Living: December 2008

Arrest made in Taysia Elzy case; IMPD to establish LGBT liaison

Filed by Bil Browning | December 31, 2008 | 4:45 PM | comments

CBS station WISH-TV is reporting that a suspect has been arrested in the double homicide of Taysia Elzy and Michael Hunt. The news station continues to refer to the victims as "two men" and, although new photographs are easily available...Read More


Beyond marriage? Let's move beyond progress

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 31, 2008 | 3:20 PM | comments

American workers have had their retirements under assault for over three decades. They've been losing as companies moved from defined-benefit programs over to defined-compensation and plans that were basically a tool to move worthless or soon-to-be worthless stock onto workers....Read More


BREAKING: Arrest being made in Taysia Elzy case

Filed by Bil Browning | December 31, 2008 | 12:40 PM | comments

BREAKING NEWS I just got off the phone with a source in the Indianapolis Police Department. A suspect is currently being arrested in Ft. Wayne, Indiana of a suspect in the double homicide of Taysia Elzy and Michael Hunt. The...Read More


Which god is driving the bus?

Filed by Father Tony | December 31, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

It becomes clear that as we switch out the god we have in the driver's seat, each of the passengers will eventually and in turn be thrown under the bus. There is no universal god. Only an extremely personal one....Read More


The Christian Q-tip Caption This

Filed by Bil Browning | December 31, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Your best caption or witty retort is requested. After the jump, mood music to help you fine tune that droll one-off line into a sparkling riposte! Henrietta and Myrna will have you so excited you'll want to go tell it...Read More


The Media, the Legislature and the Police Are Guilty Too

Filed by Bil Browning | December 30, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

My post, "Transgender woman and her boyfriend murdered in Indianapolis," has created quite a bit of conversation - both here on the Project and in certain circles in Indiana. I've just finished an interview with an Indianapolis Star reporter about...Read More


Designing 2009

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 30, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

How can I make sure that 2009 is a better year for me than 2008 was? ~ Johnny B. Happy Dear Johnny B Happy, On the eve of yet another New Year, you have the choice to view this...Read More


A Christmas Memory

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 30, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Bob Witeck is CEO of Witeck-Combs Communications. He is based in Washington DC and a lifelong community activist. Some may recall Truman Capote's story by the same name, and his recollections of growing up in the...Read More


A Christmas Memory

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 30, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Bob Witeck is CEO of Witeck-Combs Communications. He is based in Washington DC and a lifelong community activist. Some may recall Truman Capote's story by the same name, and his recollections of growing up in the...Read More


Eartha

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 30, 2008 | 12:30 PM | comments

We came home the other night after a long day spent opening presents (putting them together or hooking them up, in my case), cooking, enjoying holiday dinner with friends, and put two happy, exhausted children to bed. I'd put Parker...Read More


Please, please, please

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 30, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

I have a new goal in life, folks: to have more followers on Twitter than Bil. He just got me on this thing last night and we've already reached the point where the student surpasses the master (or at least...Read More


12 Hot Asians and 12 Hot Mormons Walk Into a Bar...

Filed by Prince Gomolvilas | December 30, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

It's that time of year when I start thinking about what calendar shall grace my wall for the next twelve months. A Zac Efron calendar is currently watching over me (seriously), but for 2009 I think I want a little...Read More


Washington Times columnist: Pope Benedict hasn't a hateful homophobic bone in his body

Filed by Pam Spaulding | December 29, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Frequent visitors to my pad know that we monitor including the latest one. This time it involved a speech to senior Vatican staff where the homo-obsessed Pope said that saving humanity from gays and transfolk was as critical as protecting...Read More


The places you find yourself on the internet

Filed by Bil Browning | December 29, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

Isn't the internet grand? One of the funniest aspects to being a blogger is where you find yourself mentioned online. Last week my Google alerts brought me one of the oddest citations yet. I thought I'd throw it out there...Read More


Accept your LGBTQ kids - could it be more simple?

Filed by Cathy Renna | December 29, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

This week we are helping get media attention for one of the most important projects I have ever worked on in my career. No way to overstate that, which is saying something. Our community now has a tool that all...Read More


Transwoman and her boyfriend murdered in Indianapolis

Filed by Bil Browning | December 28, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

Updated at the end of the post Two Indianapolis residents were killed over the holidays. While details aren't definite, it would appear one or both individuals were specifically targeted. If the double slaying is a hate crime, nothing will be...Read More


How Can I Talk To My Parents?

Filed by Eric Marcus | December 28, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

More gay folks write to me for advice about how to have a relationship with their parents than just about anything else. And given how a lot of parents deal with their gay kids I'm impressed that their kids want...Read More


How Can I Talk To My Parents?

Filed by Eric Marcus | December 28, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

More gay folks write to me for advice about how to have a relationship with their parents than just about anything else. And given how a lot of parents deal with their gay kids I'm impressed that their kids want...Read More


Lesbian Teen Pregnancy Rates: Can We See the Inequality beyond the Stigma?

Filed by Yasmin Nair | December 27, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

There's a new story about lesbian teens making the rounds, and it's being framed in somewhat sensationalist terms. The Vancouver Sun recently reported on University of British Columbia findings about pregnancy among LGB teens with the headline: "Lesbian Youth at...Read More


Lesbian Teen Pregnancy Rates: Can We See the Inequality beyond the Stigma?

Filed by Yasmin Nair | December 27, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

There's a new story about lesbian teens making the rounds, and it's being framed in somewhat sensationalist terms. The Vancouver Sun recently reported on University of British Columbia findings about pregnancy among LGB teens with the headline: "Lesbian Youth at...Read More


Who Says There Are No Gay Animals?

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 27, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Erik Deckers is a humor writer based in Indianapolis. He has been writing for 14 years, and published numerous columns, articles, and plays. He is currently working on a comedy novel about ghosts. "There are no gay animals!"...Read More


A vociferous American erection

Filed by Father Tony | December 26, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

Dear Father Tony, This is about my husband's "little problem" at his gym. Every time he comes home, I ask him "Was he there?" We are getting a lot of laughs out of this but my husband (straight and...Read More


Rick Warren is trampling on MLK Day and it's OK

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 26, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Guest blogger Matt Hennie is a freelance journalist in Atlanta. A product of the legacy media (those printed newspaper no one seems to be reading anymore), he jumped into the blogosphere in September with the launch of Project...Read More


Christmas blessings

Filed by Bil Browning | December 25, 2008 | 8:00 AM | comments

"Unless we make Christmas an occasion to share our blessings, all the snow in Alaska won't make it 'white'." -- Bing Crosby (1904-1977), American singer and film actor. Merry Christmas to all of our Projectors. We're taking the day off,...Read More


My Grown-Up Christmas List

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 24, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

I'm a sucker for holiday tunes. And one of my favorites is "Grown-up Christmas List." This season, with all that has happened, it strikes an even bigger chord with me, especially the opening line of the chorus: No More Lives...Read More


All Powerful Trannies Threaten Humanity

Filed by Brynn Craffey | December 24, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

In his end-of-year address to senior Vatican staff, Pope Benedict XVI, head of the 1.13 billion person-strong Catholic Church,has warned of the dangers of "gender theory," saying it threatens humanity's existence and equating its potential destructive power to that of...Read More


Coming Out: It's the Jewish Thing to Do at Chanukah

Filed by Annette Gross | December 24, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

I recently read an article written by Jay Michaelson entitled "Coming Out: It's the Jewish Thing to Do at Chanukah." Mr. Michaelson is Jewish and gay. He tells us that Chanukah is a "coming out" holiday - both in its...Read More


Be Safe and Be Thankful

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 24, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

A young lesbian woman, 28 years old, was attacked and gang raped on December 13th in Berkeley, California. According to the police report, the woman was taunted for being a lesbian by the men who ranged from late teens to...Read More


A Saner Look at the Bible, revised

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 24, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Rev. Rick Elliott is a Presbyterian minister on disability. He's a Phi Beta Kappa graduate from University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, got a masters of divinity at Austin Presbyterian Theological Seminary and did doctoral...Read More


Rick Warren's ridiculous damage control efforts

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 23, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Rick Warren's feeling the heat and he's trying to dodge it. The image to the right will live on in infamy. It's Rick Warren at the Out off the Closet thrift store in LA with his new gay friend. It...Read More


Words Matter: Hate and Bigotry

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 23, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

The intense discussion about the Rick Warren choice for the inauguration here and in the media has really been both enlightening and surprising. I've been overjoyed to see the concerns of our community get national attention (which is always a...Read More


Très belle

Filed by Kate Clinton | December 23, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

Just got word of another piece of coal from Benedict the Pope for our gay stockings this holiday season. I heard if from the smoky voiced Sylvia Polgolla in Rome, so it must be true. To review: as far as...Read More


Stories from the Helpline

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 23, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editor's Note: "Stories from the Helpline" is a recurring feature on The Bilerico Project, bringing in the personal accounts of Helpline counselors from The Trevor Project. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis...Read More


LDR 2.0 - Loving from afar in the digital age

Filed by Nathan Strang | December 22, 2008 | 7:00 PM | comments

I have dated my boyfriend John since February, 2008, and I feel closer to him in more ways than I have with anybody else. I also live farther away from him than anyone I have ever been with. How can...Read More


To Eat -- or Not to Eat -- a Fruitcake

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 22, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

I've always wondered why the homophobes decided to use the term "fruitcake" for gays. Do they mean those disgusting hunks of gluey stuff that are sold under the name "fruitcake" by supermarkets and commercial bakeries this time of year? Those...Read More


Christmas at Home

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 22, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Martin Gill and his partner have been raising two foster children in Florida since December 2004. When a judge terminated the parental rights of the boys' biological parents in 2006, Martin moved to adopt them. While...Read More


Christmas at Home

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 22, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Martin Gill and his partner have been raising two foster children in Florida since December 2004. When a judge terminated the parental rights of the boys' biological parents in 2006, Martin moved to adopt them. While...Read More


This Can't Really Be the Economy

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 22, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

I'm not an economist. I've never studied economics, beyond reading The Complete Idiot's Guide to Economics about a year ago. I've read about derivatives and had my mind blown by the concept of securitization and the idea that people not...Read More


New DHHS rules hurt queers' medical care access

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 22, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

I posted last week about the Bush Administration's new rules regarding the conservative creation known as the "right to conscience" (basically, the right to violate, with impunity, basic medical principles if medical professionals say a procedure goes against their personal...Read More


What Barack Obama Should Do About Rick Warren

Filed by Dana Rudolph | December 21, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

At my alma mater, Wellesley College, on the first Sunday of the school year, students gather at the chapel for "Flower Sunday," one of the oldest traditions of the College. While Flower Sunday has Protestant roots, the service has evolved...Read More


How Homophobia Hurts Everyone

Filed by Paige Schilt | December 21, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Yesterday I spent the morning perched on a tiny plastic chair, observing my son Waylon's yoga class. Although I have studied yoga for years, kindergarten yoga was most enlightening. For instance, I learned that the lotus position can also be...Read More


How Homophobia Hurts Everyone

Filed by Paige Schilt | December 21, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Yesterday I spent the morning perched on a tiny plastic chair, observing my son Waylon's yoga class. Although I have studied yoga for years, kindergarten yoga was most enlightening. For instance, I learned that the lotus position can also be...Read More


Up With Downward Mobility

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 21, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Every once in a while, an idea gels in my head and I dismiss it, thinking to myself "Nah. I gotta be missing something. It can't be that. And then I hear someone who probably knows a lot more than...Read More


Accomplishments and Goals

Filed by Annette Gross | December 21, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

I suppose this is the time of year when we take stock of what we did during the past year and what we want to accomplish for the next year. I usually don't do this because I can't keep focused...Read More


Help! I'm Afraid to Come Out!

Filed by Eric Marcus | December 21, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Hello Mr. Marcus, I'm a 48 yr. old man who is in a long-term, loving, committed relationship with another man whom I live with. I'm out to all my friends and family and even some business associates. We live...Read More


1 of 18,000 Being Attacked This Holiday Season

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 20, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

My "homosexual agenda" is pretty much the same everyday. Wake-up, give my husband a kiss on the cheek, give one of our dogs his allergy medicine and make sure there is food in their bowls, decide if I can skip...Read More


Not a Disagreement among Friends...

Filed by Kate Kendell | December 20, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Even as we endured the passage of Prop 8 and three other anti-gay measures on November 4, we took comfort in the near end of the most treacherous administration in recent history and the historic election of a man who...Read More


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How To Be An Ally with Atheists

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 20, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

Editors' note: This post follows Greta Christina's earlier guest post on TBP, Being an Atheist in the Queer Community. Greta blogs at gretachristina.com. So what do atheists want from their allies? And how can progressive non-atheist people and groups be...Read More


Rachel Maddow on Rick Warren

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 20, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Rachel Maddow gets real about the Warren Fiasco on the Thursday edition of her show. .msnbcLinks {font-size:11px; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; color: #999; margin-top: 5px; background: transparent; text-align: center; width: 425px;} .msnbcLinks a {text-decoration:none !important; border-bottom: 1px dotted #999 !important; font-weight:normal...Read More


Calm down: Rick Warren is not a big deal

Filed by Bil Browning | December 19, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

You might be surprised at my thoughts on the current Rick Warren scandal. I've hesitated to blog about it for the past couple of days, but as this story has grown bigger and bigger, it's time I stepped out and...Read More


Should "Inclusion" Include Everyone?

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 19, 2008 | 2:30 PM | comments

It is pretty obvious to anyone how I feel about Rick Warren being chosen to deliver the blessing on inauguration day. Warren is a unabashed bigot draped in religious clothing who hates the entire LGBT community. And let's be clear,...Read More


10 Tips for Managing the Holidays

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 19, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

As promised, I've put together a quick list of 10 tips to help you negotiate the upcoming holidays. Here goes... Be intentional and decisive about how you spend the holidays Families tend to expect the same behaviors each year, so...Read More


That Weird Hug from Rick Warren

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 19, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jeff Lutes is the Executive Director of Soulforce, a national civil rights and social justice organization dedicated to freedom for LGBT people through nonviolent direct action. According to the first three books of the New Testament,...Read More


Another assault on women's choice

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 18, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

Women's reproductive choice suffered a legal blow this week, with the Bush administration issuing a new rule that allows medical staff who have moral objections to women's autonomy to refuse treatment: The controversial rule empowers federal health officials to cut...Read More


The More Things "Change", the More They Stay the Same...

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 18, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

With the crushing defeats at the ballot box for our community this past November, the one bright spot, the glimmer of hope, that I held on to was Obama's election. While I may not always have agreed with all his...Read More


The More Things "Change", the More They Stay the Same...

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 18, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

With the crushing defeats at the ballot box for our community this past November, the one bright spot, the glimmer of hope, that I held on to was Obama's election. While I may not always have agreed with all his...Read More


His man goes south for the winter

Filed by Father Tony | December 18, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Dear Father Tony, You won't print this, I know, but maybe you can email me your opinion. I met a guy I like but there is a problem. He told me before we met that he was really into...Read More


Did Mat Staver Really Just Say That? Seriously?

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 17, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

Sometimes you read something and have to do a double take. One of those shake-your-head, cartoon-sound-effect "Huh??" moments. That's what happened when I read the Liberty Council's Mat Staver's quote in the Florida Baptist Witness. The article was discussing the...Read More


God didn't make you gay!

Filed by Michael Crawford | December 17, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Sorry to break the news to you, but God didn't make you gay. Or, so says Christian Hosoi, a professional skateboarder who became a born-again Christian after being incarcerated for trafficking crystal meth....Read More


Help Needed With AIDS Holiday Project

Filed by Bil Browning | December 17, 2008 | 11:30 AM | comments

The Tri-State Alliance AIDS Holiday Project needs your support. They need help serving over 280 low-income Evansville area households impacted by HIV/AIDS, meeting the needs of over 350 adults and 210 children. Diane Junius feels badly sometimes when she can't...Read More


Bikers, Bears, or Beauties: Are We More than Labels?

Filed by Dr. David Fawcett | December 16, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Gay men have perfected the art of labeling themselves in ways that are creative, yet at times, constraining to our identity. After fighting to move beyond stereotypes imposed by straight culture, there is something slightly disquieting about self-imposed categories typically...Read More


Preventing Infidelity

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 16, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

My partner and I have been together 7 months. We met before her last relationship had "officially" ended, though she led me to believe that it was already over. I was already in love with her when I learned...Read More


We're the Big Three: We Don't Need to Compete

Filed by Bil Browning | December 15, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

So what's your thoughts on the auto industry bail-out? It's an open thread! The auto industry should be asking the oil industry for some bail-out cash. Those oil companies have had "windfall profits" the past few years thanks to the...Read More


The vicious cycle known as the American health care system

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 15, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

If there's a lesson to be learned from the finance or the auto industry crises (and the soon-to-come credit card industry crisis), it's corporate management doesn't put the long-term interests of the company's stakeholders before a quick profit. Why should...Read More


I Am Because We Are

Filed by Bil Browning | December 15, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

Have you heard about I Am Because We Are, a powerful new work of photojournalism documenting the AIDS pandemic in southern Africa? This new collection by award-winning photographer Kristen Ashburn, a companion piece to Madonna's documentary film by the same...Read More


One in Seven -- A Scary New Year's Prediction

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 13, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

Merry Christmas from our government, everybody. The other day, in an interview with MSNBC's Rachel Maddow, Harvard economics expert Elizabeth Warren dropped a little holiday bomb. Warren is chairman of the Congressional panel set up to oversee TARP, the spending...Read More


Decorating for Christmas

Filed by Bil Browning | December 13, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

We'll will be decorating the house for Christmas today. We'll put up the tree, start our yearly display of cards we receive, and put out our Simpsons Christmas village. (Seriously - we have the whole damn town!) We're going to...Read More


Men and Greed

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 12, 2008 | 8:00 PM | comments

Last night Bernard Madoff was arrested for running what was basically, the mother of all scams in the investment industry. The other day, Governor Rod R. Blagojevich was caught trying to line his pockets by offering his pick to replace...Read More


"Muxe" is a zapotec word pronounced Moo-shay

Filed by Father Tony | December 12, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

I hope I was the only one who missed this article in the New York Times last week. Fourteen amazing photos and some equally amazing comments from the parents of the muxes who simply believe that God sent these children...Read More


Queer music Friday - Ray Boltz collaborates with Soulforce

Filed by Paige Schilt | December 12, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

My friend Jamie calls Ray Boltz, "the Thank You guy." "Whenever an offering plate is passed, they play that song," says Jamie, who grew up Southern Baptist. The song in question is "Thank You," a contemporary Christian paean to a...Read More


Coping with Holiday Stress

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 12, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Managing Expectations Holidays are an issue of supply and demand and I'm not talking about shopping on black Friday. There's only one of you. Therefore, in order to manage the stress of the holidays you are responsible for managing the...Read More


My letter to President-Elect Obama

Filed by Pam Spaulding | December 11, 2008 | 7:30 PM | comments

Before the election, The Advocate asked me to write a letter to the Dem and GOP nominees for president. The magazine planned to feature missives from various well-known voices in the LGBT community; it was an interesting idea, since we...Read More


Basic fundamentalist theology fail

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 11, 2008 | 4:30 PM | comments

Still-president Bush is letting it all hang out these last few months. MCFADDEN: Is it literally true, the Bible? BUSH: You know. Probably not ... No, I'm not a literalist, but I think you can learn a lot from it,...Read More


Grayson Perry -- Polymorphous Political Potter

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 11, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

While the activists do their thing, the creative people continue to do theirs. Filmmakers make films, authors write books, painters paint...and British transvestite potter Grayson Perry makes pots. But these are not your typical high-art pots that make an elegant...Read More


Reminding me why I hate Christmas

Filed by Father Tony | December 11, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Dear Father Tony, Do you think it is possible to forgive and forget? Betrayed Dear Betrayed, You ask a timeless question. I am reminded of a story about Raphael Cardinal Merry del Val (gay) who was a Vatican power-queen...Read More


Building Relationships before Rights

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 11, 2008 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editors' note: Rev. Rick Elliott has been a minister since June 1973 and has frequently handled the overflow of weddings from a university chapel. He's a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, has received...Read More


Iowa marriage argument - good try

Filed by Nan Hunter | December 10, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Lambda Legal did their usually excellent job of lawyering with the challenge to the Iowa marriage law that was argued this morning before the Iowa Supreme Court. (Kudos to lead counsel Camilla Taylor!) But the court did not seem particularly...Read More


Cultivating Respect: New Project Brings PFLAG Parents Into Schools

Filed by Steve Ralls | December 10, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

PFLAG launched a comprehensive, community-based safe schools program earlier today to address a growing epidemic of anti-lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) animus in the nation's schools. The program, entitled Cultivating Respect, includes training seminars for local parents and allies,...Read More


I Am An American

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 09, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

I have spent much of my life as a victim. As a lesbian, as a woman, I have been a victim of hate, of violence, of job discrimination. I'm done. I don't want to be the other. I don't want...Read More


Salvation Army employee will be dismissed if he marries a woman

Filed by Bil Browning | December 09, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Oh, the shoe is on the other foot now. I wonder where Captain Harsh stands on same sex marriage? Capt. Johnny Harsh of Oshkosh, Wis., says he's been receiving letters and e-mails from people angered over the Salvation Army's decision...Read More


New International Guidelines Recommend Hormone Blockers For Transgender Youth

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | December 09, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

A new report from the Endocrine Society issued this week recommends hormone blockers for children and teens diagnosed with gender identity disorder. Hormone blockers would essentially delay puberty and give children and their parents time to decide the best course...Read More


New International Guidelines Recommend Hormone Blockers For Transgender Youth

Filed by Serena Freewomyn | December 09, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

A new report from the Endocrine Society issued this week recommends hormone blockers for children and teens diagnosed with gender identity disorder. Hormone blockers would essentially delay puberty and give children and their parents time to decide the best course...Read More


Sorority Boys: Trans Guide for Fraternities and Sororities

Filed by Simon Aronoff | December 08, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

On December 3rd, Campus Pride and the Lambda 10 Project announced the release of a resource guide to raise awareness of transgender students and the issues they face within the Greek system of campus life. The goal of the new...Read More


The cost of moving beyond ex-gay movement

Filed by Nina Smith | December 07, 2008 | 6:30 PM | comments

Ex-gay survivor and queer quirky Quaker, Peterson Toscano is a theatrical performance activist. His one-person show about how he tried to de-gay himself for a number of years is now available on DVD. As some of you might know, therapy...Read More


Chick with a... At Hillcrest High School

Filed by Eric Marcus | December 07, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

For the past few years I've volunteered with Live Out Loud, a New York City-based organization that does the kind of grass roots work that brings about change at the most local level. Live Out Loud "connects LGBT youth to...Read More


Chick with a... At Hillcrest High School

Filed by Eric Marcus | December 07, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

For the past few years I've volunteered with Live Out Loud, a New York City-based organization that does the kind of grass roots work that brings about change at the most local level. Live Out Loud "connects LGBT youth to...Read More


Straight questionnaire passed around in Wisconsin high school

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 06, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

WND is going nuts over this heterosexuality questionnaire being handed out in a high school in Wisconsin: What do you think caused your heterosexuality? When and how did you decide you were a heterosexual? Is it possible that your heterosexuality...Read More


Message to the religious right - this isn't just about marriage, it's about history

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 06, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Alvin McEwen is a blogger who tracks and catalogs religious right distortions about the gay community via two blogs (Holy Bullies and Headless Monsters and Anti-Gay Lies and Liars). He is also a board member of the South...Read More


BU Law's LGBT Group Celebrates 30 Years of Service to Students and Society

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 05, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Dana Rudolph is the founder and publisher of Mombian, a blog and resource directory for LGBT parents. This post is originally published in Bay Windows, New England's largest LGBT newspaper. OutLaw, the LGBT student group at Boston University...Read More


What time will you be here?

Filed by Bil Browning | December 05, 2008 | 11:00 AM | comments

When you come to Bilerico Project, what time do you stop by? And what are you doing when you visit? (Working, relaxing, at the library, iPhone, etc) Take our poll to tell us when you stop by. Use the comments...Read More


Marriage initiatives and mental health

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 04, 2008 | 4:00 PM | comments

If you're wondering just where those gays who are out there protesting were before the election, this study on marriage initiatives might help explain why: The researchers sorted participants into two groups -- those living in a state with an...Read More


The Gender Gulag: Voices of the Asylum

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 04, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Kelley Winters, Ph.D. is a writer on issues of transgender medical policy, founder of GID Reform Advocates and an Advisory Board Member for the Matthew Shepard Foundation and TransYouth Family Advocates. She has presented papers on the psychiatric...Read More


Tour along the Mississippi

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 04, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

After a three-week whirlwind road trip along the Mississippi with Alberto, who came all the way from France to visit real America (he'd previously only been to fake parts of the country, like California and NYC), I'm back on the...Read More


His teeth are in the way of world peace.

Filed by Father Tony | December 04, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

Dear Father Tony, The last guy I dated was six months ago. He broke it off with me but I thought everything was going along perfect. Finally he took my call and told me the reason. Sex. He said...Read More


"Ex-Gay" Raises Money to Target LGBT Youth

Filed by Michael Crawford | December 03, 2008 | 6:00 PM | comments

File this under "Oh, no she didn't!" One time "militant homosexual" and current "ex-gay" demagouge Charlene Cothran has announced a new ministry aimed at ex-gaying LGBT youth. I am also thankful to introduce The EVIDENCE Ministry, Inc. God has been...Read More


Nonviolent Conflict Resolution Workshops Come to South Florida

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 03, 2008 | 2:00 PM | comments

The City of Fort Lauderdale Police Department and the Martin Luther King Jr. Institute for Nonviolence are joining forces to bring the South Florida community Nonviolent Conflict Resolution workshops at the GLCC. From the press release: The City of Fort...Read More


Why So Many of Us Love That Holiday Tree

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 03, 2008 | 12:00 PM | comments

I just got the first Christmas card of the season, from my good friends Wynn and Rick Wagner. Wynn is bishop of the Diocese of Texas in the North American Old Catholic Church. Saint Mychal Judge is their church in...Read More


Indiana's marriage amendment to make a comeback?

Filed by Bil Browning | December 03, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

Could Indiana's constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage and civil unions make a comeback after all? While I wrote yesterday that the marriage amendment's chances were slim according to the Indianapolis Star, WIBC radio has a different story to report....Read More


Vatican Cheers on Anti-LGBT Discrimination

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 02, 2008 | 5:00 PM | comments

Someone better head to confessional. The Times Online is reporting that the Vatican has come out strongly against a United Nations declaration formally condemning anti-LGBT discrimination, saying that the declaration would lead to the decriminalization of same-sex unions. The nonbinding...Read More


NYC World AIDS Day Event: So Nice to See all 100 of You!

Filed by Eric Leven | December 02, 2008 | 3:30 PM | comments

if that... The NYC World AIDS Day Event entitled "Out of the Darkness" included a meet-up at GMHC and a candle light vigil march down to a church in Greenwich Village where speakers, activists and performers were all part of...Read More


We're still living with AIDS

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 02, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Kenyon Farrow is an organizer, communications strategist and writer working on issues at the intersection of HIV/AIDS, prisons and homophobia. A current Policy Institute fellow with the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Farrow is working on a...Read More


We're still living with AIDS

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 02, 2008 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Kenyon Farrow is an organizer, communications strategist and writer working on issues at the intersection of HIV/AIDS, prisons and homophobia. A current Policy Institute fellow with the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, Farrow is working on a...Read More


It's the Most Wonderful Time...

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 02, 2008 | 10:00 AM | comments

It's that time of year. The holiday season where people get trampled for cheap goods on Black Friday. I'm trying to be as chipper as possible- I got to go to Costa Rica last year and I promised I would...Read More


President-Elect Obama Commemorates World AIDS Day

Filed by Michael Crawford | December 01, 2008 | 8:30 PM | comments

President-elect Obama released a video message and statement today to mark the 20th anniversary of World AIDS Day. While acknowledging that we have made progress, he also points out that we still have a long way to go to defeat...Read More


Do Not Doubt the Dangerousness of the 12-inch Politician

Filed by Eric Leven | December 01, 2008 | 7:30 PM | comments

One of my favorite pieces of writing from the 1980's AIDS crisis is entitled "Do Not Doubt the Dangerousness of the 12-inch Politician" and can be found in David Wojnarowicz's book Close to the Knives: A Memoir of Disintegration. Writer,...Read More


Your Tax Dollars at Work

Filed by Waymon Hudson | December 01, 2008 | 5:30 PM | comments

It's very clear that the economy is in the toilet. The national crisis is trickling down (is that what they meant by "trickle-down economics"??) to the states- with education, healthcare, first responders and hundreds of other programs being slashed to...Read More


Congressman Andre Carson on World AIDS Day 2008

Filed by Bil Browning | December 01, 2008 | 4:45 PM | comments

Congressman Andre Carson (D) released this statement today on World AIDS Day 2008: "Every year World AIDS Day provides the global community with an excellent opportunity to re-affirm its commitment to promoting and supporting international initiatives that successfully treat and...Read More


Congressman Andre Carson on World AIDS Day 2008

Filed by Bil Browning | December 01, 2008 | 4:45 PM | comments

Congressman Andre Carson (D) released this statement today on World AIDS Day 2008: "Every year World AIDS Day provides the global community with an excellent opportunity to re-affirm its commitment to promoting and supporting international initiatives that successfully treat and...Read More


10 World AIDS Day 2008 videos from around the globe

Filed by Bil Browning | December 01, 2008 | 3:00 PM | comments

Today is World AIDS Day 2008. As I was looking around yesterday for today's You Gotta See This video, I noticed how many great videos had been produced from all around the globe. I picked American Idol finalist Nadia Turner's...Read More


This Era of Black Women and HIV/AIDS

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | December 01, 2008 | 1:30 PM | comments

December 1 is World AIDS Day and Black women are dying of AIDS. And is anyone doing anything about it? Right here in the nation's capitol, the HIV/AIDS epidemic rivals that of many Third World countries. Washington DC, affectionately dubbed...Read More


AIDS Quilt on display in Indianapolis for World AIDS Day

Filed by Bil Browning | December 01, 2008 | 7:30 AM | comments

Rev Walter Sherman of Indianapolis writes in: St. Alban's will have hanging this week (beginning Sunday, November 30 through the following Sunday, December 7) a panel of the AIDS Memorial Quilt, in observance of Worlds AIDS Day, December 1. The...Read More