Living: October 2008

Martinsville, Indiana

Filed by Bil Browning | October 31, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Martinsville, Indiana is known in Indiana as one of the most bigoted, racist areas of the state. The Ku Klux Klan was headquartered in Martinsville at one time and, well, the effects linger. This image from the small city has...Read More


Hoosiers: Join Our Chicago Protest of the Radio Hall of Shame

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 31, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Guest blogger Wayne Besen is an author, activist, columnist and public speaker. He currently serves as the Executive Director of Truth Wins OUT, an organization to founded to combat the 'ex-gay' myth and right wing propaganda. In the...Read More


To Fast or Not?

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 31, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

James Dobson has called for all his minions to fast for 48 hours and then go get 'em, fight the battle to ban equality and fairness in California. I guess then they'd all be set to munch down a ton...Read More


FL Amendment 2 Update: Leaked Emails Show More Illegal Campaigning

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 30, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

Dirty tricks, money funneling, and lawsuits- oh my! My investigation into the misdeeds and dishonest campaign tactics of the backers of Florida's Amendment 2 just keeps getting nastier and more disturbing... I reported earlier about Florida Red & Blue, the...Read More


You make me wet

Filed by Father Tony | October 30, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Dear Father Tony: My problem is sweat. I dread going on a first date because I know I will sweat right through my undershirt, shirt, jacket, whatever. After I sit down I'm afraid to get up because my back...Read More


Write to Marry Day: My Marriage Story

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 29, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

Many of the readers on Bilerico know that my partner, Anthony Niedwiecki, and I were married in California this summer. I posted about the entire experience, from our initial decision to marry in California to the wedding day itself. I...Read More


GMHC: HIV/AIDS Update on 2008 Presidential Candidates

Filed by Michael Emanuel Rajner | October 29, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Below, please find the updated 2008 Presidential Candidate Report from GMHC to help you understand the candidates positions on HIV/AIDS issues. There are several other significant issues that are not addressed in the update below- such as the call for...Read More


Fondue

Filed by Kate Clinton | October 29, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

My friend Sally had a special request for her birthday party - fondue! Get your sticks out, that pot of cheese soup is making a comeback. During the party, I noticed some scary double dipping. It's the beginning of flu...Read More


Will the Real Black Folk (& Real Americans) Please Stand Up?

Filed by Bishop Mahee | October 29, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

I just got through reading comments detailing remarks made in support of Florida's hateful Amendment 2 by a niece of the late Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, Alveda King. Dr. King's niece has once again aligned herself (while invoking...Read More


Transsexual "gene"?

Filed by Donna Rose | October 28, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

It seems that every year or two there is an article somewhere that some scientist or doctor has identified a biological "cause" for being gay or transgender. These kinds of things seem to get a significant amount of attention and...Read More


Child terrorist fist bump

Filed by Bil Browning | October 28, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Give us your best caption to win the fame and fortune that belongs to the wittiest Projector....Read More


New study links genetics to transsexuality

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 28, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Cathryn Platine is a Pagan Crone and aging hippy chick who lives in the Catskills as the founder of a Goddess tradition. A lifelong gadfly and civil rights advocate, the government considers her an "aging ineffectual...Read More


Rednecks 4 Obama

Filed by Bil Browning | October 28, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

A sign from a major intersection in North Vernon, Indiana submitted by an alert reader. Not too far away, Jerame's parents have registered to vote for the first time in their lives so they can vote for Obama. They've had...Read More


HIV disclosure laws fail again

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 27, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

The gay DJ I wrote about two months ago who was prosecuted for not disclosing his HIV status and having sex with men is back in trouble with the law: On Sept. 6, Q-Notes reported that Joshua Waldon Weaver, 23,...Read More


The economic collapse is a feature, not a bug, in American democracy

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 27, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

I'm writing this after just watching the blowhards on This Week discuss the Republican ticket and the economy, and Sam Donaldson actually showed some ability to hold a substantive policy position and started blustering in the general direction of George...Read More


Have You Ever Been Mortified?

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 26, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

And had to keep the good face going? I was mortified last night. I shouldn't even write about this but... I can't help myself. It's too funny. Tonight I was invited to an HRC event. Big fundraiser in Boston. I've...Read More


Shopping with Grandma & Sarah

Filed by Eric Marcus | October 26, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

As you may know from an earlier post, Sarah Palin has brought me closer to my late grandmother (who died three years ago at 102). The inspiration for the last post was Sarah Palin's decision to schlep her infant around...Read More


On the lighter side: lesbian jugglers

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | October 26, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

What with the stock market plummeting to a certain death, the shrieking voices of the campaigns averring that the heat death of the universe will occur should their candidates not be elected, and opponents of marriage equality suggesting that federal...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 26, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


Observations from an Ersatz(?) American

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 25, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Before I launch into this post, let me just be clear about one thing. I'm not sure of much anymore. But I am fairly certain that I shouldn't be writing this, or much of anything having to do with politics...Read More


Early Voting Envy

Filed by Monica Roberts | October 25, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

One of the things I miss about home besides my family, Frenchy's creole seasoned chicken, Harlon's Barbecue, Shipley's Donuts and Majic102 FM is early voting. The other thing I missed, Blue Bell Homemade Vanilla ice cream I've been able to...Read More


The Burden of Proof: The Politics of Gender, Science, and the DSM

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 24, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Kelley Winters, Ph.D. is a writer on issues of transgender medical policy, founder of GID Reform Advocates and an Advisory Board Member for the Matthew Shepard Foundation and TransYouth Family Advocates. She has presented papers on the psychiatric...Read More


What We've Already Lost

Filed by Eric Leven | October 23, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

A few years ago unsafe sex was called "unsafe sex." But now, with the emergence of the vastly popular Xtube and the heightened popularity of production companies like Treasure Island Media who make all-bare-all-the-time porn movies "unsafe sex" is now...Read More


The Insanity of John Stemberger: Going Down the Rabbit Hole in Florida

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 23, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

It looks like the Right-Wingers behind Florida's Amendment 2 are borrowing from the California Prop 8 playbook. It shouldn't be surprising, since they "borrowed" ads from Arizona's amendment fight. The leader of the pack, John Stemberger, an Orlando attorney organizing...Read More


FL Student Heather Gillman Honored for Speaking Out for LGBT Rights

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 23, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

The ACLU has announced that Heather Gillman has been selected by the Playboy Foundation to receive the Hugh M. Hefner First Amendment Award for "her fearlessness in speaking out on behalf of the rights of gay students" at Ponce de...Read More


Waiting

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 23, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

Anyone else stressed? I'm stressed. Worried. The countdown to the election is killing me. It's not just about the presidential election- although that's enough. It's California, it's a bunch of state races. Nerve wracking....Read More


Would you date this guy, or is he a jerk?

Filed by Father Tony | October 23, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Hey Fr. Tony, HIV poz here and looking for a man to share my life. My on-line profiles say 32. Muscular. Gym built. VGL professional (yup, that does mean financially well-off) hung, drug-free, etc. etc. etc. All true except...Read More


Double homocide of elderly gay men looks like hate crime

Filed by Bil Browning | October 23, 2008 | 10:45 AM | comments

People who knew the two elderly gay men slain in their Indianapolis home are stepping forward to say they believe the murders are a hate crime. Patrick Beard, a friend of the victims, told 6News' Rick Hightower that he believed...Read More


The Insanity of the Religious Right: Janet Porter

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 22, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

The Queen Bee of the Religious Right, Janet Porter (formerly Janet Folger) of Faith2Action, has released a horrendous and offensive "newscast from a future we must never see" on World Net Daily. You may remember Janet as the Naugle-loving, gay-hating...Read More


Write Your Own Caption

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 22, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

Normally I post these without much comment. But I this time I couldn't help it....Read More


Love Is An Action Verb!!!

Filed by Bishop Mahee | October 22, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Sometimes being active and being proactive is the hardest thing to do when facing a challenge. But in order to make it to the other side of the challenge one must take action. I was participating in a town hall...Read More


I Want To Know

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 22, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

I want to know why my cat licks the Steuben swans on my desk I want to know why Ben is the most loving, adorable human being for one minute then a nightmare in the next I want to know...Read More


Gay men murdered in Decatur Township

Filed by Bil Browning | October 21, 2008 | 1:15 PM | comments

Two elderly gay men were murdered in their Decatur Township home recently. Their bodies were found inside the house by a family friend. About a week ago, the same friend came by to check on 70-year-old Milton Lindgren and 73-year-old...Read More


Gay men murdered in Decatur Township

Filed by Bil Browning | October 21, 2008 | 1:15 PM | comments

Two elderly gay men were murdered in their Decatur Township home recently. Their bodies were found inside the house by a family friend. About a week ago, the same friend came by to check on 70-year-old Milton Lindgren and 73-year-old...Read More


Open Thread: The making of a man

Filed by Bil Browning | October 21, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

I thought I'd throw this out for discussion since it came up in the comments section of Alex's Gay Men 101 post: What makes someone a man? What does it mean to you? Are there certain requirements or criteria? Obviously...Read More


Eddie Ross from Bravo's Top Design talks Money

Filed by Nina Smith | October 20, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

A second season of the hit reality show, Top Design, is back on Bravo with a new group of contestants trying to win $100,000. Eddie Ross, still designing after Episode 7, is one of a handful of gay participants this...Read More


Raise the bar on coming out

Filed by Michele O'Mara | October 20, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

Rarely do I speak the words, "I am gay (or lesbian)." Although very early in my being out process, I attempted this strategy at work, rather unsuccessfully. This happened years ago when gay marriage was but a blip on the...Read More


Another Reason to Come Out

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 20, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Here is another reason that it is so crucial that we as LGBT people live our lives openly and honestly: I had almost the exact same experience as Jay. It was very easy to use the word "fag" around my...Read More


Protesting Sarah Palin

Filed by Annette Gross | October 19, 2008 | 5:45 PM | comments

I joined Planned Parenthood Friday and went up to Noblesville to protest Sarah Palin. I arrived at a parking lot on East 96th Street to meet and carpool to the rally. Along with Planned Parenthood people were members of various...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 19, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


I'm In Love! Why Can't I Tell Anyone?

Filed by Eric Marcus | October 19, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

hey eric: i have a few problems and lots of questions so this will probably end up being lengthy. i guess i'll start with my story. i am a guy and i have a boyfriend and we've been together...Read More


Florida Amendment 2 Backers Release Ads

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 18, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Yes2Marriage, the group behind Florida's Amendment 2, the so-called "Marriage Protection" Amendment, has released and started airing a new ad called "Just One Thing"- which is built on the lie that Amendment 2 does "only one thing - defining marriage...Read More


Gay men 101: I don't know nothin'

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 17, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Bil went out on a limb a few months ago and admitted that he doesn't know enough about transgender people. It started several great discussions, and not just about trans people, but also about the privilege involved in asking a...Read More


NC: Sharing stories with the Chapel Hill HS Gay-Straight Alliance

Filed by Pam Spaulding | October 17, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

On Monday I attended the regular meeting of the Gay-Straight-Alliance at Chapel Hill High School and it was a wonderful experience, being surrounded by so many self-aware, talented and insightful young people who were willing to share with me what...Read More


Macy's Passpost Cinema HIV/AIDS benefit in Indianapolis

Filed by Bil Browning | October 17, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

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Macy's Passpost Cinema HIV/AIDS benefit in Indianapolis

Filed by Bil Browning | October 17, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

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Coming Out... A Second Time?

Filed by Jason Tseng | October 17, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

I had the not uncommon coming out experience for many kids of my generation: Boy finds out in middle school that he likes boys. Boy represses all of that until he comes out in a flurry of dramatic over-the-top fabulousness...Read More


A New Level Of Hate

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 17, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

As we all dissect the last debate, and worry about the economy, the level of hate in this country just reached a new high. Or should I say low. In Illinois, an elementary school bus driver taunted a ten year...Read More


One Year Later, A Mother Returns to Vienna

Filed by Steve Ralls | October 16, 2008 | 8:00 PM | comments

In the months since we first reportedon Kathy Gilleran's search for her son, Aeryn, many readers have asked us to keep you updated on the story... and there has been an outpouring of support, from Kathy's hometown PFLAG chapter to...Read More


Do the Obama tax plan math yourself

Filed by Scott Kaiser | October 16, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

So the main issue on voters' minds is the economy, a subject John McCain has repeatedly said in the past that he's not exactly an expert in. So what's McCain to do? Well, beyond denying he ever made those remarks,...Read More


Let's Be Honest: Prop. 8 Will Hurt Families

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 16, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

In 19 days voters in California will vote on whether or not to strip marriage rights away from same-sex couples. One of the most critical things that we can being doing now, besides contributing to No on Prop. 8, is...Read More


Let's Be Honest: Prop. 8 Will Hurt Families

Filed by Michael Crawford | October 16, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

In 19 days voters in California will vote on whether or not to strip marriage rights away from same-sex couples. One of the most critical things that we can being doing now, besides contributing to No on Prop. 8, is...Read More


Your Wife Already Knows Your Little Secret

Filed by Father Tony | October 16, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Father Tony, You want everyone to come out. But why? Is it because you did it and you'll feel better? Misery loves company? I am married to a wonderful smart woman. I love her. Our kids are grown and...Read More


Celebrity Republicans

Filed by Bil Browning | October 16, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Several celebrities attended John McCain's recent Hollywood fundraiser. Guests included: James Caan Jon Voigt Robert Duvall Jerry Bruckheimer Victoria Jackson Lorenzo Lamas Kevin Sorbo Lou Ferrigno Dean Cain (Say it ain't so, sexy Superman!) Adam Carolla So let's have fun...Read More


My Open Letter to Florida and California Republicans

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | October 16, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

My good friend and neighbor in Florida Robert Moreno sent me this fantastic video. Bob emigrated from South America and became a banker after college. He traveled extensively to all parts of the Spanish speaking world to facilitate business opportunities...Read More


Post-debate discussion thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 15, 2008 | 11:00 PM | comments

The debate's over, my friends. What did you all think?...Read More


Bilerico's online debate watching party

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 15, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

Consider this the thread for those of us watching the debate. I'll be on economics and domestic policy. Each candidate will get 2 minutes to respond to each question and 5 minutes of discussion will ensue. Bil, Scott Kaiser, Sara...Read More


Interview Sessions: Alfredo

Filed by Eric Leven | October 15, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

I met Alfredo at The Hanger one Sunday afternoon while sipping on a Bloody Mary. Alfredo is a 51 year old Black Cuban living with HIV. This is what he has to say: iPhone users: Click to watch...Read More


LGBT Student Activists arrested in West Palm Beach

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 15, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Six members of Soulforce, an LGBT student's rights and education group, were arrested at Palm Beach Atlantic University on Monday morning. Soulforce tours Christian schools opening a dialogue about LGBT issues. The students were charged with trespassing, a second-degree misdemeanor...Read More


Coming Out Constantly...

Filed by Bo Shuff | October 15, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I know I'm lucky, and putting this story down on paper has shown me how lucky I really have been. I have friends and family that were not only un-phased by my coming out, they were incredibly supportive. In addition,...Read More


Is CNN Giving Palin a Pass?

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | October 14, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Those of us who are older can remember CNN when it was young, hungry and dedicated to real TV news reporting. For me, vivid pictures linger from 1991, when the Soviet Union was dissolving, and a young Wolf Blitzer stood...Read More


School bans a boy from wearing make-up

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 14, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

What are the chances they took the same stand with girls at that school? Embedded video from CNN Video...Read More


Remembering Allan Spear

Filed by Chuck Wolfe | October 14, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Imagine the courage it must have taken for an elected state senator to come out of the closet in 1974. Just five years after New York City police raided the Stonewall Inn on that historic night in June, Allan Spear...Read More


Just When You Think You are Immune to Heartbreak

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | October 14, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Late last week I received an email from someone who read my posting from May 17th. The title of that posting was: "Let's Face It, We are All Getting Older." Bilerico Project performed another miracle for me in letting me...Read More


Florida's Nude Beaches - The State of the Art

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | October 14, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

Florida is a great state with horrible rulers. This seems to be the case with Florida's clothing-optional beaches, or the absence of them. According to Michael Boyd, editor of Naked Places: A Guide for Gay Men to Nude Recreation and...Read More


Father Geoffrey Farrow has been suspended.

Filed by Father Tony | October 13, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

I left the following comment on his blog post about the suspension: Dear Father Geoff, We rather knew it would come to this. Sadly, a man does not get to be a bishop by championing truth and by facilitating the...Read More


Wachovia lends $8 mil to Republican party: Small businesses still can't get a loan

Filed by Bil Browning | October 13, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

I can admit that I don't know too much about the economy - after all, it's hard to worry about inter-bank credit when you're barely able to afford your own health insurance. I do know that I'm not happy in...Read More


Coming Out to Family...

Filed by Bo Shuff | October 13, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

The journey - part 3. I find that life is mostly about reality meeting your expectations. Events ,for example, are great,no matter what size if they meet or exceed what you think is going to happen. So sometimes reactions to...Read More


Coming Out to My Gay Dad

Filed by Paige Schilt | October 12, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

When I was 20 years old, I met my Dad in D.C. for a weekend of sightseeing and shopping. My real agenda, however, was more serious. I had rehearsed the words I needed to say for weeks: "I think I...Read More


Coming Out to My Gay Dad

Filed by Paige Schilt | October 12, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

When I was 20 years old, I met my Dad in D.C. for a weekend of sightseeing and shopping. My real agenda, however, was more serious. I had rehearsed the words I needed to say for weeks: "I think I...Read More


Silence = Death

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 12, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

I've been impressed with the Coming Out Day essays of the other contributors here at The Bilerico Project, and I wanted to use mine to talk about the people who won't be coming out today....Read More


Stories from the Helpline: National Coming Out Week

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 12, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Charles Robbins is the executive director and CEO of The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) youth. "How do I know...Read More


The process of coming out

Filed by Bil Browning | October 12, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Coming out is a process. It's a general growth that we drift toward as versus a well-defined goal marker usually. Or at least it was for me. I came out in Kindergarten when I wrapped duct tape around my wrists...Read More


This Goes Out to All the Art School Queers

Filed by Dustin Kight | October 12, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

In 2002 I graduated from the South Carolina Governor's School for the Arts and Humanities with a South Carolina public high school degree and a certificate of completion in Creative Writing. Virginia Uldrick, founding president of the Governor's School, forgot...Read More


This Goes Out to All the Art School Queers

Filed by Dustin Kight | October 12, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

In 2002 I graduated from the South Carolina Governor's School for the Arts and Humanities with a South Carolina public high school degree and a certificate of completion in Creative Writing. Virginia Uldrick, founding president of the Governor's School, forgot...Read More


Coming out: the agony and the ecstasy

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | October 12, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

She opened the door of the apartment where we had made a life together, her eyes steady, but ready to fill with tears. She knew that I had something to tell her, but I had refused to say what in...Read More


Continuing to Come Out...

Filed by Bo Shuff | October 12, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

As I said yesterday, to me coming out is a process. You have to do it over and over again in a variety of contexts. My coming out to my friends was easy as I talked about yesterday, and it...Read More


The Coming Out Journey Begins...

Filed by Bo Shuff | October 11, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

I know that today is National Coming Out Day. I understand the need to commemorate this act in a lot of peoples lives, and to offer a community support for those people still going through it. However, I see coming...Read More


National Coming Out Day: An Every Day Celebration

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 11, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Today is National Coming Out Day, the day we encourage and celebrate our community coming out and living life out and proud. Since I wrote about my personal coming out story last year, I wanted to really take a different...Read More


Why I won't Come Out on National Coming Out Day

Filed by Yasmin Nair | October 11, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Public discussions around sexuality evoke simplistic narratives about gays versus conservatives. We automatically assume that anything gay is part of a leftist or progressive agenda. In this context, National Coming Out Day takes on the aura of a sacred rite...Read More


Coming Out and the Revolving Door

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | October 11, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

In most of my childhood, I felt extreme loneliness, even when with those who loved me. It is possible when you are desperate to believe two opposed ideas when the outcome gives pleasure beyond all that you had ever known....Read More


FEMME SHARKS, FEMME SHARKS!!!

Filed by Gina de Vries | October 11, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

There is no bigger pleasure than hearing Leah, Zuleikha, and myself screaming chants on FemmeCast. Check out Episode 5 to hear some of my best & brilliant friends shark-sharking it up. (I also make a tiny little cameo as an...Read More


Cindy McSame

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 09, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Disgusting. That is all that comes to mind when I heard Cindy McCain unleash yet another low blow attack on Obama while stumping in Pennsylvania. Funny how the campaign that kept screaming "leave families out of it" when it came...Read More


How to bury Daddy.

Filed by Father Tony | October 09, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Evening Father T- I find myself in the position of wrangling with a Baptist preacher regarding my Father's funeral service. My position being as dear old Daddy was devoutly agnostic there ought to be some latitude there, however I...Read More


Job searching

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 08, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Currently, I'm looking for work. Any work. I'm hoping in journalism or activism. I could use all the help I can get, and if you don't want to leave a comment here with help feel free to send an email....Read More


Father Geoffrey Farrow, my hat is off to you.

Filed by Father Tony | October 08, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

I just got off the phone with Father Geoffrey Farrow. A blogger friend of his who reads Bilerico and my blog suggested I contact him and was kind enough to facilitate our introduction. If the word gracious can be understood...Read More


Happy birthday, Bil!

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 08, 2008 | 10:49 AM | comments

Today is Bil's birthday! I don't know how old he is, but I do know that all he asked me for was the day off from the site. I'm happy to provide, but something tells me that he won't be...Read More


Presidential debate thread

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 07, 2008 | 8:00 PM | comments

The second presidential debate is on in an hour at 9pm Eastern. Here's the info from the debate site: Second presidential debate: all topics in town meeting format, moderated by Tom Brokaw Tuesday, October 7, Belmont University, Nashville, TN -Two-minute...Read More


LGBT Hate Crimes Timeline

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 07, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Yesterday was the 10th anniversary of Matthew Shepard's murder. I didn't get chance to blog about it (or much else) yesterday. Ten years ago yesterday, I was in a hotel in Albuquerque, NM -- helping to facilitate an HIV/AIDS prevention...Read More


My Faith Compels Me

Filed by Bishop Mahee | October 07, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

While sitting in a leadership training for skills-building to defeat Florida's Amendment 2, it came to dealing with the other side on the religious arguments against homosexuality. The trainer instructed us to stay away from issues of faith, as that...Read More


Keith Olbermann Blasts Palin on Terrorism

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | October 07, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Last night, American voters finally got the word that Sarah Palin is supported by a violent ultra-rightist international religious front. She was exposed in prime time by a big name in mainstream TV news -- none other than Keith Olbermann...Read More


On the Bright Side...

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 07, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Oil fell to under 90 bucks a barrel today... gas will be cheaper. Of course, you may not have a job to drive to but I'm trying to be positive. Yesterday's market crash- almost a free fall in the middle...Read More


Our ten year anniversary

Filed by Bil Browning | October 06, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

Happy Anniversary, Jerame. I never imagined we'd make it a month, let alone ten years. I've never been happier that we did....Read More


Homophobia: The other conservative solution to the financial crisis

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 06, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Last week I wrote about conservative efforts to deflect attention away from the real causes of the current financial meltdown, deregulation, corporate greed, and the failure of conservative ideology, and pin it instead on scary minorities. Now Fox News has...Read More


Indiana AIDS Walk

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 06, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Rebecca Berfanger is an Indianapolis native and has her B.A. (Ball State, 2000) and M.S.J. (Northwestern, 2005) in journalism. She has written legal and entertainment articles for print and online media, and volunteers for HIV/AIDS awareness...Read More


Catholic Priest Defies Church Over Antigay Ballot Initiative

Filed by Karen Ocamb | October 06, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

"A man of conscience." The phrase seems almost quaint today when most leaders talk largely about tactics, strategies, and short-term goals while not rocking the boat. But some of us remember the agonizing efforts of conscientious objectors during the Vietnam...Read More


Sarah, Are You Palling Around With Terrorists?

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | October 06, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Things are heating up with Sarah Palin's accusation that Obama is "palling around with terrorists." McCain's smear campaign for the next 30 days is aimed at recouping his sagging ratings. Speaking at a 10/4 rally in Colorado, La Palin said:...Read More


Back from Ireland...

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 06, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

I'm back from Ireland, and Alberto and I had a great time thanks to travel advice Brynn gave us. I also nabbed this photo of a hot Irish twink telling the boys to join the clergy. Anyway, I'm full of...Read More


The Mouth Piece (Peace?)

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | October 06, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

This is a video that should surprise you. It is not my opinion, but it is really something to think about when we dismiss all people as being "friend or foe." I did not like this video because it came...Read More


More Religious Nonsense

Filed by Brynn Craffey | October 06, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Marie Stopes International (MSI), a non-governmental organisation (NGO) focusing on sexual and reproductive health and headquartered in London, does not receive a penny of funding from the US government. But according to this Guardian article, in some places MSI does...Read More


More Religious Nonsense

Filed by Brynn Craffey | October 06, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Marie Stopes International (MSI), a non-governmental organisation (NGO) focusing on sexual and reproductive health and headquartered in London, does not receive a penny of funding from the US government. But according to this Guardian article, in some places MSI does...Read More


Help Heal Fran!

Filed by Gina de Vries | October 06, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I read at a benefit for my beloved friend and colleague Frances Varian on Wednesday night. Many nights later, I'm still a little choked up about it. I was wanting this post to be smart, political, incisive -- but I've...Read More


Help Heal Fran!

Filed by Gina de Vries | October 06, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

I read at a benefit for my beloved friend and colleague Frances Varian on Wednesday night. Many nights later, I'm still a little choked up about it. I was wanting this post to be smart, political, incisive -- but I've...Read More


Hello -- Liberty Is a Pagan Goddess

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | October 05, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

To the creators of that Republican campaign commercial that appropriates the Statue of Liberty -- I've got news for you. You're hawking the wrong symbol. In fact, you're stealing a symbol that actually shoots a big hole in all the...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 05, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


Class in Drag or Who's Middle Class Anyway?: Sarah Palin, Joe Sixpack, and Main Street

Filed by Yasmin Nair | October 05, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

I watched Sarah Palin on Thursday night with my fingernails digging into my hands. Joe Biden must have remembered the fuss over Al Gore's sighs during the latter's debate with George Bush, because he showed restraint even as Palin consistently...Read More


Can't They Afford a Babysitter?

Filed by Eric Marcus | October 05, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

My grandmother has been dead for three years. But I still often hear her voice. It's not a sign of mental illness. I just knew her really well. By the time she died in her 103rd year, I knew her...Read More


Open Thread: Must See TV?

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 04, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

With all the talk of campaigns and politics ("I can see Russia from my house!"), we have glossed over one very important thing happening right now: Fall Television Premieres! My DVR is full of new shows and old favorites that...Read More


The economic crisis for dummies

Filed by Bil Browning | October 03, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

I have to admit, I still don't quite understand all the nuances of the current economic crisis and the Wall Street bailout. I just keep thinking that it seems like the biggest ransom plan in world history. A group of...Read More


The Wall Street giveaway and Democratic "values"

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | October 03, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

When I think about this Wall Street giveaway my whole chest tightens up and I feel kind of nauseous and start walking around in circles and all I can think about is bipartisanship, what a hideous concept! Bipartisanship means Barack...Read More


I Need Your Vote Today. You Can Make a Difference!

Filed by Father Tony | October 03, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

As some of you may know, we are downsizing. I've spent the last three days doing the excruciating work of sorting through stuff and deciding what to keep and what to pitch. Yesterday, I opened a box marked "kitchen stuff"...Read More


'Gay does not mean paedophile' and other memos for the right-wing press

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 03, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Milly Shaw is a freelance writer and Editor of 'the web's tastiest lesbian magazine' Lesbilicious.co.uk. When she's not writing about queer issues she's up to her elbows in feminism, which is why she's also a contributor...Read More


Mercedes Joins the Gender Binary

Filed by Mercedes Allen | October 03, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

As it seemed so important to people to get offended at my surgical decision not to have GRS, for whatever reason, I suppose that it's only fitting to say this here. In the beginning, I had reserved the right to...Read More


Mercedes Joins the Gender Binary

Filed by Mercedes Allen | October 03, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

As it seemed so important to people to get offended at my surgical decision not to have GRS, for whatever reason, I suppose that it's only fitting to say this here. In the beginning, I had reserved the right to...Read More


One Little Capitalist Segment

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | October 03, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

In my last posting I tried to cover too much and I apologize for that. I attempted to link the intense suffering of the 25% of the world's population (who may yet starve to death) to the importance of the...Read More


Hate crime in the South Bend area

Filed by Bil Browning | October 02, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

What a shame. A northern Indiana man was attacked after watching a football game with some other gay men. A 54-year-old man who was found severely beaten Monday told police he was assaulted because he is gay. Police said the...Read More


He's fat, he's gay, he's out of play.

Filed by Father Tony | October 02, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Dear Father Tony: Every other problem I had with my lover I could solve but this one. We were a good looking couple. We are together for 7 years. After two years I began to put on weight. Not...Read More


Paulson's Ashes

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 02, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

All this news is too damn depressing. Once, about two years ago, Walter told me to lighten up on my blog. Too sad all the time, he said. It's like Angela's ashes. I remember reading Angela's Ashes while pregnant with...Read More


How Real Is Our Commitment to "History"?

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | October 02, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

For starters, the feminists got it wrong. In the word "history," "his-" does not refer to men. The American Heritage Dictionary index of root words shows us that "his-" probably comes from hyster, the Greek word for womb. Why womb?...Read More


I.O.U.S.A: compulsory viewing for every dollar-spending American

Filed by Nina Smith | October 01, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

"Capitalism without failure is like Christianity without hell." - Warren Buffett I.O.U.S.A.: One Nation. Under Stress. In Debt. is the new Sundance-selected documentary that I watched recently. Michelle Orange of The Village Voice called it an "Inconvenient Truth for the...Read More


"The Religious Test" -- More on Scary Religion

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | October 01, 2008 | 9:00 AM | comments

As a lover of history, I ponder how religion has become a burning issue in the campaign -- though fewer people are daring to discuss it now that Sarah Palin is on the scene. The right grumbles about a religious...Read More


Now a hypocrite?

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 01, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Brian Watson was born in New York and traveled the globe before he met the love of his life in Tokyo in 1993. Together, Brian and Hiro braved the fickle insanity of US immigration for eight...Read More