Governor Palin Needs to Know About 'Love'

Filed by Steve Ralls | September 08, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Alaska Governor Sarah Palin (pictured) has made history as the first mother to be on the Republican presidential ticket, and she has the potential to bring a new perspective on issues that impact America's children to Washington and the White...Read More


What Governor Palin Needs to Know About 'Love'

Filed by Steve Ralls | September 08, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Alaska Governor Sarah Palin (pictured) has made history as the first mother to be on the Republican presidential ticket, and she has the potential to bring a new perspective on issues that impact America's children to Washington and the White...Read More


Southeast Regional Gay Men's Health Summit to be held in Fort Lauderdale

Filed by Dr. David Fawcett | September 08, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

While all eyes were on Denver in recent weeks, nearby Boulder was approaching the tenth anniversary of another historic convention: the first National Gay Men's Health Summit. In 1999, hundreds of gay men gathered in Colorado for workshops and community-building...Read More


California Dreamin'

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | September 07, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

The National Lesbian and Gay Law Association is holding its annual Lavender Law conference in San Francisco this weekend. I took some time off from conference sessions to do some sightseeing today. Dale Chihuly at the deYoung Museum. A walk...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 07, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


Achieving the Goal of Financial Freedom

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | September 07, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Every year on my birthday, I set goals for myself for the coming year. I'm not big in New Year's resolutions, nor am I big on celebrating my birthday (although I always gladly accept gifts, especially jewelry). I do like...Read More


How do you handle errors on the restaurant bill?

Filed by Nina Smith | September 07, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

"When you make a mistake, admit it. If you don't, you only make matters worse." - Ward Cleaver Recently, my partner (Jeanine) and I ran a quick errand at South Coast Plaza, our local mall and as we were leaving...Read More


What Do I Tell My Mother? Part 2

Filed by Eric Marcus | September 07, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Last week, in Part 1 of my correspondence with the young woman who was about to leave for college I asked a few questions regarding her mother. Below is the young woman's response, as well as the rest of our...Read More


Remember Del Martin

Filed by Kate Clinton | September 06, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

The Republicans just finished up their White Party and Friar's Club Roast. It was like their Houston Convention, point oh hate. All they've got is derision and cheap shots. After eight years as Designated Bush Watcher, I am cranky, whiny....Read More


I get mail: Sarah Palin edition

Filed by Alex Blaze | September 04, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

I actually got this email through the email address associated with my personal blog, and I can't stop laughing: From: "Freddiefit@aol.com" Add sender to Contacts To: alex*******@*****.com Yikes....it looks like the Governor put it right up your left-wing ass !!!!!...Read More


When do you out a gay teenager?

Filed by Father Tony | September 04, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Dear Father Tony, I'm in a quandary about limits. I have a colleague whose teen son is acknowledged by his school friends to be gay. My kid says "everyone knows." But since my colleague has said nothing, I have...Read More


Top Ten Problems with the Gender Identity Disorder Diagnosis

Filed by Guest Blogger | September 04, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Editors' note: Kelley Winters, Ph.D. is a writer on issues of transgender medical policy, founder of GID Reform Advocates and an Advisory Board Member for the Matthew Shepard Foundation and TransYouth Family Advocates. She has presented papers on the psychiatric...Read More


Talking About the Black Blog Rankings

Filed by Monica Roberts | September 04, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Some of you Projectors are aware of the fact that Pam's House Blend is the Number 1 ranked African-American blog. For those of us who have read her posts here and are regular readers of the Blend, it's no surprise...Read More


Back to school...

Filed by Cathy Renna | September 03, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

This week, millions of kids and young adults will stream back to school. It is a perennial media story usually focusing on the cost of supplies. Sadly, the stories of the challenges so many students face did not make it...Read More


The Men's Club of Congregation Etz Chaim: A Social Group for Gay and Bisexual Jews

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | September 03, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

As some of you probably know, I am currently the president of the Men's Club of Congregation Etx Chaim. According to the Bylaws, the purposes of the Men's Club "are to strengthen the involvement of its members in the Congregation,...Read More


Best of DNCC week in pictures

Filed by Bil Browning | September 02, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Since I have more pictures than I could ever use in posts, I thought I'd put some of the best from the week (political, blog related and sightseeing) in one post. Captions underneath and you can click any of them...Read More


Speaking of Sex

Filed by Dr. David Fawcett | September 02, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Good sex involves more than technical skills. Despite a lot of experience, many people don't feel very competent with one important component of sex: speaking up about it. Sexual competence must include the ability to be comfortable with sexuality, discussions...Read More


Bilerico Visits Focus on the Family

Filed by Bil Browning | September 02, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Two fags and a trannie go to Focus on the Family headquarters... It sounds like the start of a really bad joke, eh? Last Friday though, it became a true story - although we did put the Bilerico style on...Read More


Palin and the GOP: Making the accidental case for sex ed

Filed by Ricci Levy | September 02, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I am following all of the rumors about Palin's daughter being the real birth mother of Trig, followed by the release of information that her 17 year old unmarried daughter, Bristol, is pregnant. McCain's own staff said they released this...Read More


Celebrity Sightings

Filed by Terrance Heath | September 01, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

It's true, celebs abounded in Denver. You can't walk within shouting distance of the Pepsi Center here without sighting Ben Affleck, Eva Longoria, Stephen Spielberg or Melissa Etheridge....Read More


Interview Sessions: James

Filed by Eric Leven | September 01, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

I met James while double-dutching at the piers. I always noticed and admired his young and confidently out attitude. He is the next generation - the younger of the young so often discussed on this blog. Here is what he...Read More