Living: May 2009

Non-travelogue: Istanbul, Turkey

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 31, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Back in February, I took a week off this site and went on down to Istanbul with Alberto. Well, I had to tell Bil where I was going, and he mentioned the Four Lads song, famously covered by They Might...Read More


MN Gov. Tim Pawlenty Vetoes Safe Schools Bill

Filed by Dustin Kight | May 31, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Nearly one week ago, Minnesota Governor (and rising GOP star/presidential hopeful) Tim Pawlenty vetoed the "Safe Schools for All" bill, a long overdue update to the state's anti-bullying and harassment laws governing schools. Anyone familiar with Pawlenty's politics might shrug...Read More


MN Gov. Tim Pawlenty Vetoes Safe Schools Bill

Filed by Dustin Kight | May 31, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Nearly one week ago, Minnesota Governor (and rising GOP star/presidential hopeful) Tim Pawlenty vetoed the "Safe Schools for All" bill, a long overdue update to the state's anti-bullying and harassment laws governing schools. Anyone familiar with Pawlenty's politics might shrug...Read More


I Don't Care What You Do in the Privacy of Your Own Home...

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 31, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I'm just sick of them rubbing it my face. I don't "hate" them, I just don't want to see it. They can do it in the privacy of their own home, but stop forcing it down my throat. Familiar arguments...Read More


Shirtless Levi Johnston: Oh baby!

Filed by Bil Browning | May 31, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Okay, we all know Levi Johnston isn't the most sophisticated, but that doesn't mean we can't appreciate his half-naked deliciousness parenting abilities. Plus, it just begs for a "Caption This" post, doesn't it? What've you got Projectors?...Read More


Rory: Then and Now

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 30, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Projector Rory Gould sent in this Then & Now. If you'd like to participate too, send in your before and after photos and lists. THEN: (1986) I was a dyke. It was very much a part of my...Read More


Being Falsely Accused of being a Pederast

Filed by Robert Ganshorn | May 30, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

As many of you may know I am an alumnus contributor to the Bilerico Project. Little did I imagine that this activity would be used in the manner it was here in Thailand. Firstly, I serve on the condo committee...Read More


Keep Parenting Queer

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 29, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

A while back, I attended a workshop for LGBT families. At lunch, the organizers asked parents to break into small groups and talk about "things that sustain us." My group was chewing its sandwiches in awkward silence, so I decided...Read More


Bar Harbor's Day of Decision protest photos

Filed by Bil Browning | May 29, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Thanks to Projector Andrew C for sending in these pictures from Bar Harbor, Maine's Day of Decision protest this week. Only a dozen people participated, but they look like they had a great time; I wish I could have been...Read More


Finding LGBT Friendly Legal Counsel

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 29, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

It can be a challenge for LGBT Virginians to find "gay friendly" legal counsel to handle their legal matters from a sympathetic and respectful perspective. Since my firm has been marketing to the LGBT community for a number of years...Read More


Happy Birthday Alex!

Filed by Bil Browning | May 28, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

A quick break in our regular programming... HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALEX!! *takes off chasing Alex with a switch*...Read More


Kalamazoo/Lansing Day of Decision protest photos

Filed by Bil Browning | May 28, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Projector Adam T sent in these photos of the Day of Decision protests in Kalamazoo and Lansing, Michigan. Don't miss our other photos of Indianapolis, Indiana's rally and the protest in Dallas, Texas. It's great to see all these pics...Read More


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You've Got (Hate) Mail

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 28, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Like any good online geek, I stumbled out of bed this morning and went straight for the computer to check my email, Twitter, and Facebook. Green tea in hand, I opened my computer and started scrolling through the tons of...Read More


The Slut Who Won't Shut Up

Filed by Father Tony | May 28, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Father T, Our friend "The Slut" has an annoying habit that we don't like. At. All. He reads you so we hope he will see the mirror when he reads this. We are a group of gay men...Read More


Trans Youth and Color Lines

Filed by Simon Aronoff | May 27, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

A long time ago (the 1990s), in a galaxy far, far away (Northampton, MA), I was a young trans person. This week is "National LGBTQ Awareness Week," and it's got me thinking back to the days when I qualified as...Read More


Oh, Indianapolis media...

Filed by Bil Browning | May 27, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

I went to the Channel 6 (ABC) website last night hoping to see the video they shot at yesterday's protest. So far there's nothing on the site - even today. But it's nice to see they've got the important breaking...Read More


Hello South Florida, this is your wake-up call.

Filed by Father Tony | May 27, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

There were protest rallies all over the country, and yet, in one of the gayest communities in the known world, Fort Lauderdale/Wilton Manors, silence. To be sure I wasn't missing something that was indeed scheduled, I contacted the editor of...Read More


Cold Comfort Farm

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 27, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

A tip of the hat for Supreme Court nominee Sonia Sotomayor, but after the Prop 8 ruling the fact that 18k couples can "stay" married is cold comfort....Read More


California's Prop 8: Limited Edition Married Gays, Still Separate and NOT EQUAL

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 26, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

My head is spinning. After the long wait, the decision on Prop 8 has come. It was something my husband and I were watching very closely, since we are 1 of the 18,000 couples married in California while it was...Read More


Indianapolis Day of Decision protest

Filed by Bil Browning | May 26, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Slideshow after the jump. Bilerico-Indiana contributor Zac Hart (pictured: top) has a running photostream of the Indianapolis Day of Decision rally on that site....Read More


Prop 8: Edge of My Seat

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 26, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Anyone else on the edge of their seat? In a half hour, a decision from the Supreme Court of California will be announced. Will there be violence, regardless of the ruling? How will this change the tenor of the Supreme...Read More


Sins of the Father

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 25, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Thirteen years. Nearly half of the 30 years I have been on this earth. That's how long it has been since I've spoken to my father. 13 years of silence, of therapy, of anger, of making peace, of hate, of...Read More


What about a 50 state march?

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 25, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Last week we discussed the possibility and calls for a march on Washington this October. A few people brought up the possibility of a march on the 50 state capitals instead, so I thought we'd continue the conversation here on...Read More


Call to Action to Urge Trans-Affirming Position Statements by the APA

Filed by Kelley Winters | May 25, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

On May 18, I presented a paper to the Annual Meeting of the American Psychiatric Association on the diagnostic categories of Gender Identity Disorder (GID) and Transvestic Fetishism (TF) in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Coauthored...Read More


Memorial Day open thread

Filed by Bil Browning | May 25, 2009 | 8:30 AM | comments

Ah, the joy of a three day weekend. Posting will be light today as we enjoy the holiday. Consider this your Memorial Day open thread. Random, self promotional, actual news, whatever - the floor is yours....Read More


Alberta Tops Itself (and North America) Again With Bill 44

Filed by Mercedes Allen | May 24, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

On the heels of delisting Health Care funding for Gender Reassignment Surgery without consultation with the medical community, the Government has taken further ridiculous steps to alienate the closeted moderates in the Province. A small concession is being made in...Read More


Alberta Tops Itself (and North America) Again With Bill 44

Filed by Mercedes Allen | May 24, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

On the heels of delisting Health Care funding for Gender Reassignment Surgery without consultation with the medical community, the Government has taken further ridiculous steps to alienate the closeted moderates in the Province. A small concession is being made in...Read More


The Master's Tools, Pt. 2

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 24, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

(Read part 1.) For the master's tools will never dismantle the master's house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change. ~ Audre Lourde The...Read More


The Dangers of Fundamentalism -- John Dominic Crossan

Filed by Donna Pandori | May 24, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Many of the points John Dominic Crossan makes in this video hits home when we think about how "fundamentalist" Christians demonize the LGBT community. The video speaks for itself:...Read More


California: Families, No Matter What the Court Rules

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 24, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

It's quiet today, minus the cats howling at my ankles looking for food. The sun is out, and we have many projects around the house lined up. Zachary is off at a sleep over, Ben just rolled out of bed,...Read More


Dyssonance: Then and Now

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 24, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Projector Toni D'orsay sent in this Then & Now. She is an advocate and activist for the trans community based in Arizona. If you'd like to participate too, send in your before and after photos and lists. THEN:...Read More


White House Garden Connection #1

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | May 23, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Gardeners are applauding Michelle Obama's launch of an organic vegetable plot for the First Family and White House kitchen. Hopefully it will inspire many Americans to create some healthy, home-grown, inexpensive food for themselves. But you don't need a half...Read More


Hook 'Em

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 23, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Despite threats of secession from Texas Governor Rick Perry, the Lone Star State was still connected to the mainland when I visited San Antonio to speak to the Equality Texas folks. I called down the ghosts of Ann Richards and...Read More


Sex: Part III

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 23, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

When it comes to desire, the partner who is least interested in sex is the one who holds the most power in the couple's sex life. If you are a low-desire partner, this may come as a shock to you,...Read More


Trey Malicoat: Then & Now

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 23, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Projector Trey Malicoat sent in this Then & Now. If you'd like to participate too, send in your before and after photos and lists. THEN: I was a quirky kid who drove a 1973 orange WV Thing. I...Read More


This will make the long weekend even longer

Filed by Father Tony | May 22, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

On Tuesday, May 26th, the California Supreme Court will rule on the constitutionality of Prop 8. 10AM Pacific time. In case you have forgotten why the court is involved in a review of what had been passed by voters' initiative,...Read More


Angry parents file frivolous lawsuit with activist judges to silence a Christian pastor and indoctrinate our children

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 22, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

OK, that title's long enough. But I think I hit at least half of the right-wing talking points this idiotic case violates: The Castro Valley School District is facing a lawsuit by dozens of parents who want more information about...Read More


A Trans Person's Photo in the Hall

Filed by Tobi Hill-Meyer | May 22, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

I've heard of administrators or parents complaining when a trans speaker talks to a class, when a teacher comes out as trans, or even when a student does - but I never expected that the mere presence of a photograph...Read More


Wine or Win? Seeking Quality Part 4

Filed by Bo Shuff | May 22, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I want to go back to the fundraiser that sparked this conversation with Ohio Democratic Party Chairman Chris Redfern. The event itself is not the issue. I commend Equality Ohio Campaign Fund for actually doing something. To have a high...Read More


Austin goes full time

Filed by Bil Browning | May 22, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Congratulations to Bilerico-Indiana's Austin Crowder! Austin announced this morning that she is living full-time as a woman now. She was worried about her employment situation, but even in Indianapolis her new employer accepted her transition without batting an eye. I...Read More


From boy to girl in one week or less

Filed by Austen Crowder | May 22, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

I didn't really have much time to consider the consequences or the potential pitfalls; sometimes, when an opportunity presents itself, you just have to follow your gut. It is with this thought in mind that I want to announce that...Read More


A Virtual GLBT Community Center?

Filed by Father Tony | May 22, 2009 | 9:00 AM | comments

"The numbers of people we reach are very limited. We gotta do better," said Ed Straub who is with Switchboard of Miami's GLBTQ Helpline and Suicide Awareness Program in a momentary aside during his imaginative slide show entitled Developing...Read More


Should we ditch the queeny lingo?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 21, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

Village Voice columnist and hilarious cable news pundit Michael Musto asked an interesting question on his blog earlier this week about stereotypical gay slang. Certain pre-Stonewall-ish lingo is still thrown around by old queens like bottles of Poppers, and it...Read More


Wearing Rainbows: Simple Acts to Show Your Faith Inclusion

Filed by Dustin Kight | May 21, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Last week the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force's Institute for Welcoming Resources, Family Equality Council and COLAGE launched a multimedia, LGBT family-inclusive faith curriculum called All in God's Family: Creating Allies for Our LGBT Families. (Click here to read...Read More


Wearing Rainbows: Simple Acts to Show Your Faith Inclusion

Filed by Dustin Kight | May 21, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Last week the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force's Institute for Welcoming Resources, Family Equality Council and COLAGE launched a multimedia, LGBT family-inclusive faith curriculum called All in God's Family: Creating Allies for Our LGBT Families. (Click here to read...Read More


Evansville Pride picnic coming up soon

Filed by Bil Browning | May 21, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

Just in from Wally Paynter: The 29th Annual Tri-State Alliance Pride Picnic will be held June 7 from 12 noon - 6pm at Evansville Burdette Park. (Directions here) This is the largest and longest continuing LGBT event in our region....Read More


Love Thy Neighbor

Filed by Chip Clapp | May 21, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Honestly, how much hate can the Westboro Baptist Church spew before they realize that nobody takes them seriously anymore? They went from anger-inspiring to downright ridiculous and now they're attacking anyone they can just to try to get more attention....Read More


A Conversation with the Chair: Seeking Quality Part 3

Filed by Bo Shuff | May 21, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

This is an ongoing series that began at Bears Left. This is part three and was originally published on May 18th. Further posts will be simultaneous. Today I sat down with Chris Redfern, Chairman of the Ohio Democratic Party to...Read More


When A Challenged Man Wants Casual Sex

Filed by Father Tony | May 21, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Father Tony, I am a very lonely and sex-starved 23-year-old gay man with mild Tourette Syndrome characterized by motor and facial tics. I repeat, mild tics. I am well aware of the fact that I am different and...Read More


Rodger and Out

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 21, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

Celebrate Memorial Day with your baseball hats and plastic cups full of adult beverages, but I'll be remembering my good friend Rodger McFarlane who passed away this week....Read More


Owning The Present

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 20, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

You know, a day of chores, busy work and hunting stalker barbies has been great for me. My friend last night was right- out of the weeds! Breathe! As I walked down the beach today, I kept thinking... I have...Read More


Needle exchange isn't a priority and probably won't happen

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 20, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

A few weeks ago I posted about how the White House website was de-gayed. The site offered a lot of policy proposals right when Obama was sworn in, but many were removed several months later as, I suppose, the Obama...Read More


Goodbye, Octavia St. Laurent

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 20, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

The first time I saw Octavia St. Laurent , I was at the River Oaks Theater back home watching the 1990 blockbuster documentary Paris Is Burning. I was starting my own transition at the time and the movie was on...Read More


Have an Impact: Seeking Quality in Equality 2

Filed by Bo Shuff | May 20, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

This is an ongoing series that began at Bears Left. This is part two and was originally published on May 11th. Part 3 will appear here on Thursday. The organizations that speak for us have the highest of responsibility. Even...Read More


Stonewall at 40

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | May 20, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

As an event and as a symbol, the Stonewall Riots of June 27-29 1969 continues to shape our lives. Forty years later, a gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender generation that was not even born in 1969 looks back fondly...Read More


Jillian T. Weiss -- Then and Now

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | May 19, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

In this picture, it was 1979 and I was 17 years old, wearing a suit and tie, and standing next to a grand piano with several harp-shaped trophies. By that age, I had won or placed in the state-wide...Read More


More Quality in our Equality...

Filed by Bo Shuff | May 19, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

This is an ongoing series that began at Bears Left. This is part one and was originally published on April 15th. Part 2, published there on May 11th will follow tomorrow, with Part 3 on Thursday. The only way that...Read More


Warm, warm, and warm

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 19, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Ok, enough. Enough with the cold, enough with the bad coffee, enough with the compost toilet. Enough with the silence. I left downeast and came to Ogunquit. I've never been so happy to see traffic....Read More


"Yasmin Nair: Eat This!" Or: How to Leave Comments Without Going up In Flames

Filed by Yasmin Nair | May 19, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I recently began my stint as a regular contributor on queercents.com. The blog, devoted to queers and money, has a tagline that reads: "We're here, we're queer, and we're not going shopping without coupons." My first post was about the...Read More


Pillar of Strength

Filed by Michele O'Mara | May 19, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

I've been seeing a lady for about two months now and all has been well. However this is the first relationship where i find myself being the man emotionally, and its left me feeling very guarded and unhappy with...Read More


Rodger McFarlane

Filed by Father Tony | May 19, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

Statement by Friends & Family of Rodger McFarlane on his Death It is with deep sadness that we announce the death of our friend, colleague, and hero, Rodger McFarlane. A pioneer and legend in the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender...Read More


Statement by Friends & Family of Rodger McFarlane on his Death

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 18, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: The following statement was released by Bruce Brothers, Patricia Evert, Tim Gill, Howard Grossman, M.D., Patrick Guerriero, Larry Kramer, Ilana Lobet, Caz Matthews, John McFarlane, Lulu McFarlane Crawford, Brad Miskell, Dean Prina, M.D., Susan Richardson, Tim Sweeney, Ted...Read More


Still Work To Do

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 18, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Life here on the Point is very different. There is no drip coffeemaker, with a timer, to have a lovely cup ready the first moment I open my eyes. Instead, a peculator pot sits on the stove and cooks some...Read More


Change Policy, Change Behavior

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 18, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

As a parent, I’m familiar with the powerful effect that even the threat of a “change in policy” can have on behavior. It can bring troublesome, annoying, or even hazardous behavior to an abrupt end. That change in behavior suggests...Read More


Scuba diving

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 18, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

It's pouring rain this morning. The water is fairly still and if I weren't such a baby, I'd be out there fishing. Perfect time to catch fish. A friend sent me a note yesterday talking about the depths in which...Read More


Wilton Manors Annual Gay Pride Festival in Financial Crisis

Filed by Father Tony | May 18, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

On Saturday, May 16th, I attended a meeting of 35 business owners who gathered at Georgie's Alibi to discuss a financial crisis that, if not resolved, might mean the cancellation of Wilton Manors' annual Gay Pride event, Stonewall Street Festival,...Read More


Michael Steele, I'm unimpressed

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 17, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Michael Steele thinks he's going to blow us away with a new argument against same-sex marriage that pretty much amounts to "Equal pay for equal work is too expensive, so we have to preserve a two-tier system of benefits distribution."...Read More


Full speech: Obama addresses Notre Dame graduation

Filed by Bil Browning | May 17, 2009 | 3:36 PM | comments

President Obama used his commencement address at the University of Notre Dame to stress the importance of diversity and dialogue. The speech seemed a direct challenge to those rightwing nutjobs who've been protesting his honorary degree since Obama supports a...Read More


Non-travelogue: Cork and Killarney, Ireland

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 17, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

I'm finally buckling under the pressure to write about the vacations I take. We'll try it this time and see how it goes. I've hesitated to write about this because I don't think it's all that interesting and feels like...Read More


Meanwhile in Moscow

Filed by Father Tony | May 17, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

While states topple like dominos in favor of gay marriage and polls show a waxing of public acceptance of gay rights, in other lands, demonstrators get carted away in paddy wagons, just like the Stonewall rioters of forty years ago....Read More


Mindful Living

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 17, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

It is hard to let go. To be totally present in the moment, not look forward, not look back, just be. Buddhists call it mindful living. Being aware of the present, all of the present. For me it's like listening...Read More


PFLAG Pride

Filed by Annette Gross | May 17, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

On Saturday, June 13th, Indianapolis will once again celebrate the 2009 InPride Parade and Festival. The Parade begins at 10:00 a.m. on Massachusetts Avenue near College, and the Festival follows the Parade. This will be the 5th year that I...Read More


PFLAG Pride

Filed by Annette Gross | May 17, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

On Saturday, June 13th, Indianapolis will once again celebrate the 2009 InPride Parade and Festival. The Parade begins at 10:00 a.m. on Massachusetts Avenue near College, and the Festival follows the Parade. This will be the 5th year that I...Read More


Signs of Progress

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 16, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

This is an older piece I published at Mombian a while back. I thought it bore reposting here, however, in light of Alex's post about NOM and their fear that children will be "confused" by LGBT parents. There's always a...Read More


Monica Helms: Then & Now

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 16, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

THEN: I liked girls and women, but also liked what they wore. I loved science and science fiction. I launched model rockets and even started a model rocket club. I was very mechanically inclined and loved building things with...Read More


Bil: Then & Now

Filed by Bil Browning | May 15, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

THEN: I was a high school senior in Winchester, Indiana. I had already come out to my parents, teachers and classmates. My favorite class was journalism; I was the editor for the yearbook and features editor for the school...Read More


Family Matters

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 15, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jeff Buppert's work has appeared in Frontiers, Drummer and The Family Business Report, as well as BuzzFlash and on stage at the Powerhouse Theater in Santa Monica; his story on gay adoption will appear in the...Read More


Fifty Bucks and a Card Game

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 14, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

A friend of mine, who I'll call John, phoned the other day. He was on the way to the nursing home to say goodbye to his father, long ill, and finally succumbing to age. He was heartbroken but ready- he...Read More


What if gay marriage were legal?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 14, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

An interesting question to pose to Projectors today... What would America be like if gay marriage were legal? The right wing likes to say everything!! would change, but what do you think would really change?...Read More


Before you go over the Falls

Filed by Father Tony | May 14, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Projectors, This week, I thought I'd invite a lawyer into my Confessional for some advice and guidance that will be useful for any gay couple considering marriage. Peter Zupcofska, a Massachusetts licensed family law lawyer with Burns & Levinson...Read More


Florida recognizes second-parent adoption from elsewhere

Filed by Father Tony | May 14, 2009 | 9:00 AM | comments

Nancy Polikoff tells us about a surprising Florida Court ruling: There's little I hate more in our community than a lesbian mom who creates a two-mother family and later decides to pretend there was only one mother. Well today Florida,...Read More


Marriage Wows

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 14, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

New York's marriage bill advances, Wanda Sykes does the Correspondents' Dinner, Dick Cheney has been found and my bank passed a stress test! What a week!...Read More


Your Healthcare Stories Are Needed

Filed by Jeremy Bishop | May 13, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

The AFL-CIO is doing a health care survey to help determine priorities as they move forward, working with the administration to push through health care reform. Last year, there was a good response from the LGBT community telling the stories...Read More


A lesson in "spoonfuls of sugar"

Filed by Austen Crowder | May 13, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

I always keep my eye out for positive stories of transition. While this may not be the most, say, "realistic" portrayal of that terrible coming-out moment, I do want to post it here for one simple reason. Sometimes, when trying...Read More


Telling the Story... Finally

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 13, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Yesterday, as Beanie and I walked down to the pump with our wagon and container for water (our well is very shallow and not drinkable), we passed a man in a truck. He was working on one of the cottages,...Read More


Texting Boston trolley driver is transman

Filed by Bil Browning | May 13, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

The texting trolley driver that caused an accident in Boston is transgender. Forty six people were injured in the crash. He was texting his girlfriend at the time of the collision. ...Aidan Quinn, is a female-to-male transsexual, according to a...Read More


I'm Here

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 13, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

I'm here. Finally. I thought I was coming into major fog season but in fact, the sun is out, the sky almost clear, and it feels like it might get to a rockin' 60 degrees today. I won't mention how...Read More


An 82 year old monk comes out of the closet and we....

Filed by Father Tony | May 13, 2009 | 9:00 AM | comments

An 82 year old monk comes out of the closet, and we cry applaud spit yawn. Retired Milwaukee Archbishop and Benedictine monk Rembert Weakland has written his memoirs. I will read his book for only these reasons: to see if...Read More


A Jihad for Love, the struggle of Islamic gays

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 12, 2009 | 12:15 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Guest blogger Charles L. Ross is a Fort Lauderdale resident and the Editor and Art Director of the Stonewall Library's publication, Archeion. This is his review of A Jihad for Love. You will find information about the upcoming...Read More


Miss California Blames Satan

Filed by Michael Crawford | May 12, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

UPDATE: Donald Trump held a news conference today and announced that Carrie Prejean will retain her title as Miss California despite the controversy raging around her anti-gay activism and topless photos. Trump said "She gave an honest answer and for...Read More


Industry proposed health care reform isn't a game-changer

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 11, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

I'm sifting through various opinions on the industry-proposed plan to reduce health care costs by $2 trillion over the next ten years, but I thought I'd put something on this site. First, here's Obama announcing it (transcript): Of course he's...Read More


Overrated/underrated

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 11, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I'm game for this meme Courtney posted over at Feministing, where she listed the four most overrated and the four most underrated things related to feminism. What about when it comes to the queer community and politics? Here are my...Read More


HIV disclosure laws strike again

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 11, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

One of the arguments people who support HIV disclosure laws generally make in their defense of such legislation is to think about the "victim" - the person who consensually had unprotected sex with someone whose serostatus they didn't know, but...Read More


We can all get they-ah from hee-ah

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 10, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Sue Hyde is a Massachusetts resident and longtime staffer at the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force. Some folk say, "You can't get they-ah from hee-ah." But in the great region of New England, we know...Read More


Patricia Nell Warren -- Then and Now

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | May 10, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

THEN April 22, 1970 -- the first Earth Day in history. I was running "unofficially" in the Earth Day Marathon in New York City. The 26.2-mile course was taking us several times around the carriage loop in Central Park. The...Read More


Questioning Queerness: The Movie

Filed by Brett Abrams | May 10, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

The Popular Culture Association/American Culture Association National Conference in New Orleans featured a presentation of Libbie Searcy's documentary Questioning Queerness last month. The English Professor at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University observed that among the predominantly male student body of engineers and...Read More


Helping the Next Generation

Filed by Zac Hart | May 10, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

We can all remember what it was like to be young. For some, it may be harder than others (don't worry I'm not naming names). But for those who grew up around the Indianapolis Area as a "Queer Youth," we...Read More


PHDP : a better HIV Strategy

Filed by Father Tony | May 10, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Has it really taken our world health leaders 25 years of this plague to figure this out? I suppose I shouldn't be cynical, but it does seem obvious to me that if HIV positive people are stigmatized, they do...Read More


Genderqueer Mommy

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 10, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Lately, when I've been blogging about my wife, Katy Koonce, it's been about her role as dynamic front man for the "silicone cock rock" band Butch County. In honor of Mother's Day, I asked her to talk with me about...Read More


Two Days

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 09, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Two days and counting... Yesterday, I unpacked boxes of glasses from my mother's house. They have been in the basement for two years. I finally went through them to get the wine glasses I wanted to take Downeast. They still...Read More


Singing Through the Silence of Crystal Meth Addiction

Filed by Dan O'Neill | May 08, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

In early spring 2002, Jimmy Garza used methamphetamine ("crystal meth" or "meth") for the first time, in a casual situation and out of a "morbid curiosity." He was a 32-year-old, local gay man that had abstained from drug use his...Read More


Cathy Renna: Then and Now

Filed by Cathy Renna | May 08, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

THEN I willingly wore a dress. This changed after age 7. I made funny faces in all photos. My parents grudgingly bought all new toys for me when I rejected my sisters hand me down like Barbies. Although I...Read More


Rice Queens, Potato Queens and Everything in Between Queens: Into the Thicket of Interracial Relationships

Filed by Sean Bugg | May 08, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

A few years ago, before I got married and I was still part of the dating scene, my then-boyfriend took me to an afternoon cookout sponsored by AQUA, D.C.'s gay Asian group. It was pleasant picnic, complete with hotdogs and...Read More


Single-Payer Advocates Arrested at Senate Hearing

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | May 08, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

It was a eerie moment that reminded me of all those Bush-era overreactions to protest. On Tuesday, May 5, during a Senate Finance Committee "round table" on healthcare reform, eight activists stood up one by one to protest the fact...Read More


Strange Day

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 07, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Strange day today... all around. A friend who is always loud and exuberant was quiet and reserved on a phone call. Hmmm. I read a financial update that looked very good, in light of the economy. Hmmmm. I had to...Read More


Dear Ms. McGreevey (Jimmy, that is)

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | May 07, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

I didn't pay that much attention to you when you gave your "I'm a gay American" speech -- I just thought oh no, another closeted politician coming out and wrapping himself in the flag and soon he'll be the next...Read More


Cambridge Welcoming Ministries honors a "Reconciling Saint"

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 07, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

(Originally published in Bay Windows, April 16, 2009. I wrote this as coverage for a local event, but I think it has broad interest, especially in light of a recent ruling by the Judicial Council, the highest court of the...Read More


How to Miss the Bus

Filed by Father Tony | May 07, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Have you ever seen the bus you want to catch depart before you could get to the stop? You run across traffic, wave your hands and shout to the driver, but you are too far away, and your baggage and...Read More


Domestically Partner Registered: Why We're Doing It

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 07, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Born and raised on Long Island in New York, guest blogger John Farina moved to Cleveland in 1991 where he resides with his partner, Adam Tully, and their two cats, Emma and Hex. He is a fundraiser for...Read More


Domestically Partner Registered: Why We're Doing It

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 07, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Born and raised on Long Island in New York, guest blogger John Farina moved to Cleveland in 1991 where he resides with his partner, Adam Tully, and their two cats, Emma and Hex. He is a fundraiser for...Read More


Oh Mama!

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 07, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

Oh, Mother's Day. What's it all about? And more importantly, will Supreme Court Justice David Souter return to New Hampshire to get gay married?...Read More


How Motherhood Earned Me a Free Sex Toy

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 06, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

When I was pregnant with my son, I heard a comedienne talking about the aftereffects of childbirth: "I'm peeing all the time. I'm actually peeing right now," she said. That will never happen to me, I told myself. I was...Read More


How Motherhood Earned Me a Free Sex Toy

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 06, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

When I was pregnant with my son, I heard a comedienne talking about the aftereffects of childbirth: "I'm peeing all the time. I'm actually peeing right now," she said. That will never happen to me, I told myself. I was...Read More


McDonalds settles case with Indianapolis gay men denigrated in Louisville

Filed by Bil Browning | May 06, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Nine months after an employee at a McDonald's restaurant in downtown Louisville called a group of gay customers a series of anti-gay slurs, the American Civil Liberties Union announced today that McDonald's has agreed to a cash settlement and diversity...Read More


Maybe he's got Bette Davis eyes?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 05, 2009 | 7:30 PM | comments

Hahahahahahaha. Gary Welsh, bless his heart, is a true treasure to the Indiana blogosphere. Where else could I get this much entertainment for free? Upstarts Miley Cyrus, Paris Hilton and Britney Spears have nothing on him; his diva performances rank...Read More


Virginian Partisans Endorse Brian Moran for Governor

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 05, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

At the Equality Virginia Commonwealth Coalition Dinner on April 4, 2009, the boyfriend and I had the opportunity to meet and have a substantial conversation with Brian Moran, one of the Democrat nominee candidates for Governor of Virginia. I was...Read More


The "De-Gaying" of the Whitman-Walker Clinic and More: A Review of the Recent Allegations by Council Member Catania

Filed by Dan O'Neill | May 05, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

I've been writing and re-writing this post for nearly four months while the turmoil surrounding the Whitman-Walker Clinic (WWC) has continued to unfold. The matter recently came to a head on Monday, April 27th, during a public roundtable concerning DC...Read More


Keeping out the swine flu

Filed by Father Tony | May 05, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Some would call this a form of censorship and argue that the gay community should be the last to endorse this sort of government action. Others, including me, feel that it sends a good strong message that intolerance and homophobia...Read More


Celebrating Obama's first 100 days

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 05, 2009 | 7:30 AM | comments

What do Republicans have to do to get elected? Become Democrats....Read More


Here I am: Then and Now

Filed by Nathan Strang | May 04, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

I had a stressed relationship with my hyper-religious mother. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my hair. I was kinda gay. I was dating a grumpy bear, and managed to be happy, if not content....Read More


That old house across the street

Filed by Bil Browning | May 04, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

If you follow me on Twitter, you know I spent most of last Thursday morning and early afternoon watching them demolish the abandoned house across the street. I tweeted the play-by-play and sent pictures too. Here's a small slideshow of...Read More


The Countdown Begins

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 03, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

In eight days, I leave for my two week solo vacation. Well, I am taking the dog so almost solo. I have had a few folks say, you'll never make it. I say, as long as I don't have to...Read More


Miami wants to see you. Now.

Filed by Father Tony | May 03, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

On Thursday April 30, 2009, I stopped by 450 West 31st Street in Manhattan and headed up to the 12th floor for the vacation-dream-inducing Gay and Lesbian Travel Expo sponsored by HX Magazine. (Click the link for the dates when...Read More


Proud Mom

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 01, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Today, my son Ben ran his first track meet. He was.. um.. a little wound up and nervous. But all smiles when he was done. He ran a 2:59 in the 800meters, and to me, he seemed like he was...Read More


Swine flu precautions at Jesus MCC

Filed by Bil Browning | May 01, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Jesus Metropolitan Community Church, Indiana's largest LGBT church, released a statement Wednesday about the recent swine flu epidemic sweeping the nation. Protecting Ourselves From the Flu Given international concerns over swine flu, we want to ensure Jesus MCC is a...Read More


Swine flu precautions at Jesus MCC

Filed by Bil Browning | May 01, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Jesus Metropolitan Community Church, Indiana's largest LGBT church, released a statement Wednesday about the recent swine flu epidemic sweeping the nation. Protecting Ourselves From the Flu Given international concerns over swine flu, we want to ensure Jesus MCC is a...Read More


Six things I wish I knew six months ago

Filed by Austen Crowder | May 01, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

April marked six months of hormones for me. This makes me a fair shake less experienced than many of the trans activists peppering the Bilerico site; where they have had years to cogitate over the issue, I'm dragging everyone along...Read More