Living: December 2009

The defining decade of my youth

Filed by Matt Comer | December 31, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

What Time is calling the "decade from hell," was nothing short a time of growth, self-discovery, exploration and transformation for me. This decade seems as though it has flown by, but entirely contained within that time was my journey from...Read More


Memorable moments of 2009

Filed by Bil Browning | December 31, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

I must say, I did a helluva lot of really cool things in 2009. As I look back, the vast majority of them are all related to the blog somehow so it seemed appropriate to share my list of truly...Read More


GM Unveils The New 2010 Queer

Filed by Father Tony | December 31, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Right. We may not live to see the day when GM will name a car "The Queer", but could it sell any worse than the rest of their products? Meanwhile, I've come up with a list of ten features, qualities...Read More


Youth Gender Identity, Race and Class in the New York Times and In the New Year

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | December 31, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

The New York Times published an interview on Monday with Vidari DeGuzman, a youth worker at the Hetrick-Martin Institute, a service organization for LGBT youth in New York City. Although relatively short, I found the interview revealing about issues of...Read More


Ohio Senate Removes LGBT Protections From Teen Dating-Violence Prevention Law

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 30, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Chris Geidner is a lawyer in Washington, D.C., who blogs at Law Dork, is a regular contributor to Metro Weekly and has written for The Atlantic Online, Advocate.com and elsewhere. You also can follow him on...Read More


Reprinted by request: My First Time

Filed by Bil Browning | December 30, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

Note: I've had several requests over the past few months to re-run this post so newer Projectors can read it and start a fresh comment thread. This post originally ran in February of 2008. I still haven't found Steve to...Read More


Kissing Cousins - As Long as They Are Straight

Filed by Jerame Davis | December 30, 2009 | 1:12 PM | comments

I always knew there was something special about living in Indiana. I never knew it was that we are so backwards that we allow first cousins to marry - but only if they're of opposite sex, of course. We don't...Read More


We All Need 5 Things

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 29, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

My partner and I argue about spending time with each other. She works nights and sleeps during the day. I am starved for time. How can I make her understand? ~ starved Dear Starved, Opposing schedules can be very...Read More


Fly No More

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 29, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

Perhaps we won't come home. I cannot imagine standing in the airport for hours and hours to have my body searched, bags checked- no books? I mean... no books??? Hello? I have two six hour flights ahead of me and...Read More


Neil Patrick Harris: My new goal

Filed by Bil Browning | December 29, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

I can't say why yet, but I'll be in Los Angeles in late March. Hopefully, dreamboat Neil Patrick Harris will be there too since he doesn't stop by Indianapolis often ever. Even though Neil missed my birthday party and didn't...Read More


Paradise?

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 28, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

I am in Hawaii. It is beyond beautiful. I cannot begin to explain, so I will start taking a lot of photos to show. It is my first time and when Jeanine went for work last year, she said, oh,...Read More


Gay Apparel

Filed by Kate Clinton | December 28, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

Did you get your Christmas present from Congress? I got a bag of crap that says a reproductive system is a pre-existing condition! Health care reform, my @$$!...Read More


Why Americans think Hoosiers are a bunch of ignorant Bible beaters

Filed by Bil Browning | December 27, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

Want to know why Americans tend to think of Hoosiers as a bunch of ignorant Bible beaters? Sometimes the depths of religious stupidity that's on display in our fair state is staggering. Take, for example, conservative blogger Steve Dalton's recent...Read More


Why Americans think Hoosiers are a bunch of ignorant Bible beaters

Filed by Bil Browning | December 27, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

Want to know why Americans tend to think of Hoosiers as a bunch of ignorant Bible beaters? Sometimes the depths of religious stupidity that's on display in our fair state is staggering. Take, for example, conservative blogger Steve Dalton's recent...Read More


Robbed by the banks

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 27, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Was there once a time when people robbed banks, instead of banks robbing people? Okay, maybe not, but it sounds like that’s what Chase Bank did to Trina Lee -- a nurse in Arizona who was laid-off two years ago,...Read More


Christmas with the in-laws

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 24, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Guest blogger Arthur didn't send in any information about himself other than he lives in Columbus, Ohio. We wish Arthur a merry Christmas - with his partner and in-laws. This with be the 24th year I have spent...Read More


Christmas with the in-laws

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 24, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Guest blogger Arthur didn't send in any information about himself other than he lives in Columbus, Ohio. We wish Arthur a merry Christmas - with his partner and in-laws. This with be the 24th year I have spent...Read More


Christmas Eve in the Tenderloin

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 24, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jerry Weiss is a writer and semi-retired consultant with the political section of CNN. These are survival costumes, however; he considers himself, now and forever, a gay hippie. It was late on Christmas Eve, 1971, in...Read More


Christmas Eve in the Tenderloin

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 24, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jerry Weiss is a writer and semi-retired consultant with the political section of CNN. These are survival costumes, however; he considers himself, now and forever, a gay hippie. It was late on Christmas Eve, 1971, in...Read More


My Marriage is a Stone

Filed by Father Tony | December 24, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Earlier this week, we marked our twenty-sixth anniversary together and our first anniversary as a married couple. Now that I'm a year into it, I'd like to reflect a bit on marriage, that institution for which so many of you...Read More


Timetables: Trains, Gender, Empathy

Filed by Paige Schilt | December 23, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Last Christmas, we decided to splurge and spend a few nights at a fancy beach resort. From the moment the clerk ushered us into the "VIP check-in room," I knew we were in for an adventure. Our five-year-old, Waylon, plunged...Read More


Peggy Noonan asks some good questions

Filed by Bil Browning | December 23, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

While Peggy Noonan and I don't agree usually, she does ask some interesting questions in a recent Wall Street Journal column. Of course, she goes off the rails when she starts blaming Adam Lambert's AMA performance for Americans' worries about...Read More


Encouraging Charitable Efficiencies More Charitable Than Discouraging Nonprofits

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 23, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Tod Hill is the Vice President of Marketing & Business Development for the Tides Center In a recent article entitled Charities Rise, Costing U.S. Billions in Tax Breaks, Stephanie Strom of the New York Times raises...Read More


8 Tips for LGBT People to Lower Holiday Stress

Filed by D Gregory Smith | December 22, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Feeling stressed and/or depressed lately? You're not alone. The holiday season is reported to be "problematic" for about forty-five percent of the general population, and there may be added concerns for LGBTIQ persons. There is often so much pressure to...Read More


5 Keys to a New Year's Resolution

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 22, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

If we set our sights on the things that are most important to us, even if they are the easiest to attain (and when you really think about it, usually it is the small stuff that is most important) the rest of our experience is just a bonus. If we are sure to focus on what will bring us the greatest joy, everything else is icing on the cake. Read More


The White House, Hanukkah, & the Spirit to Prevail

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 22, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Rabbi Kleinbaum is the spiritual leader of Congregation Beth Simchat Torah, the world's largest synagogue for people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. It was awe-inspiring to be in the Obama White House for its...Read More


The White House, Hanukkah, & the Spirit to Prevail

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 22, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Rabbi Kleinbaum is the spiritual leader of Congregation Beth Simchat Torah, the world's largest synagogue for people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. It was awe-inspiring to be in the Obama White House for its...Read More


Surprise -- Roses at Christmas

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 21, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Some years ago, in my Los Angeles front yard, a surprise happened. Along the stucco wall, a rosebush with yellow flowers had suddenly popped a new cane with a single deep-pink blossom on it. It looked like what the rose...Read More


The year Lance Bass saved Christmas

Filed by Joe Mirabella | December 21, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

When I lived in Iowa, my friends and I invented Gay Christmas. For many of us it was a chance to celebrate with our chosen family since so many of our biological loved ones still struggled with our sexual orientations....Read More


Are you happy now?

Filed by Bil Browning | December 21, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

The Center for Disease Control has released a new study that ranks states on how happy their residents are. Take a moment and think about how content you are with the state of life in Indiana. 45. Illinois 46. California...Read More


The Last Minute Gay Geeks Gift Guide

Filed by Nathan Strang | December 20, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

Geeks will wait till the week before Christmas, then go online and order everything with next or two day shipping (Many online stores offer free last minute express shipping to help squeeze out the last bits of holiday money, take...Read More


Yes, Parker. There is a Santa Claus?

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 19, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

I suspect these are words I will find myself repeating again and again as a parent: this is happening sooner than I expected. The “this” in question, is Santa Claus. I was relieved, after reading Dear Prudence this week,...Read More


Yes, Parker. There is a Santa Claus?

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 19, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

I suspect these are words I will find myself repeating again and again as a parent: this is happening sooner than I expected. The “this” in question, is Santa Claus. I was relieved, after reading Dear Prudence this week,...Read More


Videogame Censorship, LGBT, and Birdo (Part I)

Filed by Austen Crowder | December 19, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

It's easy to tick off a few tropes in Nintendo's core cast of characters. Mario, the everyman hero; Luigi, the trusty, goofy sidekick; Peach, the ever-present damsel in distress; Daisy, the strong, independent woman; Bower, the sociopathic villain; Wario, the...Read More


The Stairs or the Window: Kill the Mandate, Kill the Bill?

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 18, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Recent developments in the health care reform debate debacle saga remind me of a a scene -- actually more like a repeated gag -- from one of my favorite movies, Keenan Ivory Waynans’ I’m Gonna Git You Sucka. I’ll explain...Read More


Zoe Brain's Trans 101, with science

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 17, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

We all know what happened last week, and part of the problem with what Ronald Gold said in his post on transgender people last week was that his thoughts are so common. I do hear them quite often, you know,...Read More


Countdown to Meltdown

Filed by Sara Whitman | December 17, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Now I am having a total and complete meltdown. Little over than a week till Christmas and then we leave for a long vacation. I cannot find my reservations. I have spent the last couple of days trying to find...Read More


Are We Really One Family?

Filed by Father Tony | December 17, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

As part of the Bilerico editorial team (an uncompensated part, I add, because it is important that you know I make no money from this), I watched the unfolding of communal anger with interest and not a little deja vu...Read More


In Sickness and in Health

Filed by David Castillo | December 16, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

I've never been prouder to live in Washington, D.C. than this week when the DC Council voted to recognize same-sex marriages. Come next spring, D.C. will be this country's only major city in which marriage equality is the law, Congress'...Read More


Bush's African Baby Boom

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 16, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Time and again, I’ve written about how the disastrous consequences of the Bush administration’s HIV/AIDS policy agenda in Africa. Yes, Bush increased aid to Africa. Yes, the Bush administration’s global AIDS policy has been cited as a redeeming positive...Read More


Paper and pencil RPG helped me "get" social conservatism

Filed by Austen Crowder | December 16, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

As a self-proclaimed gamer girl, I get asked for recommendations all the time. Any genre, any game type, I have a favorite that's not usually on the radar; however, my absolute, all-time favorite recommendation is the paper-and-pencil RPG "Dogs in...Read More


Continued Homophobia in the Legal Profession

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 16, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

ENDA appears to be going nowhere this year and as a result LGBT employees in a majority of states - including ever backwards Virginia - will continue to have no employment non-discrimination protections. That includes LGBT attorneys and paralegals who...Read More


Continued Homophobia in the Legal Profession

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 16, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

ENDA appears to be going nowhere this year and as a result LGBT employees in a majority of states - including ever backwards Virginia - will continue to have no employment non-discrimination protections. That includes LGBT attorneys and paralegals who...Read More


Catholic Gibberish from Communications Director Susan Gibbs

Filed by Father Tony | December 16, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

I can only imagine that Susan Gibbs must have laughed till she cried while writing this. Then she went home, poured herself a double scotch, and reminded herself that even though she hates being a tool for a bunch of...Read More


Surviving a Hoosier transition, part two

Filed by Austen Crowder | December 15, 2009 | 2:45 PM | comments

In part one I discussed the lead-up to transition: getting trained, getting a good job, and getting financially stable. In a state like Indiana, these three things will pay huge dividends when someone finally makes the decision to transition. I'm...Read More


A Million Miles From Shame

Filed by Donna Rose | December 15, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

I am what many would call a "mid-life" transitioner. That is I, like many, was well into life before coming to a point where I could stop running from my gender gift and start to consider it in healthy, productive...Read More


What is Sex?

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | December 15, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Number Two in a series of basic concepts that relate to understanding the complex dynamic between the four parts that make the LGBT grouping.Read More


The heart of the marriage issue

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 15, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

After a few months of silence, the right is back to attacking Kevin Jennings. While Fox News is even labeling the attacks "fresh" to make people think that there's something to look at here (if you have to call your...Read More


Your health care is being held hostage by someone you can't vote for

Filed by Bil Browning | December 14, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

This is infuriating. If there was ever a reason for steam to come out of your ears, it's this... Senator Joe Lieberman is flip-flopping on his health care vote and will now oppose the legislation, leaving it vulnerable to a...Read More


The Lies That History Tells: Rainbows and Gay People Don't Exist?

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 14, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jonathan Lykes is a spoken word artist, 19 year old University of Chicago student, and blogger for the Black Youth Project. He is a recipient of the ACLU Activist of the Year Award for his work...Read More


The Lies That History Tells: Rainbows and Gay People Don't Exist?

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 14, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jonathan Lykes is a spoken word artist, 19 year old University of Chicago student, and blogger for the Black Youth Project. He is a recipient of the ACLU Activist of the Year Award for his work...Read More


But, where's my penis?

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 13, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Not Aiden is a gay man of trans* experience who prefers to remain anonymous because he's tired of being everyone's token tranny. He enjoys photography, yelling at Project Runway contestants, and the eternal search for a good gay...Read More


Ten Simple Rules for Talking Trans

Filed by Antonia D'orsay | December 13, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Recently, once again, Bilerico had a post that incited the trans community. That's actually pretty easy to do. Well, the incite the trans community part. As one of the "official angry trannies" of the interwebs, I'm going to give a...Read More


Americans are getting fleeced

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 12, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

I've been sick these past two weeks, and, if you're sick in France, you have to get a note from your doctor. Part of deal when everyone's covered is that you don't get to just call in sick. I had...Read More


Dissolving Same Sex Relationships - Tips For A Smoother Breakup

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 12, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

While I do not handle regular divorce or family law matters in my law practice, over the course of several years I have come to represent on a number of occasions one of the partners in LGBT relationship who are...Read More


Dissolving Same Sex Relationships - Tips For A Smoother Breakup

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 12, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

While I do not handle regular divorce or family law matters in my law practice, over the course of several years I have come to represent on a number of occasions one of the partners in LGBT relationship who are...Read More


Ronald Gold, You Hurt Us

Filed by Tobi Hill-Meyer | December 12, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

Note: In this post I am specifically addressing Ronald Gold's article, even though I understand that is only half the problem. I am working on a second post detailing the problems in Bilerico's current approach to dealing with situations like...Read More


Not Up in the Air

Filed by Kate Clinton | December 11, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

Just returned from emceeing the 25th Annual Gay & Lesbian Leadership Conference in San Francisco. The opening night reception was held in the gorgeous SF City Hall, with a welcome by the equally gorgeous Mayor Newsom. We toasted to the...Read More


Haunting Words

Filed by Nadine Smith | December 11, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

In 2007, Ryan Skipper was stabbed to death in Central Florida because he was gay . In 2009, two men were found guilty in separate trials of butchering Ryan, and were sentenced to life terms in state prison. Prosecutor Cass...Read More


Living with mental illness

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 10, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Autumn Sandeen is a transgender activist living in San Diego. She is a regular barista at Pam's House Blend. Last Thursday was the International Day Of Persons With Disability. Many of the folk commenting in the...Read More


Living with mental illness

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 10, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Autumn Sandeen is a transgender activist living in San Diego. She is a regular barista at Pam's House Blend. Last Thursday was the International Day Of Persons With Disability. Many of the folk commenting in the...Read More


Setting Sail on the Gayflower

Filed by Father Tony | December 10, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Father Tony, I've been a reader on Bilerico for a few months. I've read previous letters that you have received and posted on the Bilerico website and wondered if I could do the same. I am a 20...Read More


Ali Forney Center gets some help from Episcopals

Filed by Alex Blaze | December 09, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

As we talk about what issues get attention and work and resources in the LGBTQ community, few get ignored more than that of queer homeless youth (they neither vote nor donate to political campaigns). The Ali Forney Center, which was...Read More


Stilettos, Sissy Boys, and the Limits of "Gender-Neutral" Parenting Advice

Filed by Paige Schilt | December 09, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

Last week, PBS Parents featured a blog titled "Gender Appropriate Toys." It begins promisingly enough with a critique of parents who enforce binary gender norms in their children's toys and activities. The author (Kristen of Supersisters) suggests that boys should...Read More


A Message that National Democrats Need to Hear

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 09, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

In this past Sunday's Richmond Times Dispatch former Virginia Governor Douglas Wilder - the first black elected to a governorship since Reconstruction - has a message that ought to kindle fear in the hearts of national Democrats. In his op-ed...Read More


Damien Center Food Pantry Needs You

Filed by Jerame Davis | December 09, 2009 | 11:43 AM | comments

Folks, this is the worst time of year to have the food pantry run out of food, yet that's exactly what is happening at the Damien Center's Coby Palmer food pantry. The Damien Center's food pantry is a vital resource...Read More


Lesbian Priest Reignites Church Storm

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | December 08, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Since the 2003 consecration of the Bishop V. Gene Robinson of New Hampshire, the church's first openly gay bishop, that set off a worldwide firestorm of reactions both positive and negative, the recent election of an openly lesbian candidate, the...Read More


Reflections on the trip to San Francisco

Filed by Bil Browning | December 08, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

I've spent the past few days in San Francisco and had a fantastic time. It was one of the best trips Jerame and I have taken. Unfortunately, travel has its revenge on bipolar people (especially when combined with jet lag)...Read More


Have Kid. Will Travel.

Filed by Terrance Heath | December 08, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

In one way, I’m inclined to give Amy Alkon a break, even if she isn’t inclined to give Peggy Root much of a break. After all, I used to complain about “those people,” right up until I became one of...Read More


Working in Indiana to pass ENDA

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 08, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Editor's Note: Guest blogger Adrian Matanza is HRC's field organizer. He is currently working to increase support for an inclusive ENDA in Indiana. HRC is the only national organization working in Indiana in support of the legislation, while Indiana Equality...Read More


Poz Smokers And The Facts

Filed by D Gregory Smith | December 07, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

God, I miss smoking. I used to be so coy and cute and worldly standing by the bar with a cocktail and a cigarette. Seriously. People said so. It all started innocently enough. I was in a play in college...Read More


Kaine Plans to Extend Health Benefits to Virginia Same-Sex Partners

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 07, 2009 | 11:10 AM | comments

One has to wonder why Gov. Tim Kaine has waited until the waning weeks of his term to begin to implement the plan to belatedly extend health care benefits to the same sex partners of Virginia State employees. Up until...Read More


Kaine Plans to Extend Health Benefits to Virginia Same-Sex Partners

Filed by Michael Hamar | December 07, 2009 | 11:10 AM | comments

One has to wonder why Gov. Tim Kaine has waited until the waning weeks of his term to begin to implement the plan to belatedly extend health care benefits to the same sex partners of Virginia State employees. Up until...Read More


Washington's new domestic partnership law limited by DOMA and DADT

Filed by Joe Mirabella | December 07, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Washington's new domestic partnership expansion law went into effect last week on December 3. My partner and I marked the occasion by registering as Domestic Partners with the state of Washington. We are already running into challenges. According to the...Read More


Submit to Google... or else. [Gay Geeks]

Filed by Nathan Strang | December 06, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

Google is growing, always. Month by month, a new application, service, or acquisition brings Google one step closer to being involved in every aspect of your life. Did you know that in October, Google invested in a biotech company? Why...Read More


HRC meeting with Indiana 2nd district Congressman Donnelly

Filed by Donna Pandori | December 06, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Since November Adrian Matanza, an HRC organizer, has been Hitting the Road In Indiana working to build support for an inclusive ENDA. This effort is coming to South Bend, Indiana Monday December 7th when Mr. Matanza and constituents from the...Read More


The Recession and LGBT Communities

Filed by Michelle Marzullo | December 05, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

The global economic recession has been rolling over the world full force for over a year now. We have seen the markets flowing in red, homeowners being turned out at a rate not seen since the great depression, and the...Read More


Alameda Diversity Curriculum Is Not Health Ed; Parents Can't Opt Out Their Kids

Filed by Dana Rudolph | December 04, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Many of you followed last spring's story about the uproar by some conservatives when the Alameda, California school board decided to adopt an LGBT-inclusive safe-schools curriculum. Now comes a new ruling stating that because the diversity curriculum doesn't constitute health...Read More


Can A Transsistah Get Some Love This Holiday Season?

Filed by Monica Roberts | December 03, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

It's the start of the Christmas holiday season. From now until January 1 there will be nonstop Christmas music played on the radio airwaves and our favorite Christmas cartoons playing for a new generation of younglings. We'll have Christmas trees...Read More


Am I intersexed? Who cares!

Filed by Austen Crowder | December 03, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

Did you get a genetic test to see if you're intersex? I get the question once every few months, usually from a well-meaning and honestly curious person. It's an interesting question, as well as a bit of a hot-button issue...Read More


Today, Afghanistan. Tomorrow, Africa.

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | December 03, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

Recently the gay media have been full of outcry about Rick Warren and his support of the bloodthirsty anti-gay bill before the Ugandan parliament. Among other things, the bill mandates the death penalty for certain "homosexual crimes," including being HIV...Read More


Apathy and silence are luxuries of the privileged

Filed by Cassandra Keenan | December 03, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

So, there it was, a perfect chance to fill a glaring silence as my hairstylist and her colleagues snipped away at us customers. I sat in the salon chair thinking, Why yammer about the weather when I have something much...Read More


1920s Paris: naughty demoiselles

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | December 03, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Sweet and sexy hug in this vintage postcard from the Biederer studios, Paris 1920s....Read More


Surviving a Hoosier transition, part one

Filed by Austen Crowder | December 03, 2009 | 10:37 AM | comments

Believe it or not, I think that Indiana's not a bad place to transition. Mind you, that assumes that you mind your P's and Q's, and carefully make plans for your process, but the laws of the state combined with...Read More


Go Ahead. Step Over That Line.

Filed by Father Tony | December 03, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear FT, About 10 years ago I met a guy. He was in on business from another state and asked me out. We went out a few times before he went home, and we had incredible chemistry. Things didn't...Read More


Papardam for Peace

Filed by Kate Clinton | December 03, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

When Urvashi and I went to the State House dinner, we found every bigwig we could find to talk about LGBT issues and peace. Of course, we suck at it; New York state just voted against marriage and President...Read More


Death Be Not Proud - RIP Christine

Filed by Donna Rose | December 02, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

Until my father's death almost a dozen years ago I had never had to experience death in people I knew, or friends, or family. There were aunts and uncles and distant relatives who I never knew who died but to...Read More


Porch Kitty needs you

Filed by Bil Browning | December 02, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

My Twitter followers are well aware of the Porch Kitty situation that developed here at home late this summer. To bring the rest of you up to speed, here's the background... Why? Because Porch Kitty needs your help! Our neighborhood...Read More


Porch Kitty needs you

Filed by Bil Browning | December 02, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

My Twitter followers are well aware of the Porch Kitty situation that developed here at home late this summer. To bring the rest of you up to speed, here's the background... Why? Because Porch Kitty needs your help! Our neighborhood...Read More


crush.ed

Filed by Michele O'Mara | December 02, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

I am deeply in love with my girlfriend, but at the same time I have a crush on this other girl, and it is making my girlfriend jealous. How do I get over this other girl? And if I can't,...Read More


Meredith Baxter Comes Out: Family Ties, Family Lies?

Filed by Keri Renault | December 02, 2009 | 10:46 AM | comments

I almost choked on my cornflakes this morning. Milk dribbled down my chin as I smiled. America's favorite 1980's sitcom mom, Meredith Baxter of "Family Ties" came out gay during a surprise Today Show interview with Matt Lauer. Visit msnbc.com...Read More


Jesse's Journal: Living Life to the Fullest

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | December 02, 2009 | 9:00 AM | comments

The most memorable person I ever met was my cousin by marriage, Roger Alan Weinstein. Roger never had much money, was never elected to public office, never won a major award, never appeared on People magazine or reality TV and...Read More


What's missing from World AIDS Day

Filed by Adam Bink | December 01, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

I've been sitting at my computer all morning, reading through the advocacy discussion on World AIDS Day. Usually on these kinds of commemoration days there is an overemphasis on quick internet activism- a Facebook status update is all I expect...Read More


What's missing from World AIDS Day

Filed by Adam Bink | December 01, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

I've been sitting at my computer all morning, reading through the advocacy discussion on World AIDS Day. Usually on these kinds of commemoration days there is an overemphasis on quick internet activism- a Facebook status update is all I expect...Read More


Today is World AIDS Day

Filed by Gloria Nieto | December 01, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

As if I could ever forget them, ever, in my lifetime. The men, women, and children who died of AIDS over the course of this pandemic. Some were the men I was supposed to be growing old with right now....Read More


World AIDS Day: Remember the Children

Filed by Dana Rudolph | December 01, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Today is World AIDS Day. AIDS has impacted many people we know and many communities of which we are part. Since I write a parenting blog, however, I want to highlight some recent statistics about AIDS and children. The numbers,...Read More


God's Glorious Gadfly: Rev Howard Warren

Filed by Bil Browning | December 01, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

As usual, I woke up this morning and went outside to take the dogs out and have a smoke. I usually scroll through Twitter while I'm outside; there's not a lot of thought required (it is pre-coffee!) and it helps...Read More


World AIDS Day: Remember When It Used To Be Important?

Filed by D Gregory Smith | December 01, 2009 | 2:00 PM | comments

I do. I remember December 1st as a day when people gathered in terror and grief with candles and tears listening to words that couldn't begin to touch the pain and anger and sadness. I remember when it was a...Read More


What We're Missing on this World AIDS Day

Filed by Ben Finzel | December 01, 2009 | 10:02 AM | comments

Today is World AIDS Day, but you might not realize that given the nearly constant coverage of Tiger Woods, the Salahi's and the latest news about Sarah Palin's book tour. Yes, there are stories to be told that affect literally...Read More


What We're Missing on this World AIDS Day

Filed by Ben Finzel | December 01, 2009 | 10:02 AM | comments

Today is World AIDS Day, but you might not realize that given the nearly constant coverage of Tiger Woods, the Salahi's and the latest news about Sarah Palin's book tour. Yes, there are stories to be told that affect literally...Read More


Reflections on World AIDS Day and LGBT Rights Abroad

Filed by Guest Blogger | December 01, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jordan Namerow is the Senior Communications Associate of American Jewish World Service (AJWS). She is also an alum of AJWS's Volunteer Corps and Alternative Break service programs in Uganda and Nicaragua respectively. I am not used...Read More